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Ilona Maher sprinkles her stardust on England – U.S. rugby icon’s new team has had to find a bigger home stadium
Asked if she felt tired after spending over an hour posing for pictures with hundreds of fans, Ilona Maher channels Taylor Swift with her answer.
“I do get tired a lot but, as Taylor Swift said, ‘I get tired a lot but I don’t get tired of it’.”
The ‘it’ the 28-year-old rugby union player from Burlington, Vermont is referring to is the fanfare which follows her every move.
Fresh from making her 20-minute debut for Bristol Bears, the English team she has joined on a three-month contract, Maher had to tackle a queue of photo-seekers more than 250 yards long — taking up three sides of the pitch. Some had travelled across the Atlantic from Washington, D.C. to see a player who now transcends her sport. A 2024 Olympic bronze medallist who last year also featured on the cover of Sports Illustrated’s swimsuit edition and was named on Forbes’ 30 Under 30 list, Maher’s fame continues to snowball.
There weren’t any expectations placed on Maher to spend time with what seemed like every fan who attended her Bristol debut, but she did. “I saw the line of people staying out there and I was like, ‘I’m going to try to take as many photos as I can’,” she told reporters.
With eight million-plus followers across Instagram and TikTok combined, Maher is the most-followed rugby player in the world. She took followers behind the scenes at the previous Olympics in Japan in 2021, when fans were barred from attending due to ongoing pandemic-related regulations and has a sense of humour that would not go amiss in some Saturday Night Live sketches. Mix that with a back catalogue of empowering, body-confident video messages, and she has a global audience of supporters, many of whom are young women and girls.
Over 9,000 were in attendance for Maher’s debut in Bristol, a city in the west of England, just over 100 miles from London, known, among other things, for being the birthplace of street artist Banksy. And just as when one of the anonymous political activist’s latest works pops up to huge publicity, Maher demands the same level of excitement in whatever she does.
Within 72 hours of her move to England being announced, Sunday’s game against local rivals Gloucester-Hartpury was moved from Shaftesbury Park (the 2,000-capacity venue where the team usually play) to Ashton Gate, the 27,000-seater stadium which is home to Bristol City’s men’s and women’s soccer teams, as well as the Bears’ men’s rugby side.
At that point, there was no guarantee Maher, whose every move is being followed by documentary filmmakers from Hello Sunshine (a production company founded by actor Reese Witherspoon that focuses on telling women’s stories), would even feature in the match after she was named as a replacement on the team sheet 48 hours before kick-off. Yet, the team’s attendance record of 4,101, set in 2022, was smashed. For a standalone game in Premiership Women’s Rugby (PWR), there has been no bigger crowd.
Rose Kooper-Johnson is a fellow New Englander, from Rhode Island, and has been living in the UK for the past six years. The 29-year-old works at the Bristol-based University of the West of England in student communications and had never watched rugby live before Sunday.
“Hearing she was coming to Bristol was really exciting,” Kooper-Johnson tells The Athletic. “She has been on Dancing with the Stars (Maher finished as runner-up in that show in November) and she’s just so cool and inspiring. If she can be a catalyst for getting more people into women’s sports, then that’s amazing. She has that ability to bring people together.”
Maher’s arrival in England was always going to be impactful.
Having helped the United States’ rugby union sevens women’s team dramatically win Olympic bronze on the game’s final play in Paris last summer, she has timed her move to the sport’s 15-a-side format, where the matches last over four times longer (80 minutes to 14), feature twice as many players on the pitch and games are generally more attritional, to perfection. This is a World Cup year and Maher is eyeing a place on the USA roster. The tournament kicks off with host nation England taking on the Americans on August 22.
Friends Lucy Parkinson, Elvira Berninger, Abby Bevan and Maria East had travelled 130 miles from Bournemouth on the English south coast for Sunday’s have-to-be-there moment. Rugby union team-mates for Ellingham & Ringwood RFC, they usually only attend international women’s fixtures.
“We love all the other players but she (Maher) was the instigator. We were 50/50, like, ‘Do we come just because of the Ilona Maher effect? Yeah, let’s enjoy the hype’,” Bevan tells The Athletic, while East added that the attention on Maher “can only be a good thing for rugby”.
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Chloe and Luke Glover are season-ticket holders for the Bears’ men’s team, so are regulars at Ashton Gate, but the couple had never watched a women’s game before being drawn in by ‘Maher fever’. “She has brought quite a lot of attention to it so we thought we would come and see what it is all about,” Luke says.
Queuing up near food trucks selling churros and barbecued pulled pork are Cathy and her 16-year-old daughter Jasmine, who herself plays rugby union. “She (Maher) has had a big impact on a lot of young girls starting and getting into the sport in general. It has been a big topic, Ilona joining,” Jasmine says. “There are a lot more people looking for teams to join around Bristol, and with her joining a lot more people have even just come here… It was a lot harder to get tickets this time.”
Dings Crusaders under-14s girls’ team did not need to worry about getting tickets, as many of their players were employed to retrieve any loose balls during Sunday’s match. Nellie MacDonald, 12, plays for Dings and feels Maher had made “a massive change to everything already”, and her mum, Sam, agrees, saying, “The amount of people that are here, you can already see it is bigger than before.”
The game was shown live on TNT Sports in the UK, and the league shared a pre-match social media post detailing its kick-off time in various time zones.
Whenever Maher’s face was beamed onto the stadium’s big screen, huge cheers erupted from the thousands gathered in the Dolman Stand and South Stand. The decibels rose when her name was read out before kick-off and, again, when she came on as a replacement during the second half.
Playing on the wing and wearing knee pads and her now-iconic matte red lipstick, Maher burst into a nerve-calming tackle within seconds. The American likes to run with ball in hand, but Gloucester-Hartpury turned up the heat and gave the home side little room to manoeuvre in a match the visitors won 40-17, scoring six tries in total.
Though Maher failed to get a touch of the ball during her time in the game, her introduction lifted the crowd and the team — Bristol scored their third and final try four minutes after she was introduced.
Finally, an hour and 11 minutes after first beginning her lap of fan selfies following the final whistle, Maher sat down for her own post-match press conference.
“I just try to be as equal as possible, because they’re going to do so much for me as maybe I’m doing for them,” Maher said. “They bought a seat and that seat is going to lead to hopefully some more seats. Fans are the revenue we need to bring in to make this league bigger. So it’s almost, I feel, like my duty. They’re doing so much so I want to do more for them.
“Some people came from America. I had some people say they came to this game from Washington, D.C. to watch… I put those (social media) videos out there for them. I want them to feel confident and love themselves and play the sport and understand what the body is capable of. It’s always just really cool that they’re out there and they stay out there.”
Maher, humble yet radiating confidence, takes ownership of the empire she has created, something she has achieved without necessarily being the best player in women’s rugby.
“It’s cool to be the face of a sport that isn’t thought of as a women’s sport,” she said. “It’s a men’s sport. So to be the face of it and also the impact I’m having is felt across both men’s and women’s (rugby), I’ve had some of the best men’s players in the world be like, ‘Keep doing what you’re doing’ because I think everyone sees value in it. And if one rises, we all rise.
“I’m really proud of what I’ve done and the impact I’ve had on social media, not just in a rugby sense, in a body-positivity sense, the way people are treating themselves. So I’m proud. I think my family is 10-times prouder,” Maher added, with her sister, Olivia, who has moved to England with her, smiling from the back of the room. “And I love what I’m doing.”
Millions of people do.
(Top photo: Dan Mullan/Getty Images)
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Ornstein meets Aubameyang: Arsenal, Arteta relationship, Chelsea ‘chaos’, Saudi move and a terrifying robbery
The evening of August 28, 2022 and Pierre-Emerick Aubameyang is at home in Barcelona, playing video games and waiting for news as talks continue about a potential transfer to Chelsea.
Aubameyang is relaxed — content to stay in Spain or help ease Barcelona’s financial worries by returning to England, where he flourished for Arsenal before leaving somewhat acrimoniously.
This is a footballer who started at Milan and also counts Borussia Dortmund among the sides he has represented in a 16-year career featuring more than 300 senior goals and transfer fees totalling around $100million (£81m). The possibility of another move for Aubameyang, wife Alysha and their young children, Curtys and Pierre, is nothing abnormal. Suddenly, however, the relative calm turns into chaos.
“My eldest son came running and said to me, ‘Dad, some guys are in the house’,” says Aubameyang. “I said, ‘Just hide’.
“They came in from outside, where my wife was smoking with my cousin and her boyfriend. They took him (the cousin’s boyfriend) and came into the house. My wife was screaming. They had a gun.”
Aubameyang says he “grabbed a big bottle” and went upstairs to try to confront the intruders.
“At the same time, my sister-in-law was there with our little one,” he continues. “I said to her, too, ‘Just go. Try to hide somewhere’. This is when I saw the guys. There were four or five, I think.
“One had the gun and said to me, ‘Just go down’. I said, ‘No, no, no. Tell me what you want’. We talked and he said, ‘Sit down’. I said, ‘No’. This is when he started to punch me.”
Aubameyang describes a man in gloves containing metal landing multiple blows that broke his jaw. “I wanted to fight but one guy went down and took my kids and sister-in-law,” he says. “At that point, I couldn’t do anything. If you do something wrong, something can happen to them. We went through the house and I gave them what they wanted, so we could be OK.”
Barcelona had only just organised for security staff to begin work that week, yet the delayed arrival of outdoor toilets impacted their start date. The consequences weighed heavily. Stolen jewellery, watches and other expensive items were one thing; the psychological damage was quite another.
“If I was alone, no problem,” Aubameyang insists. “I can handle it, as mentally I’ve been prepared for everything in life, thanks to my parents. But when you have a wife and kids, it’s different.
“After that, the kids told me, ‘Papa, I don’t want to go to school, I’m scared something is going to happen there’. For a year my little one said, ‘I cannot sleep alone’. It was a big struggle. You have it always in the mind.”
Aubameyang and his family soon left Barcelona as he moved to Stamford Bridge days later and the following July he joined French club Marseille, though the trauma remained.
“I was always thinking about this,” he says. “I did so many nights like this: not sleeping at all, just thinking about that s**t. You have some nightmares. I’m a guy who, if I’m not sleeping well, I’m not going to give (a football team) what you expect from me, I’m not going to be at my best… Every time the kids are alone, they are scared.
“I still have that house, but haven’t gone back since. I think I’ll start to rent it because my kids don’t want to go to Barcelona. Their school organised a trip there — they said, ‘No chance I go’.
“I made a mistake not talking to anyone. If I had someone to talk to, a therapist or psychologist, maybe it could have helped. But I didn’t want to do anything. To tell you the truth, I was lost.”
That is why Aubameyang cites “safety” as a crucial reason behind signing with Al Qadsiah in Saudi Arabia last July, a trade which could have been interpreted for the now 35-year-old as a lucrative stop en route to retirement. Aubameyang dismisses such a notion as “bulls**t” and urges people to sample the Saudi Pro League for themselves before formulating judgements.
The Athletic went to see Aubameyang in the Gulf state in late November, watching him train at Al Qadsiah’s multi-sport facility in the eastern coastal city of Khobar and then play the 90 minutes as they beat locals rivals Al Khaleej at their Prince Saud bin Jalawi Stadium 24 hours later.
The following day, we met at a hotel across the border in Manama, the capital of Bahrain, to conduct a wide-ranging interview in which the Gabon international discussed:
- Life in Saudi Arabia, competing in its Pro League, ambitions and criticisms
- His contract “mistake” at Arsenal and Mikel Arteta’s “knife in the back” accusation
- How Barcelona was the “best memory of my career”, despite his confusing exit
- “Disrespectful” treatment and failure to connect during Chelsea “chaos”
- “Crazy” Marseille stint and playing with “anger” after his time in West London
- Taking acting lessons to fulfil “dreams” of becoming a film star post-football.
Given a chance to leave Marseille after only one season, Aubameyang’s favoured destination last summer was always Saudi Arabia, and his family have experienced “no difficulty” settling in.
“People think it is a closed country with hard restrictions,” he says. “That’s the opinion over there (in the West), but when you come here, it’s totally different. The mentality is very open-minded.”
He identifies “room for improvement” in the levels of play and professionalism while admitting that small crowds at some fixtures are “part of the process” and that the Gulf state’s hot weather can harm match tempo.
Al Qadsiah were taken over in June 2023 by Saudi-owned oil giant Aramco and are scheduled to exchange an ageing 20,000-seat ground for a modern 47,000-capacity arena, which is due to open in time for the 2027 Asian Cup and be a 2034 men’s World Cup venue.
Hosting the sport’s leading event has raised many questions for Saudi Arabia to answer — most notably regarding human rights and specifically the treatment of migrant workers, women and the LGBTQ+ community.
Did Aubameyang contemplate these issues when pondering his decision? “Not at all,” he says. “I’m really into football and, while I’m a player, I will be thinking just about football — that’s it. When I retire, maybe I’ll think about different things. But when I chose to come, I didn’t think about it.”
How does he think LGBTQ+ supporters will react to that reply?
“I can understand how they see life. They can have their opinion, but I also have mine. My choice is only about football, not political situations and everything… I didn’t see anything that shocked me to say it was a mistake coming here.”
“I was sure it wasn’t going to happen. You have until midnight and then the market shuts. It was already 8pm and you have to do a medical and everything. Around 8.30pm, my father said, ‘Let’s go to the hospital’. I was like, ‘Oh my god! Crazy!’. They found a way to get me out of the jail.’”
The prison reference is delivered in jest, but Aubameyang will never forget the drama that accompanied transfer deadline day in February 2022, nor losing the Arsenal captaincy and the weeks spent training by himself before finally joining Barcelona on a free at the end of that winter window.
Amazon’s All Or Nothing series about Arsenal charts the saga and while Aubameyang challenges elements in its portrayal of him — he denies flying to Spain without permission, for example — he does not dispute travelling there before the two clubs had agreed a deal. “I wanted to push it, I just wanted to go,” he says.
He had been banished for his “latest disciplinary breach” in December 2021, according to Arsenal: Aubameyang had returned late after a sanctioned trip to collect his unwell mother from France. For manager Mikel Arteta, it was the final straw.
Aubameyang argues that he fell foul of complex and ever-changing Covid-19 pandemic protocols at the time, which meant he was prohibited from entering the club’s training ground when he did.
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“My mistake,” he concedes. “I should have come back the night before, but I arrived in the morning. I didn’t tell them that I would miss the flight because I was preoccupied with my mum’s stuff (medical examinations).
“I went directly to a team meeting. Everything was normal. After that, he (Arteta) said, ‘Come with me’. This is where he started shouting. He said I could not do this because I was the captain and it was not acceptable.
“He said I gave him a knife in his back; I don’t know why he said that. I was really p**sed off because it was not true and he knew why I flew. He knew the reason and what was happening, he knew I was struggling that year. I was expecting help from him, not killing me like this.”
Might the conflict have been solved by Aubameyang apologising?
“When I’m late, (and) it’s my fault — no problem. I always said sorry,” he says. “But in this case, I’ll never say sorry. For taking my mum from Laval (his hometown in France) to London? No. Even if I came a day late, I would never say sorry. You understand or you don’t. If not, don’t give a day off or tell people they cannot fly.”
Arteta claims to have kept a dossier of Aubameyang’s alleged indiscretions, which centred on punctuality. The player does not contest this but queries why some Arsenal team-mates were treated more leniently for similar offences. He is adamant Arteta could have dealt with it all differently.
Infamously, Aubameyang was late to assemble for the March 2021 north London derby at home against Tottenham and got excluded from the matchday squad — a move that diminished trust between him and Arteta.
“You leave the car at the stadium, then take the bus to the hotel,” says Aubameyang. “I didn’t miss the bus, they were waiting for me. There was a (traffic) accident near my home; maybe I should have set off earlier, but you don’t know what will happen. He was p***ed off as it’s a big game.
“When we got to the hotel, he called me to his room and said I wasn’t going to play. He was strict. The rules are the rules. I felt hurt. I had tears because I wanted to play that game, badly. I didn’t want to hurt anybody. The next day we had a meeting and I stood up in front of everyone to say sorry. He also came to my house to speak, because he didn’t want this to be chaos.
“I said, ‘It’s going to be OK’. But from then it was not the same.”
Aubameyang then contracted malaria on international duty. By the time it was diagnosed and treated, he had faced Liverpool and Europa League opponents Slavia Prague with the debilitating tropical virus in his body. At the same time, Aubameyang continued to navigate the repercussions of his mother suffering a stroke in late 2020.
He was “lost” and “depressed”, he says — a far cry from the euphoria which had greeted the attacker ending doubts over his future by signing a new contract a couple of months previously.
Arsenal were on the road to their FA Cup semi-final with Manchester City in July 2020.
“I was talking on the bus with (fellow striker) Alexandre Lacazette,” says Aubameyang. “Every fan was saying, ‘Sign da ting!’. Laca asked me, ‘What are you going to do?’ I was like, ‘To tell you the truth, I really don’t know’.”
He inspired wins over City and then Chelsea to lift the FA Cup at an empty Wembley during the pandemic. It remains Arteta’s only major trophy for Arsenal.
“If I’m being honest, at that time I wanted to go,” says Aubameyang. “For me, it was time to find a new challenge. I did my time. It was very nice, but I needed to change. It had been four years, I did great and maybe it was time to leave it like this, proper and clean, so people remember me as a good Arsenal player. I felt I needed to go because if I stayed, something would go wrong.”
What altered that notion was a “very refreshing” meeting with Arteta. They discussed the team, players, the need to recruit, staff, methods of working and more. “He convinced me,” Aubameyang adds. “He said, ‘I think you can leave a legacy’. I think it was the first time I heard this word in English.
“He said, ‘If you stay, you can be an icon, like the big names at Arsenal’. I started to change my vision. He and the fans convinced me to stay. But at first, I wanted to leave. This is where it got chaotic, because when you go against your heart, maybe this is where I made my mistake.”
At the point of putting pen to paper, Aubameyang had recently turned 31 and anticipated belonging to Arsenal until hanging up his boots. Scoring 15 goals in all competitions in 2020-2021 signalled he had plenty left in the tank. Yet his personal strife allowed the underlying sentiments to resurface.
“I felt it progressively,” he says. “Slowly, slowly, I was kind of giving up. Sometimes there are things more important than football. Maybe people don’t realise, because they think football is the most important thing. (But) that is not true.”
Time and distance have enabled healing and perspective.
Aubameyang received a “great message” from Arteta after they parted ways and would now gladly engage in a conversation — “You cannot stay with that negativity”. He says he will “always love Arsenal, always love the supporters… even if I went to Chelsea” and hopes to have answered some of their questions with this interview.
He reckons Arteta’s side are “missing something” as they chase the silverware they “deserve” — namely a “goalscoring machine”. So, who are they missing?
“Me,” he says, tongue in cheek.
In the summer of 2022, Chelsea signed Aubameyang from Barcelona and he agreed a two-year contract, “100 per cent” to be reunited with his former Dortmund manager, Thomas Tuchel.
Aubameyang had cherished his four-month spell at Camp Nou — where his terms should have kept him through to 2025 — and says it provokes “only good memories, the best of my career”. But he “needed” to “feel love again” after Arsenal and prove he was still a “good player and person”.
If Tuchel had not been at Chelsea, there is “no chance” Aubameyang would have left Barcelona, he says. But, within a week of his transfer, the German lost his job. It followed a Champions League defeat at Dinamo Zagreb, a match where Aubameyang — donning a mask to protect his injured face following the robbery at his house — made a miserable debut.
He “went against doctor’s advice” and explains, “When you arrive somewhere (new), you want to show straight away you’re involved. It was the worst game of my life, but I did it because I had to play.
“I remember that day because I didn’t recognise him (Tuchel). It was not the guy I knew a few years ago. We had a close relationship. He was the only guy who really understood me in Dortmund. At Chelsea, it was like something was wrong. I felt he was not enjoying his time.
“We lost (1-0) and he was p**sed off. Usually, he would go crazy but he came to the dressing room and then left. I was like, ‘This is not the guy I know. Very strange’. The next day, he was sacked.”
Graham Potter was hired away from Brighton and the October brought three goals for Aubameyang in as many outings. But after a home humbling by Arsenal, he barely featured. As Chelsea toiled, he implored Potter to “put me in” but “respected” the Englishman’s honesty about preferring to use Kai Havertz.
Matters got worse the following February, with Aubameyang omitted from the Champions League squad and deemed surplus to requirements. “That is when I started to say, ‘OK, this is very disrespectful’,” he states. “They tried to send me on loan to America. I said: ‘No chance’.
“I felt p***ed off. From that point, I said, ‘The season is done for me already’. I just went to training to maintain fitness; I knew I was not going to play.”
Potter was dismissed in the April and Frank Lampard stepped in temporarily.
“He (Lampard) told me, ‘OK, I need you. I want to know how you feel, if you are ready to play again’,” Aubameyang recalls. “I was like, ‘Yes. I’m waiting for this’.”
“Close to the end of the season, he spoke to me again and said, ‘What are your feelings? I’m sorry, Auba. I can’t really help you’. I understood it’s not coming from him but upstairs.”
Aubameyang found himself in the ‘bomb squad’ as the group at Chelsea kept expanding, pushing various renowned figures to the fringes.
“They did a mess,” he says. “It didn’t even look like a football dressing room, it was more like rugby. Hakim Ziyech, Denis Zakaria, Kalidou Koulibaly, Romelu Lukaku… It was good I wasn’t alone. We were laughing every day, so it was OK.”
There is no lingering bitterness, though, and Aubameyang praises Chelsea for how they appear to have regained stability and competitiveness. He feels a “big striker” should be sought to shoulder the goals burden “like Didier Drogba did in the past” and acknowledges he was unable to fit that particular bill.
“I never had that connection,” Aubameyang says. “No connections at all. The fans wanted the Auba they saw with Arsenal. At the time, I was not ready for that and didn’t get the opportunity. I was not ready, as well, because of what happened in Barcelona. It was a chaotic year but it was good for me because I needed a break and, at the same time, they didn’t want to play me.”
He signed a three-year deal with Marseille in July 2023 and arrived in France, where he was born and grew up, with a point to prove.
“I took a picture at a Chelsea game when I was not in the squad,” he says. “I said, ‘We’ll see next season if I’m a fan or player’. I arrived in Marseille with the mentality, ‘You’ll see the real Aubameyang.’”
After just five goals in his first 17 games, Aubameyang’s substitution towards the end of a 0-0 draw against Lille in the November drew anger from the terraces. It flicked a switch. “I was like, ‘I cannot accept that’,” he reflects. “‘Now I’ll change the way I play. I’m going to be more crazy’. I played with anger.”
In the next home match, versus Ajax in the Europa League, Aubameyang registered a hat-trick, and he ended his sole season back in French football with 30 goals in 51 appearances.
“This was the year I showed everybody who I am,” he says.
Marseille’s search for a new permanent coach produced Roberto de Zerbi and despite not gaining an opportunity to perform for the Italian as Saudi loomed, Aubameyang did value the window in which their paths crossed.
He noticed “in the first two training sessions” that De Zerbi was “different”. Aubameyang has operated under Klopp, Wenger and Xavi but views De Zerbi “like Thomas Tuchel and Mikel Arteta” in terms of calibre.
“Very high,” is where Aubameyang forecasts the 45-year-old managing. “He has dedicated his whole life to football. He always wants the best for the team and has proper ideas. Sometimes people aren’t patient but this time Marseille have to be because he can really put them back to the top.”
Now Aubameyang is focused on shining in Saudi Arabia. He spurned interest from higher-profile suitors to choose newly-promoted Al Qadsiah and, under the guidance of sporting director Carlos Anton, coach Michel — who replaced Liverpool legend Robbie Fowler — and ex-Rangers chief executive James Bisgrove, they are flying.
A six-game winning streak secured third spot in the SPL heading into its winter break — below only Benzema’s Al Ittihad and Neymar’s Al Hilal, with Cristiano Ronaldo’s Al Nassr fourth. Aubameyang’s record so far stands at seven goals across 14 appearances in all competitions. “They want to be the best and I can help them grow,” he says.
Aubameyang also has ambitions with Gabon, who have qualified for the Africa Cup of Nations at the end of this year and are in contention to reach their maiden World Cup finals appearance the following summer.
Further down the line, he prefers the thought of club ownership or, perhaps, a sporting director-type position rather than coaching. His motivations, though, transcend football: becoming an actor is one of his “dreams” and he is taking private lessons to master the art.
“Comedy, for sure!” Aubameyang laughs while referring to his choice of genre. “If you see me in a film that’s too serious… nah, you will not believe it. If it’s comedy, yes, you’re going to believe it.”
(Top photos: Getty Images; design: Eamonn Dalton)
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Book Review: ‘How to Sleep at Night,’ by Elizabeth Harris
HOW TO SLEEP AT NIGHT, by Elizabeth Harris
The witty opening of Elizabeth Harris’s “How to Sleep at Night” finds Ethan Keller confessing “something terrible” to his husband, Gabe: He wants to run for Congress. Ethan is a Republican, but Gabe is a Democrat, and Ethan says he won’t run if Gabe says no. Wanting to support his husband’s dreams and fearing the resentment a refusal could bring, Gabe agrees.
While Gabe and Ethan’s political rift is the crux of the book, Harris cools the stakes to a conflict between center-left and center-right. Gabe may be a Democrat, but he’s scornful of people he considers too far to the left, calling them “nuts”; in fact, he has tried to bond with Ethan by “poking fun at a clownish devotion to 16-letter acronyms and an eagerness to be offended by everything.”
Ethan explains his beliefs to their 5-year-old daughter privately by saying that Republicans believe change should happen carefully and people should make the decisions about their own lives.
He uses more provocative “woke mob” rhetoric in public, but Harris, a New York Times staff writer who covers book publishing, presents that as a performance that may or may not represent his convictions. Neither husband identifies with what he considers the extremes of his party, although both know their very existence as a gay married couple with a child has political significance.
More important than their divergent beliefs is Gabe and Ethan’s shared attitude about those beliefs, which is that they can be set aside when they don’t affect you directly. Gabe, a high school history teacher, can grit his teeth about Ethan’s growing notoriety until a couple of his students, both gay and one undocumented, start to trust him less in favor of a teacher he can’t stand. And what provokes Gabe’s discomfort most of all is the way people talk on the internet about him and his marriage.
Ethan treats his politics primarily as a vehicle for ambition; Gabe treats his as self-definition. The story seems headed for a confrontation between the two about how people should be treated and how the abstract idea of “politics” intersects with that question — but the confrontation never arrives. Over and over, when they approach the disagreements that seem too serious to ignore, they walk away, go to bed or change the subject.
This forestalling of what feel like inevitable and even necessary fractures can be frustrating and repetitive. But perhaps that’s the point: To make a relationship like this work, you will, over and over, have the same fight that goes nowhere.
The other strand of the novel follows Ethan’s sister, Kate, a print reporter, who reconnects with an old love: Nicole, a stay-at-home mom who’s grown bored with her wealthy, conservative husband. Kate is discombobulated by Nicole’s return and challenged by the thorny ethics of having her newspaper cover her brother’s campaign.
Kate and Nicole’s relationship is much more focused on the personal and less on the public, and it’s a thoughtful tale of people reconnecting in middle age with both the benefit and the baggage of long experience. And again, Kate’s story suggests that these are people for whom personal loyalty is primary. Everything else is negotiable.
Harris’s lively writing and the fast-moving narrative accompany what’s ultimately a bleak view of comfort in difficult times: The way to sleep at night, these characters find, is to secure your own future and make peace in your relationships, and then to think about what’s happening to the rest of the world as little as possible. As Kate muses at one point: “What’s Gabe supposed to do? Does he blow up a pretty excellent daily life for something that feels abstract? I don’t think most people would.”
You can sleep at night, in other words, through just about anything — if you don’t have to sleep alone.
HOW TO SLEEP AT NIGHT | By Elizabeth Harris | Morrow | 304 pp. | $28.99
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Test Your Knowledge of International Detective Fiction
A strong sense of place can deeply influence a story, and in some cases, the setting can even feel like a character itself. This week’s literary geography quiz highlights international detective characters cracking cases in their home cities. To play, just make your selection in the multiple-choice list and the correct answer will be revealed. Links to the books will be listed at the end of the quiz if you’d like to do further reading.
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