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In L.A., you'll see babies at Costco and Chi Spacca. How young is too young for crowds?

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In L.A., you'll see babies at Costco and Chi Spacca. How young is too young for crowds?

In a sea of people, you might catch a glimpse of one. A tiny head barely peeking out of the top of a carrier. Or a small, scrunched face slumbering in a stroller. Sometimes, the magnificent creature will declare itself with a distinct cry and you know a fresh human baby is in your midst.

The natural habitat for a newborn baby is usually inside their home. But sometimes, you will spot one catching a matinee at the El Capitan Theatre.

That’s where Rob Hatch-Miller and his wife, Puloma Basu, took their newborn daughter the week she was born. It was 2017 and the first-time parents celebrated Hatch-Miller’s birthday with a baby-friendly showing of “Star Wars: The Last Jedi.” At the baby-friendly screenings — which ended at the El Capitan but are still offered at Alamo Drafthouse — babies were allowed to wail over the lowered movie volume.

For the new family of three, the outing was a respite before the arrival of the holidays and jubilant out-of-town relatives. The couple checked in with their pediatrician, who reminded them to feed the baby every two to three hours but otherwise wasn’t worried, said Basu, 44.

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In the dimly lit theater, while Kylo Ren led an onscreen assault on the Resistance, their 6-day-old baby slept the whole time.

“It was a great birthday,” said Hatch-Miller, 43, who often advises expectant friends to take their babies into the greater world sooner than later. “You’re going to have a couple years where it’s really complicated to go out for a meal or just go see a matinee movie. Do it now while they’re small.”

Throughout Los Angeles, newborns make appearances at movie theaters, Costco, Starbucks and even fine-dining restaurants. While doctors recommend that newborns — especially during the first month of life — be kept away from crowded spaces to protect their health, not all parents feel the need to be so cautious.

The question about the ideal age to take a newborn into public spaces is raised again and again online by anxious new parents trying to balance their desires to protect and find normalcy. Is a quick trip to the grocery store forbidden? And if you go, is the employee at checkout yawning because of fatigue or the bubonic plague?

Parenthood is always complicated, but especially so at the beginning. So we talked to doctors and parents who’ve been there about how to navigate bringing a fresh baby into the wild.

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If anything, avoid crowds the first month

A baby’s first month of life is the neonatal period, a vulnerable time because of their immature immune system.

“This is the time to avoid crowds,” especially crowded indoor spaces, said Dr. Robert C. Hamilton, a Santa Monica-based pediatrician and author of “7 Secrets of the Newborn.”

A fever in the first month could be a sign of a major infection, which means hospitalization, said Dr. Colleen Kraft, a pediatrician at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles and past president of the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Babies in the neonatal period are unimmunized. The first go-around of vaccines is usually complete when a baby is 2 months old.

“At 2 months of age, you can become a little more liberal in taking your child out into spaces where there are more people,” said Hamilton.

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Before you go anywhere with a newborn, said Kraft, ask yourself: Is it peak flu season like the one that swamped California? If so, consider staying home.

The great outdoors is fine

Babies can be out in nature on their first day of life. Hamilton tells new parents they can walk home from the hospital if they so choose. “I don’t have too many takers on that,” he said.

Beaches, parks and neighborhood strolls are all OK too.

But Vivien Kotler, mom of two, cautions to not read too far into how you perceive others handling their babies out in the wild. She lives in a house that faces Silver Lake Boulevard and the reservoir loop — a favorite stroll for new parents.

Her window is like a real-life, highly curated Instagram feed. Each time before both her children — Pallas and Blaise, now 9 and 6 years old — were born, she remembers seeing moms who attended her prenatal yoga class one week and then were walking the loop with their newborns the next. “You see these people who seem effortlessly walking around doing normal things with their babies neatly wrapped into them or in the stroller,” said Kotler, 48. “And so, you’re thinking, ‘OK, that is what normal is.’”

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Five days after giving birth to Pallas, Kotler went to a restaurant with her. It started out fine. Then Pallas cried and the outing spiraled into a mess. In hindsight, Kotler said she was chasing an image of being out and about that didn’t quite align with her values.

When her second child was born, she decided to let go of aspirational standards and focus on her relationship with her newborn — at home.

“You go to Legoland or Disneyland and you see these brand-new parents with babies who can barely see, and it’s like, you guys are going to have to do this for the next 10 years,” said Kotler. “You don’t have to start right as soon as the baby comes out.”

When craving normalcy

Life with a new baby can feel very busy.

“But it’s also kind of under-stimulating,” said Franziska Reff, a psychologist who practices in Atwater Village and runs a virtual support group for new moms. “Your social side and your intellectual side aren’t being utilized in the same way.”

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For parents who choose to bring their newborn on outings — even a walk or a doughnut run — the experience can feel like a microdose of self-identity, said Reff.

Before their daughter, Alaya, was born, Jessica Ettman and her husband, J.D. Plotnick, dined out frequently. Both have backgrounds in the restaurant industry. Their initial intention was to pause their nightlife and nest with their newborn at home.

But when Alaya was not yet 3 weeks old, they took her to a family wedding. A few weeks later, a reservation at Camélia in the Arts District presented itself like manna from heaven. Alaya had already been out at the wedding, so they decided to give fine dining a try.

“We were at dinner for a couple hours, and it was really great,” said Ettman, 43. “Then I was like, ‘Let’s do it again.’”

Since then, Alaya, now 4 months old, has been to some of the best restaurants in the city. At Chi Spacca, the wait staff borrowed a chair with a back from Osteria Mozza next door so Ettman could feel more comfortable holding and nursing Alaya.

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Every dining experience with the baby is tiring — equal parts nice and not worth it, said Ettman. Especially unpleasant: changing diapers in dimly lit bathroom stalls without changing tables after explosive newborn poops. But she always feels a sense of accomplishment at the end.

“It makes me feel like a super mom,” Ettman said. “I can bring my baby. I could see my friends. I can go anywhere I want to go and not feel self-conscious.”

Do experts follow their own recommendations?

Although he cannot recommend parents take a newborn (especially during the first month) into crowded spaces, Hamilton said there are ways to mitigate risk. Dine alfresco, he said. If that’s not an option, go to a corner table for an earlier reservation or a matinee movie before the crowds arrive.

Reff added there may be room for personal preference within doctor recommendations.

“I counsel a lot of parents to think about what works for you as a person and what works for you as a family because it’s about your risk tolerance,” she said. While living on the East Coast, she toted her own newborn on public transit.

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“That just seemed normal to us,” said Reff.

This raises the question: Do doctors follow their own recommendations?

Yes, said Kraft, who has three children. She kept them at home as much as possible in their newborn days.

Hamilton paused to reflect on the question.

“We have six kids, OK,” he said. “We used common sense, but we were also surrounded by all these kids. We survived. They all survived. They’re all adults. They’re all taxpaying people.”

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N.F.L. Style Will Never Beat N.B.A. Style

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You want to see some real fashion ingenuity? Watch the N.F.L. draft.

I’m not saying it’s all good, but where else are you going to see someone in a double-breasted suit made by a company better known for making yoga pants? Or an Abercrombie & Fitch suit jacket so short that it exposes the belt loops on the pants beneath?

On the whole, the style on display at the N.F.L. draft last night was very overeager senior formal: a lot of suits in colors beyond basic blue. The quarterback Ty Simpson wore a custom suit by the athleisure label Alo, which, I have to say, looked better than I would have envisioned had you said the words “Alo Yoga suit” to me.

I thought it might have been from Suitsupply, but the conspicuous “Alo” pin on his right lapel put that idea to rest. Simpson, smartly, unfastened that beacon before appearing onstage as the 13th pick to the Los Angeles Rams. He had, perhaps, satisfied his contractual obligations by that point.

Earlier in the evening, as the wide receiver Carnell Tate threw up his arms in exaltation after being picked fourth by the Tennessee Titans, his cropped Abercrombie & Fitch jacket revealed a swatch of rib cage. He looked like a mâitre d’ who had just hit the Mega Millions.

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During the N.B.A.’s extended fashion awakening, its draft has become a sandbox for luxury brands to cozy up to would-be endorsers. The Frenchman Victor Wembanyama broke a kind of cashmere ceiling when he wore Louis Vuitton to go first overall in the 2023 N.B.A. draft.

The N.F.L. draft has none of that. The brands you see are often not brands at all, but custom tailors that reach the league’s neophytes through a whisper network among players. The draft is also a platform to raise the curtain on longer-term brand deals that better suit these rookies. We may, for instance, never see Simpson in a suit again. Nearly every photo from his time at Alabama shows him in a T-shirt or hoodie. It makes sense for him to sign with Alo.

Football is the most mainstream of American cultural entities. And it’s one that still hasn’t, in spite of the league’s best efforts, taken off overseas. Few players, save some quarterbacks and a tight end who happens to be engaged to a pop star, feel bigger than the game itself. If you’re a new-to-the-league linebacker, you’ll most likely never harness the star power to grab the attention of Armani, but you might have just the right pull for Abercrombie.

The N.F.L. draft is therefore one of the few red carpets where the brands worn by the athletes may also be worn by those watching at home. How many people watching the Oscars will ever own clothes from Louis Vuitton or Chanel? People may comment online about Lady Gaga wearing Matières Fécales to the Grammys, but how many of those fans and viewers could afford to buy clothes from it?



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Yesterday, I published a deep dive into how a newish crop of Japanese designers are soaking up all the attention in men’s fashion right now. This was a piece I was writing in my head long before I sat down and finally started typing. I remember sitting at a fashion show in Paris over a year ago — I believe it was Dior — and being asked by my seatmate if I’d made it over to a showroom in the Marais to check out A.Presse. That Tokyo-based brand is now part of a vanguard of Japanese labels that, on many days, seems to be all anyone in fashion wants to talk about. I spent months talking with designers, store owners and big-time shoppers to make sense of why these brands have kicked up so much buzz and, more than that, what makes their clothes so great. You can read the story here.


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How to have the best Sunday in L.A., according to Tig Notaro

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Thirty years ago, comedian and actor Tig Notaro didn’t have a clear direction in life, so she followed some childhood friends who wanted to get into entertainment to Los Angeles. Secretly wanting to do stand-up, Notaro decided to try her luck at various outlets in town, which became the start of her successful career.

“I stayed on my friends’ couch near the Hollywood Improv on Melrose, and a couple months later, got my own studio apartment in the Miracle Mile area,” Notaro says. “I love all the options for everything in L.A. — the entertainment, the restaurants. I like to stay active. So many people love the hiking options in Los Angeles, and I’m one of them.”

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In Sunday Funday, L.A. people give us a play-by-play of their ideal Sunday around town. Find ideas and inspiration on where to go, what to eat and how to enjoy life on the weekends.

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Notaro appears in Season 3 of Apple TV’s “The Morning Show” and is a series regular on Paramount+’s “Star Trek: Starfleet Academy,” as she was on “Star Trek: Discovery.” She’s also a touring stand-up comic and hosts “Handsome,” a comedy podcast, with Fortune Feimster and Mae Martin. The trio will be taping a live show May 4 at the Wiltern with the cast of Netflix’s “The Hunting Wives.” The live shows include interviews, but also “incorporate some ridiculous things,” she says. For example, upon hearing that some of the hosts always wanted to learn to tap dance, Notaro “hired a tap instructor to come to our live show in Austin and teach us how to tap dance in front of the audience.”

Notaro lives near Hollywood with her wife, actor Stephanie Allynne, their 9-year-old fraternal twin boys, Max and Finn, and three cats, Fluff, Linus and Skip. When she’s not touring, her ideal Sundays include sampling vegan restaurants, wandering through bookstores or museums, and doing something physically active with the family.

This interview has been lightly edited and condensed for length and clarity.

6 a.m.: Up with the kids

Because we have active children, we still wake up at 6 a.m. or 6:30 a.m. on Sunday, but there’s not as much of a rush to get going. Stephanie and I will often have coffee and chat in the living room together. I love that part of the day. Stephanie may cook breakfast, but Max and Finn are pretty self-sufficient and can make certain little meals for themselves. Max is really starting to take an interest in cooking, so he’d make breakfast for himself. Our family is vegan, but he eats eggs, so he makes himself an egg sandwich with avocado a lot of times.

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9 a.m.: Daily morning walk

After breakfast, we usually have a morning walk around our neighborhood. That’s a daily thing I like to do, regardless of what’s going on. Now that I’m not touring as much, tennis is back on the schedule. So I’d go to Plummer Park in West Hollywood and play for a while, then join the family for lunch.

11:30 a.m.: Hike with a side of chickpea sandwich

I love Trails, a cafe in Griffith Park, where you can eat outdoors. It serves simple food, and has good vegan options. I usually get their chickpea salad sandwich. The food there is great. Afterward, we’d visit Griffith Observatory, where there’s lots to see. There are lots of great trails in the park, so we’d go for an hour hike before leaving.

3 p.m.: Browse the shelves for rock biographies

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Bookstores are fun, so we’d head downtown for the Last Bookstore, which is in a historic building with lots of vintage books. I really love all things plant-based, and I’m a very big music fanatic. So I love to look for vegan books, nutrition books, rock biographies and autobiographies. It’s just fun to browse around the stacks.

If we didn’t go to the bookstore, we’d probably go to LACMA. Our sons are huge fans of art and want to go for each new exhibit. They love Hockney, Basquiat and Picasso, to name a few.

4 p.m.: Cuddle with cuties at a cat cafe

We’d then make a quick stop at [Crumbs & Whiskers], a kitten and cat cafe on Melrose for coffee, snacks and to pet the cats. It’s best to make reservations in advance. There’s cats all around the place that need to be adopted. You can visit and pet them, or find a new roommate. I’d love to take some home, but we already have three.

5:30 p.m. Italian or sushi, but make it vegan

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We’re an early dinner family. One restaurant we like is Pura Vita in West Hollywood. It’s the greatest vegan Italian food, and for non-vegans, nobody ever knows the difference. It’s the first 100% plant-based Italian restaurant in the United States. They make an incredible kale salad and I love the San Gennaro pizza. It’s got cashew mozzarella, tomato sauce, Italian sausage crumble and more.

Then there’s Planta in Marina del Rey. It’s right on the harbor and you can sit outside and look at the boats coming in and out. They have sushi, salads and other plant-based entrees. They’ve got a really great spicy tuna roll that’s made out of watermelon. They are magicians.

Or there’s Crossroads Kitchen in West Hollywood. They play the best classic rock, and the atmosphere is upscale, fine dining. The appetizers that we always get are called Moroccan Cigars, which are vegan meat substitutes fried in a rolled batter. I really like the grilled lion’s mane steak, their mushroom steak with truffle potatoes, or the scallopini Milanese, that has a chicken or tofu option. I get the chicken with arugula on top. I always love to have a decaf espresso with dessert, which is either a brownie sundae or banana pudding.

7:30 p.m.: Comfort watch or word games

After dinner, the kids often like to watch an episode of “Friends,” a show that all ages enjoy, sports or “The Simpsons.” Or we’d play a game where each of us will add a word to a sentence and create a weird or funny long sentence until one of our sons says period. Then they’ll try and remember the whole sentence and repeat it back.

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9:30 p.m.: Bubble bath then bed

The boys usually go to bed at 8:30 p.m. and bedtime for us is 9:30 p.m. Stephanie and I would read or chat. I like to take a bubble bath, if people must know. The best Sundays for me mean finding a good balance of relaxing and being active. I feel very lucky that my family and I can do those things together.

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It Started with a Midnight Swim and a Kiss Under the Stars

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When Marian Sherry Lurio and Jonathan Buffington Nguyen met at a mutual friend’s wedding at Higgins Lake, Mich., in July 2022, both felt an immediate chemistry. As the evening progressed, they sat on the shore of the lake in Adirondack chairs under the stars, where they had their first kiss before joining others for a midnight plunge.

The two learned that the following weekend Ms. Lurio planned to attend a wedding in Philadelphia, where Mr. Nguyen lives, and before they had even exchanged numbers, they already had a first date on the books.

“I have a vivid memory of after we first met,” Mr. Nguyen said, “just feeling like I really better not screw this up.”

Before long, they were commuting between Philadelphia and New York City, where Ms. Lurio lives, spending weekends and the odd remote work days in one another’s apartments in Philadelphia and Manhattan. Within the first six months of dating, Mr. Nguyen joined Ms. Lurio’s family for Thanksgiving in Villanova, Pa., and, the following month, she met his family in Beavercreek, Ohio, at a surprise birthday party for Mr. Nguyen’s mother.

Ms. Lurio, 32, who grew up in Merion Station outside Philadelphia, works in investor relations administration at Flexpoint Ford, a private equity firm. She graduated from Dartmouth College with a bachelor’s degree in history and psychology.

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Mr. Nguyen, also 32, was born in Knoxville, Tenn., and raised in Beavercreek, Ohio, from the age of 7. He graduated from Haverford College with a bachelor’s degree in political science and is now a director at Doyle Real Estate Advisors in Philadelphia.

Their long-distance relationship continued for the next few years. There were dates in Manhattan, vacations and beach trips to the Jersey Shore. They attended sporting events and discovered their shared appreciation of the 2003 film, “Love Actually.”

One evening, Mr. Nguyen recalled looking around Ms. Lurio’s small New York studio — strewed with clothes and the takeout meal they had ordered — and feeling “so comfortable and safe.” “I knew that this was something different than just sort of a fling,” he said.

It was an open question when they would move in together. In 2024, Ms. Lurio began the process of moving into Mr. Nguyen’s home in Philadelphia — even bringing her cat, Scott — but her plans changed midway when an opportunity arose to expand her role with her current employer.

Mr. Nguyen was on board with her decision. “It almost feels like stolen valor to call it ‘long distance,’ because it’s so easy from Philadelphia to New York,” Mr. Nguyen said. “The joke is, it’s easier to get to Philly from New York than to get to some parts of Brooklyn from Manhattan, right?”

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In January 2025, Mr. Nguyen visited Ms. Lurio in New York with more up his sleeve than spending the weekend. Together they had discussed marriage and bespoke rings, but when Mr. Nguyen left Ms. Lurio and an unfinished cheese plate at the bar of the Chelsea Hotel that Friday evening, she had no idea what was coming next.

“I remember texting Jonathan,” Ms. Lurio said, bewildered: “‘You didn’t go toward the bathroom!’” When a Lobby Bar server came and asked her to come outside, Ms. Lurio still didn’t realize what was happening until she was standing in the hallway, where Mr. Nguyen stood recreating a key moment from the film “Love Actually,” in which one character silently professes his love for another in writing by flashing a series of cue cards. There, in the storied Chelsea Hotel hallway still festooned with Christmas decorations, Mr. Nguyen shared his last card that said, “Will you marry me?”

They wed on April 11 in front of 200 guests at the Pump House, a covered space on the banks of Philadelphia’s Schuylkill River. Mr. Nguyen’s sister, the Rev. Elizabeth Nguyen, who is ordained through the Unitarian Universalist Association, officiated.

Although formal attire was suggested, Ms. Lurio said that the ceremony was “pretty casual.” She and Jonathan got ready together, and their families served as their wedding parties.

“I said I wanted a five-minute wedding,” Ms. Lurio recalled, though the ceremony ended up lasting a little longer than that. During the ceremony, Ms. Nguyen read a homily and jokingly added that guests should not ask the bride and groom about their living arrangements, which will remain separate for the foreseeable future.

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While watching Ms. Lurio walk down the aisle, flanked by her parents, Mr. Nguyen said he remembered feeling at once grounded in the moment and also a sense of dazed joy: “Like, is this real? I felt very lucky in that moment — and also just excited for the party to start!”

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