Pilates was touted for many years because the exercise that might assist you obtain the lengthy, lean muscular tissues of a ballet dancer. In consequence, girls usually flocked to Pilates studios whereas males largely stayed away.
However the rise of male celebrities and athletes taking over—and speaking up—Pilates helps debunk the parable that the exercise is especially for girls.
NBA celebrity
Kevin Durant
has credited Pilates with serving to him rehab an Achilles tendon harm. New York Giants defensive lineman
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Dexter Lawrence
was heard on mic touting the benefits of Pilates throughout a recreation final soccer season. And Exhale Pilates London lately posted an Instagram clip of boxers, soccer gamers and pop star Harry Types tagged #mendopilatestoo.
Past celebrities, gyms are reporting a change within the male-female ratio at their Pilates lessons.
Pilates is usually related to stretching, says
Jeffrey Morris,
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a Pilates supervisor at Equinox in New York. Improved flexibility is one profit. The strategy, centered round workouts on spring-assisted machines or a mat, additionally builds general muscular steadiness, power and mobility, he says. It shifts focus away from overworked muscular tissues together with the chest, shoulders, hip flexors and quads towards usually ignored muscular tissues such because the lats, glutes and abdominals. This helps keep away from overuse accidents, he says.
Scott Streeb,
a Denver-based director of a New York landscape-architecture agency, assumed Pilates can be straightforward. He was shocked to search out himself struggling by his first lessons. “It really works the entire micromuscles in your physique that you simply by no means knew existed,” he says.
An avid climber and skier, he’d tried CrossFit, high-intensity interval coaching and conventional weightlifting however felt they put an excessive amount of pressure on his joints. Two years in the past, he tried a Pilates class. The 39-year-old says he preferred the bodily problem and the way his physique felt after.
When mates tease him for doing the identical exercise as their wives and sisters, he shrugs it off. “I’m fitter than all of them,” he says.
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Mr. Streeb holds a aspect plank on a reformer machine on the Enhance Pilates studio in Denver.
World Conflict I roots
Joseph Pilates,
the self-discipline’s German founder, was a barrel-chested professional boxer, self-defense teacher, gymnast and circus performer. He primarily based his follow on exact actions and respiration strategies that strengthen the muscular tissues whereas enhancing postural alignment and adaptability.
As a German nationwide residing in England, Mr. Pilates was despatched to an internment camp throughout World Conflict I. Whereas there, he rigged springs to hospital beds so injured troopers might train towards resistance. These contraptions led to his improvement of traditional Pilates machines.
He immigrated to the U.S. within the Nineteen Twenties and opened a body-conditioning studio in New York Metropolis that rapidly earned a following within the dance neighborhood. In Europe, he had labored with athletes, police and Military officers excited by strengthening their our bodies by workouts that will construct steadiness prime to backside and proper to left, says
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Rachel Segel,
co-founder of the Pilates Middle in Boulder, Colo.
“In New York, he discovered himself serving to ballet dancers rehab their accidents,” she says. His technique turned related to dancing and earned a predominantly feminine following exterior the dance world.
Joseph Pilates instructed a consumer on a bit of kit known as the barrel at his New York Metropolis studio in 1961.
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Extra males catching on
With its more-complicated tools and infrequently larger price ticket, Pilates may not eclipse yoga, however its reputation is rising. Total participation in Pilates elevated 10% between 2019 and 2022, in accordance with the Sports activities and Health Business Affiliation. Practically 34 million Individuals follow yoga, versus 10 million who do Pilates, the SFIA says.
Dan DeBaun,
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a spokesman for athletic membership chain
Life Time Inc.,
says 25% of Pilates individuals are actually males, in contrast with 16% in 2017. Equinox golf equipment have seen a 47% enhance in male members attending its mat-based Pilates lessons at its 100-plus world areas since 2019, Mr. Morris says.
Jen Renfroe,
senior vice chairman of group health for the Crunch Health gymnasium chain, says that over the previous two years, extra males have taken Pilates-based lessons as a complement to their conventional strength-based or high-intensity interval exercises.
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She says the introduction of 30-minute, hybrid lessons that mix conventional Pilates strategies with different health components resembling resistance bands are accessible for novices. One mat-based Crunch class that includes hand weights, Iron Mat, has a reputation meant to enchantment to guys, Ms. Renfroe says.
Mr. Streeb proudly tells his mates that in the case of exercise tools, the Pilates ‘reformer machine is my jam.’
Small actions, massive advantages
Staple Pilates mat workouts such because the roll-up, the place you lie in your again and curl the backbone as much as a C-shape along with your fingers stretching towards your toes, look easy. However they’re core burners.
Tom Cook dinner
remembers his muscular tissues shaking when he needed to lie on his again and maintain his knees above his chest throughout his first-class in 2016. “I felt extra challenged than discouraged,” says Mr. Cook dinner, 59, an Episcopal priest in Edina, Minn. “It underscored how necessary core power is.”
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He attends class twice every week at his Life Time gymnasium and says he now walks extra upright and feels extra limber. Whereas he was once the one male participant, he says up to now two years one other man usually joins the four-person class. Most group health lessons, resembling yoga, are included in his membership payment. However Pilates prices an additional $30 per class, which Mr. Cook dinner says he justifies by the specialised tools and small class measurement.
Chris Farnsworth
was an legal professional who found Pilates when he injured his again in 2018. He cherished the self-discipline a lot he co-founded LiveMetta, a Pilates studio with six areas in Southern California. He says machines add resistance whereas additionally offering stability, so workouts could be carried out safely by older individuals and other people with accidents.
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Up to now two years, there was a ten% enhance in male attendees.
“There’s an unstated bond if you see one other man within the studio,” he says. “It’s like we’re in on this secret exercise that makes you robust and really feel good. However with extra males, particularly athletes, lastly speaking about how nice it’s, I don’t suppose it should keep a secret that for much longer.”
Keeping your lower body strong and capable has many benefits, particularly for maintaining your mobility and independence into old age. Many of us also like having a muscular, toned lower body for the way it looks.
The good news is that whatever motivates you, you get both benefits, and this workout will improve strength and build lean muscle in your legs, all in just 20 minutes.
I recently witnessed an online melee as people debated the best way to perform a press-up: an exercise with an instruction booklet built into its name. Sure, there are nuances you can use to manipulate muscular engagement, but for the vast majority of people, simply pressing themselves away from the ground (kneeling or otherwise) will deliver most of the benefits.
This isn’t an isolated event either. Everywhere I look, people are seeking incremental health and fitness progress through (often expensive) hacks, shortcuts and supplements, all while leaving potentially huge gains on the table by overlooking the basics.
Regular sauna sessions in lieu of a good night’s sleep, a huge stack of pills where fruit and vegetables might suffice, and some new-fangled bosu ball exercise when a simple squat would deliver more bang for your buck.
I’m not saying these things are ineffective, but for the greatest impact on your health, you’re better off laying strong foundations first. Having interviewed some of the top researchers, coaches, trainers and athletes from across the fitness industry, I’ve identified the common denominators they all recommend for general good health.
From these, I have created six accessible, expert-led and actionable tips which you can use to become fitter than the majority of the population.
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Lesson one: Aim to be consistently good rather than constantly perfect
“Most of us have this mindset that more is better and we have to be absolutely perfect in everything,” says Sally Gunnell, former Olympic champion and founder of Life’s Hurdle. “But you can’t be perfect every day. That’s where exercise programmes and diets often go wrong.”
When people slip up and miss a day of their exercise plan, they often pack it all in. Failing to follow a diet’s strict rules regularly ends in a similar fate.
Gunnell likens this “all or nothing mindset” to getting a flat tyre, then slashing the other three. Instead, she recommends fixing the one that is broken by finding small ways to move your health and fitness in the right direction.
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Most people can make significant improvements to their health and fitness without needing to spend an hour at the gym (Getty/iStock)
“If you miss a workout or overeat on one day, don’t throw the week away and say, ‘I’m going to start again on Monday’. Just go back to your normal [healthy] routine. Progress isn’t about perfection,” she says.
“I always think about red, amber and green days. Your green days are your good days, but often you might have a red day where you don’t feel like doing anything. On those days, is there one thing you can do that makes it an amber day?”
This might mean a short walk when you would otherwise have been scrolling on your phone, or a quick five minutes of movement (such as the short resistance training routine below) while taking a break from your desk.
A few minutes of effort might not seem significant enough to have an impact, but doing these activities regularly will quickly rack up compound interest for your fitness.
“It’s about being consistent, doing something when you can, and having a mindset where you’re not beating yourself up [if you don’t do everything perfectly],” Gunnell says. “That’s the key to long-term health and building it into your life.”
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If we apply this to walking, step-based activity expert Dr Elroy Aguiar says the “ideal” baseline to hit for most health benefits is around 7,000-8,000 steps per day, with 20 to 30 minutes of walking at 100 to 130 steps per minute or faster.
However, he echoes the World Health Organisation’s sentiment that “every move counts towards better health”.
“If that means walking a little bit more quickly to your car, the train station or a bus stop, just to elevate your heart rate and your metabolic rate a little bit for those brief periods which you can accumulate throughout the day, those things count as well in terms of exercise,” Dr Aguiar says.
The benefits of regular bouts of movement, however small, will add up over time (Getty/iStock)
Lesson two: Vary your movements
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Broadly speaking, the body operates on a use it or lose it basis. If you do something regularly, it will adapt to do it better. If you stop doing something, it will gradually discard the strength, mobility and cardiorespiratory fitness required to do so. Therefore, if you want to be able to move freely, moving frequently is a non-negotiable.
Top strength coach Dan John identifies the five basic human movements as push, pull, hinge, squat and loaded carry.
Movement mechanics expert Ash Grossmann also highlights the importance of moving in all three planes of motion; sagittal, meaning up, down, forward and backward motions; frontal, meaning side-to-side actions such as bending; transverse, meaning twisting or rotational movements.
If you can cover these eight bases each week, whether that’s via strength training, pilates or any other activity you favour, your body is likely to feel more supple than most.
“We want to maintain as many movement options as possible, so that means moving as many joints as possible in as many directions as possible,” says Grossmann. “Doing things like side bends and rotations will all contribute to a body that feels limber and loose.”
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Movement mechanics expert Ash Grossmann says the body works on a ‘use it or lose it’ basis when it comes to movement, so it pays to move your body in a variety of ways on a regular basis (Getty/iStock)
Lesson three: Do resistance training in some form
Resistance training is the golden goose for health, fitness and longevity, offering an invariably cheaper entry fee and far greater return on investment than most biohacking options.
“In my opinion, the benefits of maintaining healthy muscle are highly underrated,” says Well To Lead founder Ollie Thompson, a trainer who specialises in longevity. “Consistent resistance exercise enhances metabolic function by improving insulin sensitivity, supports cardiovascular health by reducing blood pressure and inflammation, helps maintain hormonal balance to combat age-related decline, preserves bone density to reduce fracture risk and strengthens the immune system to help fight off disease.”
But resistance exercise doesn’t have to mean spending an hour in the gym every day.
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Your muscles don’t know the difference between a dumbbell, barbell or bodyweight workout, they just recognise the need to overcome resistance. As long as an exercise is adequately challenging, it will prompt positive adaptations to strength and size, so time-savvy home workouts will serve most people just fine. And beginners can see significant improvements from minimal input.
“This is because any type of resistance training is a new stimulus to the body,” explains Amanda Capritto, a personal trainer who specialises in minimal equipment workouts. “A previously unstimulated neuromuscular and musculoskeletal system will respond quite dramatically to lower total training volumes and less intense stimuli, compared to the more advanced lifter [who will likely require more weight, intensity and volume in their workouts to see progress].”
To prove this point, a new 2025 study published in the European Journal of Applied Physiology found that a five-minute resistance training workout comprising five beginner-friendly bodyweight exercises “significantly improved physical fitness and mental health in sedentary individuals” when performed daily for four weeks.
Fancy trying something similar? Then, every day or two, complete one round of the equipment-free circuit below:
Knee press-up x 8-12
Single-arm bent-over row with rucksack x 8-12 each side
Squat x 8-12
Suitcase carry with rucksack x 10-20m each side
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Home workouts, with or without weights, can be an effective way to build strength, muscle and more resilient joints, as long as the exercises provide an adequate challenge (Getty/iStock)
Lesson four: Apply progressive overload to your training
One of the most common training mistakes is stagnation. People get stuck in a loop of doing the same exercises at the same weights for the same number of sets and reps every week.
But given the Said (specific adaptations to imposed demands) principle, in which the body only adapts to better handle the tasks we consistently ask of it, this is one-way traffic to a progress plateau. Instead, you need to gradually increase the challenge of your workouts via a process called progressive overload to continue to see benefits.
Take the five-minute workout above as a case study. For some people, it will present a challenge as written. For others, it may feel like a breeze.
If you’re in the latter camp and it requires less than a seven out of 10 effort, it’s time to increase the difficulty if you want to see progress. You can do this by performing the circuit multiple times, increasing the number of reps you perform of each exercise, increasing the weight you’re lifting (by adding items to the rucksack, and wearing it for the squats and press-ups) or switching to similar but more challenging variations of each exercise.
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For example:
Press-up x 10-15
(Heavier) single-arm bent-over row with rucksack x10-15
Bulgarian split squat x 10-15 each side
Romanian deadlift with rucksack x 10-15
(Heavier) Suitcase carry with rucksack x 20-30m each side
Improving your sleep quantity might not be an option, but there are steps you can take to bump up your sleep quality (Getty/iStock)
Lesson five: Tweak your routine to improve sleep quality
Nearly every fitness professional I’ve spoken to swears by the same first pillar for feeling better: improve your sleep. Dan Lawrence, a performance coach to elite athletes such as boxer Conor Benn, is the latest to lend weight to the argument.
“Sleep is the number one recovery tool, and it costs absolutely nothing,” he tells me. “If an athlete had a poor night’s sleep, we identify why. Have they eaten too late? Is their brain going at too fast a rate? Do we need to regulate autonomic status and breathing work? What’s gone on that’s led to poor sleep?”
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The problem is, most of us aren’t elite athletes. We have early morning alarms, social commitments and unforeseen interruptions which impact our nightly slumber. However, Lawrence’s points still stand: the aim is to optimise the time we do spend in bed.
He recommends keeping your room cool and finding a sleep set-up that works for you – during Conor Benn’s training camp before his Chris Eubank Jr fight, Lawrence sprang into action after identifying a “pillow issue” which was hampering the star’s sleep.
The Sleep Scientist founder Dr Sophie Bostock also prescribes prioritising consistent sleep and wake times where possible. This will help keep you in sync with your circadian rhythm, helping your various bodily systems run smoothly.
Accessing bright natural light first thing in the morning, leaving a few hours before dinner and bedtime, and finding a way to destress before bed (such as meditation or journaling) can also improve your sleep quality.
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Author, trainer and fat loss expert Ben Carpenter says focussing on eating nutritious foods can displace ‘high-calorie ultra processed foods’ in your diet (Getty/iStock)
Lesson six: Build positive nutrition habits and improve your food environment
The final step when building the base of the fitness pyramid is nutrition. But again, we’re not elite athletes, so you don’t have to weigh everything you eat and take all the fun out of food.
Instead, a few sustainable habits are likely to push the nutrition needle in the right direction, with dramatic carryovers to how you feel and perform.
“Picking some solid nutritional foundations to get better at is a good place to start, even if it’s just one or two things,” says Everything Fat Lossauthor Ben Carpenter. “Hopefully, they should become easier over the next few months, rather than you following a strict diet for four weeks, then stopping.”
The first foundation he recommends is “focusing on [consuming] nutritious foods rather than high-calorie, ultra-processed foods”.
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“If you focus more on nutritious food, it’s building a habit rather than severing one,” he explains. “A lot of diets are focused on restriction and avoidance: you’re not allowed to eat certain things, or you have to reduce your intake of xyz.
“I like focusing on nutritious foods you can add in. They tend to have a habit of displacing other foods out of your diet because appetite is finite.”
Another thing you can do is create a favourable food environment which promotes positive nutrition choices. This can benefit everyone from office workers to elite athletes, as Manchester City Women’s physical performance lead Dan McPartlan explains.
“The eating environment is really important; trying to make the right foods appealing to the players, and buying food that they really want to eat.
“We’ve had a big focus on post-match food over the last few years. When I first arrived, we had little boxes of food that we would put in the microwave at the back of the bus after a game. We now have one of the chefs from the academy who travels with us, and he will cook fresh pasta at the back of the bus.”
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If a private pasta specialist isn’t an option, Carpenter says there are easier ways to achieve this.
Try keeping nutritious food options in more accessible spots than less nutritious options. For example, boiled eggs instead of snack bars or fruit on your desk, rather than a communal high-calorie treats like biscuits.
It’s far from a straight swap, granted, but you’re more likely to make positive choices if it is easier to do so.
IT WASN’T UNTIL my first child arrived in October 2024 that I realized time really is a commodity we fail to appreciate. Every day leading up to the big day, I navigated a schedule of writing, Brazilian jiu-jitsu, cooking, reading, vegetating, and walking with my very pregnant wife. I was able to commit to a rigorous 28-day workout program, by the end of which I got as lean as I’ve ever been (which you can read about here).
Then, overnight, I found myself couch-bound by a blobular being who sleep-drooled and farted on my chest as I binged the X-Men movies. Every. Single. Day. I ate whatever visitors stuffed into our fridge, slept in two-hour intervals, and lifted sporadically. Any attempt at me-time felt selfish and logistically impossible, but the lack of it took a toll on my physical and mental health.
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It wasn’t until months later, after my son was sleeping for more than two-hour stretches at night, that my head was above water. The time felt right to recommit to a new workout program. I chose Men’s Health’s Dad Bod Arm Shred plan because it looked time-efficient, and let’s be real: bigger arms are always a fun and easy target to chase in the gym.
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The workout showed me that I could get a lot of effective work done in a short amount of time. The programming was also fun, which made sticking to it easy. You can easily follow this plan for eight, 12, or even 16 weeks, and I’d advocate for anyone (not just dads), looking for a new challenge to give this one a go.
What Following Dad Bod Arm Shred Was Like
THIS FOUR-WEEK plan was written by Men’s Health contributor, certified strength coach, and fellow dad Andrew Heffernan, CSCS. Knowing a parent developed this plan eased my mind. I didn’t want to commit to a regimen that would force me to overreach, fall short, and retreat back into myself, and I felt confident that wouldn’t happen since Heffernan has been where I am. Here’s a quick breakdown of the four-week plan:
Four workouts per week lasting between 30 and 45 minutes each.
You’ll need an adjustable weight bench, a few pairs of dumbbells (or an adjustable pair of dumbbells), a resistance band, an air bike, a pull-up bar, and a kettlebell.
Two arm days, consisting of exercises for your biceps, triceps, and shoulders. One arm day focuses on strength; the other is all about muscle growth.
The two other workouts target your other major muscles.
The PDF includes a chart for tracking reps and weights. Heffernan programmed progressive overload, a method of adding either more reps or load to your workout each week, into each workout.
The PDF includes illustrations for every exercise. They’re a great reference point if you’ve never heard of a specific exercise or are unsure exactly how to dial in your form. For example, it wasn’t until I referenced the illustrations that I realized I could perform the bodyweight skullcrushers on a bench and not just with a barbell set in a power rack.
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Each Workout Took About 30 Minutes
Twice a week, I’d strap my son into his bouncer, hand him his dumbbell-shaped rattles, and he’d watch me train. For the other workouts, I’d hand him off to my wife as I headed to my local big box gym.
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My favorite aspects of this program were its accessibility and expeditiousness. If I hustled, I could get through each workout in about 30 minutes. Plus, I only needed a pair of adjustable dumbbells and an adjustable weight bench for three of the four workouts, so it was simple for me to do at home. (On day four, you’ll need an air bike, a kettlebell, and a pull-up bar.)
The gym has always been a social and emotional outlet, a place to interact with people and release some steam. Babies fill you with love, but the early newborn months were, for me, a constant spring of anxiety. I worried about every odd breath my son took (babies make many weird sounds). I worried about my wife, who woke every couple of hours in the night to feed the baby. I worried about neither of us having time to ourselves. And yet, leaving to do anything, even for an hour, felt like a betrayal of the people who needed me. The gym made me feel good, but now I was speeding through reps of curls and squats, worrying, worrying, worrying about how long I’d been away from home. Thankfully, this program accounted for my lack of time.
I Trained My Arms Harder Than Ever
This program challenged my perception of arm training and forced me to face an uncomfortable truth: I’ve never trained arms hard. Now, as a dad with only a few hours a week to spare for the gym, I was stimulating my arms more than I ever have while spending less time in the gym. Realizing that less sometimes is more (assuming you work hard) was worth the four-week commitment.
The trio of relatively small muscles that make up your arms—the biceps, triceps, and deltoids—are onerous to grow. That’s been my experience, at least. But after the first workout, my biceps felt exceptionally sore, which rarely happens, and then sore after each subsequent workout. I’m not a personal trainer or strength coach, but I imagine this newfound soreness is due to two factors: volume and intensity.
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It’s not a concrete rule, but more volume typically means more growth (assuming you’re not accumulating a ton of “junk” sets). Throughout the program, I accumulated 50 direct sets for my biceps and 52 for my triceps, not including the ancillary volume that comes from chin-ups, rows, pushups, and presses. I was able to squeeze in this much volume thanks to supersets—a common intensity technique where you perform two exercises back to back with no rest between sets. If you’re a dad who can’t afford to spend over an hour in the gym, supersets are a terrific way to pack more volume into a shorter workout, and you can apply them to any muscle.
I’ve trained long enough to know when I’m pushing my sets hard or not. Typically, I leave three or four reps in the tank for my arms, focusing on establishing a mind-muscle connection. This time, I adopted a new training style: heavy weights for every set. If a set of incline curls called for 15 reps, I’d use a pair of dumbbells that I can curl for 10 reps. Once I hit failure, I’d rest for about 10 seconds and finish the set. I was tackling my arm sets with the same ferocity that I’d apply to heavy rows or deadlifts, and I plan on bringing this intensity into all of my future arm workouts.
I Still Kept My Strength
If I was skeptical of anything, it’s that I’d keep my strength (or what was left of it) on only four, half-hour-long workouts, two of which target the arms. I was happy to be wrong.
For the Full-Body Big Lifts day, you perform two supersets—one consisting of the rear-foot-elevated split squat and dumbbell row and the other of the dumbbell bench press and dumbbell Romanian deadlift. The price to pay for such efficiency was grueling sets, lifting as much weight as my body could handle for every set of each movement. I rowed a 100-pound dumbbell, performed RDLs with 105-pounders, pressed 65 pounds on the incline bench, and held a 60-pound dumbbell in each hand for split squats. Because the program is arm-focused, you’re not expected to hit your chest, back, and legs with appreciable volume. You do, however, have to train these muscles hard. I rarely looked forward to this DOMs-inducing amalgamation, but it reminded me that effective workouts don’t have to be long and complicated.
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If there was a workout I wanted to skip—and seriously considered skipping in week four—it was the Full-Body Muscle Circuit. After a full day of daddy daycare and a week of workouts, I begrudgingly plowed through an enervating circuit of compound exercises such as chinups, walking lunges, and hand-elevated pushups. Like during the other full-body day, I kept my reps and weight as high and heavy as possible, holding 50-pound dumbbells for walking lunges and cranking through 15 dead hang chinups on my first set.
What I Gained
YOU CAN LOSE a substantial amount of weight in four weeks. Gaining muscle mass, however, is a long-haul effort that takes at least eight to 12 weeks before you notice significant results. Still, I ended up with what looked like fuller shoulders while maintaining my weight and waistline (177 lbs and 31.5”). I also feel more energized now that I’m back into a consistent exercise routine. But I don’t measure the success of this routine in inches or pounds.
The newborn stage was tough. When people find out you’re expecting, they say you’ll feel an indescribable love for your child when he arrives. It’s hard to connect with when you hear it, but that feeling is real and, at times, all-consuming. When my son first smiled at me, my body pulsed with raw emotion that is, at least in my experience, rarer to come by as we age. As you get older, you become desensitized to your surroundings. You don’t experience many “firsts”. With my son, each day is full of them—his first roll; his first laugh, his first head bump (sorry, buddy). If there’s a magic quality about kids, it’s that, through them, you get to experience the mundane anew through fresh eyes.
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However, what these parents don’t mention are the trade-offs of caring for a newborn. You are stripped of your autonomy, and your wants no longer come first. The baby sleeps on you for hours at a time. They eat every two hours. They vomit on every shirt you dare to wear around them. If you want to sit down with a pizza and watch your favorite show at the end of your week, expect to check in on them every 10 minutes while your food goes cold and your patience runs thin. Then prepare to feel like a terrible parent for getting frustrated that your food got cold and your patience ran thin. You and your partner will be around each other 24 hours a day, but will hardly interact as one sleeps and the other watches the baby. You are two ships passing in the night.
So, yeah, forget my arms. Completing 16 workouts in a month was my success, and this program helped me achieve this consistency with manageable and fun workouts. What did I gain, if not pounds of new muscle tissue? The confidence to return to the gym and a new set of tools to help me balance fitness and fatherhood.
Andrew Gutman, NASM-CPT is a journalist with a decade of experience covering fitness and nutrition. His work has been published in Men’s Health, Men’s Journal, Muscle & Fitness, and Gear Patrol. Outside of writing, Andrew trains in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, helps coach his gym’s kickboxing team, and enjoys reading and cooking.