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A Couple Kisses That Sealed the Deal
When Olivia Christine Snyder-Spak matched with Elias Jeremy Stein on Hinge in September 2021, she was a decade into online dating but had never found an ideal partner. “I had probably gone on at least a few hundred first dates, sometimes even doing two in a day,” she said.
Mr. Stein was less versed in internet matchmaking and had been on only a handful of dates over the previous year. “I wanted a serious relationship and decided to try the online route since meeting people in person during Covid was harder,” he said.
At the time, Mr. Stein, 35, was renting an apartment in Prospect Heights, Brooklyn; Ms. Snyder-Spak, 36, lived on Manhattan’s Lower East Side.
The two exchanged messages for a week about their shared love for cooking classes and art projects and exchanging funny stories. Then, Mr. Stein asked Ms. Snyder-Spak on a mini-golfing date.
When they met, in mid-September, at the Putting Green mini-golf course in Brooklyn, Mr. Stein was struck by Ms. Snyder-Spak’s energy. “She was super cute and seemed bubbly,” he said.
They played golf for an hour, chatting about their backgrounds and professions as they navigated the course. “We laughed a lot because Olivia kept hitting the ball far away from the hole,” Mr. Stein said. “The conversation was so good that I asked her for drinks afterward.”
They walked to the nearby Other Half Brewing, sat outside and continued talking over beers for the next several hours. “We were easy with each other, and it was clear we had clicked,” Mr. Stein said.
Eventually, it started to rain heavily. As they waited for their Uber rides, Mr. Stein asked Ms. Snyder-Spak if he could kiss her. “I said yes, and when he smooched me, it felt like a movie kiss,” she said, describing it as “very romantic.”
They settled into a dating cadence almost immediately, seeing each other several times a week for activities like sushi-making, comedy shows and museums. On Halloween, they went to Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn. “The spookiness of a cemetery seemed fitting, and the fact that Eli felt the same way was a big sign that he was going to be a great teammate, down for whatever,” Ms. Snyder-Spak said.
A vacation to Turks and Caicos Islands in January 2022 solidified their commitment. “Our flight back got canceled because of bad weather and a staffing shortage, and the two we booked after that also got canceled,” Mr. Stein said. “We eventually ended up in Miami and got bumped on our flight home.”
Nevertheless, they had fun. “That’s when I knew that Olivia was the one.”
The experience made Ms. Snyder-Spak “realize that I wanted to do hard things together with Eli forever,” she said.
Mr. Stein grew up in Durham, N.C. He is a product manager on the software development team at Memorial Sloan Kettering in New York and the founder of Admissions Intelligence, a college admissions platform that uses artificial intelligence. He has a bachelor’s degree in international relations from Vassar College.
Ms. Snyder-Spak is from Woodbridge, Conn., and works as the director of nonfiction at the entertainment production company Topic Studios, in New York. She has a bachelor’s degree in film from Dartmouth.
After their Turks and Caicos trip, the couple began spending several nights a week at one of their two apartments. In July 2022, they began renting a place, which they’ve since bought, in Park Slope, Brooklyn.
Their bond grew as they decorated their home and traveled to places like Brazil, Portugal and Costa Rica. “My love for Olivia was getting stronger, and it was the right time to propose,” Mr. Stein said.
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On Dec. 13, 2023, during a nighttime picnic in Prospect Park, Mr. Stein asked Ms. Snyder-Spak to marry him as the Geminids meteor shower brightened the skies. As they kissed after she said yes, they caught a glimpse of a shooting star.
More than a year later, on Dec. 29, they wed on the front stoop of a Park Slope brownstone owned by Rabbi Yael Werber, a friend of the couple and the ceremony’s officiant. Rabbi Werber is affiliated with Congregation Beit Simchat Torah. Afterward, they walked to Mille-Feuille Bakery Cafe in Prospect Heights and indulged in three desserts.
In September, Mr. Stein and Ms. Snyder-Spak had hosted a six-day, pre-wedding celebration in Asheville, N.C., for 140 guests; it included activities such as solving a murder mystery, visiting local breweries and tubing down the French Broad River. The festivities culminated in a symbolic wedding ceremony on Sept. 1 at Yesterday Spaces, an event venue in Leicester, N.C.
“All my online dating before Eli was worth it because I found the guy I was looking for all along,” Ms. Snyder-Spak said. “I remember the hard work, but now everything feels like magic.”
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A few things to consider before committing a museum heist
A forensics officer examines the cut window and balcony of a gallery at the Louvre Museum which was the scene of a robbery on October 19 in Paris.
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The glamorous image of art heists often conjures up Bond-villain masterminds orchestrating elaborate schemes. Laure Beccuau, the lead prosecutor in the recent Louvre case involving the theft of more than $100 million worth of historic jewelry, suggested in an interview on French news channel BFMTV this week that the job could be the work of organized crime or commissioned by a major “sponsor.”
But lawyer Christopher Marinello, founder and CEO of Art Recovery International, a London and Venice-based group specializing in tracking down stolen works of art, dismisses the latter Hollywood scenario. “There have been questions about some sort of slippery Dr. No-type character who’s ordering these thefts from afar for his personal collection in his underwater lair,” said Marinello. “But in 39 years of working on art recovery cases, I have never seen a theft-to-order case.”
Stealing art can, in fact, be far from lucrative. No reputable buyer will touch recognizable stolen pieces, which typically sell for just a fraction of their true value on the black market. “If you steal a Picasso, you have to keep it a Picasso,” Marinello said. “It has to stay in one piece.”

However, Marinello said there’s a much bigger upside to stealing diamond tiaras and emerald necklaces because they can be broken up and sold off as individual gems. “That can be done as simply as sewing the stones inside a jacket, driving outside of France and going to a place like Tel Aviv or Antwerp where they have jewelry centers and experts who will recut larger stones into smaller stones,” Marinello said. “And then you’ve gotten away with the crime of the decade.”
Relatively light penalties add to the temptation. Stealing a major artwork from a U.S. museum carries a maximum 10-year sentence under federal law and a potential fine, with similar penalties in France. And many museums are also easy targets.
“For well-known pieces of artwork, because their black market value is so low, there’s already very little incentive for criminals to go after those pieces,” said Frederick Chen, an economics professor at Wake Forest University who has co-authored a paper on the economics of art heists. “And so there’s less incentive for museums to invest in security.”

Chen said museums are even less likely to protect artifacts that don’t drive ticket sales. “From the thieves’ perspective, you already know the museum isn’t going to have security that’s going to be as strong as going to, say, a Tiffany’s,” Chen said.
Myles Connor, an 82-year-old veteran art thief who stole a Rembrandt from Boston’s Museum of Fine Arts in 1975 among other crimes and served substantial prison time, agrees museums are vulnerable. “Most museums don’t have armed guards,” he said. “And so if you’re armed and determined, you can grab almost any painting out of almost any museum. And you can also do that with jewelry.”

But Connor says it’s a bad idea to break up valuable jewelry, like pieces found in museums. “If you break them up, you destroy the value of the items and you’d kind of be low-balling yourself,” he said.
Connor said there’s a better way to cash out. “When I stole paintings from museums, it was always with the intention of returning the painting and getting a reward.” Connor said he received $50,000—about $300,000 in today’s money—for returning the Rembrandt.

He said he hopes the Louvre thieves will follow his playbook, adding “I’m sure the reward will be substantial.”
The French government hasn’t yet announced any reward – though some experts, including Anthony Amore, the head of security and chief investigator at Boston’s Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum, itself a target of art theft, have publicly called for it.

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Should the Army bring back the Pentomic Division?
In the late 1950s, when everyone expected World War III to go nuclear, the U.S. Army had to contemplate operating on a battlefield sprouting atomic fireballs.
This put Army planners in a dilemma. Military theory said that forces had to be concentrated to overwhelm the enemy and achieve decisive results. Common sense said that massing troops would only present a juicy target for nuclear weapons. The Army ultimately settled on the Pentomic Division, which consisted of self-contained battalions that would assemble for operations and then disperse. Yet the idea proved so unwieldy that the Army soon discarded it.
But 70 years later, the Army faces a similar dilemma. Instead of atomic bombs, the threat now comes from drones, as vividly demonstrated in the Ukraine war. To survive, Ukrainian and Russian forces have learned to operate in dispersed groups — sometimes as small as four to six soldiers — for fear of attracting the attention of a drone swarm. But lack of mass foregoes the possibility of decisive maneuver — and victory — and the conflict has degenerated into a grinding war of attrition.
A British expert has a solution: Resurrect the Pentomic concept.
“Something similar to the Pentomic structure may have something to teach in terms an answering the battlefield problems of today,” wrote John Moore, a former British Ministry of Defense official, in a recent essay for the U.S. Army’s Armor Magazine.
The original Pentomic divisions were a response to the “quantitative leap in firepower” from nuclear weapons, Moore told Defense News. With modern armies facing drones, long-range missiles and sensors, the new Pentomic “is posited on a similar response to firepower that in this case is in-depth, ubiquitous, pinpoint in accuracy and available day or night.”
“Massing a larger number of men and materiel takes time,” he said. “You will be spotted and attacked before you even reach the departure or jump-off point.”
The Pentomic concept, which governed U.S. Army infantry and airborne divisions from 1957 to 1963, replaced the triangular divisional structure of three regiments, with a five-sized organization. Pentomic divisions consisted of five battlegroups — equivalent to oversized battalions — with five rifle companies, a headquarters and support company and a mortar battery. But to create self-contained all-arms battlegroups, a plethora of support units were usually attached, including armor, artillery, engineers and air defense.
Given 1950s technology, command and logistics proved overwhelming.
“On the Pentomic battlefield, a CO could easily find himself with at least nine maneuver elements, well beyond the effective span of control for most colonels of the day,” recalled the late U.S. Army Col. David Hackworth in his memoir “About Face.”
Moore envisions the New Pentomic — which he also calls “Pentomic v5″ — as a company-level approach.
“That formation size has enough combat power to achieve local success while having enough resilience to sustain combat for a useful length of time,” he wrote. Battlegroups would be composed of companies that would assemble as needed.
Dispersed, flexible companies would be less likely to be detected and attacked by drones, and could concentrate for attacks.
On the defense, “such a Pentomic structure has sufficient reserve potential to meet a range of attacks and will require increased effort by an attacker to neutralize a defense in depth and use that most precious of assets — time,” Moore wrote. “A dispersed Pentomic defense based on areas of concealment such as villages, towns, wooded and rough terrain can allow for gaps as these can be covered by precision fire at every level and improve unit survivability.”
Moore believes that technology has improved enough since the 1950s that command and control of dispersed maneuver units is feasible.
“Even the smallest unit has, through FPV [first-person-view] drone technology, the means of battlefield reconnaissance and precision strike,” he wrote. “While distributed command systems have great resilience and an ability to jump echelons in terms of targeting.”
Moore also sees the New Pentomic as a relatively inexpensive way that the U.S. — and NATO — can adapt to a changing battlefield.
“It can be done cheaply as it is about structure, training and an attitude of mind,” he told Defense News.
Yet history suggests that a Pentomic 2.0 would face many of the same challenges that doomed its predecessor. In the early years of World War II, the German blitzkrieg achieved remarkable victories, largely due to a doctrine that emphasized flexibility and expected commanders and soldiers to use their initiative. By 1944, heavy losses in experienced officers and NCOs led to increasingly rigid tactics. Similarly, in the early days of the 2022 Russian invasion, outnumbered but agile Ukrainian forces defeated clumsy Russian offensives. But heavy casualties have resulted in Ukrainian commanders reverting to the rigid Soviet-style tactics they were trained in before the war.
“Ultimately, any success will depend on a high level of initiative and a willingness to gamble on success,” Moore wrote. “This will have implications for training and leadership at every level.”
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Soo Catwoman, ‘the Female Face of Punk,’ Is Dead at 70
In 1976, Susan Lucas asked a local barber in Ealing, West London, to part the back of her short hair — which she greased on the sides to emulate the Bride of Frankenstein — and shave off the entire middle section.
“He was very shocked and I think he thought I was kidding at first,” she recalled in a 2009 interview. But eventually he relented. When he finished shearing off almost all her hair, she said, “I think he felt bad about what he’d done.”
Two tufts remained, one on either side of her shaved head, flared upward to resemble cat ears.
“I was really pleased with it,” she said.
She dyed her new ears black, slicked them up with dabs of Vicks VapoRub and christened herself with a new name: Soo Catwoman.
That summer, she met and befriended Sid Vicious and Johnny Rotten of the Sex Pistols at Club Louise, a hotbed for musicians on the growing punk scene. She emerged as the face of that scene when she graced the cover of Anarchy in the U.K., a Sex Pistols fanzine.
With long tendrils of eyeliner swiped across her lids, a black star on her cheek and a skull dangling from one ear, her look, as well as her expression — a devil-may-care gaze that refused to waver — became a defining image of the vibrant, corrosive glamour of British punk.
“For me, rock ’n’ roll is all about haircut and attitude,” Bob Gruen, a photographer who documented the early punk era, said in an interview. “And she had both.”
Soo Catwoman died on Sept. 30 at a hospital in London. She was 70. Her daughter, Dion October Lucas, said the cause was complications of meningitis.
The fanzine photograph was published without her knowledge, and her face was soon reproduced on countless T-shirts and posters, often without permission or payment.
“It seems that my face and image, my ‘art’ as some have called it, has been hijacked,” she said in 2009, adding, “I’ve lost count of the amount of things that my face has since been used to publicize over the years, from books to clothing and everything in between.”
As her likeness became synonymous with punk, Soo Catwoman was a frequent presence in British newspapers. She was later portrayed onscreen in Julien Temple’s mockumentary “The Great Rock ’n’ Roll Swindle” (1980) and in the 2022 mini-series “Pistol.”
Her D.I.Y. ethos influenced designers including Thierry Mugler, Chanel and Junya Watanabe, whose models strutted down the runway wearing warped Union Jacks and spiked hair. Keith Flint of the band the Prodigy fashioned his own acid-green cat ears after hers.
Soo Catwoman “was the female face of punk, the sexual opposite of Johnny Rotten,” Mark Perry wrote in his book “And God Created Punk” (1996). “Next to Vivienne Westwood she was the most influential woman in punk fashion. If she wore something, others followed.”
Susan Helene Lucas was born on Oct. 24, 1954, in London to John William Lucas, who was in the merchant navy, and Mary (Cobb) Lucas. She was the 10th of 15 children, and her parents joined two houses in the Chiswick area to make room for their large family.
As a teenager, inspired by the flamboyance of glam rockers like David Bowie, Susan dyed a pink stripe into her pointed bangs.
At 21, after debuting her signature haircut, which she paired with jewelry made from found objects like needles and broken razor blades, she became a fixture, photographed with Billy Idol and members of the Damned. For a time in the 1970s, she shared a flat with Sid Vicious and earned the nickname Auntie Sue for her kindness toward him.
In 1979, she contributed backing vocals to the Invaders’ album “Test Card” and sang lead on their single “Backstreet Romeo.” In 1989, after a long absence from the scene, she resurfaced to record a cover of the O’Jays song “Back Stabbers” with Derwood Andrews of Generation X and Rat Scabies of the Damned.
As punk permeated the mainstream, Soo Catwoman largely withdrew from the public eye. She went from being “insulted on a daily basis,” with people avoiding her on public transportation “as if I were contagious,” to watching privileged strangers infiltrate the scene. “Those of us with holes in our jumpers didn’t actually put them there on purpose,” she said in a 2007 interview with the website Punk77.
“I had an exhibit in London a while ago, and Soo came to the opening,” Mr. Gruen said, “and she was this sweet English housewife.”
Speaking to The Times of London after her mother’s death, Dion Lucas said, “Although she was the epitome of punk, as far as her image, she was a hippie underneath it all.”
She home-schooled her children for a while and led an effort to save a tree outside their school. In her free time, she read the Romantic poets and listened to music ranging from Neil Young to Motown.
In 2008, her daughter launched a campaign to reclaim her image. She silk-screened T-shirts and printed tote bags, which she and her mother sold online.
“My mother’s image has at times been associated with negativity, words like ‘destroy’ and ‘anarchy,’ and the mental pictures they conjure up don’t really fit with the person she is,” Dion Lucas said in 2009. “Her beliefs are more about a mental revolution — about people learning to think for themselves.”
In addition to her daughter, Soo Catwoman is survived by a son, Shem Lucas; 10 brothers, Paul, John, Tony, Steve, Joe, Jim, Dave, Robert, Roland and Adam; a sister, Linda Lucas Kenny; and four grandchildren.
Reflecting on her legacy on her Myspace page years ago, Soo Catwoman seemed bemused by the evolution of the look she helped create.
“It still seems strange to me that what happened back then could bring about so many changes, in hair, music, fashion, etc.,” she wrote. “It seems quite funny that what started out as anti-fashion became fashion in itself.”
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