Hello Carolyn: My spouse divorced me 10 years in the past. After a time frame, I discovered a brand new companion my age, “Deb,” and we’ve a beautiful relationship as boyfriend/girlfriend and share a home. My 4 grownup youngsters are very keen on her.
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Advice | Carolyn Hax: Religious daughter won’t abide divorced dad’s cohabitation
My daughter and I’ve a pleasant father/daughter relationship, however there’s a facet of her pondering I wrestle with. When Deb and I am going to go to, we should sleep in separate bedrooms. My daughter shows numerous household footage, however none of Deb and me collectively. She declined to take part along with her siblings in a gaggle birthday reward for Deb. I discover it hurtful, as does Deb, that my daughter doesn’t absolutely settle for Deb as a part of the household, just because we aren’t married. In any other case, my daughter treats Deb courteously.
I perceive the Bible’s fundamentals, however I really feel as if there must be some flexibility relating to right now’s methods folks select to reside collectively. I don’t understand how my daughter can’t see that she is being hurtful to each of us, however I additionally really feel as if approaching my daughter about this concern would trigger a rift between us. Ideas?
P.: You “really feel as if there must be some flexibility,” however your daughter and her husband and their church have made it fairly plain that they don’t really feel the identical manner.
You spelled this out for me your self: Your daughter has centered all the things round her church. Every little thing. So it doesn’t shock me in any respect that she doesn’t make a one-off, be-flexible-for-Deb (and even Dad) exception.
I’m shocked it surprises you and Deb, if something.
However I additionally understand it’s rather a lot simpler for any of us to see a harsh, impersonal reality for what it’s after we’re not those getting the bony finish of the elbow. Your daughter isn’t shunning me as biblically inappropriate, so it’s straightforward for me to level to ideological absolutes and say, “Yup, makes good sense to me.”
Please don’t mistake this assertion for agreeing along with your daughter’s selections. I’m simply explaining them. All I stand by explicitly is her proper to make them.
I do encourage you, although, to simply accept your daughter’s inflexible consistency as license to cease taking her exclusions personally. The purpose of this group’s dogma, to the extent I could make it out from right here, is to go away as little decision-making as doable within the palms of the person. Issues aren’t private. It’s all concerning the religion.
And when the collective impingements of her religion in your relationship with Deb quantity to good, courteous relationships, besides: 1. Separate rooms for visits. 2. No photographs. 3. A bunch reward that’s 25 p.c smaller than it may very well be? My recommendation is to thank the Fates for handing you some fairly small beans to digest.
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As some Washington law enforcement leaders vow to help with mass deportations, immigration advocates prepare to resist
A Washington law that’s designed to protect immigrant rights could see new challenges as President-elect Donald Trump takes office. The state’s sanctuary law restricts how local law enforcement can aid federal immigration officials.
Yet some Washington state counties appear eager to help Trump fulfill his promise of mass deportations.
“I don’t care if this is a blue state, a sanctuary state… they have an obligation,” Klickitat County Sheriff Bob Songer said in a video uploaded to his department’s social media page on Dec. 11.
The “they” Songer is talking about are government agencies he thinks should fall in line with Trump’s deportation plans, which could target millions nationwide.
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The state’s Keep Washington Working Act, passed in 2019, prohibits local law enforcement from asking people their immigration status or holding someone for immigration agents. The law, however, does allow local officers to work with federal immigration officials in certain instances, such as taking down a human or drug trafficking ring, or if a person lands in state prison.
Trump’s incoming administration has signaled it plans to start mass deportations with a focus on people who’ve committed crimes. But like Trump, Songer said he wouldn’t rule out targeting people who have illegally crossed the border or overstayed a visa. Those offenses can become a federal crime if done enough times.
A Department of Homeland Security report estimates 340,000 Washington residents are in the country without legal immigration status.
“This sheriff is not going to refuse to help ICE — we will be there with ICE to do the job,” Songer said in the video.
Days after Songer posted his video, the head of Washington’s Association of Sheriffs and Police Chiefs pushed back. Steve Strachan said the work of deportations is under the jurisdiction of the federal government — not local sheriffs.
“There is no direct federal authority… over local law enforcement. That is the unique and special nature of our system in America,” he later told KUOW’s Soundside.
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Three other Washington counties have already been given a warning from the state Attorney General’s Office for violating the Keep Washington Working Act.
In the last four years, the AG has found Adams, Clark, and Grant counties have collectively worked with ICE more than a thousand times in potential violation of state law. In Adams and Grant counties, none of those interactions with ICE were connected to a criminal matter.
The Washington Immigrant Solidarity Network, an immigrant advocacy group, has also fielded concerns in other counties for similar activity, including Franklin, Lincoln, and Whatcom counties.
“We know that Keep Washington Working is not perfect, so we are trying to ensure that we’re out doing outreach in those specific counties,” said Yahaira Padilla, a deportation defense coordinator for the organization.
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When someone gets arrested and detained, her job is to help connect them with bail or legal help. She hears stories about which counties are potentially violating the Keep Washington Working Act, she said.
If a local or state law enforcement officer begins asking about immigration status, people can invoke the right to remain silent, and can refuse to sign any documents until they speak with a lawyer, Padilla said.
She added that it’s important to set up a family plan in the event someone is arrested or detained, and part of that includes calling her organization’s hotline for help.
“I’m a mother, and that’s something that I never want to think about… creating a plan for the worst to come. But we have to make sure that we are prepared,” Padilla said.
As a survivor of family separation and DACA recipient she said, her ties to this work are deeply personal.
“My story, like so many of our communities, is woven into the broader fight for immigrant justice,” she said.
Washington
Crews fighting fire at scrap yard in Washington County
WASHINGTON COUNTY, Ohio (WTAP) – First responders are on the scene of a fire at a scrap yard in Washington County.
Not much information is known at this time, but what we do know is the fire is at Guernsey Scrap Recycling.
According to the Reno Volunteer Fire Department Fire Chief Jon Bradford, departments from Reno, Williamstown, Devola, Salem, Little Muskingum, and Marietta are on the scene. All of those departments are shuttling water to the scene.
The fire is contained in one area of the facility. Reno VFD is using the MOV Drone Works drone to help fight the fire. The owner of the scrap yard is in a crane helping to move items to assist firefighters.
It is not known what started the fire. And Chief Bradford says nobody was injured, and nobody is at risk.
WTAP has a reporter on the scene and will have more information as it becomes available.
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Jayden Daniels Will Keep Commanders Competitive vs. Lions
The Washington Commanders have made many changes to go from a four-win team to three wins away from winning the Super Bowl, but none have been more impactful than drafting quarterback Jayden Daniels with the No. 2 overall pick.
Daniels may be a rookie, but he plays like an established veteran. That’s why Bleacher Report writer Maurice Moton believes that the Commanders will be competitive this weekend against the 15-2 Detroit Lions in the Divisional Round.
“The Commanders slowed down the Buccaneers’ third-ranked offense in a road victory last week, and Daniels helped position them to kick the game-winning field,” Moton writes.
“Head coach Dan Quinn and coordinator Joe Whitt have molded the team’s defense into a respectable unit throughout the season. In clutch moments, Daniels is far beyond his years.
“Washington won’t shut down the Lions offense, but along with Daniels, it can do enough to keep the score margin in the single digits.”
The Commanders are still underdogs since the Lions have arguably been the best team in the NFL this season, but Daniels won’t allow Washington to fold. He hasn’t done so yet, so there’s no reason why it would happen now.
Kickoff between the Commanders and Lions is scheduled for tomorrow at 8 p.m. ET.
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