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You can still find the one in your 40s — and other lessons from the first L.A. Affairs Live

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You can still find the one in your 40s — and other lessons from the first L.A. Affairs Live

Dating in Los Angeles is intense. That was the common thread among 10 stories shared at the first L.A. Affairs Live, a storytelling competition that brought the popular Times romance column to a Hollywood stage on Friday.

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Riffing on the theme of “Starting Fresh,” there were not one, but three stories from Los Angeles daters that mentioned breaking up over email. One dater exploring an open relationship found themselves blocked on LinkedIn. Another shared an awkward encounter with her new boyfriend’s parents after moving back in with her own. Another dealt with someone breaking up with her to get back with his ex, only to come crawling back.

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Despite the anguish — often told as a punch line — the winner of the competition offered a glimmer of hope to the nearly 90 attendees live-voting throughout the show via an app.

1 A woman walks into a secret door hidden by a bookcase.

2 A woman on stage with a mic

3 A wine glass sits next to a phone and menu.

1. Mary Wisniewski of Franklin Village enters the hidden doorway into the Cinegrill Theater at the Hollywood Roosevelt to see L.A. Affairs Live. 2. Nicole Blaine of the Crow in Santa Monica emcees the L.A. Affairs Live show. 3. Audience members voted on the winner for L.A. Affairs Live via an app. (Scott Strazzante / For The Times)

“I thought I had to cast a wide net, but you just need your one weirdo to be weird with you,” said winner Laura House before performing at the Hollywood Roosevelt’s Cinegrill Theater. “The prospect of dating in your 40s in L.A. is a nightmare.”

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House, a TV writer who also teaches stand-up comedy, recounted a first date she went on about a year after being dumped at 46. After that deflating breakup, she had decided to describe herself honestly on a dating app as “wordy, nerdy and kind of sturdy,” and not a lot of people responded, but one did, she said. The date didn’t start well: a waiter spilled shrimp scampi on her. Despite that (spoiler alert), she ends up in “the relationship [she] always wanted and never thought [she] could have.”

“I just have a really sweet love story later in life,” House said of her motivation to audition for the show.

A woman speaks passionately into a microphone.

Laura House, who won the first L.A. Affairs Live competition, talks about her going on a first date after deciding to be intensely honest on a dating app profile.

(Scott Strazzante / For The Times)

As a prize, House will be published in a future L.A. Affairs and receive $400 upon publication. She also scored two free passes to the Tropicana pool at the Roosevelt. Other prizes included L.A. Times swag and a free one-year digital subscription to The Times.

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Attendees could also check out who else was single in the audience using the Next Fun Thing’s dating app, which facilitates meeting people IRL at the event company’s activities, from speed dating to kickball. The Next Fun Thing produced L.A. Affairs Live along with The Times, while Nicole Blaine of the Crow, a comedy venue in Santa Monica, was the event’s emcee.

When asked for advice on navigating L.A.’s dating scene, several of the storytellers had similar insight: Be honest about what you want, work on finding yourself first and do things around the city.

Audience applauds.

Scott, left, and Amanda Calvert of Redondo Beach and Laura Bedol of Eagle Rock applaud performer Laura House during L.A. Affairs Live at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel.

(Scott Strazzante / For The Times)

“Even though it didn’t pan out, I’m so glad I met a guy at pickleball and developed a crush,” said runner-up Michelle Murphy, noting she didn’t want to go out the day she met her crush but pushed herself to anyhow. Her crush — and the increased socialization it brought to her life — taught her she was the magic ingredient to her own joy.

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Meanwhile, actor Rati Gupta said she wanted to reveal her tale of woe with a boomerang hookup at L.A. Affairs Live because sharing her saga has been cathartic. Her advice to L.A. daters: be forthcoming and honest about your wants and needs.

Storyteller Antjuan Tobias, who is a jump-first-think-later kind of guy, echoed several performers by describing L.A. dating as challenging.

“L.A. is not, in my mind, a dating city,” said the comedian, who opened up about his experiences dating as a gay man and later meeting his estranged half-brother, who is also gay. “If you find yourself truly, you’ll meet other people.”

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You know the Mayflower. What about the White Lion? Here’s the story of ‘Two Ships’

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You know the Mayflower. What about the White Lion? Here’s the story of ‘Two Ships’

Just in time for a contentious 250th anniversary of the United States of America, historian David S. Reynolds’ latest book, Two Ships, helps us realize that any country that couldn’t agree on its own origin story is destined for divisive times.

Two Ships is about the complicated, conjoined legacy of the landings of the Mayflower, which carried the Pilgrims to Plymouth, Mass., in 1620, and the White Lion, which arrived in Jamestown a year earlier, bringing the first enslaved Africans to Virginia.

As Reynolds demonstrates, it’s not so much the facts of these two voyages, as it is the meanings ascribed to them, that made them such a powerful metaphor for two conflicting visions of American identity.

To simplify, the Mayflower’s passengers were separatist Puritans, dissenters to the reign of the English king, James I. As the United States developed, the Mayflower was credited with carrying the seeds of a radical democracy to the New World, one in which all men (in theory, at least) were equal before God.

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In contrast, the European settlers of Jamestown were Royalists, also known as Cavaliers. Loyal to the monarchy, they believed in a strict hierarchy.

But the meaning of the images of the two ships shifted depended on who was invoking them and when. Not surprisingly, the metaphor was deployed most vigorously during the Civil War. In abolitionist speeches and writings, the White Lion or the “Slave-Ship,” as it was commonly called, was condemned for infecting America with the “plague-spot” of slavery.

Reynolds says that Frederick Douglass resorted to the “two ships” metaphor frequently, while Lincoln avoided it, hoping to preserve a unified ship of state. Meanwhile, Southern descendants of Cavaliers invoked the Mayflower to emphasize the intolerance and “cruel, persecuting” character of the Puritans. In a comment that resonates for our own times, Reynolds says:

It didn’t matter to the South that … by the mid-nineteenth century, the North had become a kaleidoscope of religious denominations, …, few of which resembled the faith of the Plymouth colonists. Distortion is intrinsic to cultural memory, especially when amplified by sectional or political bias. For Southerners, the Mayflower had brought Puritanism, which had yielded fanatical movements like abolitionism, now a dire threat to the Union.

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A historically hot Paris Fashion Week photographed with a kid’s camera

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A historically hot Paris Fashion Week photographed with a kid’s camera

I took a kid’s camera to Paris Fashion Week, because was it ever really that serious? Yes and no. This men’s season happened during one of the hottest weeks in France’s recorded history, which inspired that specific brand of collective hysteria brought on by living through yet another unprecedented moment together — taking over our brains and ruining our plans to wear boots — and a grander reflection on what we were doing there and why. The throngs of teenagers doing back flips into the Canal Saint-Martin and playing soccer in the street set the mood for the week. If the world is ending, you might as well swim in dirty water and have fun doing it, no?

As far as the shows went, there was the coastal stoner energy of Tokyo-based Auralee — brightly colored leathers and furry flip-flops — that reminded me of the low-key elegance of hanging out in Southern California. At the Rick Owens show, Rick-heads made minimal weather-restrictive tweaks to their usual uniforms — platforms, leather, ground-grazing garments — making you appreciate the beauty in that level of ascetic dedication. Louis Vuitton built a literal beach as its runway, complete with sand and a giant wave that felt like a mirage: Is this a heat-induced hallucination or yet another buzzed-about set design under men’s creative director Pharrell Williams? At the Dries Van Noten show, there was an ice-cold beer fridge and popsicles, a chic and inspired detail only rivaled by a collection that was a breath of fresh air during a week where I Googled the symptoms of heat stroke more than once. The Willy Chavarria show was air-conditioned, pumped with Xinú perfume and felt expensive. Sven Marquardt, a Berlin photographer and Berghain’s most famous bouncer, was sitting in front of me, which I took as an incredibly good omen. The painted blue feet and Oakley collab sunglasses at the Kiko Kostadinov show felt auspicious as well.

A model walks with his hands in his vest

A look from the Auralee show.

There were conversations floating around about how apocalyptic it felt sitting at a fashion show in over 100-degree Fahrenheit weather, our backs soaked, our minds dizzied, when the industry is responsible for something like 10% of global greenhouse gas emissions. The cognitive dissonance contributed to the thickness in the air that week.

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At the Comme des Garçons show, called “If the War Were to End..,” models danced and ran and skipped out onto the runway for the finale, soundtracked by the joyous sound of children singing “You’re So Good to Me” by the Langley Schools Music Project. In that moment, we were happy, we were clapping, we might have even been hopeful. Humans have the capacity to hold a lot — a fan in one hand while attempting not to completely melt in the front row, and a fantasy that there might still be a future where we get to wear those leopard-print Dries shoes we fell in love with on the runway.

People stand in front of a wall bearing the words "Paris Tourisme"

The moments before the Comme des Garçons show.

Two people dressed mostly in black

Comme des Garçons show attendees.

A model wears Comme des Garçons, head-to-toe.

Comme des Garçons, head-to-toe.

A model walks in white light

The Comme des Garçons show.

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Models wear long jackets

The Dries Van Noten show.

A bottle of beer

A chic and inspired detail at the Dries Van Noten show: ice-cold beer.

Modeling on a pink bench
A person in black shoes, left, and a person in pink shoes

Scenes from the ERL presentation.

Seated attendees watch a model
Seated attendees watch a model on a blue carpet

The Kiko Kostadinov show.

The Eiffel Tower rises in the distance
A woman in sunglasses stands in a beach setting

Tapping in from Louis Vuitton beach.

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Quavo at the Louis Vuitton show.

Quavo at the Louis Vuitton show.

A person stands in a beachlike setting

Scenes from after the Louis Vuitton show.

People use their smartphones to photograph a person in a suit and tie

Scenes from the Louis Vuitton show.

A variety of shoes and laces

Scenes from the Nahmias x Puma dinner at Gigi Paris.

Scenes from the On X Online Ceramics rave.

Scenes from the On X Online Ceramics rave.

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People walk under arcs of water
People in a nightclub

At Silencio to see Venezuelan DJ and producer Safety Trance.

Five models wearing sunglasses stand together

The Willy Chavarria show.

A glowing cross with curved ends

Scenes from Willy Chavarria.

People sit along a canal

The throngs of teenagers doing back flips into the Canal Saint-Martin and playing soccer in the street set the mood for the week.

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After weeks of speculation, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce wed in New York

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After weeks of speculation, Taylor Swift, Travis Kelce wed in New York

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce of the Kansas City Chiefs, pictured at a basketball game in May, announced their engagement in August 2025.

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NEW YORK — Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are officially married.

After three years of dating, The pop icon and Super Bowl-winning football player, both 36, tied the knot in New York, according to a statement from Swift’s publicist, Tree Paine.

There were neither bridesmaids nor groomsmen. “Instead, her brother Austin Swift served as Taylor’s Man of Honor and Jason Kelce was Travis’ Best Man. The ceremony joined both families together,” Swift’s publicist said in the statement released Friday evening.

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The ceremony was officiated by comedian and a friend of the couple, Adam Sandler, the statement added.

The singer’s rep said that the couple was dressed in Christian Dior Haute Couture.

“The bride and groom’s wedding ceremony looks have been created by Christian Dior Haute Couture. They are designed by Jonathan Anderson, Creative Director of Dior Women’s, Men’s and Haute Couture Collections, in close collaboration with the Bride and Groom,” the statement said. “This is the designer’s first couture wedding dress for a world-renowned celebrity. Their shoes were custom made by Christian Louboutin and the bride wore Cartier jewelry.”

Security around the event was intense, so it remains unclear if the wedding was charming, if a little gauche. But the night before the ceremony the 20,000-person stadium was bathed in a lavender haze.

Details gleaned from a city permit obtained by The Associated Press, showed details of a “special event at MSG” scheduled to begin Friday evening and running overnight Saturday.

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As speculation built, fans began gathering in front of the stadium ahead of the expected wedding, despite the couple’s efforts to keep details of the celebration under wraps.

Superfans and sleuths appeared to have their hunches confirmed on Friday, as dozens of black cars dropped off elegantly dressed guests outside of Madison Square Garden in New York City.

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