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‘The movie tells you how to make it’: After decades, Coppola’s ‘Megalopolis’ is here
Director Francis Ford Coppola at the Cannes Film Festival in May 2024.
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Francis Ford Coppola is known for his cinematic masterworks such as Apocalypse Now and The Godfather trilogy. Now, at age 85, the indie filmmaker has created Megalopolis, a mega-ambitious Roman epic set in a futuristic New York City.
The all-star cast features Adam Driver as an architect named Cesar Catilina who envisions a utopia. He’s pitted against Franklyn Cicero, played by Giancarlo Esposito, who seems content to keep the status quo as the mayor of “New Rome.”
As in the Roman Republic, the society is plagued with greed, political division,and special interests. Coppola told NPR he sees the fall of the Roman Republic as a cautionary tale for our times.
“It’s very impressionistic. It’s poetic,” says actress Aubrey Plaza, who plays a journalist known as “Wow Platinum.” She told NPR that while she admired Coppola’s creativity and passion, she found Megalopolis hard to grasp at first: “It’s a beautiful nightmare. It’s beautiful. But it is scary, also.”
Aubrey Plaza as Wow Platinum in Megalopolis.
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Coppola began working on Megalopolis in the 1980’s, and eventually self-financed it with much of his own fortune – $120 million from his wine business.
Sam Wasson, author of a book about Coppola, The Path to Paradise, says the filmmaker has often been misunderstood. A movie about utopia, he says, filled with ideas and artistic experimentation, is not the easiest sell.
“It’s very hard for people to understand why or how an artist could spend so much money on creativity,” Wasson told NPR. “That has made him a maligned Quixote figure in the press.”
Once filming began, Megalopolis’ production made headlines. Early in the process, according to The Hollywood Reporter, the visual effects crew was fired and the art department quit. (Plaza told NPR she believed it was “an intense work environment, but it never seemed to be like, ‘Oh, you know, we’re on a sinking ship.’”) Earlier this year, The Guardian and Variety cited sources claiming Coppola tried to touch and kiss background actresses in a nightclub scene without their consent.
Other cast and crew members denied Coppola had been inappropriate. But online, Variety posted videos reportedly of the party scene. And one of the extras, Lauren Pagone, filed a lawsuit against the director for civil battery and assault. She also alleges negligence by Coppola, his production company Zoetrope and two casting agencies.
Coppola is now suing Variety for $15 million dollars for libel. (In response, a spokesperson for Variety owner Penske Media Corporation told NPR in a statement, “While we will not comment on active litigation, we stand by our reporters.”)
As Coppola told NPR, he has “no intention of litigating this in the media.” In an interview this week, he shared his hopes for Hollywood – and for humanity.
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
Mandalit del Barco: I want to talk to you about Megalopolis. I know it’s been your passion project for decades. What do you want audiences to take away from this conversation?
Francis Ford Coppola: Well, first of all, there are a lot of phrases in the movie business. They always want to attach phrases. You referred to it as my passion project. Every movie I make involves passion. All movies are passion projects. There’s not…one that’s more [of a] passion project than the other…My earlier films all were different styles. The Godfather is very classical. Apocalypse Now is very wild. One From the Heart was very theatrical. So I began to wonder what my style was. And of course my style is based on whatever theme that the movie is about. And in my wanting to learn what my style would be, I came upon the idea that it would be fun and I would enjoy doing the Roman epic.
In the course of my research, it was very clear that America…based itself on Rome, when it left the English and didn’t want a king. And if you know your history, you know the Roman Republic was invented because they didn’t want a king…And [then], ironically, Rome was repeating what the ancient counterpart did, and its senators were more concerned with their own power and their own money. And that’s how Rome lost its republic. And there was the possibility that we, the modern Rome – which is America – [were] going to repeat [that] historical counterpart. And I thought that was very, very interesting and very prescient.
del Barco: I know you’re asking the audiences to have this conversation about these ideas of what a utopia would look like.
Coppola: I mean, this could be a very long conversation. It could be a very short conversation. Let’s make it short, which is to say that our system seems to be based on a population of people who are unfulfilled – or said another way, people who are unhappy, and are kept that way deliberately, because our major activity is to sell them a little piece of happiness…And it’s clear that if the people were happy, they wouldn’t be interested and there would be good customers. But…I believe that they’re deliberately kept unhappy through various means so that they’ll be good customers. And that’s sort of what’s going on in the world today, which is very troublesome.


del Barco: Wow. And so with this film, you’re challenging the audiences to think about how to reshape that?
Coppola: All I ask them is to have a discussion, which is a simple sentence, which is, is this is the society we have the only one available to us? I believe if people just talk together, people all over the world…we will come up with that. That is, basically a utopia.
del Barco: Has your vision for the film changed over the years?
Coppola: Oh, absolutely. Because – let me explain that when you know exactly how to make a movie, you set about making it according to what you think the rules are. But when you don’t know how to make a movie, which, for example, I didn’t with Apocalypse Now, you listen and the movie tells you how to make it. And that’s what happened with Megalopolis. My wonderful collaborators, the actors, many of the creative personnel, we sort of were collaborating together. We were listening to what the movie was and the movie was saying – do more of this, do less of that, do more of this, do less of that. And that’s how the movie came about and shaped itself. So when you see it, you know, it’s a big production. It’s very spectacular. You haven’t seen it, I take it?
del Barco: I have seen it.
Coppola: Okay. Well…it’s not boring, but your reaction may very well be – wow, what did I just see? What the hell is that? And the best thing to do is to see it again. It’s like Apocalypse [Now]. The more times you see it, the more [it] changes. And that’s exactly what happened with Apocalypse Now. It’s been showing in theaters for more than 40, 50 years, and people are still going to see it. And I think the same thing will happen to Megalopolis.
Actor Martin Sheen with Francis Ford Coppola on the set of Apocalypse Now in 1976. Coppola directed and co-wrote Apocalypse Now.
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del Barco: I’m sorry to hear [about] the passing of your wife. I know she was probably very integral to this film as well. And I’m wondering if that, you know, that changed the creative process of this.
Coppola: Thank you for your condolences. My wife – the last thing she said to me was, you’re the most courageous man I’ve ever met, because you do what you feel is right. And, you know, nowadays the movie business, like the fast food business, they’ll spend $100 million to develop a potato chip that you find addictive and habit forming. And that’s the way they want movies to be. They want you to think there’s only one kind of movie. But the cinema is always changing. And, you know, I don’t know if you have children, but your grandchildren’s cinema will be totally different than anything we’re doing today. Cinema doesn’t remain the same, even if it’s more convenient to sell it if it does. There’s a line in my film which is – when you jump into the unknown, you prove you are free. And that’s what artists must do. You know, lawyers and businessmen can be ruled by time and convention and what the rules are. But artists don’t have to. Artists control time. I know in my story you see that that happens. But artists, moviemakers, painters, even architects, freeze time. Moviemakers move time backwards and forwards…
My film Megalopolis tells people that they’re extraordinary. There’s nothing we can’t do if we apply our creativity to it. So my vote is that we apply our human genius to the issues of saving this beautiful Earth. And since you’ve seen [the movie], you know, it ends on a very hopeful, celebratory note. It’s joyous at the end.
del Barco: Absolutely. And you don’t always see something like that – on the … grand scale of humanity. Another thing that was extraordinary to me in this film was that amazing interactive moment – with somebody in real life in the theater and the character on screen. I was wondering if you could talk about that idea of live cinema.
Coppola: Well, of course, that’s something I’ve always been interested in. When I made my movie, which was not very successful, One From the Heart, my idea was to make it as a live movie, that actually would be performed live…As I said, I come from theater, and even now I have one foot in the theater and one foot in the cinema. It’s my desire to merge those two.
del Barco: I know you recently filed a lawsuit against Variety for publishing allegations that were anonymous about you on set. And they spoke to people who said that you —
Coppola: Basically basically basically, next question. You know, I know why you’re asking. There’s a lawsuit. Anyway. Next question.
del Barco: Okay. Because there’s another lawsuit, you know, against you.
Coppola: I’m the one suing.
del Barco: You’re suing, and then there’s another suit that’s against you.
Coppola: Mine is the suit. But whatever you think, that’s not a question that’s of any interest.
del Barco: Yeah. I just didn’t know if you were worried that this would affect this film.
Coppola: No.
[Following the interview with NPR, Coppola’s team sent the following statement from the director: “Nothing in my 60+ years career can equal the painstakingly difficult, yet artistically triumphant journey of bringing Megalopolis to the screen. It was a collaboration of hundreds of artists, from extras to box office stars, to whom I consistently displayed the utmost respect and my deepest gratitude.
To see our collective efforts tainted by false, reckless and irresponsible reporting is devastating. No publication, especially a legacy industry outlet, should be enabled to use surreptitious video and unnamed sources in pursuit of their own financial gain.
While I have no intention of litigating this in the media, I will vigorously defend my reputation and have trust in the courts to hold them accountable.]
del Barco: Okay. I know that even in the early marketing, they were saying that you’ve always been misunderstood and ahead of your time. I don’t know if that has anything to do with what’s going on?
Coppola: Oh, that’s a different matter. That’s like when you’re making a movie that’s not like any movie that’s ever been made before, you run into occasionally conflict with people who want to make it the regular way, you know, and want to do things the way they’re used to doing things. And, you know, my feeling is – I like a movie of mine, I like it to feel a little handmade, like the special effects are not just…like every movie’s special effects. Like if you saw my film Dracula, the special effects look as though they’re made with mirrors and by hand.
All of Megalopolis, as big as it is, it’s really handmade – it’s not it doesn’t look like it’s a factory-made movie. And that causes sometimes disagreements with the people who are used to – who have been trained to working in a system that basically, you know… I’ve been around longer than they have. And I know what the cinema used to be like. And it’s not like it is today. Today it’s like the army. You know, if you go to one of the five art directors and say, ‘Oh, I want you to do this,’ then she’ll say, ‘Oh, you can’t step on my toes.’ You have to go to the chief art director. And that’s not the way the cinema was for the 60 years that I was in it.
del Barco: Do you worry that Hollywood is dead now?
Coppola: Well, I’ll tell you in truth. Two wonderful institutions that I love dearly with all my heart – journalism and the Hollywood system – are dying. And what we’re seeing, you know, with journalism making quotes from unknown sources, I mean – you can’t run journalism and just make all your… just to get clicks for people to subscribe and then refer to unknown sources. At the same token, you can’t make motion pictures if your only goal is to make your debt payment. Because, you know, art has a degree of risk to it. And if they’re afraid of risk, then…making art without risk is like making babies without sex.
Writer/director Francis Ford Coppola and Adam Driver as Cesar Catilina in Megalopolis.
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del Barco: Well, when you are making a film, who are you making your films for? Who [do] you imagine going to the movies to see your films?
Coppola: Well, it’s my audience. I love my audience, but my audience is more like me. I mean… if I’m going to see a movie about the Roman Empire, I like to know a little bit about it. I mean, most people don’t know why Rome invented a republic or why America…why was it that all our founders … who wrote the American Declaration of Independence – why was it they were so aware of Rome?
It’s because they were all educated, and in those days, that meant they spoke Latin, so they had to read Caesar’s Gallic wars and they had to read about Cicero and his contests with Catilina. They knew philosophers like Epicurus…Because they all spoke Latin…that was what an education in those days included. So we were blessed [to] have founders that were so well-educated and were so aware of history that they created a country that has worked effectively for more than 200 years, you know… But, you know, our country is a shining example of the republic concept. And if we lose it in this election, it will be a heartbreak – but yet Rome did lose it 2000 years ago plus.
del Barco: This film is coming out at a very politically charged time… we’re in the middle of an election. And these ideas about what is a republic, what is our society about –
Coppola: What it really comes down to…is there any creature, any intelligent creature – be it an octopus or a dolphin or a parrot or anything – that comes even one percent of… our genius? We are a species that can chart and change the human genome, who can send a spacecraft to photograph Mars, who can move icebergs with particle physics…So, I mean, how can you be told by [a politician], ‘Oh, those people are just animals’? There’s no human being that isn’t part of the human family – that’s our cousin, you know? I mean, they put people down so they can control them.
Giancarlo Esposito as Mayor Cicero in Megalopolis.
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del Barco: You’re probably referring specifically at this time [to] certain politicians.
Coppola: Well, I mean, I think whatever politician denigrates people and puts them down and insults them when I know they’re geniuses. I mean…there’s no creature like the human being. And Megalopolis says that right to your face.
del Barco: You refinanced your winery for, what, $120 million to get this movie made? And not every filmmaker can do that. I mean, how sustainable is this system of financing in Hollywood today?
Coppola: Well, I mean…most companies have been bought recently by another company, which was recently bought by another company. So there’s so much debt racked up.
What’s worse is that they don’t even know everything they’ve bought. I know more about Paramount Pictures than the current owners do. That’s a danger, because since they buy it, their lawyers say, well, ‘What is that part? We don’t need that,’ and they just get rid of it. But that might be a vital part.
In other words, when you’re buying something that you don’t really know a lot about, some lawyers and accountants will tend to want to get rid of the parts that they don’t know what it was for. But there are many parts of movie studios. Thank God people like George Lucas and Martin Scorsese know, and put lots of pressure on them to keep and restore things that came with their purchase, if you know what I’m saying.
del Barco: What do you want to do next?
Coppola: I know I’m finished with Megalopolis because I’ve written a new project. I’m going to go do it in London, because London is the only city that I have never lived in, which means I never lived shoulder to shoulder with my wife, who I miss every morning because I have no one to talk to about…even now when all this is happening, I keep thinking, ‘Oh, I’ve got to tell Ellie what just happened. I got to tell her.’
I thought if I lived in a place where I never lived with her, I’ll still think about her all the time. But it won’t be quite as…. I would like to just live in another place and work on another movie and work with English actors. It’s a musical film. It’ll have a lot of incredible dancing. So it will be fun. I always say it’ll be fun.
del Barco: Do you go into every film thinking, this is going to be fun, it’s going to be a blast?
Coppola: . Yeah, absolutely. I read a great quote that George Lucas gave. He said, ‘You know, when you make a movie, you try to make it go as well as you can, given the circumstances.’ And that that thing – given the circumstances – that’s a big few words, because every movie has a certain circumstance that is not in harmony with what you’re doing. And you have to decide either to change what you’re doing to be in harmony with that circumstance, or you have to change the circumstance to be in harmony [with] the movie… I had to face that in Apocalypse Now and I had to face that in Megalopolis.
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N.F.L. Style Will Never Beat N.B.A. Style
You want to see some real fashion ingenuity? Watch the N.F.L. draft.
I’m not saying it’s all good, but where else are you going to see someone in a double-breasted suit made by a company better known for making yoga pants? Or an Abercrombie & Fitch suit jacket so short that it exposes the belt loops on the pants beneath?
On the whole, the style on display at the N.F.L. draft last night was very overeager senior formal: a lot of suits in colors beyond basic blue. The quarterback Ty Simpson wore a custom suit by the athleisure label Alo, which, I have to say, looked better than I would have envisioned had you said the words “Alo Yoga suit” to me.
I thought it might have been from Suitsupply, but the conspicuous “Alo” pin on his right lapel put that idea to rest. Simpson, smartly, unfastened that beacon before appearing onstage as the 13th pick to the Los Angeles Rams. He had, perhaps, satisfied his contractual obligations by that point.
Earlier in the evening, as the wide receiver Carnell Tate threw up his arms in exaltation after being picked fourth by the Tennessee Titans, his cropped Abercrombie & Fitch jacket revealed a swatch of rib cage. He looked like a mâitre d’ who had just hit the Mega Millions.
During the N.B.A.’s extended fashion awakening, its draft has become a sandbox for luxury brands to cozy up to would-be endorsers. The Frenchman Victor Wembanyama broke a kind of cashmere ceiling when he wore Louis Vuitton to go first overall in the 2023 N.B.A. draft.
The N.F.L. draft has none of that. The brands you see are often not brands at all, but custom tailors that reach the league’s neophytes through a whisper network among players. The draft is also a platform to raise the curtain on longer-term brand deals that better suit these rookies. We may, for instance, never see Simpson in a suit again. Nearly every photo from his time at Alabama shows him in a T-shirt or hoodie. It makes sense for him to sign with Alo.
Football is the most mainstream of American cultural entities. And it’s one that still hasn’t, in spite of the league’s best efforts, taken off overseas. Few players, save some quarterbacks and a tight end who happens to be engaged to a pop star, feel bigger than the game itself. If you’re a new-to-the-league linebacker, you’ll most likely never harness the star power to grab the attention of Armani, but you might have just the right pull for Abercrombie.
The N.F.L. draft is therefore one of the few red carpets where the brands worn by the athletes may also be worn by those watching at home. How many people watching the Oscars will ever own clothes from Louis Vuitton or Chanel? People may comment online about Lady Gaga wearing Matières Fécales to the Grammys, but how many of those fans and viewers could afford to buy clothes from it?
The Japanese designers changing fashion
Yesterday, I published a deep dive into how a newish crop of Japanese designers are soaking up all the attention in men’s fashion right now. This was a piece I was writing in my head long before I sat down and finally started typing. I remember sitting at a fashion show in Paris over a year ago — I believe it was Dior — and being asked by my seatmate if I’d made it over to a showroom in the Marais to check out A.Presse. That Tokyo-based brand is now part of a vanguard of Japanese labels that, on many days, seems to be all anyone in fashion wants to talk about. I spent months talking with designers, store owners and big-time shoppers to make sense of why these brands have kicked up so much buzz and, more than that, what makes their clothes so great. You can read the story here.
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How to have the best Sunday in L.A., according to Tig Notaro
Thirty years ago, comedian and actor Tig Notaro didn’t have a clear direction in life, so she followed some childhood friends who wanted to get into entertainment to Los Angeles. Secretly wanting to do stand-up, Notaro decided to try her luck at various outlets in town, which became the start of her successful career.
“I stayed on my friends’ couch near the Hollywood Improv on Melrose, and a couple months later, got my own studio apartment in the Miracle Mile area,” Notaro says. “I love all the options for everything in L.A. — the entertainment, the restaurants. I like to stay active. So many people love the hiking options in Los Angeles, and I’m one of them.”
In Sunday Funday, L.A. people give us a play-by-play of their ideal Sunday around town. Find ideas and inspiration on where to go, what to eat and how to enjoy life on the weekends.
Notaro appears in Season 3 of Apple TV’s “The Morning Show” and is a series regular on Paramount+’s “Star Trek: Starfleet Academy,” as she was on “Star Trek: Discovery.” She’s also a touring stand-up comic and hosts “Handsome,” a comedy podcast, with Fortune Feimster and Mae Martin. The trio will be taping a live show May 4 at the Wiltern with the cast of Netflix’s “The Hunting Wives.” The live shows include interviews, but also “incorporate some ridiculous things,” she says. For example, upon hearing that some of the hosts always wanted to learn to tap dance, Notaro “hired a tap instructor to come to our live show in Austin and teach us how to tap dance in front of the audience.”
Notaro lives near Hollywood with her wife, actor Stephanie Allynne, their 9-year-old fraternal twin boys, Max and Finn, and three cats, Fluff, Linus and Skip. When she’s not touring, her ideal Sundays include sampling vegan restaurants, wandering through bookstores or museums, and doing something physically active with the family.
This interview has been lightly edited and condensed for length and clarity.
6 a.m.: Up with the kids
Because we have active children, we still wake up at 6 a.m. or 6:30 a.m. on Sunday, but there’s not as much of a rush to get going. Stephanie and I will often have coffee and chat in the living room together. I love that part of the day. Stephanie may cook breakfast, but Max and Finn are pretty self-sufficient and can make certain little meals for themselves. Max is really starting to take an interest in cooking, so he’d make breakfast for himself. Our family is vegan, but he eats eggs, so he makes himself an egg sandwich with avocado a lot of times.
9 a.m.: Daily morning walk
After breakfast, we usually have a morning walk around our neighborhood. That’s a daily thing I like to do, regardless of what’s going on. Now that I’m not touring as much, tennis is back on the schedule. So I’d go to Plummer Park in West Hollywood and play for a while, then join the family for lunch.
11:30 a.m.: Hike with a side of chickpea sandwich
I love Trails, a cafe in Griffith Park, where you can eat outdoors. It serves simple food, and has good vegan options. I usually get their chickpea salad sandwich. The food there is great. Afterward, we’d visit Griffith Observatory, where there’s lots to see. There are lots of great trails in the park, so we’d go for an hour hike before leaving.
3 p.m.: Browse the shelves for rock biographies
Bookstores are fun, so we’d head downtown for the Last Bookstore, which is in a historic building with lots of vintage books. I really love all things plant-based, and I’m a very big music fanatic. So I love to look for vegan books, nutrition books, rock biographies and autobiographies. It’s just fun to browse around the stacks.
If we didn’t go to the bookstore, we’d probably go to LACMA. Our sons are huge fans of art and want to go for each new exhibit. They love Hockney, Basquiat and Picasso, to name a few.
4 p.m.: Cuddle with cuties at a cat cafe
We’d then make a quick stop at [Crumbs & Whiskers], a kitten and cat cafe on Melrose for coffee, snacks and to pet the cats. It’s best to make reservations in advance. There’s cats all around the place that need to be adopted. You can visit and pet them, or find a new roommate. I’d love to take some home, but we already have three.
5:30 p.m. Italian or sushi, but make it vegan
We’re an early dinner family. One restaurant we like is Pura Vita in West Hollywood. It’s the greatest vegan Italian food, and for non-vegans, nobody ever knows the difference. It’s the first 100% plant-based Italian restaurant in the United States. They make an incredible kale salad and I love the San Gennaro pizza. It’s got cashew mozzarella, tomato sauce, Italian sausage crumble and more.
Then there’s Planta in Marina del Rey. It’s right on the harbor and you can sit outside and look at the boats coming in and out. They have sushi, salads and other plant-based entrees. They’ve got a really great spicy tuna roll that’s made out of watermelon. They are magicians.
Or there’s Crossroads Kitchen in West Hollywood. They play the best classic rock, and the atmosphere is upscale, fine dining. The appetizers that we always get are called Moroccan Cigars, which are vegan meat substitutes fried in a rolled batter. I really like the grilled lion’s mane steak, their mushroom steak with truffle potatoes, or the scallopini Milanese, that has a chicken or tofu option. I get the chicken with arugula on top. I always love to have a decaf espresso with dessert, which is either a brownie sundae or banana pudding.
7:30 p.m.: Comfort watch or word games
After dinner, the kids often like to watch an episode of “Friends,” a show that all ages enjoy, sports or “The Simpsons.” Or we’d play a game where each of us will add a word to a sentence and create a weird or funny long sentence until one of our sons says period. Then they’ll try and remember the whole sentence and repeat it back.
9:30 p.m.: Bubble bath then bed
The boys usually go to bed at 8:30 p.m. and bedtime for us is 9:30 p.m. Stephanie and I would read or chat. I like to take a bubble bath, if people must know. The best Sundays for me mean finding a good balance of relaxing and being active. I feel very lucky that my family and I can do those things together.
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It Started with a Midnight Swim and a Kiss Under the Stars
When Marian Sherry Lurio and Jonathan Buffington Nguyen met at a mutual friend’s wedding at Higgins Lake, Mich., in July 2022, both felt an immediate chemistry. As the evening progressed, they sat on the shore of the lake in Adirondack chairs under the stars, where they had their first kiss before joining others for a midnight plunge.
The two learned that the following weekend Ms. Lurio planned to attend a wedding in Philadelphia, where Mr. Nguyen lives, and before they had even exchanged numbers, they already had a first date on the books.
“I have a vivid memory of after we first met,” Mr. Nguyen said, “just feeling like I really better not screw this up.”
Before long, they were commuting between Philadelphia and New York City, where Ms. Lurio lives, spending weekends and the odd remote work days in one another’s apartments in Philadelphia and Manhattan. Within the first six months of dating, Mr. Nguyen joined Ms. Lurio’s family for Thanksgiving in Villanova, Pa., and, the following month, she met his family in Beavercreek, Ohio, at a surprise birthday party for Mr. Nguyen’s mother.
Ms. Lurio, 32, who grew up in Merion Station outside Philadelphia, works in investor relations administration at Flexpoint Ford, a private equity firm. She graduated from Dartmouth College with a bachelor’s degree in history and psychology.
Mr. Nguyen, also 32, was born in Knoxville, Tenn., and raised in Beavercreek, Ohio, from the age of 7. He graduated from Haverford College with a bachelor’s degree in political science and is now a director at Doyle Real Estate Advisors in Philadelphia.
Their long-distance relationship continued for the next few years. There were dates in Manhattan, vacations and beach trips to the Jersey Shore. They attended sporting events and discovered their shared appreciation of the 2003 film, “Love Actually.”
One evening, Mr. Nguyen recalled looking around Ms. Lurio’s small New York studio — strewed with clothes and the takeout meal they had ordered — and feeling “so comfortable and safe.” “I knew that this was something different than just sort of a fling,” he said.
It was an open question when they would move in together. In 2024, Ms. Lurio began the process of moving into Mr. Nguyen’s home in Philadelphia — even bringing her cat, Scott — but her plans changed midway when an opportunity arose to expand her role with her current employer.
Mr. Nguyen was on board with her decision. “It almost feels like stolen valor to call it ‘long distance,’ because it’s so easy from Philadelphia to New York,” Mr. Nguyen said. “The joke is, it’s easier to get to Philly from New York than to get to some parts of Brooklyn from Manhattan, right?”
In January 2025, Mr. Nguyen visited Ms. Lurio in New York with more up his sleeve than spending the weekend. Together they had discussed marriage and bespoke rings, but when Mr. Nguyen left Ms. Lurio and an unfinished cheese plate at the bar of the Chelsea Hotel that Friday evening, she had no idea what was coming next.
“I remember texting Jonathan,” Ms. Lurio said, bewildered: “‘You didn’t go toward the bathroom!’” When a Lobby Bar server came and asked her to come outside, Ms. Lurio still didn’t realize what was happening until she was standing in the hallway, where Mr. Nguyen stood recreating a key moment from the film “Love Actually,” in which one character silently professes his love for another in writing by flashing a series of cue cards. There, in the storied Chelsea Hotel hallway still festooned with Christmas decorations, Mr. Nguyen shared his last card that said, “Will you marry me?”
They wed on April 11 in front of 200 guests at the Pump House, a covered space on the banks of Philadelphia’s Schuylkill River. Mr. Nguyen’s sister, the Rev. Elizabeth Nguyen, who is ordained through the Unitarian Universalist Association, officiated.
Although formal attire was suggested, Ms. Lurio said that the ceremony was “pretty casual.” She and Jonathan got ready together, and their families served as their wedding parties.
“I said I wanted a five-minute wedding,” Ms. Lurio recalled, though the ceremony ended up lasting a little longer than that. During the ceremony, Ms. Nguyen read a homily and jokingly added that guests should not ask the bride and groom about their living arrangements, which will remain separate for the foreseeable future.
While watching Ms. Lurio walk down the aisle, flanked by her parents, Mr. Nguyen said he remembered feeling at once grounded in the moment and also a sense of dazed joy: “Like, is this real? I felt very lucky in that moment — and also just excited for the party to start!”
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