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It All Started With a Ouija Board
Laura Marie Acker was visiting her mother in Lewes, Del., in June 2023, when she joined a group of her mom’s friends for a Ouija board night. “During the session, my father came through via letters and numbers with a surprising message,” Ms. Acker said. “I would be engaged in 2024.”
When she tried Ouija again five months later, she said another message from her father, who had died in 2016, advised her to keep going to church. “I thought the whole thing was crazy.”
It was the end of 2023, and Ms. Acker continued to experience an “unsatisfactory dating life” after years of living in Miami and New York before moving to Charleston, S.C., in 2020. “I didn’t hold out much hope because I’ve always dated men with no interest in marriage or family,” she said. “My career was a priority.”
Things changed in April when Ms. Acker, 39, met Evan Alexander Menscher, 41, through a friend from her Bible study group in Charleston. Her friend knew Mr. Menscher, a divorced father, through their daughters’ ballet class and quizzed him about his interest in marrying again. The friend felt he and Ms. Acker were a match and introduced them via group text.
After a short phone chat, Ms. Acker and Mr. Menscher met at Bar167 in Charleston later that month. “When I saw Evan sitting on a bar stool, he took my breath away,” she said.
Mr. Menscher, 41, said Ms. Acker was 20 minutes late and wearing a bright yellow dress with her hair pulled back. “I thought she was the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen,” he said. “I was taken aback as we locked eyes.”
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They closed down the bar talking about their life journeys, values, careers, different religions (she is Roman Catholic; he is Jewish) and dreams. “Time stood still,” she said. “I felt my father’s spirit had a role in guiding Evan to me.”
After a parting kiss, she quickly texted her best friend from college to say, “I might have met my husband.”
Mr. Menscher called his sister to tell her, “I’m going to marry that girl.”
Their second date was a few days later at a pizza party. Ms. Acker met Mr. Menscher’s 5-year-old daughter and watched as he engaged her in a game of Mr. Napkin Head as everyone roared with laughter. “I thought of the scene in the movie, ‘The Holiday,’” Ms. Acker said, referring to a scene in the 2006 Nancy Meyers film in which Jude Law plays the same game with his two daughters.
She later called Mr. Menscher to say it was as if she ordered the perfect boyfriend and his adorable daughter on Amazon and they arrived at her doorstep. “You better not return us,” he replied.
Mr. Menscher, who was born in New York City and raised in South Brunswick, N.J., has a bachelor’s degree in kinesiology and exercise science from High Point University, and a master’s degree in cellular and molecular biology from East Carolina State University. He works as a remote enterprise account executive at Zoom.
Ms. Acker was born in Raleigh, N.C., and raised in Clifton, Va., and holds a bachelor’s degree in marketing and hospitality from Florida State University. She is an executive vice president of Kreps PR & Marketing, based in Coral Gables, Fla., overseeing the firm’s southeast office in Charleston.
While they enjoyed dinners, movies and boating picnics, there was one early source of tension: different dog-parenting styles. Ms. Acker’s 1-year-old dog Sawyer, a spirited rescue Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, had the run of the house, including a seat at the dinner table begging for food. Mr. Menscher, who grew up with dogs and had two during his previous marriage, is more of a disciplinarian.
“Evan uttered a negative comment about Sawyer’s behavior under his breath, and I got angry, rushing to Sawyer’s defense,” she said. They talked about it and their first fight was resolved.
On Sept. 22, while the couple and Sawyer were enjoying a sunset beach walk on nearby Sullivan’s Island, Mr. Menscher got down on one knee and proposed. “I was so surprised I jumped in his arms before saying yes,” Ms. Acker said.
They were married on Jan. 2, in front of a roaring fire at the Farm at Old Edwards Inn in Highlands, N.C. The Rev. Carl Southerland, a priest at St. John’s Episcopal Church in Franklin, N.C., officiated before 10 guests. (Five minutes into the ceremony, his daughter yelled, “Kiss her already!”)
Of their nine-month romance, Mr. Menscher said, “We moved fast because there was never a moment of doubt for either of us.”
Ms. Acker said Mr. Menscher made her feel confident, safe and at peace. “Evan encouraged me to always be honest and transparent,” she added.
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Sunday Puzzle: BE-D with two words
On-air challenge
Every answer today is a familiar two-word phrase or name in which the first word starts BE- and the second word start D- (as in “bed”). (Ex. Sauce often served with tortilla chips –> BEAN DIP)
1. Sinuous Mideast entertainer who may have a navel decoration
2. Oscar category won multiple times by Frank Capra and Steven Spielberg
3. While it’s still light at the end of the day
4. Obstruction in a stream made by animals that gnaw
5. Actress who starred in “Now, Voyager” and “Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?”
6. Two-time Conservative prime minister of Great Britain in the 19th century
7. Italian for “beautiful woman”
8. Patron at an Oktoberfest, e.g.
9. Dim sum dish made with ground meat and fillings wrapped in a wonton and steamed
10. [Fill in the blank:] Something that is past its prime has seen ___
11. Like the engine room and sleeping quarters on a ship
Last week’s challenge
Last week’s challenge came from Robert Flood, of Allen, Texas. Name a famous female singer of the past (five letters in the first name, seven letters in the last name). Remove the last letter of her first name and you can rearrange all the remaining letters to name the capital of a country (six letters) and a food product that its nation is famous for (five letters).
Challenge answer
Sarah Vaughan, Havana, Sugar.
Winner
Josh McIntyre of Raleigh, N.C.
This week’s challenge (something different)
I was at a library. On the shelf was a volume whose spine said “OUT TO SEA.” When I opened the volume, I found the contents has nothing to do with sailing or the sea in any sense. It wasn’t a book of fiction either. What was in the volume?
If you know the answer to the challenge, submit it below by Wednesday, December 24 at 3 p.m. ET. Listeners whose answers are selected win a chance to play the on-air puzzle.
Lifestyle
JoJo Siwa’s Boyfriend Chris Hughes Says He Plans to Propose When Least Expected
JoJo Siwa
Boyfriend Chris Hughes Reveals Engagement Plans …
Gotta Take Her By Surprise!!!
Published
JoJo Siwa and her man Chris Hughes have clearly discussed engagement details … because Hughes dished on a few specifics about a potential proposal.
The singer and beau gave The Sun an update on their relationship Sunday … and, the conversation turned to all things engagement — including the right and wrong time to pop the question.
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In the clip, Hughes says he’s against getting engaged on an obvious milestone day like Christmas for example … claiming it takes away the surprise from the proposal.
JS seemed into the idea … joking that Chris is trying to keep her guessing — though she did give it some thought before stamping the idea with a seal of approval.
However, one nontraditional engagement practice the two won’t participate in is Siwa popping the question to Hughes … because he says he wants to buy the ring and ask her to marry him.
JoJo won’t wait forever though … telling Hughes he’s got seven years to ask her — or she’ll ask him. Clock’s ticking down to 2032!
Anyhoo … keep your head on a swivel, JoJo — because a surprise engagement could be right around the corner!
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When a loved one dies, where do they go? A new kids’ book suggests ‘They Walk On’
Rafael López / Roaring Brook Press
A couple of years ago, after his mom died, Fry Bread author Kevin Maillard found himself wondering, “but where did she go?”
“I was really thinking about this a lot when I was cleaning her house out,” Maillard remembers. “She has all of her objects there and there’s like hair that’s still in the brush or there is an impression of her lipstick on a glass.” It was almost like she was there and gone at the same time.
Maillard found it confusing, so he decided to write about it. His new children’s book is And They Walk On, about a little boy whose grandma has died. “When someone walks on, where do they go?” The little boy wonders. “Did they go to the market to thump green melons and sail shopping carts in the sea of aisles? Perhaps they’re in the garden watering a jungle of herbs or turning saplings into great sequoias.”
Rafael López / Roaring Brook Press
Maillard grew up in Oklahoma. His mother was an enrolled member of the Seminole Nation. He says many people in native communities use the phrase “walked on” when someone dies. It’s a different way of thinking about death. “It’s still sad,” Maillard says, “but then you can also see their continuing influence on everything you do, even when they’re not around.”
Rafael López / Roaring Brook Press
And They Walk On was illustrated by Mexican artist Rafael López, who connected to the story on a cultural and personal level. “‘Walking on’ reminds me so much of the Day of the Dead,” says López, who lost his dad 35 years ago. “My mom continues to celebrate my dad. We talk about something funny that he said. We play his favorite music. So he walks with us every day, wherever we go.”
It was López who decided that the story would be about a little boy: a young Kevin Maillard. “I thought, we need to have Kevin because, you know, he’s pretty darn cute,” he explains. López began the illustrations with pencil sketches and worked digitally, but he created all of the textures by hand. “I use acrylics and I use watercolors and I use ink. And then I distressed the textures with rags and rollers and, you know, dried out brushes,” he says. “I look for the harshest brush that I neglected to clean, and I decide this is going to be the perfect tool to create this rock.”
The illustrations at the beginning of the story are very muted, with neutral colors. Then, as the little boy starts to remember his grandmother, the colors become brighter and more vivid, with lots of purples and lavender. “In Mexico we celebrate things very much with color,” López explains, “whether you’re eating very colorful food or you’re buying a very colorful dress or you go to the market, the color explodes in your face. So I think we use color a lot to express our emotions.”
Rafael López / Roaring Brook Press
On one page, the little boy and his parents are packing up the grandmother’s house. The scene is very earthy and green-toned except for grandma’s brightly-colored apron, hanging on a hook in the kitchen. “I want people to start noticing those things,” says López, “to really think about what color means and where he is finding this connection with grandma.”
Kevin Maillard says when he first got the book in the mail, he couldn’t open it for two months. “I couldn’t look at it,” he says, voice breaking. What surprised him, he said, was how much warmth Raphael López’s illustrations brought to the subject of death. “He’s very magical realist in his illustrations,” explains Maillard. And the illustrations, if not exactly joyful, are fanciful and almost playful. And they offer hope. “There’s this promise that these people, they don’t go away,” says Maillard. “They’re still with us… and we can see that their lives had meaning because they touched another person.”
Rafael López / Roaring Brook Press
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