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Inside L.A.'s invite-only mom group that’s better than Google
At first, Cathlene Pineda was reluctant to join the Atwater Village Moms’ Facebook group.
The jazz pianist and composer doesn’t particularly like Facebook, and she’s wary of online communities. But she acquiesced because, as she put it, “Some other moms were like, ‘You have to be part of this group.’”
After joining in 2021, she realized it had benefits. When she needed a trustworthy mechanic, the Atwater Moms told her who to call. When she was ready to sleep train her baby, they recommended books like “The Happy Sleeper” and “The No-Cry Sleep Solution.” When she went to Vegas, they told her to stay at the Cosmopolitan.
Then, a few months into her membership, she was diagnosed with late-stage breast cancer. She had a 2-year-old and a 4-year-old at home and couldn’t imagine how she would get through the long, involved treatment her doctors prescribed. Not sure what else to do, she turned to the Atwater Moms for help.
“I was expecting what I usually got, which is a few responses,” she said. Instead, more than 90 women commented on her post. They shared lists of specialists and free resources, including how to sign up for meal services and get a one-time cash grant. But for Pineda, their validation helped the most.
“Some of the women who commented had gone through this when their kids were the same age as my children and they said, ‘You can do this,’” she said. “I didn’t even really need the advice. I just needed to feel real.”
Founded in 2011 as a way for new mothers in Atwater Village to meet each other, the Atwater Village Mom’s Group has evolved over time to become a crowdsourcing powerhouse with more than 6,000 members scattered across L.A. and around the world. One member in a recent post called it the best advice group on the Internet. Another described it in an interview as “Yelp times 100.”
“Obviously I still Google things, but before I do, I ask myself: ‘Can I ask Atwater Village Moms?’” said Swati Kapila, an actress and mother of a 2-year-old. “People jokingly call it Moogle all the time — Mom Google. It’s mama mutual aid.”
If you have questions about summer camps, the going rate for nannies, the best local preschools or where to go for date night — the Atwater Moms have answers. They’ve helped one another find gifts for their partners, swapped recommendations for the best birthday party parks and compared experiences with pediatricians, dentists and kid barbers. At the same time, they’ve supported each other through life’s biggest challenges, many of which extend far beyond birthing and caring for a child.
Daryl Dickerson, a mother of two who teaches gardening at a charter school, bought a car from a mom in the group. It was the first step in her divorce. When Sharon Sognalian’s apartment rental fell through, the legal staffer and mother of a 12-year-old moved into another member’s back house.
Tanya Reyes, a mother of three who teaches at a school for pregnant and parenting teens in Echo Park, said members of Atwater Moms have donated strollers, car seats and used clothes to her students. Any time she posts her Amazon wishlist to the group, packages soon appear at the school.
“This community has allowed me to serve my community of students,” she said. “It’s moms supporting moms.”
“People jokingly call it Moogle all the time — Mom Google. It’s mama mutual aid.”
— Swati Kapila, Atwater Village Moms member
Reyes has received other types of support from the group as well. When she recently posted about the challenges of getting her “neurospicy” kid out of the house each morning, she got 87 responses. Like Pineda, she said her fellow moms’ solidarity was even more valuable than their advice. “It’s nice to know I’m not crazy, this is really happening.”
Brandi Jordan, a parenting specialist who has worked as a doula for celebrities like Julia Stiles, Mandy Moore and Megan Fox, never expected this kind of communal support when she started Atwater Village Moms back in 2011, soon after Facebook first introduced its groups feature. At the time she was running a boutique called the Cradle Company that catered to Atwater’s moms and babies. Her oldest son, now 16, was just 3.
She and another mom, Leonora Pitts, started the group to connect with other women with babies in the area and to coordinate occasional meet-ups at the park. She’d heard of similar groups on the Westside but didn’t think they would be her vibe. “I’m not trying to figure out how to get my baby’s eyebrows waxed,” she said. “But good on you if that’s your thing.”
Initially Jordan and her co-founder aimed for 25 women to join Atwater Village Moms, but word spread and interest soared. Then they thought the group might top out at 200, but it quickly surpassed that number too. The criteria for joining then were the same as they are now: You must be a parent, identify as female or nonbinary and — though you’re not required to live in Atwater Village, or even L.A. — you must be invited by another member to join. (A discussion about whether men can join the group is ongoing, but for now they remain excluded.)
“This community has allowed me to serve my community of students. It’s moms supporting moms.”
— Tanya Reyes, Atwater Village Moms
Jordan doesn’t have demographic data on the group, but she said that, historically, members tend to be white and affluent and live on the Eastside. But in recent years, there’s been a shift. “We’ve had more women of color joining,” said Jordan, who is Black. “As people have seen it is a safe space, they are sharing with more women of color.”
Atwater Village Moms has gone through different phases over the years. In the early days, discussions centered around places to go with small kids and member meet-ups. As time went on, it grew into a general resource for any question about L.A. and beyond. The posts became more political after the 2016 election and again after what Jordan describes as “the George Floyd era,” when the moms in the group began more openly discussing race.
“It was difficult, but as a group we didn’t give up,” she said. “We have this idea that this place is not safe — it’s brave. We’re going to make mistakes, we’re going to get over it, we’re going to talk about it and we’re going to hear different sides. And we started making rules to support that.”
Before joining, the group members have to agree to a set of rules that includes respecting everyone’s privacy (no screenshotting posts), refraining from hate speech or bullying and abstaining from deleting a post because it’s drawing unwanted comments (this is grounds for removal).
“Anything that affects women and mothers, you can talk about in the group and we don’t limit that conversation,” Jordan said. “But we also tell people you have to understand that people are going to voice opposite opinions and you have to be OK with that.”
Lauren Amaro, a professor of communication at Pepperdine University who has studied online mom groups (and who recently found a general practitioner on a moms Facebook group in Camarillo), said it’s rare for a group the size of Atwater Moms to be seen in such a positive light by its members. These communities can devolve into mom-shaming that is especially painful for new parents.
“The fact that women are willing to trust other women on the internet is both a beautiful and necessary thing and sometimes, depending on the topic and context, unwise,” she said. “There is a really wide range of how these mom groups function.”
Careful moderation, along with clear, consistent rules, can help groups like Atwater Moms thrive, she said.
Liza Sacilioc, a communications specialist who has been a member of the group for more than a decade, said Jordan is a skilled moderator. “Brandi does a really good job seeing people and setting the ground rules without it feeling like a slap on the hand,” she said. “We’re a very respectful group.”
“We have this idea that this place is not safe — it’s brave. We’re going to make mistakes, we’re going to get over it, we’re going to talk about it and we’re going to hear different sides.”
— Brandi Jordan, co-founder and moderator of Atwater Village Moms
Three years after she joined Atwater Moms, Pineda is grateful for all she’s gained as a member. A self-described introvert, she said it wasn’t like her to post about her cancer diagnosis to a group of 6,000 people. But somehow, doing it on Atwater Village Moms felt safe.
“For me to share that, I had to feel that they would respond appropriately and helpfully, and in so many Facebook groups that’s not the case,” she said. “Looking back at some of those comments, they were like: ‘I have no advice, I’m just sending you love and holding you close in my heart.’ That’s it. Everyone was so respectful.”
And today, with her cancer in remission, she often finds herself responding to other women’s questions, whether they’re about cancer, child-rearing or just life in general.
“You want to help someone if you can,” she said. “It takes five minutes to say, ‘This worked for me, I don’t know if it will work for you.’ And also: You’re doing a great job.’”
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Michael Mayo’s ‘Fly’ is a soaring testament to his artistry and creative vision
Michael Mayo’s latest album, Fly, earned the singer-songwriter and composer his first Grammy nominations of his career.
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With the release of his sophomore album, Fly, in October 2024, singer-songwriter and composer Michael Mayo ascended to new artistic heights.
Much like his lauded 2021 debut album, Bones, the Los Angeles-born singer flexed his jazz-influenced musical prowess on Fly, enthusing critics with the album’s floating production, expressive songwriting and its highlighting of his expansive vocal range. The album ultimately landed Mayo his first Grammy nominations of his career, with Fly being nominated for best jazz vocal album and best jazz performance for the album’s track “Four.”
Micheal Mayo’s sophmore studio album, Fly, was the follow-up to his critically acclaimed debut album, Bones.
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In an interview with All Things Considered, Mayo said that his artistry is driven by his focus on remaining true to himself and what he wants to express as a singer.
The track “Four” is a reinterpretation of a Miles Davis tune from the 1950s, which became a jazz standard. In an interview with All Things Considered, Mayo said it’s important to respect and learn traditional jazz music, but merely copying it would go against the vision of the jazz greats, who tried to push the artform to new places. And though Mayo says he’s not consciously trying to modernize jazz, he says leading with authenticity helps him innovate in his music.
“I’m going to make the musical statements that feel the most natural,” Mayo said about his stylistic choices on Fly.
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While speaking to NPR’s Ailsa Chang, Mayo discussed the people who helped make Fly take flight and how he approaches taking artistic risks.
Listen to the full interview by clicking on the blue play button above.
This interview is part of an All Things Considered series featuring first-time Grammy nominees, ahead of the Grammy Awards on February 1.
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There’s a jazz renaissance happening in Los Angeles. Why now?
From top to bottom: Bobby Hutcherson, Dexter Gordon, Esperanza Spalding, Abbey Lincoln, Herbie Hancock and Charles Mingus.
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Backstage at the Blue Note L.A., Herbie Hancock and Wayne Shorter’s widow, Carolina, have come, along with me and a friend, to see Esperanza Spalding between sets one late summer Sunday. The club is new and the dressing room feels more humane than most, like a hotel banquet room. Esperanza makes an altar on the vanity and prepares the space for chanting, a prayer meeting but more unapologetic, ritualistic and communal. We make an impromptu jazz orchestra in clipped Sanskrit, and my mind wanders to the first time I heard this Lotus Sutra, when Tina Turner performed it on CNN’s “Larry King Live,” explaining that it’s how she got into her transcendent mode when she still lived with Ike in Inglewood — her means of escaping him in spirit before she ran away physically. When she finally left, she hid from Ike at Wayne Shorter’s home. With my mind on Turner, I do transcend; I feel so emboldened I could leave anything behind in peace after the session. On the way to the car, we pass Turner’s star on the Walk of Fame. Think it not strange; one perfect improvisation leads to another, jazz music is a way of life, collective improvisation is — one note calls to another, one star lights another. One runner in need of sanctuary clears another’s path, and every jazz club is half house of worship and rebellion that way.
There’s an ongoing jazz renaissance in Los Angeles, one loosely rooted in the genre’s prematurely and cyclically proclaimed death — the same way the city’s celebrities tend to become franchises in the afterlife, worth more dead than alive. Jazz haunts with debts owed to its creators, and has a knack for revivals, collectives, new venues in the old forms, and stalwart clubs revivified by benefactors and grant funding. The West Coast Blue Note to complement the one in New York’s West Village opened on Sunset Boulevard last August, enticing tourists and supper club enthusiasts. Leimert Park’s World Stage just received substantial Mellon funding. There are musicology programs, like the one at UCLA helmed by Herbie Hancock, and local hip-hop producers like Madlib (nephew of a jazz trumpeter) and the Alchemist who have been sampling and looping jazz records until they’re part of a canon beyond themselves.
Why there is renewed interest in the genre now is the question. What about the ecosystem or nervous system of Los Angeles is baiting jazz music out from its malleable shadow into a renewed prominence and even granting it rank in the clout economy? I think it has to do with the genre’s ability to orient and organize social life through collective improvisation, the fact that hip-hop, now in its 50s, is aging out of the night club and needs to highlight its proximity to jazz to reinvent aspects of its image as more subdued and inviting, less reminiscent of Diddy parties and more chanting wholesomely with elders backstage. Ultimately, the desire for a new jazz age is a wish for a new national identity as glamorous and unassailable as old Hollywood. Jazz is diplomatic yet just elitist and gatekept enough to feel like it belongs to the state and the people alike, it’s democratic with hints of classist rhetoric in some of its spheres and jazz is Black music, but that has never stopped borderline-racists from appropriating and loving it.
Jazz lore is concentrated in New York, Chicago and New Orleans, however, and even finds Paris, Antibes, Milan and Tokyo before it settles into the elements of its reputation that include L.A.-born, -raised or -influenced players and scenes. As is common for Los Angeles, the sense of exile and wasteland here makes it an overlooked frontier, a place where new worlds incubate undetected and experts are mistaken for philistines in the glare of year-round sunshine and casualness conflated with lack of rigor. L.A. and its music scenes tend to be fervently, rigorously casual — daylight blinds the spotlight as the preferred illumination for concerts and parties. And we would be right to laugh or clap back more often, retaliating against those towns that take themselves too seriously. If we had a public transportation system that didn’t induce depression, alienation and self-loathing and meaningfully breached the seemingly willful segregation covenants between neighborhoods and zones here, you could take a jazz tour of L.A. that would be heartbreaking in its range. As it is, the durability and versatility of a Los Angeles jazz consciousness depends as much on real estate as on fans and musicians; it’s as territorial and precarious as the land, which burns, trembles or courts dysfunction on a whim indiscriminate of season and somehow remains photogenic and certain of its appeal. There are awards season, fire season and season of the witch, and beneath the intersection of Kendrick and Flying Lotus, of laid-back rap and half-hippie psychedelia, jazz is each season’s encrypted soundtrack, it scores our city.
A roll call of local jazz heroes raised here: There are Charles Mingus and Eric Dolphy in Watts, coming of age together. There’s Dexter Gordon, son of a Black doctor who treated Duke Ellington whenever he was in L.A. One Christmas, Ellington and Dexter’s dad had plans to meet at the Dunbar Hotel on Central Avenue, then the city’s primary jazz mecca, a West Coast version of Manhattan’s 52nd Street, lined with venues and shops carrying an attitude that matched the textures of the music. Dr. Gordon didn’t show; he died that night of a heart attack. Dexter went from sheltered son of a doctor to brooding child hipster who left home early to tour with big bands. There is the It Club, owned by a Black gangster and visited by everyone from Miles to Coltrane to Monk, who recorded an album there. There’s Hampton Hawes, born in L.A. the same year as Dolphy, imprisoned for heroin possession after serving in Japan and eventually pardoned by Kennedy. His style on the piano carries the relaxed tension of a man for whom syncretism comes naturally, East and West, sun and sorrow. Then, there’s Abbey Lincoln, escaping to Los Angeles to pursue theater and film alongside music. There’s Dial Records, founded by Glendale-born Ross Russell, which recorded Charlie Parker and Django Reinhardt. There’s vibraphonist Bobby Hutcherson, trumpeter Don Cherry, and Ornette Coleman, who came through L.A. and worked as an elevator operator while developing bands with locals like Bobby Bradford. I interviewed Bradford a couple months back and he emphasized how modest their band-building had been. Conversations during day jobs at department stores led to woodsheds and studio recordings.
American Jazz musician Ornette Coleman (1930–2015) plays saxophone as he performs onstage at the University of Illinois, Chicago, Illinois, May 1982.
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Portrait of American blues singer Ella Fitzgerald. She is shown posing in a studio in a sequined dress. Undated photo circa 1940s.
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There was less glamour in the way of the making of an avant-garde in L.A., less of a hip reputation at stake, so that these bands ended up innovating more than those in New York in some cases. Horace Tapscott built a whole hyperlocal arkestra exemplary of this freedom. And there’s Chet Baker’s sound, there’s Ella Fitzgerald returning to Beverly Hills, Miles in Malibu, who also delivered his final performance at the Hollywood Bowl. L.A. eventually became a refuge for those who became too famous or comfortable elsewhere, as it still is now. But most of the jazz world ended up moving in the other direction, fleeing to New York and Paris and never looking back as if chasing elite romance, and this was as valid an impulse as chasing the sun. Decades passed, some L.A.-reared jazzmen died young or in middle age, and then the exodus yielded a return, not always physical, but in the spirit of relentlessly laid-back improvisers who refuse to feel inferior to their East Coast counterparts.
In the belly of a whale at a jazz venue in Little Tokyo, early 2014, I gathered with Fred Moten, Kima Jones and others to memorialize Amiri Baraka a week or so after his death. I was visiting from New York at the time, Fred lived here then and taught at UC Riverside, and I emailed the owner of the Blue Whale explaining that we should be on the East Coast at Baraka’s funeral but because we were here, we had to do something to celebrate him, it was urgent. The owner, Joon Lee, responded in kind and gave us a Monday night to improvise our grief; we read Baraka’s poems to one another and told stories. It’s what he might have done if stranded in Los Angeles on the week of his death, or what he would have joined us to do, and had, while alive. A few years later, having moved back to L.A., I went to Blue Whale to see Jason Moran with his band, and it felt close to being back at the Village Vanguard hearing them, close to a real night out. In 2021 Blue Whale closed after the year in the dark we’d all had, leaving jazz in the city barren and institutionally driven. Clubs nationwide were folding, but in L.A., if one or two music venues went under, it meant monopoly by Goldenvoice-owned spaces and well-intentioned hipster havens like Zebulon, gentrifying both neighborhoods and music.
At Zebulon I can see a Black jazz performance and be one of three Black people in the audience. At World’s Stage you can see local acts with a Black crowd but fewer out-of-town groups are invited because it’s exceedingly expensive to fly a band out and lodge them for days for shows. At Catalina’s, an older crowd with less current tastes convenes. At Hollywood Bowl, you have to be ready for an Event, not just a concert or show and not quite a festival. At Sam First, you’re so far into the Westside it feels conniving and like a tech monster might hold you hostage until you give up all your data. At the new Blue Note, you’ll see blockbuster acts in the jazz world but be rushed out to make room for the next set’s crowd as if on a ride called jazz at an amusement park. The wayward party “Jazz Is Dead” has turned the hype of that phrase into a brand that angers so many of the genre’s elders and angels, to sell jazz’s death and displacement back to you as big concerts with legends like Stanley Cowell, Azymuth and Sun Ra’s Arkestra.
The true renaissance is annexed to hidden places and in our collective will to excavate them: house and private parties, venues that go under the radar and book jazz avant-gardists sans fanfare, archival interest in jazz migration to and from Los Angeles, and the fact that more young people want to find ways to hear jazz music in defiance of how they’re told to access it — in backyards and nontraditional venues. The venues are like decoys, real estate ventures that would find a way no matter the acts or genre, it turns out. I cannot be visited by the ghost of Tina Turner by way of Herbie Hancock, Esperanza and the Lotus Sutra while scrolling, and nothing in the live sets will be identical to what’s on their albums even if they play the same songs in name. What’s really making a comeback with unlimited momentum is our collective will toward experiences that can only happen live, which is what makes jazz important beyond any institutional, cultural or regional capture. In a city that feels rigid with concern about its own image projection, jazz is the only music that demands we abandon script.
American jazz musician Don Cherry (1936–1995) plays a pocket trumpet at a World Music Institute ‘Improvisations’ concert at Symphony Space, New York, New York, June 8, 1991.
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