Lifestyle
Tiny Love Stories: ‘I Really Didn’t Want to Hurt Her’
To Honor Our Personal Tastes
Durian. It’s love or hate with this fruit. In my household, solely Grandma and I have been followers. Due to its pungent odor, my relations with milder tastes made a home rule: Durian have to be consumed within the parking zone or playground, by no means indoors. Indignant and banished, I discovered consolation in Grandma’s solidarity. Collectively, we’d wolf down the divisive fruit, reveling in its robust style and frozen flesh. Now, at any time when I really feel outcast, my fellow durian warrior evokes braveness. I keep in mind wanting up at Grandma, chowing down in Hong Kong’s sweltering warmth with a glad smirk, honoring her personal style. — Jocelyn Ming Hei Chan
Laundry Remedy
The day after an ill-fated second date, I referred to as my little brother as I lay in mattress, despondent, in my dingy faculty residence. “I don’t have time to return residence and do laundry immediately,” I stated. “Oh, and I met somebody.” My brother, Felix, listened quietly to my stock of hesitations: She favored me greater than I favored her. She wished dedication. She lived across the block, and I actually didn’t need to harm her. A pause. My brother stated, “You may have time for one load. I’ll come get you.” His pragmatic, light love is excellent. — Ione Madsen Hardy
Going Off Script
Being in an abusive relationship is like performing in a play with an erratic director. The script they write unfailingly serves them, affirms them and diminishes you. If you happen to break character (say, hang around with mates or transfer a houseplant with out asking), they’ll make you pay. So, daily, you rise up and improvise to the very best of your potential. Day after day of improv, all in service of upholding their narrative and avoiding their wrath. Till, maybe, you determine to discover a accomplice who will write a narrative with you, not for you. — Drew Lindgren
‘I Wasn’t Trying For Romance’
Hugh wept speaking about his late spouse, his greatest pal. After that first grief assist session, I stated to my co-facilitator, “I don’t suppose Hugh will probably be again.” However he got here, all eight weeks. He referred to as it a category, although we saved reminding him it wasn’t. I bumped into him months later. I wasn’t searching for romance, however I instructed him about my swing dance classes. He requested if he might be a part of; he was such a very good dancer. A decade later, politics divide the nation. We’re in reverse camps. We will’t watch the information collectively, however we are able to dance. — Eileen Vorbach Collins
Lifestyle
Winter Fashion in NYC: Cheerful Clothes for Dreary Weather
Snow hasn’t been the only noticeable element filling New York City streets this winter. Cheerful colors — the kinds often associated with spring or summer palettes — have been a component of many outfits that caught my eye over the past few weeks, a refreshing surprise in a season known for blacks and grays.
Other ensembles stood out for their symmetry: People wearing complementary diamond-quilt jackets, for example, or twin earmuffs. The most notable outfits looked nearly identical and reminded me of the various matching ensembles I encountered on the streets of Japan not long ago. While friends or family members’ buying similar things may not be a new concept, dressing in sync — particularly now, when so much focus is paid to personal style — seems more novel.
Lifestyle
5 easy exercises for your shoulders and chest to alleviate desk job aches and pains
Prolonged desk work can lead to musculoskeletal problems ranging from continual pain to injuries. This month, we launched a six-part series showing you how to stretch and strengthen your body to prepare them for marathon sitting sessions at your desk. We’ll roll out a new exercise routine that focuses on alleviating desk job-related woes for a different area of the body each week.
Last week we published exercises for the head and the neck. This week we’re tackling the shoulders and chest.
To learn more about how sitting affects the body, and why these exercises are important, read our first piece in the series.
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A routine for your shoulders and chest
When you sit at a desk all day, it’s common for your shoulders and chest to round forward. As we type, the shoulders pull in and together. Consequently, the front of the body — the pecs — tighten up and the back of the shoulders get over-stretched. All of this can lead to pain in the back of the shoulder and shoulder blades, as well as tightness and sensitivity in the chest, among other issues.
Do these exercises to help stretch and strengthen the muscles in your shoulders and chest. They’re demonstrated by trainer Melissa Gunn, of Pure Strength LA, whose team trains desk workers on how to protect their bodies through exercise.
- Roll your shoulders forward 10 times, then backward 10 times, to relieve tension.
- Place your palms at a 90-degree angle on both sides of a doorway and step forward with one foot. Hold for 30 seconds, feeling a pec stretch. Incrementally move your arms up slightly and lean in to deepen the stretch.
- Do these push-up exercises in stages, as you get stronger: first against a wall, then against a bench or a desk and, finally, on the floor. Face a wall and place your hands on the wall at chest height. Step back about 2-3 feet so you are at an angle. Do a push-up against the wall, keeping your arms and elbows straight and drawing your shoulder blades together as you drop your chest. Perform 8-12 repetitions.
- Stand straight with your right arm hanging next to your right leg. Move your arm up and to the side, stopping at shoulder height, as if half of the letter “T.” Then slide it forward, keeping it straight and at shoulder height. Then slide it all the way to the left, and grab your right elbow with the crook of your left arm to pull it in even further. Hold for 1-2 seconds. Repeat on the other side. Do 5-10 times on each side.
- Start in a seated or standing position. Lace your fingers together and stretch your arms up toward the ceiling. Take a deep breath as you reach up as high as you can (keeping your neck relaxed). Lean to the left, then the right, to stretch your sides. Return to center and exhale, opening your arms and sweeping them back down. Repeat 5-10 reps on each side of your body.
(Exercises came from Dr. Joshua T. Goldman, UCLA sports medicine; Melissa Gunn, Pure Strength LA; Tom Hendrickx, Pivot Physical Therapy; Vanessa Martinez Kercher, Indiana University-Bloomington, School of Public Health; Nico Pronk, Health Partners Institute; Niki Saccareccia, Light Inside Yoga.)
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Street Style Trend of the Week: Clashing Prints
Jeffrey Bernick, 41, in his numerous patterns and prints, was impossible to ignore as he was walking on Fifth Avenue in the Flatiron district of Manhattan on a Saturday in December.
Mr. Bernick, a costumer for TV shows and films, said he was on his way to Trader Joe’s and had just been browsing the selection of clothes and accessories at the nearby Filson store. He described the outfit he was wearing as cozy and having an “upstate vibe.”
“I spend most of my days surrounded by tons of clothing and lots of creatives that all have their personal style,” Mr. Bernick said. “I feel I take inspiration from them and vice versa. We get to play all day and put things together that you may not have thought would work, but look amazing onscreen.”
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