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A Love Worth an Early Retirement and a Cross-Country Move
Dr. Raymond Joseph Parungao and Andrew Chih-Hao Chen were attracted to each other the instant their eyes locked.
It was Feb. 28, 2010, and they were at the gay bar the Abbey in West Hollywood, Calif.
“The music was loud, but it faded away as I stared at Andrew,” Dr. Parungao said.
“I saw Ray, and time just stopped,” Mr. Chen said. “I was like, ‘Who is this?’ I had to find out more.”
The two, who were there with mutual friends, got drinks, headed to a quiet corner and started talking. They parted ways around midnight and made plans for a date three days later, again at the Abbey.
Dr. Parungao, 55, was the first to arrive. “My heart was beating fast as I waited for Andrew,” he said. “I hadn’t stopped thinking about him since we met.”
That evening made it clear that their mutual desire was intense and authentic. They chatted for hours about their families, upbringings and shared love of travel. “We talked about everything and nothing and could have chatted for days,” said Mr. Chen, 37. “By the end of the night, we were talking about vacationing together and even starting a family.”
The following month, they exchanged rings as a symbol of their commitment, and eight months after meeting, Mr. Chen moved into Dr. Parungao’s West Hollywood condominium.
At the time, Mr. Chen was working as a branch manager for a bank in Los Angeles, but had dreams of being a hairstylist. In September 2013 he did some work at New York Fashion Week, “and after that experience, what New York offered me professionally was calling me,” Mr. Chen said. “I decided to move.”
Dr. Parungao was working as a pediatric intensive care doctor at Kaiser Permanente in Los Angeles and his contract made relocating a challenge. The two split amicably, and in October 2013, Mr. Chen left for Manhattan. “I wanted Andrew to be free to follow his passion and didn’t want him to feel the burden of a long-distance relationship,” Dr. Parungao said.
They remained close and continued to chat daily. In June 2016, they rekindled their romance when Dr. Parungao visited Mr. Chen and the two attended the Pride parade. “We were dancing to Kylie Minogue who was performing ‘All the Lovers’ at the concert on the pier, and all I could do was stare at Ray,” Mr. Chen said. “We kissed and knew that there was no being apart.”
They decided to try bicoastal dating, with each taking turns flying to see the other two to three weekends a month. Marriage was in the cards. “We had talked about it early on in our relationship but never discussed how or when,” Dr. Parungao said.
They became engaged in September 2016 while on a trip to Iceland with Mr. Chen’s mother, Patty Chen, to celebrate her 60th birthday.
The trio took an evening bus tour through the countryside near Reykjavik to see the northern lights. When they stopped alongside a field, Dr. Parungao asked Mr. Chen, with Ms. Chen looking on, if he would marry him. “We did a three-way hug and cried underneath the lights,” Mr. Chen said.
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Dr. Parungao, who grew up in Conyers, Ga., has a bachelor’s degree in the history of science from Johns Hopkins University and a master’s degree in public health from George Washington University. He holds a medical degree from Howard University.
Mr. Chen is from Diamond Bar, Calif., and works as a freelance hairstylist at the Stephen Knoll salon in New York. He has a bachelor’s degree in business management from Pepperdine University and studied hairdressing at Santa Monica College. He is now in his final year in a graduate program in environmental science at The New School.
After their engagement, they continued their bicoastal lives, except during Covid, when Mr. Chen was without a job and moved to Los Angeles for two years.
But by 2024, after they returned to their bicoastal relationship, living apart was wearing on both. “I took Kaiser’s early retirement package and moved to New York in February to be with Andrew full time,” Dr. Parungao said.
They now reside in Long Island City, Queens, and are in the process of having a child through a surrogate. “It’s such a sense of relief,” Mr. Chen said. “We can go on spontaneous walks together or grab lunch without everything being preplanned.”
On Feb. 28, 15 years after first meeting, Mr. Chen and Dr. Parungao were married by Yanfang Chen, an officiant at the Manhattan City Clerk’s office, with their parents as witnesses.
After the ceremony, they did a photo shoot at City Hall Park and took a Zumba dance class. That evening, the couple celebrated with 70 family members and friends at the Chinese restaurant Shan in Boerum Hill, Brooklyn.
“We danced, we cried, we cheered, we toasted,” Mr. Chen said.
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Jodie Foster plans more French roles after ‘A Private Life’
Jodie Foster has her first solo lead role entirely in French in A Private Life.
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After dozens of films over a storied six-decade career, Jodie Foster is trying something new, playing the lead role in a French film for the very first time.
There’s hardly a trace of an American accent in Foster’s turn as Parisian therapist Lilian Steiner in A Private Life (Vie privée) and she appears to be very much at home.
The character she plays is an American woman who built her career in France. So director Rebecca Zlotowski added some small asides — and swearing — in English because of Foster’s brisk and fluent French. “People suddenly were just completely confused that I wasn’t a French person,” the actress said.
All apparent ease aside, “I have a different personality in French than I do in English,” Foster told Morning Edition host Leila Fadel during a recent visit to NPR’s New York studios.
Her voice has a higher pitch in French, something she attributes to the French ladies who taught her at the private school she attended, Le Lycée Français de Los Angeles. Foster also had some smaller roles in three French films prior to A Private Life, including in 2004’s A Very Long Engagement.
“I’m just much more insecure and kind of vulnerable because I never know whether I’m communicating properly. And, you know, am I going to find that word at the last minute?” Foster said.
This frustration is also built into the script itself. When we first meet Steiner, she’s constantly frazzled, barely listening to her patients and hardly sparing a minute for her newborn grandson.
Lilian Steiner (Jodie Foster) and Gabriel Haddad (Daniel Auteuil) find love again — for each other — years after their divorce in A Private Life.
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Then, her eyes start watering constantly, something someone more grounded would call crying, but not Steiner, who grows increasingly frustrated that water is coming out of her eyes.
It turns out to be especially fitting for someone who is a Freudian psychoanalyst. “In true Freudian fashion [she] is having a physical demonstration of a psychic ill,” Foster explains.
That psychic ill is caused by the death of a patient (the Franco-Belgian social drama star Virginie Efira), purportedly by suicide.
But Steiner suspects her patient has been murdered and launches her own — inconclusive, darkly comedic — investigation, enlisting help from her ex-husband (played by Daniel Auteuil, a mainstay of French cinema), and rekindling their old flame in the process.
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All of those disparate plot lines play into the film’s French title, Vie privée, which Foster explains is a double entendre: “So private life, meaning everything that you think that would mean the opposite of a public life — an internal life. But private also means has been deprived of, so somebody who has been deprived of life, meaning somebody who’s died potentially.”
In her own life, Foster said she’s had to fight for privacy, ferociously. “I had to say I will go to Disneyland and I will not have a film crew following me… I will go to college and I will not give everything to the public eye, in order to make sure that I survived intact,” she explained.
After a frenetic pace of filming in her teens and twenties, Foster says she became more deliberate about the roles she accepted so that she could bring more depth to the screen. “I really was careful to make sure that I had real life and I worked more sporadically than most other actors,” she said.
In a hallucinatory dream sequence while under hypnosis, Lilian (Jodie Foster), left, is transported to WWII-era Paris, where she and her present-day patient Paula Cohen-Solal (Virginie Efira) were lovers.
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Today, she’s especially excited about working with women directors. She also directs herself. Recounting that she only worked with one female director — Mary Lambert for 1987’s Siesta — in the first four decades of her career, Foster said she’s now working more with women.
“It’s been a shift that’s a long time coming… But it came very, very late,” she added, noting that the prevailing bias against women directors has only “recently” changed in mainstream cinema.
Foster also hopes to take part in more French movies, maybe even direct a film in France. “That’s something I’ve always wanted to do and something that would be a great challenge for me,” she said.
Director Rebecca Zlotowski, shown here on the set of A Private Life, says she had long dreamed of directing a film featuring Jodie Foster.
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She urged American audiences to embrace learning to speak languages other than English.
“It’s surprising how Americans don’t hear other languages… how you can go your whole life without really hearing other languages spoken in your state,” she said. “We have to make an effort to connect to a wider world and understand that we’re all part of the same universe.”
The broadcast version was produced by Julie Depenbrock. The digital version was edited by Treye Green.
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Gene Hackman’s House Goes Up for Sale Less Than a Year After Deaths
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Death House Hits Market For $6.25M
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Gene Hackman‘s New Mexico estate is officially up for sale … less than a year after he and his wife, Betsy Arakawa, were found dead in the sprawling compound.
Gene and Betsy’s Santa Fe house — which sits on a 53-acre estate in The Land of Enchantment — has hit the market with an asking price of $6.25 million.
At the time of their deaths, police body cam footage showed the place was in shambles, with rat feces and urine everywhere. But, we’re told the place has been completely cleaned up and looks absolutely amazing now!
The 13,000-square-foot estate sits in a gated community and consists of two separate buildings — the main 3-bedroom area, which features floor-to-ceiling windows, a grand living room, and a library, as well as the 3-bedroom guesthouse. The compound also includes a lap pool, hot tub, putting green and an actor’s studio.
Remember … Gene and his wife were found dead in their home last February 26 by maintenance workers after their bodies had been lying around for at least 9 days. Police said Hackman’s pacemaker registered its last known activity on February 17.
The Santa Fe County Medical Examiner ruled that Gene died at 95 from Alzheimer’s disease and Betsy died at 65 from hantavirus infection — a disease spread by rat feces and urine.
Tara S. Earley and Ricky Allen of Sotheby’s International Realty hold the listing … but they told The Wall Street Journal they know this house won’t be everyone’s cup of tea.
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Tig Notaro talks growing up in Mississippi, parenthood and her friendship with poet Andrea Gibson : Wild Card with Rachel Martin
A note from Wild Card host Rachel Martin: Tig Notaro has built a career dissecting her own life. In her stand up, podcasts, even a TV show – Tig has brought her audience into some of the most personal parts of her own living: growing up as a gay kid in the South, falling in love with her wife, and her struggle through breast cancer.
But in her latest creative project, Tig turned the spotlight on a close friend of hers – the poet Andrea Gibson. Andrea died from cancer last year. Tig produced a documentary about Andrea’s incredible life – it’s called “Come See Me in the Good Light.”
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