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My “Husband” and I Have a Special Arrangement. It’s Backfiring.

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My “Husband” and I Have a Special Arrangement. It’s Backfiring.

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Dear Pay Dirt,

“Joe” and I dated for a while many years ago, and the relationship morphed into a deep and loving platonic friendship. We’re both in our late-60s and not interested in finding other partners. We have never shared finances or lived together, but a few years ago we got married so he could be on my employer-provided insurance.

Joe was laid off months ago, and unemployment payments have run out, so his only income is Social Security. He has been diligently looking for a job, but prospects aren’t good for someone his age in his field. Consequently, I am helping to support him, which is a financial hit for me. I send him money every month, with no strings attached, and I know he is deeply grateful. The issue for me is that he is NOT good with money. For example, instead of putting out a mousetrap, he hired an exterminator. We have never interfered with or commented on each other’s financial habits, and I’m not comfortable with telling him what he may spend money on now. It would be a radical change in our relationship. Joe is already deeply depressed and struggling, and my becoming “wifely” now would really damage our relationship. He desperately needs to be self-supporting again, but neither of us has a solution. Any advice?

—Don’t Want to Support Him; Doesn’t Want to Be Supported

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Dear Don’t Want to Support Him,

You already know you’re not obligated to go beyond what you’ve already done for Joe, and it sounds like he’s aware of the problem, too, so it’s good that you’re not dealing with someone who doesn’t appreciate your generosity. I think you’re right not to police the way he spends money, especially since you don’t live together and have no shared finances. If you want to help Joe beyond what you’re already doing, I think you can try to help him with his job search and model what good spending looks like, but resist the temptation to send more money than you’re already sending. It will just make you more anxious about your own finances, and possibly resentful.

You’re close enough that I assume you’re also aware of and have relationships with some of the other people in Joe’s life, and supporting someone who’s depressed and struggling shouldn’t fall to you alone. A lot of people don’t like to ask for help (because they find it embarrassing, or it’s an ego blow to admit they need it) but there’s nothing to stop people around Joe from offering support, and emotional support is just as important in this situation as financial support. Depression affects the way we make decisions and our ability to motivate ourselves, which in turn can make it hard to spend responsibly or keep up a job search that hasn’t yielded any results so far. You’re already going above and beyond for Joe, but if you’re determined to do more, focus on his needs that aren’t financial.

—Elizabeth

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Faegre Drinker Grows Dallas Finance & Restructuring Practice

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Glenn Reitman has joined Faegre Drinker as a partner in the finance & restructuring practice in Dallas, the firm said Thursday.

Reitman represents lenders and borrowers in structuring, negotiating, and documenting finance transactions, according to Faegre Drinker. He has particular expertise with commercial, real estate, and energy projects and structured financing.

His finance practice includes private equity, venture capital, leveraged buyouts, structured products, loan workouts, and restructurings, said the firm.

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What will the finance team of the future look like – Accountancy Age

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What will the finance team of the future look like – Accountancy Age

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May 2, 2024

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A significant part of the work we do at AICPA & CIMA is about looking at trends within the profession and using them to discern what the future of accounting looks like, so as to best prepare our members to thrive within it.

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This is the rationale behind our Future of Finance 2.0 project, of which we have just released the latest iteration. This paper highlights and explores what I think is the most significant long-term trend which is currently reshaping the accounting and finance profession, and it essentially relates to mindset.

In the past, it would be fair to characterise our profession as being quite rigid and rules based. This is not intended to be derogatory, it is simply a reflection of the work we did and the career paths we followed to do it. What we are seeing today, and will see more of in the future, is a shift towards a more expansive mindset, with value-creation at its heart.

Our work will incorporate a wider range of responsibilities, including but not limited to being the stewards of sustainability data and strategy and working with colleagues in all parts of the of organisations we serve to drive efficiency, productivity and sustainable value creation.

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Sustainability is one of the key drivers of change within the profession, but it is important to understand that this is not just a response to regulatory changes which require us to present the data. While these are obviously important, it is important to look beyond this, and to apply the value creation mindset I have mentioned, because this is where the opportunities are.

Forward thinking organisations are not approaching this in terms of “we have to report”. They are looking at how their business models can adapt to produce truly sustainable growth, because that is where competitive advantage will be found.

Now clearly, that is not a description of the majority of workplaces at the moment, but you can see evidence of the direction of travel in our survey results. We found that 48% of accounting and finance professionals are currently measuring the impact of sustainable initiatives and only 45% say that they are currently measuring the performance of these initiatives. That is a significant proportion, and the fact that more and more companies are looking at the performance of these initiatives shows you where we are heading.

Business partnering is the way of the future

Another big change our research picked up was the increasing move towards the business partnering model. Something which struck me as very significant was the difference in attitudes towards the future we found among the professionals we surveyed. 60% of them said they identify as finance business partners, and 84% of those are extremely optimistic about the future of the profession. Of the 40% who say they don’t identify as finance business partners, only 15% said they are optimistic about the future of the profession. I think that is a pretty good indication of where our profession is heading, so I strongly recommend you take that into account in your career planning.

To make the most of this trend, the accountants of the future will need the ability to use data and analytics combined with business acumen, so they can improve strategic decision-making and drive business performance within their organisations.

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Overall the challenge for the profession which our research identified is the need to adapt to the requirements of sustainable business practice while exploiting the possibilities of new technology. To succeed we will have to adopt a multi-capital perspective of value while learning to work across organisational boundaries. If we can achieve this, we can look forward to a bright future. Demand for data-driven decision-making and sustainable business models is only going to grow, so we can be confident that the need for strategic value creating finance teams will make us a valuable partner in every organisation in the years to come.

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Belvedere finance committee previews draft budget

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Belvedere’s growing fire service expenses in the proposed draft budget for next fiscal year have raised concerns among the city’s finance committee.

The committee reviewed the $9 million draft budget on Tuesday. The 2024-2025 budget proposal shows a $1.2 million general fund deficit by the end of June 2025.

City staff said there may be some small growth in revenues and a slight increase in spending, particularly with the city’s fire services contract.

General fund revenues are projected to be $9.1 million, but the city’s expenses and outgoing transfers add up to $10.3 million — a 5.8% increase over the current year budget. Transfers to various funds include $300,000 to pension trusts and $650,000 to critical infrastructure.

Helga Cotter, director of administrative services, said they expect to close out the current fiscal year with an excess of $1.4 million, which would cover the deficit.

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“It is also important to note that some of these transfers out are not associated with current year expenses,” Cotter said. “Specifically the critical infrastructure reserve and the 115 pension trust fund transfers are being made to fund anticipated future expenses, allowing budget smoothing.”

Most of the city’s income is earmarked for costs relating to fire protection, police services and the department of public works, according to the draft budget. Around $1.1 million is planned for capital projects, which includes the seawall and retaining wall projects.

Robert Zadnik, the city manager, said the retaining walls along Beach Road are particularly concerning and a No. 1 priority; $175,500 is set aside for the project in the draft budget. However, Zadnik said the current solution proposed by engineering experts does not address seismic concerns.

“This isn’t something new that was a surprise to us,” Zadnik said. “We’ve known through the committee to protect Belvedere seawalls, levees and utilities that this was a vulnerability, a threat.”

The majority of the city’s revenue, 71%, comes from property taxes. Cotter said the property tax forecast shows a potential 5% increase, equal to $358,000, for the budget year, and that revenues in the general fund could increase 2%, or about $177,000. No grant funding is included in the draft budget, but Cotter said the city will continue to look for grant opportunities.

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A significant change in costs is a 7.5% increase in Tiburon Fire Protection District’s contract. The fire service deferred some of its annual Section 115 contributions — a trust account needed to fund employee benefits — to keep a fairly consistent cost to the city. Without this, the increase to the budget would have been approximately 14%. Still, the city anticipates a payment to the district of over $92,500, and will make an additional payment in the future.

Currently the fire service contract is around $2.1 million, but is expected to increase to $2.4 million in the next budget cycle.

Sally Wilkinson, a nonvoting City Council member on the committee, said fire expenses have been growing about 6% annually for the past 20 years, while the city’s expenditures have grown at 4.4%. She suggested closely analyzing the long-term trends in cost over the past years — and the projected increases in the future.

“I think it would be useful just to distribute some numbers and some charts just to give a clearer impression of where that has gone and, as you say, project it out 20 years just to see when that crunch really hits,” Wilkinson said.

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