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We thought retiring to Delaware was the right next step. We couldn't have been more wrong.

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We thought retiring to Delaware was the right next step. We couldn't have been more wrong.


We’d always dreamt of owning a beach home for family vacations and weekend getaways, but our budget and the kids’ constantly packed schedules never made it possible.

Then, many years later, as we edged toward retirement and the kids were out of the house, we put the idea back on the table and bought a lovely home in Delaware just a 10 to 20-minute drive from a string of pristine beaches.

The house is in a newly built development dotted with duck-filled ponds and a quick drive to the heart of a quaint historic village filled with restaurants, live music venues, and a sprinkling of art galleries.

My husband spends hours casting off the coastline for striped bass and bluefish, and our neighbors, many newly retired like us, are welcoming and down-to-earth.

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Moving here is one of the best decisions we’ve ever made, but three years in, we’re planning our exit.

We moved from New Jersey

Before Delaware, we’d lived in the same house in the same suburban New Jersey town for more than 15 years.

However, during that time, we’d always felt on the periphery of the social scene, rarely got dinner invites, and found it difficult to make friends.

We both had good jobs and lived a middle-class life, but our roots were blue-collar. My husband was the only person we knew in the area who had not graduated from college.

We longed for a change, a fuller calendar, and a respite from nagging loneliness.

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We weren’t the beach lovers we thought we were

Delaware’s dramatically lower property taxes and more affordable real estate meant less strain on our budget.

We also purchased a newer home, which meant spending less time and money on the endless repairs our 94-year-old colonial in NJ demanded.

Despite the benefits, homesickness has been impossible to shake.

We miss living a short 20 to 30-minute drive from our family who are still in Jersey. And while the small village we live near is nice, it’s just that — small.

We prefer being closer to the hustle and bustle of New York City with its diverse neighborhoods, major museums, and vibrant theater and music scenes, all of which we frequented often while in New Jersey.

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We’ve also realized we weren’t the beach lovers we thought we were. Going to the beach had once been a treat. Now, we easily take it for granted, which makes it less special.

Plus, traffic jams and packed beaches in season make getting there a headache and a sweaty nailbiter, with parking lots at capacity by 8:30 a.m.

The noise, the grind of cars, and the lines snaking out of seemingly every coffee bar and lunch spot conspire to make a summer day about as relaxing as a full-throttle city commute.

We also miss our hikes through the small mountain range that was minutes away from our NJ house. The flat, bleached terrain without a hill in sight just isn’t the same.

To get that outdoorsy experience now, we must drive 90 minutes north, on a dismal, nerve-jangling highway.

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We feel like part of a community here, which has been the greatest gift

Welcome mats for pickleball teams, girls’ nights, potlucks, and a dizzying number of groups and clubs have made it easy to build friendships both casual and close.

Unfortunately, we are too homesick for the area we left to feel truly relaxed. It is as if we are at a terrific party — great to be invited, but not to stay indefinitely.

The gift of these friendships has given us a sense of belonging that had always been just out of reach in our old neighborhood, and, importantly, a social confidence and insight that will help us choose our next community wisely.

Our turnabout has surprised us, but aging has brought into focus how we want to spend our time, and where. And that’s nearer to the convenience and culture of a major city, steeped in a diverse community, surrounded by varied terrain, and closer to family.

We have learned that retirement decisions can’t always be about money. Sometimes they need to be driven by what enriches the soul.

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Delaware begins spraying to protect against mosquitos ahead of bug season

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Friday was the first day of spring, and in Delaware, it was also the first day of spray flights to protect against those pesky mosquitos.

Officials from the DNREC Fish and Wildlife said that winter’s deep freeze snow and ice delayed mosquito’s hatching, but the bloodsuckers are still expected to come out in full force.

“They were just delayed in their hatching because of the cold temperatures,” said Tom Moran, of DNREC Fish and Wildlife. “But we documented the first hatching in late February, and now they’re advancing to the point that it’s the best time to treat them.

Mosquitos are not only annoying bugs that can leave scratchy bumps on people’s skin, but they are also a danger because of the diseases they carry.

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“Mosquitos are not only a nuisance, but they can be dangerous too because of the diseases they carry,” said DNREC Secretary Greg Patterson.

State helicopters flew up and sprayed over pooled water in wooded areas on Friday. According to officials, this is the best place to fight skeeters now, but they will adapt their strategies as the year rolls on depending on temperatures and rainfall.

“We can look at a ten day rain forecast,” Moran said. “We can look at when the marshes are going to flood with the tide lunar cycles. It gives us a little indication.”

In Delaware, the state handles big areas and if residents call them they’ll even treat public areas near your neighborhood, but they will not take care of people’s private yards.

To keep your home safe from mosquitos, avoid keeping standing water around such as in tires, kiddie pools and gutters. Use repellent and citronella as well.

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Delaware County crossing guard resigns after attack in Darby Borough, Pennsylvania

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Outrage is growing after a school crossing guard was punched and knocked unconscious in front of children earlier this week in Delaware County, Pennsylvania.

Darby Borough police said the guard was chased and attacked Monday afternoon while helping students cross the street after school. A driver got out of his car and targeted her after he became angry about having to wait, officials said.

The victim worked for Safe Corridors, a volunteer-driven nonprofit founded in 2012 that provides school support and mentoring. Risa DeSilva-King, the nonprofit’s chief of operations, said Safe Corridors employs about 60 crossing guards across the city of Chester, the borough of Darby and the borough of Sharon Hill.

DeSilva-King said the victim is traumatized and has resigned because she no longer feels safe.

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“This is the first time we’ve had a crossing guard intentionally assaulted by a member of the community,” DeSilva-King said. “We were completely shocked, disgusted and dismayed.”

Now, the person stepping into that role said the job feels more dangerous than ever.

“I gotta be visual,” Larry Cottrell, the new crossing guard at the intersection, said. “I gotta constantly look around, my surroundings.”

He’s now working at the same Darby Borough intersection, South 6th and Walnut streets, where the attack happened. Cottrell said the attack is troubling.

“It wasn’t right for the kids to see something like that,” he said.

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In response to the attack, Safe Corridors is now working with state Sen. Anthony Williams’ office on proposed legislation that would classify crossing guards as first responders and require a minimum sentence for anyone who assaults them.

“I think the job of a crossing guard can be pretty dangerous, especially depending on the community where that crossing guard is working,” DeSilva-King said.

The organization is also reevaluating safety measures.

“One of the things I learned is that supplying the crossing guards with walkie talkies would be a great start, so they can call in for help,” Jonathan Abdur-Rahim King, the founder of Safe Corridors, said.

DeSilva-King said Safe Corridors provides monthly professional development to its crossing guards and safety advocates.

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“I have always instructed our crossing guards to maintain their professionalism,” DeSilva-King said. “That includes not going back and forth verbally with aggressive drivers because that can escalate a situation. Based on my interactions with this crossing guard, as well as my review of the video, this crossing guard was not aggressive with the driver verbally or otherwise. And so this attack was totally unprovoked.”

After school dismissal on Thursday, people in Darby showed support with kind words and appreciation.

“Crossing guards are very valuable to the community,” Tiffany Spisak from Colwyn said. “Not a lot of people respect stop signs, so it’s very important to have crossing guards out there just to make sure the kids are safe.”

Cottrell said he’s prepared if the suspect returns.

“I’ll be waiting for him,” Cottrell said. “If he comes at me like that, I’m going to defend myself.”

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Police are asking for the public’s help identifying the suspect. Sen. Williams’ office is offering a $5,000 reward for information leading to an arrest and conviction.

“Increasingly in our society standards of respect and dignity are collapsing, for a man to hit a woman who is at least six to seven inches shorter and probably close to 100 pounds lighter,” Williams said. “I thought the suspect was cowardly in how he ran away. We need to send a message to a generation that possibly thinks it’s OK to do that, that they need to rethink how they handle their frustrations and how they approach people they have difference of opinions with.”



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‘Clanker’ balls to the rescue again: DelDOT installs orange balls to protect bridge

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‘Clanker’ balls to the rescue again: DelDOT installs orange balls to protect bridge


Today marks the first day of March Madness.

As basketballs are bouncing all across America, one road in Delaware has some new orange balls hanging from the sky to keep drivers and infrastructure safe.

The Chapel Street Railroad Bridge in Newark is only 12 feet tall and since 2005 there have been 60 reported incidents where trucks have gotten stuck under the bridge.

Every bridge strike could mean a major disruption on the busy rails that run through town.

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“Clanker” balls were installed on the north side of the bridge and the south side balls will go up soon.

The clankers are a series of bright orange and heavy-duty plastic balls that hang at the clearance height down the street before the bridge.

The bridge will also get the same treatment as nearby Casho Mill Road with clankers, sensors, lights and a lot of warning signs.

Casho Mill Road was Delaware’s most frequently hit bridge but crashes have gone down significantly since the balls were installed in 2022.

DelDOT says their clankers at Milford and Delaware Park have worked well but it’s not perfect.

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There have been instances where people driving trucks will hit the balls, slow down, look to see what happened but then continue to drive under the bridge anyway.

One popular theory among some is that a few of the strikes are by University of Delaware students who are moving in or out and they are not used to driving rental box trucks.

The clanker balls have been so successful in Delaware that other states have asked DelDOT about their creative solution.

Another set of clankers is scheduled to go up at Low Rail Bridge in Newport.

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