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A Call for Millennial Complaints Draws an Enormous Crowd
It started when Erika Mackley, a 34-year-old art director from Detroit, posed a tongue-in-cheek question to users on X: “i don’t want to hear your most boomer complaint. what’s your most millennial complaint?”
A “boomer complaint” is a concept that has floated around for a while. Typical ones might include people not working as hard anymore or everyone using their phone too much. Ms. Mackley’s post this week, aimed at a younger generation, prompted a mix of gripes and jokes, with posts about bringing heels back to the club, the golden age of comedy films (think “Horrible Bosses” and “Step Brothers”) and a longing for the return of television shows with 24-episode seasons.
“Everybody’s ringtone should still be a 30 second cut of their favorite song in terrible quality,” wrote Dom Pappagallo, 27, an actor from Boston.
As fellow millennials flooded Ms. Mackley’s replies it became clear that members of her generation were nostalgic for a relatively recent past that already felt far away, when large social issues like misinformation, fragmentation and artificial intelligence seemed less prevalent. And for an era in which social media was a place for harmless banter and fun.
Most of the responses — which were hardly limited to actual millennials — did not reach back to the 1990s, but rather to a prepandemic society, when technology seemed more user friendly and personal finances seemed more manageable.
Some mentioned inflation, with one user commenting on the desire for both avocado toast and a house, referring to a trope of almost a decade ago that said millennials would never be able to afford the latter if they kept buying the former. Others yearned for the days of cheaper Ubers, Chipotle bowls and concert tickets.
Many complaints focused on technology and digital media, drawing attention to just how much the world of social media has changed since millennials were coming of age.
The post came at a time of upheaval in the world of social media. Since Elon Musk bought Twitter in 2022, the platform, now called X, has undergone seismic changes. Facebook has removed fact-checking as Mark Zuckerberg pushes the concept of “masculine energy.” A.I. has transformed how people consume content online. And on Friday, the Supreme Court ruled in favor of a federal law that effectively bans TikTok in the United States starting next week.
But the replies to Ms. Mackley looked back further than the current troubles.
Tristan T.A. Hill, 36, a film director from Los Angeles, joked, “The fall of buzzfeed and society collapsing really go hand in hand.”
He remembered when, between 2016 and 2018, BuzzFeed was his go-to source for funny content, and sometimes news, with it all packaged in a millennial’s voice. Now, he said, with “everyone having their own social media and everyone being their own content influencers, it just created a lot more noise.”
“And then with the A.I. stuff, you don’t even know what to trust anymore,” Mr. Hill added. “The misinformation is going crazy.”
Shaelyn Avalon, a 28-year-old singer in Los Angeles, whose millennial complaint was about QR codes at restaurants, commented on the increased segmentation of social media.
“Group think has been a lot heavier on social media the past couple of years,” she said, which to her feels different from when she first created a YouTube channel in 2013.
According to X’s metrics, Ms. Mackley’s post soliciting complaints was seen more than 50 million times.
“Our generation kind of drew the short stick a little bit,” she said in a phone interview. “I’m in my 30s. We’re getting older and it seems like, compared to our parents, we’re not where we’re supposed to be. A lot of the responses I saw were, ‘We’re probably never going to own a home’ and ‘We’re working these insane hours.’”
A “millennial complaint,” she said, is “about not being able to get ahead,” with a dose of humor. “Millennials seem to process things through memes.”
Inflation and rising costs have been dampening morale, and perhaps a post like this drew so many replies because people are yearning for a time when things felt easier and more relaxed. Every generation is wary of changes, and now, with most millennials over 30, it’s their turn to express their grievances, Ms. Mackley said.
Ms. Mackley said she felt nostalgic reading through the responses, including one comment about the decline of flash games. “I remember going on Nickelodeon’s website and playing the ‘Hey Arnold!’ game growing up,” she said.
“People were reliving their youth and their pre-30 days,” Mr. Hill said of the responses, adding that he often reminisces on times when people danced more at parties and when going out was less expensive.
“I’m just not able to do the things that I thought were so much fun back then because there’s more restrictions and it’s more expensive to be outside now,” he said. “I always have friends that joke it costs $100 to leave the house.”
Ms. Mackley said that though she feels like “things are going downhill,” she wonders: “Is it just because I’m getting older?”
“The older generation always feels that way, right?,” said Cathy Carr, 63, a writer from Montclair, N.J. whose “millennial complaint” was about ghosting. “I mean, my father felt that way about us.”
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Phil Pritchard of the Hockey Hall of Fame works the 2019 NHL Awards at the Mandalay Bay Events Center on June 19, 2019 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Bruce Bennett/Getty Images)
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How to have the best Sunday in L.A., according to Paul W. Downs
Paul W. Downs can’t help it that even on the weekends, his life intersects with “Hacks,” the HBO comedy he co-created and co-showruns with his wife, Lucia Aniello, and their friend Jen Statsky. (He also appears on the show as Jimmy LuSaque Jr., the besieged manager of its two stars, played by Emmy winners Jean Smart and Hannah Einbinder.) The fifth and final season of “Hacks” premiered last week, but on Downs’ days off, he often finds himself at its previous filming locations or hanging out with cast members who have become like family.
In Sunday Funday, L.A. people give us a play-by-play of their ideal Sunday around town. Find ideas and inspiration on where to go, what to eat and how to enjoy life on the weekends.
Downs moved to Los Angeles in 2011, but soon after, he and Aniello were hired to write (and for him to act) on the über-New York show “Broad City,” keeping them away from the West Coast for years. Now the couple live in Los Feliz, which they enjoy with their young son.
“I love Los Feliz because it’s a real neighborhood with restaurants and bars, but also feels close to nature with Griffith Park,” Downs says. “Also it’s very central to my Eastside friends and Westside agents.”
And if he had to live at a local mall, like the character Ava Daniels did in the third season of “Hacks,” which would he choose?
“It would be the Americana, obviously.”
Here’s how he’d spend a perfect day in L.A.
10 a.m.: A late rise and a li’l barista
I’m sleeping in if I can, which I can’t because I have a toddler, but let’s say I can sleep ’til 10. That would be insane.
Then I’m making coffee at home. I’m making it with my 4-year-old because he likes to make my coffee now. He always wanted to help, now he really wants to do it on his own. I’m still there to supervise, but he does do a lot of it.
I do batch brew. I’m doing Verve Coffee that I’m grinding there, and then I’m brewing four cups because I need my coffee. I had a Moccamaster for a long time, but I recently got a Simply Good Coffee. There’s no plastic — it’s all glass and metal.
11 a.m.: Chocolate croissants for everyone
We’re driving to Pasadena and we’re going to [Artisanal Goods by] CAR, which is the place to get the best chocolate croissant, I think, in the world. I don’t just think in L.A., I think they’re better than Paris. I’m going there with my wife and my kid and I’m having another coffee and some pastry. We’re ordering three [chocolate croissants]. We’re not doubling up.
11:45 a.m.: The family business
We’re driving to Fair Oaks in Pasadena. There’s a place called T.L. Gurley. We shot “Hacks” there, actually. Not only in Season 1, but also full circle in Season 5. We’re going to shmay around and look at antiques. My kid is going to want to play a vintage pinball machine. We’re going to find a little piece of art for the house or what have you. It’s not necessarily that I’m on the hunt. It’s to pass the time and to have some fun. If I could do anything and have a leisurely day and take my mind off work, that’s what I’m doing.
People love to interact with my kid when he’s there. We’re really training him to appraise things at a young age. My parents are part-time dealers of antiques. My grandmother bought and sold antiques. It’s kind of a family business.
1:30 pm.: Baguettes and books
We’re driving to Larchmont and we’re getting a sandwich at Larchmont Village Wine, Spirits & Cheese. I’m doing prosciutto-mozzarella-basil on a baguette.
Then we’re going to Chevalier’s Books. What’s sad is that I’m often not looking for leisure material. I’m looking for something that I’m interested in learning more about or writing about, or that they’re turning into a show I want to audition for. But we’re also doing Little Golden Books for my son. He’s obsessed. We’re not huge on screen time, so we really encourage the book-buying.
2:30 p.m.: Cast pool party
We’re having some family fun in the pool and we’re doing that until evening. We invite people over all the time. My sister-in-law is a New Yorker, but she actually wrote last season on “The Rooster” and she’s often writing on shows in L.A., so she’s often here and she’ll have a couple friends come over. I know this sounds like a piece of PR or something, but we’ll really literally have Hannah [Einbinder] and maybe Mark Indelicato from “Hacks” come over to swim. Jen, our co-creator of “Hacks,” will come over.
6:00 p.m.: Family dinner
Sometimes we’ll order Grá to the house, which is a pizza place in Echo Park — excellent sourdough crust pizza. But if we don’t do that, an ideal evening is an early dinner at All Time on Hillhurst in Los Feliz. We’re ordering the ceviche and my son is having all of it and not sharing with anybody at the table.
8:45 p.m.: A thrilling ending to the day
After putting my kid to bed, my wife and I, in an ideal world (full disclosure: we haven’t done this in two years), we’ll watch something together that we’ve been meaning to watch. We have a long list of movies and we either want to revisit or that we haven’t seen that we need to watch.
We don’t watch a lot of comedies. It’s a dream to watch a “Black Bag” or a little espionage thriller. We really like that because it’s so different than the stuff that we’re working on in the day.
Often the things we watch are things that we admire. We like deconstructing it as fans of film and television. We do like talking about the making of it, but it’s less of a critique and more of a listing of the things we appreciated about it.
10:30 p.m.: No work tomorrow
And then it’s lovemaking ’til morning on a perfect Sunday. If it’s a perfect Sunday, there’s also a Monday that’s off.
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Sitting in a jail cell, alone and hopeless, a man’s life is suddenly changed
Jay (not pictured) found himself alone and hopeless in a jail cell when a fellow inmate’s unexpected words of comfort changed his life.
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When Jay was 22 years old, he was a self-described loner. In this story, he is being identified by his nickname to allow himself to speak candidly about the following experience and his mental health. He says the few people he did hang out with at the time had questionable morals.
”I chose my friends poorly, and your friends have a tendency to rub off on you. And so I started making poor decisions,” Jay said.
One evening, when he and his friends were out drinking, someone suggested they should try to break into the chemistry building on his college campus. Most of the group shrugged the suggestion off, deeming it impossible, but Jay was convinced he could pull it off.
“The next night I made a plan of how to do it, and I did it,” Jay remembered. “And I didn’t get caught doing it, [but] I got caught afterwards.”
At around 1 that morning, Jay was placed in the county detention center. Sitting alone in his cell, reality began to sink in.

“I pretty much thought that my life as I knew it was going to be over, and I had decided that the world would be better off without me in it.”
Jay made a plan to end his life. As he prepared himself, he began to cry.
“But just in that moment when I was ready to do it, I heard a voice coming from the top left corner of my cell, from a little vent. And someone called out to me and said, ‘Hey, is this your first time?’”
The man who called out was an inmate in the cell next door.
“I collected myself a little bit, and I said, ‘Yeah.’ And he said, ‘Can I pray for you?’”
Jay had grown up religious, but had stopped going to church years before. In that moment, though, he knew he needed support. He said yes, and listened as the man began to pray.

“I wish I could tell you that I remember the [exact] words that he said to me, but what I remember is that his words landed with me, and instead of wanting my life to be over, suddenly I saw hope,” Jay said.
The interaction happened nearly ten years ago, but it was a pivotal moment in Jay’s life, and one he thinks about all the time.
“[Now], I have a good job. I have a girlfriend who loves me. I have a life. But I have a life because somebody who was in the same situation I was in had the courage to talk to a fellow inmate and be kind.”
Jay says that he wishes he could meet that man again and express his appreciation.
“[I would] shake that guy’s hand, give him a hug, and tell him what his small gesture meant for me, how he changed the course of my life.”
My Unsung Hero is also a podcast — new episodes are released every Tuesday. To share the story of your unsung hero with the Hidden Brain team, record a voice memo on your phone and send it to myunsunghero@hiddenbrain.org.
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