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Hello Stranger: Musings on Modern Intimacies
By Manuel Betancourt
Catapult: 240 pages, $27
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It’s telling that Manuel Betancourt’s new book, “Hello Stranger: Musings on Modern Intimacies,” grounded in queer theory and abolition, takes its title from a line from the 2004 film “Closer,” about two messed-up straight couples.
The choice of “Closer,” “a bruising piece about the rotting roteness of long-term intimacy,” as Betancourt puts it, is an experience familiar to many. 2024 was a year in which marriage, specifically heterosexual marriage, was taken to task. Miranda July’s most recent novel, “All Fours”; Sarah Manguso’s scathing novel “Liars”; nonfiction accounts such as Lyz Lenz’s “This American Ex-Wife”; Amanda Montei’s “Touched Out”; and even the late entry of Halina Reijn’s film “Babygirl” all show that, at the very least, women are unsatisfied with heterosexual marriage, and that some are being destroyed by it.
The straight male experience of sexual promiscuity and adventure is nothing new. It has been well trod in novels by writers such as John Updike and Philip Roth and more recently, Michel Houellebecq. In cinema there are erotic thrillers — think “Basic Instinct,” “Fatal Attraction,” “Eyes Wide Shut” — in which men are the playboys and women the collateral damage. Betancourt tells us that “Hello Stranger” begins in “a place where I’ve long purloined many of my most head-spinning obsessions: the movies.” But this book isn’t interested in gender, or heterosexuality. It’s an embrace of what makes us human, and the ways in which we avoid “making contact.” Betancourt wants to show that the way we relate to others often tells us “more crucially” how we relate “to ourselves.”
Through chapters focused on cinematic tropes such as the “meet cute” (“A stranger is always a beginning. A potential beginning,” Betancourt writes) and investigations of sexting, cruising, friendship, and coupling and throupling, “Hello Stranger” is a confident compendium of queer theory through the lens of pop culture, navigating these issues through the work of writers and artists including Frank O’Hara, Michel Foucault and David Wojnarowicz, with stories from Betancourt’s own personal experience.
In a discussion of the discretion needed for long-term relationships, Betancourt reflects: “One is about privacy. The other is about secrecy. The former feels necessary within any healthy relationship; the latter cannot help but chip away at the trust needed for a solid foundation.” In the chapter on cruising, he explores how a practice associated with pursuit of sex can be a model for life outside the structure of heteropatriarchy: “Making a queer world has required the development of kinds of intimacy that bear no necessary relation to domestic space, to kinship, to the couple form, to property, or to the nation.”
The chapters on cruising and on friendship (“Close Friends”) are the strongest of the book, though “Naked Friends” includes a delightful revisitation of Rose’s erotic awakening in “Titanic.” Betancourt uses the history of the friendship, and its “queer elasticity” using Foucault’s imagining of friendship between two men (“What would allow them to communicate? They face each other without terms or convenient words, with nothing to assure them about the meaning of the movement that carries them toward each other.”) to delve into Hanya Yanagihara’s wildly successful novel, “A Little Life.” He quotes Yanagihara, who echoes Foucault when she says that “her interest in male friendships had to do with the limited emotional vocabulary men (regardless of their race, cultural affiliations, religion, or sexuality—and her protagonists do run the gamut in these regards) have.”
Betancourt thinks about the suffocating reality of monogamy through Richard Yates’ devastating novel of domestic tragedy “Revolutionary Road” (and Sam Mendes’ later film adaptation), pointing out that marriage “forces you to live with an ever-present witness.” In writing about infidelity, he explores Stephen Sondheim’s musical “Company” and quotes Mary Steichen Calderone, former head of Sex Information and Education Council of the United States, in her research on adults who engage in extramarital affairs: “They are rebelling against the loneliness of the urban nuclear family, in which a mother, a father and a few children have only one another for emotional support. Perhaps society is trying to reorganize itself to satisfy these yearnings.” These revelations are crucial to Betancourt’s argument — one of abolition and freedom — that call to mind the work of queer theorists like the late Lauren Berlant and José Esteban Muñoz.
Betancourt ultimately comes to the conclusion popularized by the writer Bell Hooks, which is that amid any discussion of identity comes the undeniable: our humanity. He quotes Hooks’ quotation of the writer Frank Browning on eroticism: “By erotic, I mean all the powerful attractions we might have: for mentoring and being mentored, for unrealizable flirtation, for intellectual tripping, for sweaty mateship at play or at work, for spiritual ecstasy, for being held in silent grief, for explosive rage at a common enemy, for the sublime love of friendship.” There’s a whole world outside the rigid structures we’ve come to take as requirements for living.
“Hello Stranger” is a lively and intelligent addition to an essential discourse on how not only accessing our desires but also being open about them can make us more human, and perhaps, make for a better world. “There could possibly be a way to fold those urges into their own relationship,” Betancourt writes. “They could build a different kind of two that would allow them to find a wholeness within and outside themselves without resorting to such betrayals, such lies, such affairs.” It’s the embrace of that complexity that, Betancourt suggests, gives people another way to live.
When asked how he could write with such honesty about the risk of promiscuity during the AIDS epidemic, the writer Douglas Crimp responded: “Because I am human.” “Hello Stranger” proves that art, as Crimp said, “challenges not only our sense of the world, but of who we are in relation to the world … and of who we are in relation to ourselves.”
Jessica Ferri is the owner of Womb House Books and the author, most recently, of “Silent Cities San Francisco.”
Movie Reviews
Brave the Dark (2025) – Movie Review
Brave the Dark, 2025.
Directed by Damian Harris.
Starring Jared Harris, Nicholas Hamilton, Jamie Harris, Sasha Bhasin, Will Price, Daisy Galvis and Joey Cabrera.
SYNOPSIS:
Haunted by torturous childhood memories, Nate Williams finds himself engulfed in darkness. When his drama teacher, Mr. Deen bails him out of jail and takes him in, Nate must confront his past before it leads to his own destruction.
Based on true events, director Damian Harris’ Brave the Dark follows homeless high school senior Nathan Williams (a leather jacket-sporting bad boy played by Nicholas Hamilton), troubled but kind and caught up in a rebellious crowd, also becoming the only one of that group to be punished for stealing from a home appliances store. Following a rather humiliating arrest at school (an effort to make an example out of his misdeeds), his girlfriend Tina (Sasha Bhasin) decides to step away from the relationship while most of the school faculty deem him a lost cause, relieved that they no longer have to deal with a student they attribute as disrespectful and lazy.
One particularly empathetic teacher isn’t ready to give up, as drama instructor Stan Deen (Jared Harris) steps in to not only try and get Nathan back on a more productive life path but to save him from serving time. Naturally, posting his bail turns out to be difficult, and the situation turns out to be much more dire than he ever imagined once he discovers that Nathan has been living in his car instead of a foster home. Nathan is also momentarily reunited with his strict, hard-edged grandparents, who are more concerned with making him work while also perceiving him as more of a burden than anything. The grandfather especially has a startling lack of empathy regarding some trauma that happened to Nathan’s mother, who died when he was six, cruelly stating that she made mistakes in life and got what was coming to her.
These grandparents clearly aren’t the proper guardians to assist Nathan with his current predicament and personal demons, so the well-meaning Stan goes through the trouble of getting authorization for the boy to live with him while helping turn his life around. It also made clear that Stan is already lonely, having lost his mom roughly a year ago, now living alone. This is not about one man’s loneliness, though, as he is a teacher who genuinely perceives his job as going beyond the classroom, subscribing to the notion that no child is hopeless.
As such, Brave the Dark works when it’s allowing Nicholas Hamilton and Jared Harris to talk, as each character slowly lets their guard down. Understandably, Nathan becomes confused about why Stan is going to such extremes to help change his life for the better, giving the expected problem of child resistance. The two often butt heads with Nicholas Hamilton convincingly portraying these conflicted emotions. Meanwhile, Jared Harris is terrific as a kindhearted soul, occasionally with an amusing dry sense of humor. Whenever they are interacting with one another, the film feels grounded and human.
However, and this could be a result of not only multiple screenwriters in Lynn Robertson Hay, Dale G. Bradley, and Damian Harris but also the fact that this is a script rewritten from the works of the actual Nathan and John P. Spencer, Brave the Dark also has several unnecessary melodramatic flourishes. It starts with flashbacks hinting that there is more to the death of Nathan’s mom than a supposed car accident (offering glimpses of an abusive partner.) Then it continues with Nathan gradually taking on the persona of that father when Tina regularly reaffirms that she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. It’s a situation that only escalates when she quickly starts dating a boy Nathan already doesn’t like without any justifiable reason for doing so.
There are solid thematic ideas and juxtapositions here, but the execution is noticeably weaker and forced compared to the drama that generally feels real and moving from letting Nicholas Hamilton and Jared Harris act. One wonders if the mystery element regarding what really happened to Nathan’s mom fits in this narrative simply because it consistently hurts the storytelling structure. A more restrained approach to that plot element might have been wiser (there are certainly some flashbacks that don’t need to be here) and further elevated some of the revelatory moments and closing speeches.
However, as a film about compassionate teachers going above and beyond whilst showing the impact they can have on a student’s life for the better, alongside an otherwise inspirational and compelling story for Nathan, it’s easy to brave the dark in Brave the Dark. It has flaws but is well-meaning, sincere, and potentially even crucial, considering teachers today are grossly undervalued.
Flickering Myth Rating – Film: ★ ★ ★ / Movie: ★ ★ ★
Robert Kojder is a member of the Chicago Film Critics Association, Critics Choice Association, and Online Film Critics Society. He is also the Flickering Myth Reviews Editor. Check here for new reviews and follow my BlueSky or Letterboxd
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From 'Tigers Are Not Afraid' to 'Sujo,' here are 11 films about the drug war by Mexican directors
Whether you disliked or enjoyed “Emilia Pérez,” the French-produced, Netflix-distributed musical about a Mexican cartel boss who undergoes gender transition, the conversation around it should hopefully inspire you to seek a deeper understanding of the ongoing violence that afflicts Mexico. More than 110,000 people are still missing and thousands more have died as a result of the drug war, with more casualties reported daily.
For the better part of the last two decades, numerous Mexican directors, working in both fiction and documentary, have addressed their country’s situations head-on through their films. We’ve compiled some of the better ones in the list below. A quick note: All but one are available via streaming, video-on-demand or in theaters.
Devil’s Freedom (La libertad del diablo) [2017]
One of the most essential cinematic works about the human devastation caused by the drug war, Everardo González’s unflinching documentary confronts the viewer with raw, shocking testimonies from both the perpetrators of abhorrent crimes and the victims and their families. All of their faces are covered with the same mask, both to preserve their anonymity but also for powerful effect: People on both sides of the bloodshed look virtually the same. As some of the subjects confess to what they’ve done and others painfully retell their experience on the receiving end, an overwhelming collective sorrow is transmitted.
This is the only film on this list that’s not available in the U.S.
Heli [2013]
There’s no sugarcoating that this naturalistic drama features a graphic sequence of harrowing violence that may prove too difficult for some audiences to stomach. What writer-director Amat Escalante depicts is, however, not far-fetched given what happens in reality. When army cadet Beto (Juan Eduardo Palacios) steals confiscated cocaine from his superiors, his girlfriend, Estela (Andrea Vergara), and her brother Heli (Armando Espitia) become entangled in a series of deadly events involving both drug traffickers and the corrupt authorities. Escalante builds an atmosphere of otherworldly despair that overwhelms with its stark assertion of how seemingly insurmountable the horrors are.
Streaming on Prime Video and Tubi
Identifying Features (Sin señas particulares) [2020]
Learning that her child suffered a terrible death is not the worst thing for a mother to discover, at least not in the context of this earth-shattering masterpiece from Fernanda Valadez and Astrid Rondero. After her son goes missing while on his way to cross the U.S.-Mexico border, Magdalena (Mercedes Hernández) embarks on a treacherous journey to find him with the help of her new friend Miguel (David Illescas), a deported migrant. Through images laced in solemn lyricism, the filmmakers unearth the truth about what happened in a soul-crushing conclusion that’s sure to leave viewers speechless.
Streaming on Max; available on VOD
Noise (Ruido) [2022]
Director Natalia Beristáin cast her own mother, seasoned actress Julieta Egurrola, to play Julia, a woman who, like thousands of people all over Mexico, is trying to find a loved one who’s disappeared. Amid the despair and without information on her daughter’s whereabouts, Julia finds support and strength in other women whose lives also have been upended by the violence. Together, they refuse to be ignored. Egurrola’s visceral, devastating performance burns with a mix of fury and conviction as her character navigates the difficult emotions generated by losing someone in such a horrifying way.
Streaming on Netflix
Northern Skies Over Empty Space (El norte sobre el vacio) [2022]
Based on real events, this tonally complex and superbly acted drama from versatile director Alejandra Márquez Abella examines the intricacies of outdated masculinity in a patriarchal society like Mexico’s. At the center of this ensemble piece is charismatic Don Reynaldo (Gerardo Trejoluna), a brash landowner and avid hunter in the northern state of Nuevo Leon. When a cartel tries to extort him, he vows to defend his precious territory from the invaders. The cocky decision will have unnerving ramifications. Amid the chaos, his close employee Rosa (a fantastic Paloma Petra) emerges as an audacious force.
Streaming on Prime Video
Prayers for the Stolen (Noche de fuego) [2021]
For young girls in a small town in the state of Jalisco, it’s normal to wear their hair short and to be aware of places to hide when ill-intentioned men arrive from outside. Their mothers have warned them they could be taken. That’s the only reality Ana (as a kid played by Ana Cristina Ordóñez González) and her friends have ever known. Liberally adapted from Jennifer Clement’s novel, director Tatiana Huezo’s first fiction effort brims with visual poetry as it focuses on the small, wondrous moments of these childhoods surrounded by nature, while the dangers of a place constantly under siege are always looming nearby.
Streaming on Netflix
Sujo [2024]
Raised in hiding from his sicario father’s enemies, teenage Sujo (Juan Jesús Varela) must decide whether he’ll follow the same criminal path or try to carve a different one away from everything he’s ever known. From Astrid Rondero and Fernanda Valadez, Mexico’s most recent Oscar entry dares to hope that even someone seemingly destined to repeat his parents’ mistakes can perhaps escape them if offered an opportunity. The two have become the preeminent Mexican filmmakers addressing the consequences of violence through fictional narratives explored with nuance and respect for the ongoing national tragedy.
Playing at Laemmle Glendale, Laemmle Monica Film Center in Santa Monica, Laemmle Town Center in Encino and select theaters around the country.
Tempestad [2016]
With an eye for evocative imagery and piercing observations, acclaimed filmmaker Tatiana Huezo weaves together the stories of two women victimized by the collusion between government institutions and criminal organizations. Impunity runs rampant in Mexico. Framed for a crime she didn’t commit, Miriam spent time in prison under dehumanizing conditions. Meanwhile, Adela, a circus performer, has spent years searching for her daughter, who was abducted by powerful men. Huezo honors these fearless women’s resilience in the face of their individual plights, which emanate from the same corrosive societal ills.
Streaming on Tubi (available only in Spanish with no English subtitles)
The Three Deaths of Marisela Escobedo (Las tres muertes de Marisela Escobedo) [2020]
Ruby Frayre was murdered at age 16 by her boyfriend in Ciudad Juarez. On top of the unbearable grief, her mother, Marisela Escobedo, had to live knowing that the killer was a free man. For years, she conducted her own investigation to find him. But as documentarian Carlos Perez Osorio effectively portrays in this hard-hitting production, her efforts were noticed by nefarious criminal forces who wouldn’t benefit from justice being served. The film is at once a portrait of Escobedo’s unwavering strength and an indictment of a justice system that serves the victimizers more than the Mexican people.
Streaming on Netflix
Tigers Are Not Afraid (Vuelven) [2017]
This frightful fable from writer-director Issa López (“True Detective: Night Country”) takes place in an abandoned Mexican city now mostly populated by orphans whose parents became victims of the cartel-related carnage. One of those kids, Estrella (Paola Lara), joins a gang of self-reliant boys led by the no-nonsense El Shine (Juan Ramón López) in order to fight back. With deliberately employed visual effects, Lopez builds a vision propelled by its own mythology where gritty realism meets the darkly fantastical. As real-life danger threatens the brave young heroes, supernatural forces will intercede in their defense.
Streaming on Shudder; available on VOD
A Wolfpack Called Ernesto (Una jauría llamada Ernesto) [2023]
Every person who appears in this hard-hitting and utterly necessary documentary by Everardo González is filmed from behind. The camera never reveals their faces, but their first-hand accounts are chilling. Though the title references a single name, there are many subjects: young men from marginalized neighborhoods or towns who gain access to firearms and swiftly are swallowed by the inescapable brutality of organized crime in Mexico. A single bullet changes the trajectory of their lives. Joining the ranks of those who terrorize the population seemed to be their only viable chance at security and prosperity.
Streaming on VIX
Movie Reviews
'One of Them Days' Review: Keke Palmer and SZA Rebirths the Cozy Mid-Budget Studio Buddy Comedy
If you pair Keke Palmer up with someone, they’d better be on her level or at least round out her energy. SZA does both as Alyssa, who is one of those people who prefers to let the universe resolve her problems rather than handle them herself. She rounds out Palmer’s Dreux who bears some insecurity and awkwardness with loving enthusiasm. SZA shows impressive comedic range throughout. I was mainly impressed by how she depicted patience with Keshawn, and we all know if SZA were controlling the pen, she would certainly go “Kill Bill” on him. Either way, one can sense the childhood history of these characters through their affectionate banter and interactions. Like every Issa Rae production, their friendship and the tests they go through are the film’s core. The co-leads’ radiant energy is enough to justify the price of admission alone.
One of Them Days is a Millennial Friday But For the Girlies
One of Them Days is like a spiritual successor to Friday but to represent the Millennials. Much of its plotting takes from the F. Gary Gray classic. It captures the same breezy, laid-back style and flavor, even down to Dreux and Alyssa having their own Deebo in Berniece. As Friday was a love letter to Compton, One of Them Days is a love letter to Crenshaw.
One of Them Days is brimming with hilarious visual gags and the plotting unfolds in a series of vignettes but none that feel too long-winded or disrupt the runtime. Janelle James, Katt Williams, and Keyla Monterroso Mejia portray various amusing side characters that the duo encounters throughout the day, and they all contribute to a lighthearted tone with their over-the-top personalities. My favorite was Williams as Lucky, a homeless man who constantly tries to steer the duo in the right direction, but they never “take heed” from him.
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