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A Call for Millennial Complaints Draws an Enormous Crowd
It started when Erika Mackley, a 34-year-old art director from Detroit, posed a tongue-in-cheek question to users on X: “i don’t want to hear your most boomer complaint. what’s your most millennial complaint?”
A “boomer complaint” is a concept that has floated around for a while. Typical ones might include people not working as hard anymore or everyone using their phone too much. Ms. Mackley’s post this week, aimed at a younger generation, prompted a mix of gripes and jokes, with posts about bringing heels back to the club, the golden age of comedy films (think “Horrible Bosses” and “Step Brothers”) and a longing for the return of television shows with 24-episode seasons.
“Everybody’s ringtone should still be a 30 second cut of their favorite song in terrible quality,” wrote Dom Pappagallo, 27, an actor from Boston.
As fellow millennials flooded Ms. Mackley’s replies it became clear that members of her generation were nostalgic for a relatively recent past that already felt far away, when large social issues like misinformation, fragmentation and artificial intelligence seemed less prevalent. And for an era in which social media was a place for harmless banter and fun.
Most of the responses — which were hardly limited to actual millennials — did not reach back to the 1990s, but rather to a prepandemic society, when technology seemed more user friendly and personal finances seemed more manageable.
Some mentioned inflation, with one user commenting on the desire for both avocado toast and a house, referring to a trope of almost a decade ago that said millennials would never be able to afford the latter if they kept buying the former. Others yearned for the days of cheaper Ubers, Chipotle bowls and concert tickets.
Many complaints focused on technology and digital media, drawing attention to just how much the world of social media has changed since millennials were coming of age.
The post came at a time of upheaval in the world of social media. Since Elon Musk bought Twitter in 2022, the platform, now called X, has undergone seismic changes. Facebook has removed fact-checking as Mark Zuckerberg pushes the concept of “masculine energy.” A.I. has transformed how people consume content online. And on Friday, the Supreme Court ruled in favor of a federal law that effectively bans TikTok in the United States starting next week.
But the replies to Ms. Mackley looked back further than the current troubles.
Tristan T.A. Hill, 36, a film director from Los Angeles, joked, “The fall of buzzfeed and society collapsing really go hand in hand.”
He remembered when, between 2016 and 2018, BuzzFeed was his go-to source for funny content, and sometimes news, with it all packaged in a millennial’s voice. Now, he said, with “everyone having their own social media and everyone being their own content influencers, it just created a lot more noise.”
“And then with the A.I. stuff, you don’t even know what to trust anymore,” Mr. Hill added. “The misinformation is going crazy.”
Shaelyn Avalon, a 28-year-old singer in Los Angeles, whose millennial complaint was about QR codes at restaurants, commented on the increased segmentation of social media.
“Group think has been a lot heavier on social media the past couple of years,” she said, which to her feels different from when she first created a YouTube channel in 2013.
According to X’s metrics, Ms. Mackley’s post soliciting complaints was seen more than 50 million times.
“Our generation kind of drew the short stick a little bit,” she said in a phone interview. “I’m in my 30s. We’re getting older and it seems like, compared to our parents, we’re not where we’re supposed to be. A lot of the responses I saw were, ‘We’re probably never going to own a home’ and ‘We’re working these insane hours.’”
A “millennial complaint,” she said, is “about not being able to get ahead,” with a dose of humor. “Millennials seem to process things through memes.”
Inflation and rising costs have been dampening morale, and perhaps a post like this drew so many replies because people are yearning for a time when things felt easier and more relaxed. Every generation is wary of changes, and now, with most millennials over 30, it’s their turn to express their grievances, Ms. Mackley said.
Ms. Mackley said she felt nostalgic reading through the responses, including one comment about the decline of flash games. “I remember going on Nickelodeon’s website and playing the ‘Hey Arnold!’ game growing up,” she said.
“People were reliving their youth and their pre-30 days,” Mr. Hill said of the responses, adding that he often reminisces on times when people danced more at parties and when going out was less expensive.
“I’m just not able to do the things that I thought were so much fun back then because there’s more restrictions and it’s more expensive to be outside now,” he said. “I always have friends that joke it costs $100 to leave the house.”
Ms. Mackley said that though she feels like “things are going downhill,” she wonders: “Is it just because I’m getting older?”
“The older generation always feels that way, right?,” said Cathy Carr, 63, a writer from Montclair, N.J. whose “millennial complaint” was about ghosting. “I mean, my father felt that way about us.”
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'It’s going to be the Wild West.' Devastated by fire, Altadena artists vow to rebuild
A week after the devastating Eaton fire tore through Altadena, killing 17, with 24 people missing as of this writing, and destroying more than 7,000 structures, cars were double-parked outside Knowhow Shop in Highland Park. People from all over Los Angeles, their faces obscured by masks due to raining ash, carried bags of toys and clothing to donate to Altadena Kindred, a fundraiser for Altadena children who have been displaced.
Just a month ago, one of the event’s organizers, Linda Hsiao, an Altadena ceramist and industrial designer, had helped host a similarly community-minded event in the foothill town. At the holiday craft fair at Plant Material, local artists shared handmade ceramics, knives, jewelry, hot sauce, embroidery and tie-dyed textiles. Adding to the family-friendly vibe, the St. Rita Cub Scout Pack showed up to sell mistletoe foraged from the nearby trails.
Bianca D’Amico, an artist who helped organize the December event — her son attended the preschool on Christmas Tree Lane that burned down — is proud of the hyperlocal market they created together in the former gas station, which amazingly survived, on Lincoln Avenue. “There is something deeply personal about our fellow vendors who pour so much of themselves into their work and are the spirit of Altadena,” D’Amico said, calling them a “creative, plant-loving, dog-friendly, kid-wrangling community of makers, artists and designers.”
Today, nearly all the vendors, including Hsiao; her husband, architect Kagan Taylor; and their two children, are homeless. “Our house is still standing, but it’s not safe for us to return,” she said of the smoke damage. “Right now, all I can think about is how we’ve lost our friends, our schools, our entire community.”
Hsiao’s shock was evident as she welcomed friends and accepted donations for Altadena Kindred. “This is where we were supposed to grow old,” she said haltingly. “This is where my son was supposed to ride his bike to school.”
With the loss of neighborhood schools, Hsiao is determined to find a way to create a place where all of the community’s children can gather.
But how do you create something like that when all of your neighbors are gone?
Located at the foot of the San Gabriel Mountains, the unincorporated community of more than 42,000 people has long been a refuge for artists, according to glass and metal artist Evan Chambers, who was born and raised in Altadena, just like his parents and grandparents.
“It’s always been a very accepting community of eccentric people of all types,” said Chambers, who purchased his home from the estate of the infamous compost czar Tim Dundon, also known as Zeke the Sheik.
He credits gallery owner Ben McGinty with creating a space for all artists at his Gallery at the End of the World, which survived the fire. “He accepted all of us,” Chambers said of the gallery, which has existed for more than two decades. “I had my first show there.”
Chambers, 44, grew up surrounded by river-rock walls and Arts and Crafts homes that have informed his aesthetic as a glassblower. He lost his home, including the ceramics studio he built for his wife, Caitlin, but is adamant that he will rebuild. “We’re going to rock this,” said the father of two. “With climate change, there is no safe place to go. All that matters is that you suffer with the people you want to help and be helped by. If you’re going to burn, you burn with your people.”
Born and raised in Los Angeles, ceramist Victoria Morris has lived in many neighborhoods throughout the city. But when she purchased a small midcentury house in Altadena a decade ago, the artist felt like she had found a home, personally and professionally. “I thought, ‘This is my last stop,’” Morris said.
The ceramist worked in a studio on Lake Avenue, two miles from her home, where she stored photographs and hard drives in the basement. Just a month ago, Morris hosted a holiday sale, and people packed the showroom to shop for her midcentury-inspired lamps and vases.
Today, it’s all gone.
Morris feels fortunate to have a second home in Ojai. Still, she grapples with the nightmare of evacuating on Jan. 7 and what she has lost. “My husband, Morgan [Bateman], said, ‘Grab your wedding ring, your passport, the animals, and get a jacket and some sturdy shoes.’ There was this beautiful vintage Japanese print that cost nothing, but I loved her so much. And as I was leaving, I thought, ‘Should I grab her?’ Something in my brain said no. I have a notebook where I write the formulas for all my work. It’s been my bible for the last 20 years. Did I grab that? No. Our hard drives? Gone.”
When Bateman finally managed to get access to their property, he found their home and beloved garden smoldering. “All our neighbors are gone,” he told her, rattled.
Brendan Sowersby and Annabel Inganni’s Altadena home, which burned down, was filled with custom furnishings and accessories designed by the couple. Their son Bird stands outside Lake Avenue’s Cafe de Leche, which is also gone. (Annabel Inganni)
On Wednesday, Wolfum textile designer Annabel Inganni was thinking about her 14-year-old son as she waited to pick up a free mattress and box spring at Living Spaces in Monrovia.
“He is in eighth grade, and his school in Pasadena has something like 67 families that have been impacted,” she said. “They are such a supportive community, but I’ve been burying my sadness just to get Bird back to school. And I know it’s not just us. It’s the entire town.”
Inganni lived in the Rubio Highlands neighborhood with her husband, furniture designer Brendan Sowersby of 100xbtr, their two dogs and three cats (all were evacuated safely). Their home was filled with custom furnishings the couple designed. Now, everything is gone. Many of her neighbors lived in their childhood homes. She describes the community as “heaven on earth.”
“Altadena is the most special, innovative, diverse, accepting, core-values town I’ve ever lived in,” she added. “The sense of community is strong. Now, we don’t even have a post office. I lost my home, studio and the archives of everything I’ve ever done. It’s a lot.”
Chris Maddox and Thomas Renaud lost their Altadena home in the Eaton fire. (Thomas Renaud)
After temporarily evacuating to Moorpark last Tuesday, Thomas Renaud returned to Altadena after learning his neighbors’ home was still standing.
“They wanted to go back and get some things, and I offered to drive them,” he said. Renaud was hopeful that the home he shared with his partner, Chris Maddox, and their dog, Van — who both got out safely — would also be left unscathed. But as he drove down Altadena Drive after dropping off his neighbors on Wednesday, all he could see was ash and fire. “When I rounded the corner to my street, I saw that the entire neighborhood was gone,” he said, “and I just lost it.”
When the LGS Studio ceramist and Maddox purchased their house about five years ago, they immediately fell in love with Altadena’s creative community.
“Many artists, musicians and writers live here, and we felt like we had our slice of that,” he said. “We put so much love into that house; it was a place for all our friends and family. It wasn’t just that we lost a house but a home.”
Although Renaud returned to work at his studio in Glassell Park this week, he said he is still in shock. “I don’t think I’ve slept more than one night in the past week,” he said. “Everything right now feels so overwhelming. All the support humbles us, but where do we begin?”
He said that, like many others without homes, finding semipermanent housing is a good start.
As artists, it’s unsurprising that many are haunted by the things they left behind. For Morris, it’s a set of mugs by Los Angeles ceramists Kat and Roger, a quilt she made with her mother, a pencil drawing of her grandmother by her grandfather.
Chambers mentions a lamp by Pasadena artist Ashoke Chhabra and his great-uncle Charles Dockum’s mobile color projector, as well as Dockum’s correspondence with architect Frank Lloyd Wright.
The journals that Inganni had been keeping since she was 6, along with irreplaceable family mementos, are destroyed. “Brendan’s father passed away two years ago, and we had his ashes and photos, and they’re all gone,” she said. “That’s what gets him the most.”
When it came time to evacuate, Renaud grabbed one bag of clothes, the dog, the dog bed and his great-grandfather’s watch. “I didn’t think the fire would come this far,” he said. “My grandmother was a painter, and I had her original artwork. Those are the things I’m grieving for the most. I was thinking, ‘We’ll come back.’ But it’s family history that we can’t get back.”
During the COVID-19 pandemic, Morris sought refuge in her studio. But now the businesses near her studio are gone, like Altadena Hardware on Mariposa Street, Grocery Outlet Bargain Market, Café de Leche and Steve’s Pets. Added Morris: “Everyone at the hardware store knew my name and would always offer my dog treats.”
Despite all they have lost, the artists acknowledge moments of grace. Friends have set up GoFundMe accounts to help them with their short-term needs. Chambers’ friends from preschool and elementary school built beds for him and his family. Morris has received notes that have brought her to tears.
“Two people sent me pictures of one of my vases and a bowl and told me they survived,” she said. “And it has brought them so much happiness. They offered them to me, and I told them no. I want them to keep them.”
Hsaio received a photo from a tequila maker in Altadena who went through his rubble and found one of her Tiki tumblers intact. “These people weren’t just my customers,” she said. “They were my community.”
Still, some are filled with trepidation about what comes next.
Renaud and Taylor have received text messages from strangers offering to purchase their damaged homes. “It’s still smoldering,” Renaud said in disbelief.
“It’s going to be the Wild West,” Inganni said. “Everyone I’ve spoken to is rebuilding. That’s what is percolating in the community. But I think people are very nervous about land grabs and worried about people who don’t have the financial capability to cover themselves.”
In the meantime, Morris just wants to get back to work. “I don’t want to miss being a part of rebuilding Altadena,” she said. “It may be a collective. It may be a store. There’s no way I can cut and run out of a place that’s so special.”
Inganni said Sowersby is considering building desks for the community and developing a fireproof home system.
Renaud, temporarily living in a friend’s accessory dwelling unit, or ADU, in Mount Washington, also wants to help.
“I needed to go and see our house because I needed to grieve,” he said. “If you don’t see what you’ve lost, it’s always a question mark in your mind. But now, I want to be a part of the rebuilding. I have a truck. I’m ready.”
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TikTok Influencers React to a Potential Ban
Riri Bichri burst into tears on Friday morning while discussing news that the Supreme Court had ruled against TikTok, rejecting the company’s arguments against the law that effectively bans it in the United States next week.
“It’s really hitting me because I feel it’s like in a world where there’s so much judgment, TikTok provided a place where I can be free, I can be cringe, I can be who I am,” said Ms. Bichri, a content creator based in New York best known for her 2000s nostalgia parody videos.
“I shouldn’t cry about something so stupid, but it really changed my life,” she added.
For TikTok creators, it’s a sad and stressful time.
In the days leading up to the ruling, creators have been posting memorial tributes and preemptively eulogizing a platform many say has changed their fortunes and given them a sense of community.
“The people that I saw on my For You Page ended up becoming my real life friends,” said Arielle Fodor, who joined TikTok in March 2020.
At the time, she was a kindergarten teacher who had just been sent home as the pandemic began, and she was looking for a substitute for IRL connections.
She found what she was looking for on TikTok and then some, she said in an interview on Friday morning just after the Supreme Court ruling. Like Ms. Bichri, she was also mourning the platform, where she eventually gained 1.3 million followers and became a full-time content creator, leaving her teaching job.
“I listened to the arguments and the writing was on the wall,” Ms. Fodor said of the court’s decision. “I’m disappointed, obviously, but not shocked.”
As scrutiny on TikTok intensified over the last year, Ms. Fodor said she has worked to strengthen her presence on other social media channels.
“All of us have been preparing in a way,” Ms. Bichri said, echoing Ms. Fodor. “No one has really stuck to one platform.”
Some TikTok users already cross-post their content on Instagram, for instance, which introduced its vertical video feature, Reels, in 2020. And YouTube may be poised to draw so-called TikTok refugees. But TikTok is not easily replaced for many content creators, particularly for those who stand to lose income as a result.
“It’s a big source of the way that I make my living,” Ms. Bichri said. “Everyone will have to adapt.”
How exactly they will adapt is not yet clear. For now, creators in the United States are still adjusting to the idea of a world without TikTok.
“It makes me sad. To me, I feel like it’s way more than just social media,” Tareasa Johnson, better known online as Reesa Teesa, said in an interview earlier this week.
Ms. Johnson became an overnight sensation last year for a 50-part video series that dramatically recounted a relationship with a former paramour. The series of TikTok videos is currently being adapted for television.
“I’m one of those people who can honestly say that TikTok completely changed my life ,” she added.
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The Weeknd Donates $1 Million for L.A. Wildfire Relief
The Weeknd is stepping up in a big way … dropping $1 million to support L.A. firefighters and residents caught in the chaos of the raging wildfires.
The singer is teaming up with his XO Humanitarian Fund and World Food Program USA … directing his donation to the LAFD Foundation, GoFundMe’s Wildfire Relief Fund, and the L.A. Regional Food Bank to bolster relief efforts.
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