Montana
Help! My Friend Is Moving to Montana to Search for a Cowboy Millionaire.
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Dear Prudence,
My friend has suffered a personality transplant. We’re in our mid-30s and I think she’s having an early mid-life crisis. She has become obsessed with tradwife content and complains about her job and social life, saying she wishes it was the 1950s when women could stay at home and be wives and mothers. Wishing to achieve that lifestyle, she has decided to get married but has had no luck finding the man of her dreams, which is a cross between a cowboy and a millionaire. In a desperate attempt to meet someone with traditional values, and thinking that the problem is the fact that we live in a large West Coast city, she believes that what she needs to do is relocate to a different state like Montana.
I’m afraid that if she uses her savings to go on a hunt for this unattainable cowboy millionaire, she is going to not only torpedo her career but might eventually end up in debt. I’ve told her tradwives are content creators and it’s all for show, but she won’t listen. I want to stage an intervention with her sister. She’s very close to her sister and I think she may be the one who might be able to get through to her. Do you think this is wise? I don’t want her to hate me, but I’m worried.
—Living in Fantasy Land
Dear Fantasy Land,
We’ve heard so much over the last few years about men being red-pilled (even more so during these last few weeks), but I don’t think we’ve paid enough attention to the women being led to their own version of regressive ideals propped up by anxiety about the quality of their livelihoods. It sounds like your friend found herself sucked into that particular world of mythmaking. I’m sure it’s been disconcerting for you to watch it happen up close and in real-time. However, this is the kind of thing people fall into and resist all attempts to be pulled out of. I’m not saying your friend couldn’t use an intervention, but I think you should prepare yourself for the very real possibility that, even with her sister’s assistance, she may already be too far gone into her Billionaire Cowboy dream. Will you be able to handle that?
Before you go the intervention route, have a candid conversation with your friend about why she feels so attached to this dream, and where she hopes it all leads. In my experience, people who lean into these ideas are not just looking for a husband or a lifestyle, they’re looking for a specific feeling to either experience for the first time or recapture for themselves. Maybe she’s looking to feel cared for, protected, and undeniably loved. Maybe she feels like fantasy is her best option. Talking to your friend about her choices will help you figure out what she ultimately wants, which might help you suggest other ways she might find what she’s looking for out of life.
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Dear Prudence,
Me and my boyfriend were dating for a while. Then he started speaking to me dryly, so I checked on him and it turned out he was cheating on me. We broke up and did not have any contact with each other for a while. Until he hit me up asking how I was and telling him he missed me. I still had feelings for him so we got back together, but then after a few months, he cheated on me again. What does this mean and what should I do in this situation?
—Fake Relationship
Dear Fake Relationship,
It means that no matter how much you love him, or how many times you forgive him, he will cheat on you. You should stop giving him the opportunity to do so.
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Dear Prudence,
I’m a man in my 30s who is struggling with a really bad crush on a female co-worker. Although I’ve had plenty of co-worker crushes in the past, this is different. I’m not sleeping well, I’m anxious, and I’m having a difficult time keeping these feelings out of my mind. I spend the “free” moments of my work day either hiding out so that I don’t run into them or inventing excuses to go and talk to them (then chickening out). I haven’t felt like this since I met my spouse, who I’m currently married to.
I have no intention of cheating on my partner, and I really don’t get the sense that this other person shares my feelings. Even if they did, I would know better than to do anything about it. I’m not going to throw my life away for a colleague I have no future with. I hope to ride this out for a while and wait for it to dissipate, as I assume it will. But I wonder if the intensity of my feelings has to do with the pressure I feel to keep them secret. My spouse is insecure about her appearance and a little jealous—not intensely, but she gets a little paranoid about, say, the women I’m friends with at work (the crush is one of them). When I’ve had crushes in the past, it’s been easy to keep them to myself because the attraction doesn’t really occur to me until I’m sharing space with this person during the work day. By the time I’ve clocked out, I’ve already forgotten about them. But because this current crush is so psychologically present for me, I’m desperate to talk about it, especially with the person I’m closest to. I feel like I can’t because I’m worried about hurting her feelings.
I know that this crush will pass, that it’s not my fault that I caught feelings for someone, nor is it a betrayal to simply “have feelings.” But I also doubt it will be the last time it happens to me, and I want to find a way to discuss this with her that will be honest, non-threatening, and hopefully non-combative. I’m not looking to open the relationship up. If we could have a conversation in which I admit to these unexpected feelings, and if we could both laugh at what a ridiculous state I am in, I could hold these feelings a little more lightly and let go of them more easily. I worry if I keep bottling them up, I’m going to feel even more crazy and possibly resentful of the fact that I can’t talk about something that’s causing me significant discomfort. How do I approach this conversation? Should I have it all? Is there anything I should avoid saying? Anything I should definitely say? Help!
—I’ve Got It Bad, And It’s Really Bad
Dear Really Bad,
You don’t need to tell your wife about your crush, you need to make some new friends. There’s nothing odd about having a crush, some of us are more prone to them than others. As long as no lines are crossed, it’s harmless. Where the harm comes in is when you act on inappropriate feelings, commit infidelity, or make someone uncomfortable by sharing the crush, especially in the workplace. While your wife doesn’t work with you, it’s clear to me that you would be causing her undue distress by attempting to discuss this crush with her. (She’s already expressed jealousy about the specific person you can’t get out of your mind!) Despite your explanation, I’m having a hard time understanding why you would even consider this. Because she’s close to you and you have no one else to talk with about it? That reasoning just doesn’t pass the bar. If you really believe the only relief you’ll feel will come from sharing your feelings about this all-consuming crush, then you should talk to someone who’s more your friend than your wife’s and leave her out of it.
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Dear Prudence,
I have been married for 10 years. When I married my husband, I knew he was not an extrovert, nor a person who could work a room. He had no close friends. I always thought he was misunderstood or worked too hard to have time for excess because he loved me dearly and well when we were dating. He is now a loyal hardworking professional man with a good job in the financial sector, and whose baseline actions indicate that he loves his family. He doesn’t cheat, and he comes home and spends time with the kids. But over time, the reason for his isolation has become evident.
His communication style under stress is curt, unfeeling, and dictatorial to all those around him—usually me, our parents, and our children. He stonewalls me when things overwhelm him. This has put our marriage under strain. When an argument arises, usually it’s due to his overly negative reaction to a basic life occurrence that wouldn’t sway another person. For example, if a friend of mine comes by our home with less than 24 hours’ notice, he gets upset and storms around the house. Once he dropped some papers, and blamed me for the item on the floor he tripped over. (It was a Hot Wheel.) If he can’t find something, it’s because I misplaced it. If I’m washing dishes in a space he thinks he needs to be in, I’m the one in the way even if I was there first. I try to discuss these moods with him and understand why he feels so strongly about these minor things but he shuts me down.
When he asks me to do something, it’s usually in the form of an order. When I ask why he speaks that way when he could just as easily ask nicely, he says he shouldn’t have to sugarcoat his words at home. I’m pragmatic and usually shrug things off pretty easily, but these little moments have added up over time to build significant resentment. I can’t live this way my whole life. I feel like a second-class citizen in my own home. I stay for the kids and moral reasons. I am financially stable so that is not stopping me. I also don’t want my children to treat their spouses this way in the future, but my son is watching his every move and has started speaking like him. The answer is probably counseling, but good resources aren’t readily available in our area and I doubt he will agree to go. Am I seeing things as worse than they are?
—Second-Class Citizen
Dear Second-Class Citizen,
You’re not making things out to be worse than they are, you are living under emotional dominance. Your husband is likely a person who processes all his difficult emotions as anger because he doesn’t consider anger an emotion. However, you and his loved ones are obviously well aware that it is. When someone refuses to seek counseling for an emotional problem, they’ll often defend their behavior to a serious degree.
Though you’ve lived with this behavior for a long time, it seems you’ve realized that “dealing” with someone else’s smoldering anger becomes unbearable. It’s time for your husband to understand just how unbearable it’s become. When he’s not in a “mood,” approach him and let him know that this issue can’t stand. Put him in charge of figuring out how to address it, since your suggestions have been met with a wall. Let him know that this isn’t just something you don’t want to live with, it’s something you won’t live with anymore.
—Ashley
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Montana
Montana delegation backs bill to release wilderness study areas
Laura Lundquist
(Missoula Current) Most of Montana’s Congressional delegation is once again sponsoring a bill to remove three study areas from consideration as designated wilderness.
On Wednesday, Senators Steve Daines and Tim Sheehy and Rep. Troy Downing reintroduced Daines’ “Montana Sportsmen Conservation Act,” which would remove three wilderness study areas from wilderness consideration, releasing them to be managed as regular federal land. Rep. Ryan Zinke was not listed as a sponsor.
Two areas – the 11,580-acre Wales Creek and the 11,380-acre Hoodoo wilderness study areas managed by the U.S. Bureau of Land Management – are 40 to 50 miles east of Missoula in the Garnet Range north of Interstate 90. The third area, the much larger Middle Fork Judith wilderness study area, is around 81,000 acres managed by the U.S. Forest Service in the Little Belt Mountains southeast of Great Falls.
Daines previously introduced the Montana Sportsmen Conservation Act in 2023, but it was never heard in committee. Now, he’s bringing it forward again, and he explained his strangely titled bill in a press release Wednesday.
“As a lifelong sportsman, increasing access to Montana’s great outdoors is one of my top priorities. The ‘Montana Sportsmen Conservation Act’ promotes our outdoor way of life by returning restrictive WSA’s to general public land management, which will improve wildlife habitat restoration, reduce the risk of catastrophic wildfires, and unlock better access to public land,” Daines said in the release.
It should be noted that neither hunting nor fishing are prohibited in wilderness study areas. In the past, sportsmen’s organizations have opposed the wholesale elimination of wilderness study areas. However, some have indicated they are considering the Wales Creek and Hoodoo areas could serve as political sacrifices to save other areas.
The wildfire risk in the Hoodoo area was significantly reduced this summer after the Windy Rock Fire burned a majority of the area.
Daines first proposed a similar bill – the Protect Public Use of Public Lands Act – in 2018 to release five Forest Service wilderness study areas, including the Middle Fork Judith. Former Rep. Greg Gianforte joined him but increased the number of wilderness study areas on the chopping block to 29, including those under BLM management. Both politicians had based their legislation off feedback from a select group of conservative counties and user groups, including the Montana Stockgrowers Association and the Montana Snowmobile Association. Other organizations protested the bills and the lack of transparency during the process.
This most recent bill is supported by the Montana Logging Association, Montana Snowmobiles Association, Montana Outfitters and Guides Association, Montana Farm Bureau Federation, Great Falls Bicycle Club and the Judith Basin and Powell county commissioners.
In 1976, the BLM established 38 wilderness study areas in Montana, including the Wales Creek and Hoodoo areas. In 1977, the Montana Wilderness Study Act set nine Forest Service study areas aside for wilderness consideration, including the Middle Fork Judith. Federal evaluations of the areas conducted during the 1980s concluded some areas, including the three being considered in the bill, weren’t suitable for wilderness designation.
This year’s bill cites the 2020 BLM Missoula Office Resource Management Plan as justification for eliminating the Wales Creek and Hoodoo wilderness study areas. The plan said the two areas were unsuitable for wilderness designation.
However, the plan was not developed during “a 5-year collaborative process,” as the bill claims, but under the direction of the first Trump administration, which ignored a lot of public comments made during scoping. The three resource management plans for Missoula, Lewistown and Miles City were scheduled to be released to the public in late 2018, but they were delayed when the three offices were required to send the drafts to Washington, D.C., for review and revision. When they were returned and published in May 2019, all three draft plans heavily emphasized natural resources extraction.
A Pew Charitable Trust review of six BLM resource management plans drafted in 2019 found all “would fail to conserve lands that the agency’s own research has deemed worthy of protection; cut decades-old safeguards; minimally protect a fraction of 1% of the areas found to contain wilderness characteristics; and open vast swaths of public lands to energy and mineral development.”
Several Montana conservation organizations protested the Montana plans, including Wild Montana and Backcountry Hunters and Anglers. When the draft plans were finalized in early 2020, some changes had been made to cater to sportsmen, but resource extraction still dominated. The Missoula Office’s new objective was to “produce the greatest quantities of forest products from vegetation restoration activities.”
The 2020 plans created a new designation – backcountry conservation area – that allows resource extraction but prioritizes the long-term maintenance of big game populations for hunting. The Missoula plan proposes to manage its three wilderness study areas as wilderness unless Congress releases them. Then, if Daines’ bill passes, portions of the wilderness study areas would become backcountry conservation areas: a 6,100-acre Hoodoos BCA and a 2,365-acre Wales BCA, according to the plan. The remainder of each area is open to any and all uses.
During the 2025 Legislature, the Senate Energy, Technology, and Federal Relations Committee voted 9-4 against a resolution calling on Congress to remove protection from Montana’s wilderness study areas. More than 3,300 Montanans signed a petition opposing the bill and supporting local solutions for study area management.
Some anticipate that more roads will invade wilderness study areas once they’re no longer protected. Zach Angstead, Wild Montana federal policy director, said Daines has countered those claims by saying the areas will still be protected under the Roadless Rule. But now, the Trump administration is on the verge of repealing the Roadless Rule, so that level of protection could disappear. And Daines strongly supports repeal of the Roadless Rule, according to a Dec. 5 email from a Daines spokesperson to the Flathead Beacon.
“Sen. Daines’ push to remove (wilderness study area) protections and roll back the Roadless Rule show that this isn’t about better local management – it’s about opening Montana’s public lands up to large-scale development to benefit corporations, not Montanans,” Angstead said in a statement. “Managing (wilderness study areas) properly requires local collaborative solutions developed by the people who know these places best. The people and the legislature have made it clear that Daines needs to give up this unpopular crusade to undermine and dismantle public lands and start taking his cues from real people who have been working to shape the future of (wilderness study areas).”
Contact reporter Laura Lundquist at lundquist@missoulacurrent.com.
Montana
Rare emergency alert issued as destructive windstorm batters Montana
The National Weather Service in Great Falls issued a rare civil emergency message on Wednesday, December 17, 2025, as a destructive windstorm pummeled Montana from one end of the state to the other, with some of the strongest gusts recorded in central Montana.
The weather service expected wind gusts greater than 90 mph in Pondera, Teton, and Lewis & Clark counties, prompting the emergency alert that activated the wireless emergency alert system to send warnings directly to cellphones.
Rare emergency alert issued as destructive windstorm batters Montana
“It can be used for weather or non-weather reasons. The primary reason why we deployed it today was to activate the wireless emergency alert system – WEA. That will allow these alerts to go to a person’s cellphone to take immediate action,” said Maura Casey, warning coordination meteorologist with the National Weather Service.
The civil emergency message was the first issued by the weather service since December 2020, during a similar wind and dust storm between Great Falls and Havre. The National Weather Service coordinates with county emergency managers to decide when to issue this rare alert.
What made Wednesday’s event particularly widespread was its prolonged nature and the strength of the accompanying cold front.
“This belt of wind came from the west and with how strong the cold front was accompanying it, it was able to reach down to the surface. What makes this event unique is it’s more of a prolonged wind event. It’s the entire day that we’re experiencing these strong winds,” Casey said.
The windstorm didn’t just hit the plains. Some typically protected mountain valleys experienced destructive wind gusts, with 70 to 80 mph gusts recorded in the Helena and Gallatin valleys.
“The more complex topography make it a little bit difficult south of Great Falls. In this case, because we had that belt of winds that came right over Helena and Bozeman – they essentially had a closer access to that wind,” Casey said.
The powerful winds toppled semi trucks and trees across the region, and knocked out electricity to tens of thousands of people across the state.
Windstorm damage across Montana
The destructive winds stem from an extremely active weather pattern that has been pummeling the Pacific Northwest with flooding rains, heavy mountain snow and high winds.
“We remain in the same very active Pacific weather pattern. While we have high confidence – maybe not as strong as today- but we will get more wind events in the coming weeks,” Casey said.
The weather service recommends staying prepared by keeping up with the latest forecast, especially given the active pattern that doesn’t appear to be going anywhere anytime soon.
This article has been lightly edited with the assistance of AI for clarity, syntax, and grammar.
Montana
Real-Time Updates: Severe weather slams Western Montana Wednesday, Dec. 17
(Update 11:00 a.m.)
- All lanes closed on US-93 near Evaro due to fallen trees.
- All lanes closed on MT-200 east of Bonner due to fallen trees.
(Update 10:40 a.m.) The Ravalli County Sheriff’s Office has issued an emergency wind and travel warning for the Bitterroot.
The warning states that “due to extreme winds, which are causing trees to fall into roadways and taking down power lines, as well as creating very dangerous driving conditions, the RCSO is advising that people not travel until the wind event decreases.”
High-profile vehicles should not travel in Ravalli County at this time.
Ravalli County 911 is also currently being overwhelmed with calls. Residents are asked to only report immediate emergencies to 911.
The Ravalli County Emergency Operations Center is open. To report non-emergent storm-related events in the Bitterroot, you’re asked to call the EOC at 406-375-6650.
(Update 10:15 a.m.) The reports of damage around Western Montana are rolling in Wednesday morning as thousands remain without power, especially in the northwestern corner.
As trees topple across the area, officials are urging travelers to use caution.
Trees have blocked access to several roads in the region. Here’s the road report as of 10 a.m.:
- MT-35 is CLOSED from milepost 2.8 to 6
- Southbound lanes are blocked on US-93 north of Somers due to a semi blow over
- Tree down and blocking southbound lanes on US-93 near Ronan
- Tree blocking all lanes on MT-35 east of Polson.
- Power lines down blocking on lanes on US-2 west of Marion.
- Severe driving conditions on US-12 from Lolo to Lolo Pass due to downed trees
The Lincoln County Sheriff’s Office issued a notice at 9:40 a.m. that the county is under emergency travel only.
To the south, the Missoula Police Department requested necessary travel only in the city.
The Frenchtown Rural Fire District put out a public service announcement asking people to stay home and off the roads.
Power outages are still impacting several areas of Western Montana too.
NorthWestern Energy’s outage map at 10:10 a.m. showed hundreds of customers were in the dark in Missoula, Mineral, and Sanders counties. Flathead Electric shows thousands of people without power in Flathead and Lincoln counties.
Traffic signals are out in the City of Kalispell. All intersections with dark stoplights must be treated as a 4-way stop.
- Come to a complete stop
- Take turns — first to stop goes first
- Yield to pedestrians
- Proceed slowly and cautiously
Kalispell’s popular Woodland Park is closed due to heavy winds and hazardous conditions.
The weather has closed the following schools for Wednesday (this list will be updated):
- Clinton
- Frenchtown
- Libby
- Marion
- Noxon
- Pleasant Valley
- St. Regis
- Superior
- Troy
- West Glacier
High winds tore off the roof of Jefferson School in Missoula. The school is not currently serving students.
Micah Hill / MCPS Superintendent
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(Update 9:45 a.m.)
- MT-35 is CLOSED from milepost 2.8 to 6.
- Southbound lanes are blocked on US-93 north of Somers due to a semi blow over.
(Update 9:15 a.m.) Montana Department of Transportation reporting several new incidents.
- Tree down and blocking southbound lanes on US-93 near Ronan
- Tree blocking all lanes on MT-35 east of Polson.
- Power lines down blocking on lanes on US-2 west of Marion.
- Severe driving conditions on US-12 from Lolo to Lolo Pass due to downed trees.
(Update 9:08 a.m.) Hazardous conditions are wreaking havoc across the City of Missoula causing the Missoula Police Department to ask the community to only travel if absolutely necessary.
In a press release at 9:10 a.m., MPD stated that high winds have created dangerous conditions, including reduced vehicle control, blowing debris, and the potential for downed trees and power lines.
If you cannot avoid traveling right now, you’re asked to:
- Reduce speed
- Be alert for debris in roadways
- Watch for downed trees, power lines, and damaged traffic signals
- Avoid parking near trees or unstable structures
Do not touch anything, including a tree, that may be in contact with power lines. If you see a downed power line, you’re asked to call NorthWestern Energy at 888-467-2669.
For emergencies, call 911. For non-emergency assistance, contact the Missoula Police Department at 406-552-6300.
(Update 9:03 a.m.) A MEANS alert for Missoula County for drivers to be cautious driving due to high winds, several hazards and extreme conditions.
(UPDATE 8:55 a.m.)
Frenchtown School District has cancelled school. Parents should pick up their student from the school to ensure they are supervised and safe as they transition back home. If parents are unable to pick students up, buses will run at 10:00 to return students home. Phones are also out at the South Campus.
(UPDATE: 8:28 a.m.) The storm is hitting Sanders County hard.
Just after 8 a.m., the Community Ambulance Service of W. Sanders Co. posted that power is out in parts of the area and that strong winds are creating extremely dangerous conditions.
Live power lines are across roads, there are reports of falling trees and debris, and some travel routes have become impassable.
Officials are telling people to not travel unless it’s absolutely necessary. School in Noxon has been canceled.
Meanwhile in Mineral County, St. Regis Schools and the Superior School District have also canceled classes.
Due to fallen power lines, Superior Schools will not send the buses back out.
School officials are asking families to pick up their students Wednesday morning. If you’re unable to do so, you’re asked to call Logan Labbe 406-822-2285 to make accommodations.
(1st Report – 8:20 a.m.) The strong Pacific cold front that is moving through Washington has now arrived in Western Montana Wednesday morning.
Power outages have already been reported all across Western Montana including the Interstate 90 corridor from Lookout Pass to Alberton and in Northwest Montana, thousands of residents are without power in the Libby and surrounding areas. For updates on outages check Northwestern Energy Outage map and Flathead Electric Co-Op outage viewers.
Northwestern Energy
There is also reports of road hazards. According to the Montana Department of Transportation a powerline is down on Highway 56 near Noxon. Several trees are also down across Highway 56 between Troy and Noxon.
Interstate 90 westbound lanes at mm 15, west of Superior, are blocked due to downed trees.
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Stay with KPAX for updates on this storm throughout the day.
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