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On Good Footing After a Polo Tournament

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Even before Dr. Orion Paul Mercaitis saw Olivia Louise Stringer, he heard her trying to get a fractious horse to settle down in October 2023 in the back of a trailer at New Haven Farm in Aiken, S.C.

“I don’t have a string of polo ponies, so I had to lease one,” said Dr. Mercaitis, 35, who lives in Guilderland, N.Y., outside Albany, and is a senior manager in the United States market access division for oncology drugs at Pfizer, the pharmaceutical company.

When he landed that job, Mr. Mercaitis couldn’t think of a better way to celebrate than playing in a three-day polo tournament a couple of weeks later in Aiken, alongside Adam Snow, a polo champion and an owner of New Haven Farm.

“Get on the horse,” said Ms. Stringer, when she brought out a thoroughbred named Flash, one of three ponies for him to try that day. “I’m pretty direct,” she added. “He definitely laughed.”

Ms. Stringer, 40, a professional women’s polo player, owns Liv Polo, which provides rentals, sales, training and coaching in Aiken and the Northeast. She started playing polo at 13, representing United States in matches in international women’s polo in India in 2018 and Australia in 2022.

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“We were pretty surprised to see each other,” said Ms. Stringer, who graduated with bachelor’s degrees in equine science and English from Colorado State University, and whose clients are usually adult amateurs, 50-plus. “He assumed I was older as well. He was a young, attractive person.”

Dr. Mercaitis, who graduated with high distinction with a bachelor’s degree in biology from the University of California, Berkeley, fell in love with polo in his 20s while studying at Oxford, where he received a master’s degree in musculoskeletal sciences in 2020. He also has a medical degree from the University of Miami, and a Master of Public Health in epidemiology from Harvard.

“This is the kind of guy I should consider dating when the time comes,” Ms. Stringer recalled thinking. Her previous marriage ended in divorce earlier that year, and she was not yet dating.

After Dr. Mercaitis left Aiken, they sent each other texts about polo, shared photos of their dogs, and she sent him a few images of his favorite ponies.

“We were both being professional,” said Dr. Mercaitis, who thought “she was so perfect and unfathomable.” He figured he didn’t “have a chance.”

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As New Year’s Eve approached and Ms. Stringer asked him if he had any plans, it seemed like an opening to him. He asked if she would like to celebrate at Wildflower Farms, a new Catskills resort in Gardiner, N.Y.

On Dec. 30 — after she visited family in Florida, then flew up to Albany — he drove them down to the Catskills.

“I had my Jack Russell, Comet, very much my sidekick,” Ms. Stringer said, and he brought his golden retriever Sirius (he named his polo team after him).

Both dogs got along, and so did they.

“We started talking and never stopped,” she said. “It was a three-day first date,” with farm-to-table meals, soaks in hot tubs and hikes with their dogs.

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After dinner on New Year’s Eve, they had a first kiss, and as the band later played “Auld Lang Syne,” they began the year with another kiss and Champagne.

Before Ms. Stringer returned home, he gave her a tour of his hometown, the Albany area. He took her for flying lessons in Saratoga, N.Y., where she then flew a helicopter around the New York State Capitol. They landed in an Albany airfield, and then she took a Cirrus SR20 plane for a spin around the capitol. He is finishing up a pilot’s license in both.

Later in January 2024, she joined him for Robert Burns Night, an annual celebration of the Scottish bard, on the Royal Yacht Britannia in Edinburgh. He donned a kilt with his Oxford College tartan and she a matching sash as they enjoyed haggis and poetry readings.

In March, he drove to Aiken to celebrate her birthday, but the night before Easter he received shocking news. His father had died. Ms. Stringer stood by him during the next difficult weeks, and traveled to Albany to be with him.

“I didn’t know they made women like this,” he said, and then he stayed in Aiken until the end of May.

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Over the summer, they spent time with her family in Baltimore, and her parents then joined them on a trip to Provincetown, Mass., in Cape Cod in late August.

During that trip, as the two walked along a quiet stretch of beach at Race Point, he pretended to see a dolphin to distract her. After she looked for it, and turned back around, he was on one knee.

On March 1, the Rev. Canon Calhoun Walpole, the rector of St. John’s Episcopal Church in Johns Island, S.C., officiated before 72 guests, at least 30 were polo players, at Grace Chapel on Wadmalaw Island, S.C., where the bride walked down the aisle to a trumpet player and pianist playing Pachelbel’s “Canon in D.”

Later, at the Charleston Yacht Club, where two polo mallets with their initials appeared on cocktail napkins and other items, they enjoyed a Southern menu including shrimp and grits, barbecued pulled pork and brisket.

During the following week, on March 5, her birthday, their offer was accepted on a dream farm in Aiken — a 30-acre, 27-stall barn with a polo field, and plan to call it Outfoxed Farms.

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“Olivia is bright and witty, and always a step ahead of me,” he said, with a laugh.

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After five seasons and almost ten years, the saga of Netflix’s Stranger Things has reached its end. In a two-hour finale, we found out what happened to our heroes (including Millie Bobby Brown and Finn Wolfhard) when they set out to battle the forces of evil. The final season had new faces and new revelations, along with moments of friendship and conflict among the folks we’ve known and loved since the night Will Byers (Noah Schnapp) first disappeared. But did it stick the landing?

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A firefighter works as homes burn during the Eaton fire in the Altadena area of Los Angeles County, Calif., on Jan. 7, 2025.

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On New Year’s Eve 2024, journalist Jacob Soboroff was sitting around a campfire with a friend when he made an offhand comment that would come back to haunt him: The last thing he wanted to do in the new year, Soboroff said, was cover a story that would require donning a fire-safe yellow suit.

Just one week later, Soboroff was dressed in the yellow suit, reporting live from a street corner in Los Angeles as fire tore through the Pacific Palisades, the community where he was raised.

“This was a place that I could navigate with my eyes closed,” Soboroff says of the neighborhood. “Every hallmark of my childhood I was watching carbonize in front of me. … There were firefighters there and first responders and other journalists there, but it was an extremely lonely, isolating experience to be standing there as everything I knew burned down around me in real time.”

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In his new book, Firestorm: The Great Los Angeles Fires and America’s New Age of Disaster, Soboroff offers a minute-by-minute account of the catastrophe, told through the voices of firefighters, evacuees, scientists and political leaders. He says covering the wildfires was the most important assignment he’s ever undertaken.

“The experience of doing this is something that I don’t wish on anybody, but in a way I wish everybody could experience,” he says. “It’s given me insane reverence for our colleagues in the local news community here, who, I think, definitionally were exercising a public service in the street-level journalism that they were doing and are still doing. … It was actually beautiful to watch because they are as much a first responder on a frontline as anybody else.”

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Firestorm, by Ben Soboroff

On the experience of reporting from the fires

You’re choking with the smoke. And I almost feel guilty describing it from my vantage point because the firefighters would say things to me like: “My eyeballs were burning. We were laying flat on our stomach in the middle of the concrete street because it was so hot, it was the only way that we could open the hoses full bore and try to save anything that we could.” …

I could feel the heat on the back of my neck as we stood in front of these houses that I remember as the houses that cars and people would line up in front of for the annual Fourth of July parade or the road race that we would run through town. Trees were on fire behind us — we were at risk of structures falling at any given minute. It was pretty surreal because this is a place I had spent so much time as a child and going back to as an adult. … I had no choice but to just open my mouth and say what I saw to the millions of people that were watching us around the country.

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On undocumented immigrants being central to rebuilding the city

These types of massive both humanitarian and natural disasters give us X-ray vision for a time into sort of the fissures that are underneath the surface in our society. And Los Angeles, in addition to being one of the most unequal cities between the rich and the poor, has more undocumented people than virtually any other city in the United States of America. Governor Newsom knew that with the policies of the incoming administration, some of the very people that would be responsible for the cleanup and the rebuilding of Los Angeles may end up in the crosshairs of national immigration policy. And I think that that was an understatement. …

Pablo Alvarado in the National Day Laborer Organizing Network said to me that often the first people into a disaster — the second responders after the first — are the day laborers. They went to Florida after Hurricane Andrew, to New Orleans after Katrina, and they’d be ready to go in Los Angeles. And I went out and I cleaned up Altadena and Pasadena with some of them in real time.

And only months later did this wide-scale immigration enforcement campaign begin … on the streets of LA as sort of the Petri dish, the guinea pig for expanding this across the country. And it’s not an exaggeration to say that the parking lots of Home Depots, where workers [were] looking to get involved in the rebuilding of Los Angeles, has been ground zero for that enforcement campaign.

On efforts to rebuild

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The pace is slow and it’s sort of a hopscotch of development. And I think for people who do come back, for people who can afford to come back, it’s going to be a long road ahead. You’re going to have half the houses on your street under construction for years to come. And for people that do inhabit those homes, it’s going to an isolating experience. But there’s an effort underway to rebuild. …

There’s also a lot of for-sale signs. And that’s the sad reality of this, is that there are people who, whether it’s that they can’t afford to come back … or that they just can’t stomach it, I think, sadly, a lot people are not going to be returning to their homes.

On what the Palisades and Altadena look like today

They both look like very big construction sites in a way. There are still some facades, some ruins of the more historic buildings in the Palisades. … But mostly it’s just empty lots. And in Altadena, the same thing. If you drive by the hardware store, the outside is still there. But it’s a patchwork of empty lots. Homes now under construction. And lots and lots of workers. … There are still a handful of people who are living in both the Palisades and in Altadena, but for the most part, these are communities where you’ve got workers going in during the day and coming out at night. …

We have designed this community to be one that’s in the crosshairs of a fire just like the one we experienced and that we will certainly, certainly experience again, because nobody’s packing it up and leaving Los Angeles. People may not return to their communities after they’ve lost their homes, but the ship has sailed on living in the wildland urban interface in the second largest city in the country.

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On seeing this story, personally, as his “most important assignment”

Jacob Soboroff is a correspondent for MS NOW, formerly MSNBC.

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I don’t think I realized at the time how badly I needed the connections that I made in the wake of the fire, both with the people who have lost homes and the firefighters, first responders who were out there, but also honestly with my own family, my immediate family, my wife and my kids, my mom and my dad and my siblings and myself. I think that this was a really hard year in LA, and I think in the wake of the fire, I was experiencing some level of despair as well. Then the ICE raids happened here and sort of turned our city upside down. And this book for me was just this amazing cathartic blessing of an opportunity to find community with people I don’t think I ever would have otherwise spent time with, and to reconnect with people who I hadn’t seen or heard from in forever.

Anna Bauman and Nico Wisler produced and edited this interview for broadcast. Bridget Bentz, Molly Seavy-Nesper and Beth Novey adapted it for the web.

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