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For Valentine’s Day, self-care ideas that are cheaper than therapy

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Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love. And nobody deserves love greater than you.

Positive, historically, the vacation is for showering your vital different with tokens of your affection. However — to paraphrase the immortal phrases of RuPaul — for those who can’t love your self, how are you going to like someone else?

Searches for “self-love” spike each February, in keeping with the Google Developments publication, and searches for “self-care” have reached an all-time excessive this month.

Self-care can appear like indulging or pampering. If you wish to rejoice your self with a bubble bathtub or a therapeutic massage, go for it.

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However self-care can even appear like caring for your psychological well being.

Remedy is nice, but it surely’s often expensive. And it may be difficult to navigate the method of discovering a therapist who’s accepting new purchasers and takes your insurance coverage whenever you’re already coping with psychological well being challenges.

So listed below are some methods to enhance your psychological well being that price lower than an out-of-pocket physician go to.

Meditate, journal, learn

Sure, “have you ever tried meditation and journaling” is virtually a cliche at this level. However there’s a cause folks maintain suggesting it: It’s free, simple to start out doing and backed by proof that it really works.

Meditate. Even only a few minutes of closing your eyes and taking deep breaths will be helpful. The app Headspace is free for L.A. County residents (and has 14-day free trials for everybody else). Calm and the Peloton app supply guided meditations to paid subscribers after a free trial. The Perception Timer, Mindfulness Coach and Wholesome Minds Program apps are all extremely rated and free. You may also discover free guided meditations on Spotify and YouTube.

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Journal. Writing down your ideas and emotions is a robust technique to floor your self and get in contact together with your feelings. Like meditating, there are tons of free methods to start out journaling proper this minute. Apps like Day One supply free journaling in your cellphone for those who’re not a pen-and-paper individual.

Learn. Bibliotherapy is its personal sub-discipline of remedy. However you don’t essentially want a licensed bibliotherapist to let you know the place to start out. Some well-liked titles: “Wherever You Go, There You Are” by Jon Kabat-Zinn, “The Feeling Good Handbook” by David Burns, “The Braveness to Heal” by Ellen Bass, “Overcoming Melancholy” by Lawrence Shapiro.

Get outdoors

The solar is an underrated psychological well being useful resource. Getting outdoors is nice on your mind in addition to your physique.

Hike, strive forest bathing or a sound bathtub, or take an in-person meditation class. Discover extra info on mindfulness and meditation actions right here.

Name a hotline or warmline

Hotlines and warmlines supply normal assist in addition to particular assist for LGBTQ+ folks, folks of shade, individuals who’ve skilled abuse or sexual violence, teenagers, veterans, and different teams. Hotlines are sometimes for folks experiencing a disaster. Warmlines allow you to chat or vent about something that’s in your thoughts.

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The California Peer-Run Heat Line is accessible 24 hours a day, seven days every week to California residents. You possibly can speak with a peer counselor and get psychological and emotional assist for any non-emergency concern, together with relationship issues, anxiousness, despair, funds or substance abuse. Name or textual content (855) 845-7415 or click on “on-line chat” on the warmline’s web site.

In case you are presently experiencing a psychological well being disaster, there are free phone- and text-based methods to get assist. The 988 Suicide & Disaster Lifeline is accessible by dialing 988. It’s accessible for Spanish audio system at (888) 628-9454 and for deaf or exhausting of listening to folks on-line (or through TTY). When you can’t or don’t wish to speak with somebody on the cellphone, the Disaster Textual content Line has disaster counselors accessible through textual content (ship “HOME” to 741741) and through WhatsApp.

Discover extra info on disaster hotlines and nonemergency warmlines right here.

Strive in-person or digital assist teams

The Nationwide Alliance on Psychological Sickness of Better Los Angeles County and related chapters all through the area (together with the San Fernando Valley, Glendale, the San Gabriel Valley, the Pomona Valley, the South Bay) supply free peer assist teams over Zoom led by skilled facilitators for folks residing with psychological sickness or their members of the family.

SHARE! Self-Assist and Restoration Trade has a frequently up to date calendar of free volunteer-run assist teams, together with ones that meet on Zoom or in individual in Culver Metropolis and downtown Los Angeles. Group subjects embody substance abuse, codependency, dependancy, grief and loss, anger administration and a wide range of psychological well being circumstances.

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There are a selection of identity-specific assist teams on the market, together with BEAM: Black Emotional and Psychological Well being Collective, the Los Angeles LGBT Heart, Our Home Grief Assist Heart, GriefHaven and Springs of Hope Grief-Care Heart.

Search out skilled peer assist

L.A. County gives 24/7 peer assist free of charge by the iPrevail platform. You should be in L.A. County to register for the free account. Different cities and counties additionally supply free or backed iPrevail assist; in case your space doesn’t, it’s $9.99 a month.

7 Cups gives free peer assist 24/7 with an choice to improve to a licensed therapist for $150 a month.

Discover cheaper options to conventional remedy

Via work, college or your house of worship. Test together with your employer to search out out whether or not your job gives an Worker Help Program. These applications typically cowl a number of free periods with a counselor. When you’re a scholar, inquire a couple of college counselor. Classes with an EAP or college counselor are topic to plain confidentiality constraints — in different phrases, the individual you speak with gained’t go to your boss or mother and father and inform them what you talked about. Many church buildings, temples and different locations of worship supply confidential assist and counseling free of charge, even for those who aren’t a daily member.

Via lower-cost assets. Sliding-scale clinics, graduate colleges and instructing hospitals all might supply speak remedy at a extra palatable value. Right here’s extra info on free and sliding-scale clinics in and round L.A. and Orange counties.

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Via apps. Your insurance coverage might cowl remedy periods by apps like Talkspace, Cerebral and BetterHelp.

Via 211. Calling 211 from anyplace in America will join you to somebody educated about your native assets for all kinds of issues, together with psychological well being, lease and mortgage help, transportation, little one and elder care and job coaching. 211 is accessible 24/7 in California. Name 211 and ask what your native authorities gives for psychological well being wants.

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Beautifully acted 'Shardlake' brings 500-year-old Tudor intrigue into the present day

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Arthur Hughes plays the title character in Hulu’s four-part series, Shardlake.

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We live in discordant times, which may be why the turbulent reign of King Henry VIII has enjoyed a revival over the last few years. We’ve had the gleefully trashy TV series The Tudors, the Tony-winning Broadway musical Six and – at the high end of achievement – Hilary Mantel’s trilogy about Henry’s right-hand-man Thomas Cromwell.

Now comes the new Hulu mystery series Shardlake, based on C.J. Sansom’s first novel in a series about a crime-solving lawyer in 16th-century England. As a rule, I hate historical mysteries and I feared that Shardlake would serve up the Tudor era’s usual cavalcade of castles, codpieces, clopping horses and quasi-Shakespearean lingo – “Prithee, stop, sirrah!” But to my surprise this odd, beautifully acted show pulled me in.

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Arthur Hughes stars as Matthew Shardlake, a bitingly intense London barrister known for his brains and for the curved spine that leads the world to undervalue him. One who sees his value is the king’s minister Thomas Cromwell – played by a domineering Sean Bean – a dangerous man who’s busy stripping the assets of the Catholic church and claiming them for the Crown.

As the action begins, Cromwell has just had his envoy murdered in a coastal monastery. He sends Shardlake to find the killer and, in the process, to find evidence of monkish malfeasance that will justify seizing the monastery’s holdings. To keep Shardlake on his toes, he sends along one of his henchmen, brash, impulsive Jack Barak. That’s Anthony Boyle, who plays John Wilkes Booth in the current series Manhunt.

Because the monastery is filled with Catholic monks who hate the Protestant king, things are tricky there from the get-go. Not only do Shardlake and Jack keep being lied to, but the murders are just beginning. As they investigate, they both grow smitten with a servant – played by Ruby Ashbourne Serkis – and they start to develop one of those classic detective story partnerships between a brilliant misfit and an earthier, ordinary guy.

Now, I don’t want to oversell Shardlake. As a historical show, it lacks the sweeping grandeur of Shogun, another period drama that reminds us that Protestants and Catholics were once at each other’s throats. Nor does it approach Mantel’s richly vibrant vision of Henry VIII’s England, with its divisions and hatreds and social climbing.

Yet it has a strong historical atmosphere, especially in showing how Shardlake and Jack find themselves squeezed by powerful forces around them. Both believe they’re doing the right thing in helping Cromwell seize Catholic wealth, thinking it should go to England’s countless poor people. At the same time, they come to realize that, in Cromwell, they’re working for an utterly ruthless politician, one who may have played a key role in setting up Anne Boleyn, whose beheading figures into the plot here.

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The show’s finest moments lie in the byplay between its lead actors, played by two of Britain’s rising stars. As the cocky Jack – a lad risen from the streets and terrified of sinking back – Boyle deftly straddles the line between likable and not. You see why he’s been cast to star as a charismatic IRA leader in the upcoming TV adaptation of Patrick Radden Keefe’s book Say Nothing.

Jack’s extroversion pairs nicely with the tightly wound Shardlake, whose smile is almost a wince. Hughes was the first actor with a disability to ever play Richard III for the Royal Shakespeare Company – he was born radial dysplasia affecting his right arm – and he doubtless understands Shardlake’s pride in the face of what some consider his physical imperfection. “I’m known for my gait,” Shardlake says. “It is I, and I embrace it.”

Such self-assertion is profoundly modern, and for all its Tudor trappings, Shardlake is filled with present day resonances – not least in its portrait of Cromwell who claims to speak for the people but actually works on behalf of the elite. “The truth must be what we want it to be,” Cromwell declares, and though Shardlake knows this is un-true, he also knows that saying so can get a man killed.

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The Eurovision Song Contest kicked off with pop and protests

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MALMO, Sweden — Competition in the 68th Eurovision Song Contest kicked off Tuesday in Sweden, with the war in Gaza casting a shadow over the sequin-spangled pop extravaganza.

Performers representing countries across Europe and beyond took the stage in the first of two semifinals in the Swedish city of Malmo. It and a second semifinal on Thursday will winnow a field of 37 nations to 26 who will compete in Saturday’s final against a backdrop of both parties and protests.

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Ten of the 15 acts performing Tuesday were voted through to the final by viewers. They include Croatian singer-songwriter Baby Lasagna, whose infectious electro number “Rim Tim Tagi Dim” is the current favorite to win, and Ukrainian duo alyona alyona and Jerry Heil, flying the flag for their war-battered nation with the anthemic “Teresa & Maria.”

Also making the cut were goth-style Irish singer Bambie Thug, 1990s-loving Finnish prankster Windows95man and Portuguese crooner Iolanda. Iceland, Azerbaijan, Poland, Moldova and Australia were eliminated.

Other bookmakers’ favorites who will perform Thursday include nonbinary Swiss singer Nemo, Italian TikTok star Angelina Mango and the Netherlands’ Joost Klein with his playful pop-rap song “Europapa.”

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Anti-war demonstrations become the backdrop

Security is tight in the Swedish city, which expects an influx of some 100,000 Eurovision fans, along with tens of thousands of pro-Palestinian protesters. Israel is a Eurovision participant, and demonstrations are planned on Thursday and Saturday against the Israel-Hamas war, which has left almost 35,000 Palestinians dead.

Israel’s government warned its citizens of a “tangible concern” Israelis could be targeted for attack in Malmo during the contest.

Organizers told Israel to change the lyrics of its entry, originally titled “October Rain” in apparent reference to Hamas’ cross-border Oct. 7 attack that killed some 1,200 Israelis and triggered the war. The song was renamed “Hurricane” and Israeli singer Eden Golan was allowed to remain in the contest.

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Jean Philip De Tender, deputy director-general of Eurovision organizer the European Broadcasting Union, told Sky News that banning Israel “would have been a political decision, and as such (one) which we cannot take.”

Police from across Sweden have been drafted in for Eurovision week, along with reinforcements from neighboring Denmark and Norway.

Sweden’s official terrorism threat level remains “high,” the second-highest rung on a five-point scale, after a string of public desecrations of the Quran last year sparked angry demonstrations across Muslim countries and threats from militant groups. The desecrations were not related to the music event.

Eurovision’s motto is “United by Music,” but national rifts and political divisions often cloud the contest despite organizers’ efforts to keep politics out.

Flags and signs are banned, apart from participants’ national flags and the rainbow pride flag. That means Palestinian flags will be barred inside the Malmo Arena contest venue.

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Some musicians seem determined to make a point. Eric Saade, a former Swedish Eurovision contestant who performed as part of Tuesday’s show, had a keffiyeh, a headscarf associated with the Palestinian cause, tied around his wrist as he sang.

Afterwards, organizers said in a statement that “we regret that Eric Saade chose to compromise the non-political nature of the event.”

Performers are feeling political pressure, with some saying they have been inundated with messages on social media urging them to boycott the event.

“I am being accused, if I don’t boycott Eurovision, of being an accomplice to genocide in Gaza,” Germany’s contestant, Isaak, said in an interview published by broadcaster ZDF. He said he did not agree.

“We are meeting up to make music, and when we start shutting people out categorically, there will be fewer and fewer of us,” he said. “At some point there won’t be an event anymore.”

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ISAAK of Germany performs the song Always on the Run during the first semi-final at the Eurovision Song Contest in Malmo, Sweden, on Tuesday.

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One person who knows how Eurovision unity can collide with bitter reality is singer Manizha Sangin, who represented Russia at the contest in 2021. The country was expelled the following year over its invasion of Ukraine.

Manizha, who performs under her first name, spoke out against the war. As a result, her performances were canceled in Russia and her music banned from public spaces. The singer remains in Russia but has found it all but impossible to work.

“People are afraid to work with me here because they’re afraid to have consequences after, problems after that,” she said.

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Despite the difficulties, Manizha has recorded a single, “Candlelight,” which she is releasing on Wednesday as “a message of hope.”

“Music cannot stop war,” she said. But “what music can do is inspire people.”

Manizha thinks Russia will one day return to the Eurovision fold – but not soon.

“Maybe next generation,” she said. “But for now, relationships are too complicated. And then that makes me sad, you know, because that’s why people are not hearing each other. Because we are separated from each other. And the thing, is music should unite.”

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