Hawaii
Every Time I Visited Hawaii, I Got Divorced
In March 2011, I stood exterior the door of my buddy’s backyard condo in Maui deeply respiratory within the contemporary ocean breeze drifting into the yard. I used to be considering how I’d ended up there with out my husband earlier than ducking again inside for a gathering with my friends.
On the time, I used to be married to somebody who didn’t wish to journey. He most well-liked to remain at dwelling again in Chicago and watch TV or restore Vespas. I, alternatively, appreciated to get out and discover. We have been glad, however life collectively was not overly thrilling, seemingly as a result of we married too younger, and I didn’t know precisely what I wished but out of a husband. Regardless, I used to be content material being away from dwelling on a brand new journey with my pals.
Two months later, my life was in shambles. My then-husband and I sat in a pile of our belongings in our eating room within the suburbs, bartering for objects as we labored by means of a divorce. “You possibly can take the silverware, however I would like the mattress,” he advised me. “Silverware isn’t value an total mattress,” I responded. I spent the subsequent few months dumping 1000’s of {dollars} right into a lawyer’s account as my soon-to-be ex-husband dodged the method server in a fruitless try and keep away from our divorce.
Quick-forward to February 2018. I used to be remarried to a musician. We’d been collectively for nearly six years, traveled after we might, and spent a giant chunk of time aside due to my profession as a journey author. I needed to return to Hawaii that month for work. No pals allowed. I spent my days interviewing surfers and my evenings writing in my journal on the balcony of my beachside lodge room.
One thing felt off, however I couldn’t fairly pinpoint it. In my journal, I referenced my earlier journey to Hawaii. I wrote about how I started contemplating divorce from my Vespa-loving husband. I contemplated the aftermath of my earlier marriage and acknowledged one thing was additionally incorrect with my present one. “I’m not saying I wish to get divorced now as a result of I don’t,” I wrote on the time. “However one thing about being right here makes me introspective, and I notice now that I’m not sad, however issues are … heavy. And that’s arduous.”
Shortly after I returned dwelling, I used to be within the slog of one other separation. My new ex had disappeared whereas I used to be out of city. We’d lately talked about having youngsters, and he advised me I used to be scaring him by bringing it up. The subsequent factor I knew, he and my cat have been gone, residing in Minnesota along with his mistress. The wrongness I felt in Hawaii wasn’t simply that he was dishonest. I used to be slowly realizing I’d additionally been intensely gaslit in addition to verbally and emotionally abused. The journeys I used to be taking in rapid-fire succession for work and with pals have been unconscious makes an attempt to get away from the ache.
After he left, I used to be in a half-empty home in Wisconsin, once more dumping 1000’s of {dollars} into a brand new lawyer’s checking account. On the opposite facet of that divorce, I got here to the one logical conclusion: I’m cursed. I believed that I ought to by no means go to Hawaii once more after I’m in a relationship as a result of each time I do, I get divorced.
On my preliminary journey to Maui, I took some black sand from a seaside again dwelling with me. Maybe that did it? Perhaps I’ve angered the volcano gods, and their revenge is to steal each partner away from me? It’s Jen versus the Volcano. I’d like to return that sand to Maui, however I don’t wish to endure yet one more breakup.
My present companion (we’re engaged; please be good, Hawaii) is aware of all in regards to the curse. He’d love to go to Hawaii with me, however I refuse. I already know the way it’ll go: We’ll be married by the point we go, then come dwelling, and instantly file paperwork. It’s destiny. He says that as a result of I went with out my spouses the earlier two occasions, touring with him will really break the curse. It’s a stunning, optimistic thought. Nevertheless, I’m not ready to take the prospect. I actually like this one.
The superstitious facet of my character blames my two disastrous marriages on Hawaii. In the end, I do know it’s not a tropical paradise’s fault that I received divorced twice. I used to be merely in quickly failing relationships and didn’t wish to admit it. But the attractive islands of Hawaii had a means of forcing me to confront my points.
On every journey, I unexpectedly spent plenty of time fascinated with the state of my marriages. I relate to water and the ever-changing, consistently shifting landscapes that kind the islands. They resonate in my soul. Because the waves are available and crash to shore, I really feel grounded within the drifting sand that the ocean pulls again because the water recedes. The method jogs my memory of the transient nature of life and conjures up me to consider my future — nevertheless lengthy I’ve left — and what I want from life. Then, I convey these emotions dwelling for deep-as-the-ocean conversations about my life with the folks I really like.
After my first go to to Hawaii, I acknowledged that I had an intense want to discover the world and that communication was severely missing in my marriage. I used to be ending faculty on the time and wished to do a semester overseas, however my then-husband wouldn’t permit it, hanging down the thought with none dialogue. I sulked for weeks earlier than my trip and by no means mentioned a single phrase to him about it. I imagine we have been too younger to have a completely grownup relationship, one thing I spotted on that doorstep in Maui.
I got here dwelling with desires of youngsters and the looming prospect of a geriatric being pregnant following my second go to. I used to be diving headfirst into my late 30s. At that time, my organic clock was ticking each day proper in entrance of my face. The desk of youngsters I sat subsequent to throughout my lei-making class on my final day in Honolulu didn’t assist. These youngsters have been annoyingly charming. I wished annoyingly charming. My husband on the time didn’t, and he bailed.
After every divorce, I used to be in a position to finally heal and transfer on. Now, I’m in a very good place with somebody who lastly shares the identical values, passions, and desires. We really feel mutually supported and place excessive significance on honesty and communication. I imagine I’ve a higher-quality relationship due to these two failed marriages. I discovered what I would like — and don’t need — in a companion. I’m not afraid to talk my thoughts, and neither is he. Curse or no curse, I’ve gratitude for my Hawaiian experiences. However I’m nonetheless not planning a visit any time quickly to the islands with my fiancé. As a substitute, we’re going to Antarctica.
Jennifer Billock is a Chicago-based author who has contributed to The New York Instances, Thrillist, Kitchn, Forbes, Psychological Floss, and Smithsonian journal.
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Weather stations are being built across Hawaii to assist in forecasting for extreme flood, fire events
HONOLULU (HawaiiNewsNow) – Researchers at the University of Hawaii at Manoa are working to install a statewide tool to measure the ebb and flow of the atmosphere.
A mesonet is an interconnected network of automated weather stations that measure several atmospheric conditions.
So far, 62 stations have been installed across the island chain by researchers at UH Manoa, and over 100 are planned.
The name of this project is Hawaii Mesonet, which is modeled after similar work in other states. Most notably, the Oklahoma Mesonet assists in monitoring for approaching severe weather and tornadoes on the great plains.
Hawaii, historically, has been sparse in terms of weather data, meaning it is often hard to tell what is happening in more remote parts of the state. With this new mesonet, forecasters and weather models will have a clearer picture when it comes to forecasting the diverse microclimates across the island chain.
The recorded data from the mesonet sites is uploaded into future weather models, providing more information to the computer which results in a higher-quality forecast.
Hawaii News Now had the opportunity to look at one of the newest mesonet stations.
Dr. Thomas Giambelluca, project lead for the Hawaii Mesonet, explained, “The data provided by these stations really revolutionizes our ability to anticipate and prepare for and minimize risk during extreme events such as floods and wildfires.”
This new network is not only a tool for forecasters and emergency managers to protect both life and property; it also assists the agricultural sector of Hawaii.
The new weather monitoring stations also measure soil temperature and moisture, providing invaluable data to farmers across the state.
Giambelluca also emphasized the importance of finding continued funding for this network. He said that the program will be “asking the state Legislature to commit to supporting the remaining amount we need.”
Learn more about the Hawaii Mesonet on Instagram @hiclimateportal.
The collected data is also publicly available here.
Copyright 2025 Hawaii News Now. All rights reserved.
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Nicole Scherzinger Heats Up Hawaii in Tiny Bikini & Sarong
Nicole Scherzinger is doing what she does best — heating things up on her Hawaiian getaway and leaving those January blues in the dust!
The singer was serving up serious beach body goals, rocking a tiny black bikini and sarong cover-up, all while soaking in the stunning ocean views with full confidence.
Nicole was working those angles like a true queen, radiating peace and tranquility in paradise, giving us absolute ferocity in every shot.
ICYDK, Nicole’s part Native Hawaiian and was actually born there… so she was all about recharging and reconnecting with her roots, sharing those chill island vibes on IG.
Of course, Nicole’s bikini game is no surprise — peep the gallery for some of her hottest vacay looks!
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Service members occupy nearly 14% of Oahu rentals, Pentagon says – West Hawaii Today
A new Pentagon report on military housing in Hawaii found that nearly 14% of residential rentals on Oahu are occupied by service members and their families.
The annual defense spending bill passed by Congress contained provisions requiring the secretary of defense to conduct a review of the military’s housing needs and their effects on the local housing market and to provide a report to the House Committee on Armed Services.
The Pentagon’s response was a short, eight-page report. Its executive summary succinctly declares that the report, which cost $76,000, “responds to these provisions.”
U.S. Rep. Jill Tokuda (D- Hawaii), who sits on the Armed Services Committee and authored the provisions requesting the report, was underwhelmed.
“This uninspired report from the Department of Defense confirms what we all knew: that the military has a major impact on our housing supply and the availability of housing that our kama‘aina and families can afford,” she said in a news release Friday. “If the military is going to be a real partner to Hawai‘i and a good neighbor in our communities, then it’s high time to step up, get creative, and deliver real solutions and investments towards the biggest challenge affecting our people.”
There are roughly 48,500 active-duty service members and reservists stationed in Hawaii. While many of Hawaii’s political and business leaders have touted their presence and spending as a boost to the local economy, their influence on the housing market has at times been a subject of fierce debate.
Military housing allowances in some cases give service members and their families an advantage in looking for housing, which some have charged contribute to high rents as local families struggle with rising costs of living.
In 2011, the RAND Corp. prepared a report for the Pentagon on the impact of military spending on Hawaii’s economy and found that while most military housing in Hawaii comprises privatized on-base units, roughly half of active-duty members live off base and typically rent their housing.
The Pentagon’s latest report says that 60% of service members stationed on Oahu today reside on military installations. The report cites 2023 American Community Survey estimates by the U.S. Census Bureau that found that of the 105,868 occupied, private rental units on Oahu, the military estimates that 14,700 are occupied by active-duty service members.
It also found that 2,150 service members own homes on the island.
The report says the Defense Department acknowledges that the size of the active-duty military component of Oahu’s private rental market — 13.86% — “is not negligible,” but also adds “it is difficult to calculate the comprehensive impact on housing supply and rental prices, without accounting for other, potentially confounding factors.” Those factors include the economic incentives of short-term rentals or “the many intangible benefits of military families living in the community, (i.e., all the ramifications of having two largely separated communities).”
According to a cost-benefit analysis in the report, it would cost the military $10.8 billion to build the 13,614 government-owned housing units needed to house 100% of service members in Hawaii on a military installation, not including infrastructure such as roads and electricity to support those homes.
Additionally, the military would have to increase maintenance costs by $170 million annually and utility costs by $90 million, without adjusting for inflation.
Alternatively, the report estimates that if the Defense Department were to turn to privatized military housing for troops currently renting off base, it would require approximately $3.6 billion in additional government equity under the minimum government equity requirements for privatized housing.
In a one-sentence conclusion, the report states the department is committed to working with the state and congressional defense committees to ensure service members and military families have access “to livable communities that provide healthy, functional, and reliable housing now and in the future.”
Not enough, Tokuda said.
“When I requested this report, I expected that the Department would do so with fidelity and come to the table with tangible ideas for these shared challenges,” she said. “This report failed to do that. We must hold the Department accountable to the shared responsibility they have to address our housing crisis and deliver real solutions for our people.”
Military spending and construction has continued to grow in Hawaii as the Pentagon shifts its attention to the Pacific, considered to now be the military’s top priority theater of operations amid tensions with China.
U.S. Rep. Ed Case (D-Hawaii), who sits on the House Appropriations Subcommittee on Defense, said in a statement that the data in the report “clearly heightens the importance” of efforts over the years by Hawaii’s congressional delegation to ensure more military housing on base and fewer service members in the local housing rental market.
But Case also highlighted a report finding that one challenge facing both active-duty service members and nonmilitary residents seeking rental housing on Oahu is that “many private landlords prefer to offer their homes as short-term vacation rentals, thereby decreasing the supply of rental units available to the community.”
“I believe that the continued allowance of widespread short-term vacation rentals and continued inability to fully target illegal vacation rentals, significantly reducing the available supply of private rental units for local residents, is far more of a factor in high housing prices than current servicemember participation in our rental market,” he said.
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