Fitness
5 Healthy ways to talk about fitness around your kids: Create ‘a sense of empowerment’
When it comes to modeling ideas around healthy fitness for her two-year-old son, running coach and former pro distance runner Kaitlin Gregg Goodman is careful about how she frames her own passion for the sport: that it’s something she does for pleasure.
“I want him to really think––and know––it’s something I do for fun, for health, something we do for ourselves. Not something I have to do,” she tells Fortune, but something she gets to do.
She, like so many other adults, understands that relationships with exercise can be complex, and often negative. That’s why Gregg Goodman is starting early with positivity around the topic with her son, and why experts advise other parents to do the same.
“When it comes to body image and exercise, our social and family network can be either a protective factor or a risk factor,” says Deborah Glasofer, associate professor of clinical medical psychology in psychiatry at the Columbia Department of Psychiatry.
This can start at a young age, she says.
“Children are sponges,” Glasofer tells Fortune. “If you hear your child use disparaging language about their appearance or express unhealthy ideas about exercise, that should ring an alarm in your mind to be mindful of your potential role in that.”
Below, experts weigh in on how your words and actions around fitness can impact impressionable kids in your life, at any age—and how to promote a positive relationship with exercise.
Focus on what your body can do
Our bodies do a lot for us every day, but that can get lost when we’re stressed about appearance and not feeling our greatest.
Licensed family therapist Mary Beth Somich says it’s important for parents to use language that encourages their children—and themselves—–to focus on what their body can do, versus how it looks.
“Parents can help their children develop a healthy appreciation for their bodies by discussing the strengths and abilities their child possesses,” she tells Fortune.
Show your kids that being active can be fun
Physical activity doesn’t have to be grueling and challenging all the time. Even light exercise is beneficial for your mental and physical health.
And parents can do a variety of activities with their kids to bond and stay moving—many of which might not even feel like exercise.
“Outdoor adventures like nature walks or time at the park, sports, dance parties, yoga, stretching, gardening. The options are endless,” Somich says.
Glasofer agrees, and says “fun” is in the eye of the beholder, meaning it’s worth it to try different activities together to see what works what you both enjoy best.
“Leaning into the fun can make it less of a chore,” she says, which is what stops many people from wanting to exercise in the first place.
Avoid framing exercise as an obligation
Exercise is great for health and longevity reasons, but framing it as an obligation can lead to a negative relationship with it.
“It is helpful to reframe the language used around exercise by saying, ‘I choose to work out today’ rather than ‘I have to work out today,’” Somich says. “This creates a sense of empowerment.”
Giving children the choice to do an activity also gives them control, which is a key part of developmentgrowing up, according to PennState Extension.
Remember food isn’t ‘earned’
Fitness and nutrition are intertwined—and saying things like you earned the dessert you ordered because you worked out can make your child believe they don’t deserve to eat the food they enjoy without working for it, too, says Glasofer.
“Unfortunately, eating and exercise are often paired, and there isn’t any great reason for this,” she says. “No matter your eating habits, exercise has benefits psychologically and physically.”
Somich also stresses the importance of not labeling foods as “good” or “bad” around children—or even for yourself. Instead, acknowledge that healthy eating includes a variety of foods in moderation.
Gregg Goodman says she pays close attention to how she words ideas related to food and exercise around her son.
“I make sure I’m not using language like, ‘This food is a reward for running,’” she says. She instead says her food is refueling her body after a hard effort.
Body neutrality can be just as beneficial as body positivity
It’s not always easy to like what we see in the mirror. But Somich says you don’t have to praise your appearance to make a positive impact on your kids.
“Parents can use positive or neutral language, avoiding negative or shameful body-focused discussions,” she says.
Modeling positive outlooks and behaviors doesn’t have to include positive talk we don’t agree with, Somich says. It’s more about making sure the negative talk isn’t present.
It’s not just what you say
Finally, remember that children pick up on your attitudes more than you may think, suggests Glasofer.
“Sometimes actions are worth a thousand words,” she says.
And most actions don’t go unnoticed by even the youngest members of a family—including things like scrolling on social media, looking at different workout routines, checking your fitness tracker incessantly, or choosing to do a second workout instead of a family activity.
“Body image concerns are easily projected onto children unconsciously,” says Somich, “which is why it is so important to self-reflect on the language and behaviors that you are modeling or the messaging you are promoting to your children.”
Fitness
Caroline Idiens and Jenni Falconer’s time-efficient 9-exercise workout builds full-body strength in 30 minutes
Think you need to spend hours in the gym for a workout to be effective? Think again! There are an infinite number of bodyweight and minimal-equipment workouts that are just as efficient as working out in a gym, including this 30-minute, 9-move workout from former Women’s Health cover star and founder of virtual fitness platform Caroline’s Circuits, Caroline Idiens.
Idiens recently performed the workout – which only uses two dumbbells – with radio and TV presenter and keen runner Jenni Falconer, who recently told WH she has been upping her strength sessions.
Sarcopenia – age-related muscle loss – can start to take effect as early as 30. After that, research suggests muscle mass decreases by approximately 3-8% per decade, with the rate of decline speeding up after 60. But the good news is that there is a lot that we can do to significantly slow, manage and in some cases even reverse sarcopenia – starting with short, full-body workouts such as this one.
‘It’s such a great circuit using all muscle groups in 30 mins, some of my favourite functional full body exercises,’ writes Idiens.
The 30-minute full-body circuit
Warm up, then perform each exercise for 40 secs followed by 20 secs rest. Complete 3 rounds of the circuit.
For reference, Idiens and Jenni are using 4kg + 3kg dumbbells, but choose your weight based on what you feel comfortable with.
- Squat alternate press
- RDL with row
- Reverse lunge knee drive (repeat other side)
- Sumo squat front raise
- Curtsy lunge lateral raise (repeat other side)
- Shoulder press
- Glute bridge with skull crusher
- Crunch with extension
- Weighted dead bugs
How to do the exercises
1. Squat alternate press
- Hold a dumbbell in each hand, keeping your feet a bit wider than shoulder-width apart.
- As you stand up from the squat, press one dumbbell overhead.
- Lower it back to shoulder height as you return to the squat, then repeat on the opposite side.
2. RDL + row
- Stand with your feet hip-width apart and knees slightly bent. Hold one dumbbell in each hand, and place them in front of hips with palms facing thighs.
- Keeping your spine neutral and your shoulder blades squeezed together, hinge at your hips and send them back.
- Keeping the dumbbells close to your body, lower them down so they are in front of your shins.
- With your back flat and torso at a 45-degree angle, keep your core engaged.
- Row the dumbbells towards your hips, squeezing your shoulder blades together at the top, then lower them back down with control.
- Drive through your heels to fully extend your hips and knees to drive back to the starting position, squeezing your glutes at the top, but not thrusting so far that your back overextends.
3. Reverse lunge knee drive
- Stand with feet shoulder-width apart, holding your dumbbells on your shoulders.
- With your right foot, step back about one and a half times your normal stride length, landing with the ball of that foot on the ground and your heel up
- Lower your back knee until it gently grazes the floor, creating a 90-degree angle in your front leg.
- Push through the heel and mid-foot of the front leg to return to standing and drive your knee up.
4. Sumo squat front raise
- Hold both dumbbells in front of you with your palms facing down. Stand with your feet slightly wider than shoulder-width apart, your weight evenly distributed and your toes turned out.
- Keep your core tight and chest tall as you inhale, bend your knees, and sink your hips down until your thighs are parallel to the floor. At the same time, bring your arms down so they are parallel with your torso.
- As you stand up, raise the dumbbells back to eye level without using momentum.
5. Curtsy lunge lateral raise
- Stand with your feet hip-width apart, with a dumbbell in each hand, arms by your sides, palms facing inwards.
- Take a big step back with your right leg, crossing it behind your left. Bend your knees and lower your hips until your left thigh is nearly parallel to the floor.
- As you take that big step, lift the dumbbells out to the sides with straight arms, going no higher than shoulder height.
- Lower the dumbbells back to the starting position with control as you return to standing from the curtsy lunge.
6. Shoulder press
- Kneel with a dumbbell in each hand. Bend your elbows at 90 degrees with the dumbbells at ear level and your palms facing forward.
- Now straighten your arms and press the dumbbells towards the ceiling, then slowly return to the start and stop once your elbows and arms are at 90 degrees.
7. Glute bridge with skull crusher
- Lie flat on your back, with your knees bent, and feet flat on the floor. Your feet should be hip-width apart. Hold your dumbbells directly above you with palms facing inwards.
- On an exhale, squeeze your glutes and push your heels into the floor to lift your hips up towards the ceiling. As you pause for a moment at the top, bring your arms down so that your dumbbells come down just behind your shoulders.
- Bend your elbows to lower the dumbbells towards either side of your head.
- Slowly lower back down (first shoulders, then lower back, then bum) to the mat.
8. Crunch with extension
- Lie flat on your back holding one dumbbell with both hands above your chest. Brace your core and raise your legs off the floor.
- As you lower your legs towards the floor, simultaneously take the dumbbell back behind your head.
- Bring the dumbbell back over your chest towards your shins as you lift your legs and crunch upwards.
9. Weighted dead bugs
- Lie flat on your back on the floor or a mat and try to get as much of your spine in contact with the ground surface as you can. Think about making a double chin, and lifting up your belt buckle.
- Holding both your dumbbells, raise your arms straight up towards the ceiling, and bend your hips and knees to 90 degrees to create a ‘table top’ with your shins.
- Without any part of your spine losing contact with the floor, reach your left arm up above your head and extend your right leg.
- Push through your heel and pull your toes back towards you as you extend, imagining you’re standing on that leg.
- Exhale fully as you reach the end of the movement.
- Without allowing your heel to touch the floor, slowly return to the setup position.
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Hannah Bradfield is a Senior Health and Fitness Writer for Women’s Health UK. An NCTJ-accredited journalist, Hannah graduated from Loughborough University with a BA in English and Sport Science and an MA in Media and Cultural Analysis. She has been covering sports, health and fitness for the last five years and has created content for outlets including BBC Sport, BBC Sounds, Runner’s World and Stylist. She especially enjoys interviewing those working within the community to improve access to sport, exercise and wellness. Hannah is a 2024 John Schofield Trust Fellow and was also named a 2022 Rising Star in Journalism by The Printing Charity. A keen runner, Hannah was firmly a sprinter growing up (also dabbling in long jump) but has since transitioned to longer-distance running. While 10K is her favoured race distance, she loves running or volunteering at parkrun every Saturday, followed, of course, by pastries. She’s always looking for fun new runs and races to do and brunch spots to try.
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How ‘exercise snacking’ can help you stay on track in winter
How many times have you snoozed the alarm lately or skipped out completely on exercise because of the cold?
It’s not fun dragging yourself out of a warm bed or finishing the day working out in the dark, but experts say the benefits of staying active in winter outweigh the discomforts.
Here are their tips to help you stay on track and which exercise is right for you if you are just starting out.
Reframing our thinking around exercise
Reframing why we exercise can be a helpful first step, according to Associate Professor Shelley Keating, from the University of Queensland’s School of Human Movement and Nutrition Sciences.
“People often say, ‘I just don’t really do much exercise during winter, but I pick it up again’,” says the clinical exercise physiologist based in Brisbane/Meanjin.
“[But] if you’re taking a medicine for something, you wouldn’t take a break, it’s important for your health and wellbeing.
“The benefits of exercise are so profound, [so] try and really think of it in that way.“
Experts recommend being organised the night before to remove opportunities for excuses. (Supplied: Pexels)
She says exercise should be about “health gain”, not weight loss.
“Even just the impact on mood during winter, it can make you feel so invigorated and great.”
Why it’s important to ‘double down’ in winter
Brisbane-based exercise physiologist and dietician Cam McDonald says there are several changes that can happen in our body during winter, which makes it important to keep moving.
These can include:
- Weight gain
- Insulin resistance
- Higher cholesterol
- Higher blood pressure
“Doing exercise that suits your body improves glucose regulation; it improves the type of cholesterol that’s being produced, or at least how it’s being used,” he says.
“It improves your blood pressure [and] your immune system.
“So even just going for a walk will improve your immune function.”
Dr McDonald says avoiding exercise during the colder months may actually “unwind” your fitness faster than other times.
“The physiological changes that you’re going through might accelerate a decline in health a little bit faster at this time, than you might see other times of year,” he says.
For these reasons, he says “winter is a really good time to double down rather than to take the foot off the gas”.
‘Exercise snacking’ and trying different times
With shorter daylight hours, time is one of the biggest challenges to continuing and sustaining exercise, says Dr Keating.
If you’re struggling during winter, she recommends assessing where you can fit the exercise in and prioritising it as a key part of your daily routine.
“Whether you can just switch the hours up, maybe do it in your lunch break if you’ve got the capacity,” she says.
Dr McDonald says while some people “thrive” with early morning training research shows many “perform at their strongest from around about 11am onwards”.
“If you’ve got this natural tendency to not want to get out of bed first thing in the morning and you actually feel better in the afternoon, you should definitely follow your body with that.”
Cam McDonald says even low-impact exercise such as walking can improve your immune function. (ABC News: Luke Bowden)
Another strategy Dr Keating recommends is “exercise snacking“, where you break up exercise into smaller pieces throughout the day.
“You don’t need to be running a marathon every day,” she says.
“You can think about it like ‘every hour I’m going to get up and do, maybe 10 to 15 minutes of squats, some calf raises, some push-ups.
“I work in a building where I’ve got five flights of stairs, so I might go up and down the stairs and that gets my heart rate up.”
Make exercise social and inviting
To make exercise feel more inviting, Dr Keating recommends changing some of your exercise to home workouts.
“Bring exercise equipment in from the cold garage, get it in front of the TV, somewhere where it’s welcoming to actually do that sort of exercise.”
Dr McDonald also recommends opting for indoor workouts, for example, at a gym.
“[A gym] gives you a whole lot of variety to, if you don’t feel really [motivated], you can go for a walk or a cross train.”
“If you are starting out exercise, you’re going to get some sort of help there that’s going to make it safer for you to engage.”
Erin Wait runs outdoor group fitness classes on the Sunshine Coast. (Supplied: Erin Wait)
Making exercise a social activity is another great way to help with consistency and accountability.
Personal trainer Erin Wait runs outdoor group training classes on the Sunshine Coast on Kabi Kabi lands.
Ms Wait says exercising with others can help keep you on track.
“The number one thing is community … you’re essentially showing up for others.”
Reducing barriers and removing pressure
Ms Wait recommends “reducing barriers’ to morning sessions by getting organised in advance.
“A lot of our clients, they’ll get all their clothes out the night before, some actually even sleep in their clothes,” she says.
“They pre-book their sessions in, so when you wake up in the morning and it is dark and cold, you’ve already removed all those little opportunities of excuses and all you have to do now is go.”
Dr Keating agrees. She recommends having your clothes and bag ready the night before, dressing in layers and warming up at home before you head out the door.
Ms Wait uses the concept of “high and low seasons” to help remove the pressure around exercise in winter.
“Your high seasons are spring and summer, those barriers are kind of gone, we’re training a bit more and it’s a lot easier,” she says.
“Then maybe in winter, rather than chasing [personal bests] or training four times a week, we kind of lower the expectations a little bit.
“Maybe you’re going to train twice a week over the next two months and you’re just there to move your body.”
Choosing exercise you enjoy makes it easier to do
The best type of exercise is one that you’ll do long term because you enjoy it, says Dr Keating.
“For some people that might be Bollywood dancing, for others that might be hiking, some people love going to the gym, others don’t,” she says.
“Don’t try something you know you’re not going to like because it’s not going to be sustainable.“
This article contains general information only. You should consider obtaining independent professional advice in relation to your particular circumstances.
Fitness
How Jackass Star Chris Pontius’ Simple ‘1-Rep’ Rule Keeps Him Jacked at 51 – and Why it’s so Effective
You might know Chris Pontius as ‘Party Boy’ from the Jackass films and TV series that defined the early 2000s. Now 51, he’s back on our screens for Jackass: Best and Last, the fifth and final instalment in the franchise. Away from the stunts, though, Pontius has also become an unlikely source of practical fitness advice, regularly sharing workouts from his home gym.
In a recent Instagram Reel, he shared: ‘I have a very simple exercise tip for people who are having trouble getting motivated to exercise. Just lift the weight one time, do one rep, one push-up, whatever it is, and once you’ve started you kind of go, “Well, I might as well just keep going”.’
‘So try it, it’s worked for me every time and it’ll probably work for you,’ he says.
The advice is grounded in behavioural science. By taking one small step towards your workout, you’re more likely to overcome the initial mental resistance because the task feels more achievable. Once you’ve started, it’s far easier to build momentum and complete the rest of your session.
Our Fitness Director Explains Why This Method Works
‘There’s a bit of science behind this, too,’ says Andrew Tracey. ‘Behaviour-change researchers have looked at “all-or-nothing thinking” around exercise – basically, the idea that if you can’t do the full session, exactly as planned, you may as well sack it off completely. Giving yourself permission to do the smallest possible version of the workout is a way around that.
‘Tell yourself you’re only doing the warm-up. Or one round. Or five minutes. You’re allowed to stop there. But often, once you’ve started, you realise the hard part wasn’t the workout itself. It was getting going. Research also shows that the way a workout feels can affect whether you come back for more. So a small win that feels doable is almost always better than the perfect session you never start. So while the “minimum dose” might feel like a cop-out, it could actually be a way in.’
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