DEAR ANNIE: I’ve been in an on-and-off relationship with a guy for four years. He has a lot of female friends, and I’m not really sure how I am supposed to feel about that. He goes to dinner with them for their birthdays and meets them out for drinks, and yet he won’t introduce me to them as his girlfriend. He tells me that my jealousy is a turnoff, but I feel like some boundaries are being crossed here. Please help. — Jealous and Confused

DEAR JEALOUS AND CONFUSED: You have every right to feel jealous and confused. But there is not much confusion, really. He is dismissing your feelings and shutting you out of a part of his life. I say move on and find someone who is better for you.

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DEAR ANNIE: This is the first time I’ve ever written to an advice columnist, but I recently read your column with the letter from “Baffled Daughter,” whose mother was a 77-year-old woman who admitted to having an affair with a young male nurse who is married with children.

You gave sound advice about reporting it to the rehab facility, but I just wanted to suggest one possibility: She could have dementia. My mother is now 90 years old and has been in a nursing home for 12 years with dementia (bedridden now), but 14 years ago, she told me she had been kidnapped by a neighbor on the block and that he had taken her keys and had a priest marry them. This was my first sign of realizing that my mother was mentally off; the neighbor had died six months earlier of the same disease, so she had not seen him that day but she thought that she had.

It’s just a thought — that the 77-year-old woman also has a form of memory loss and therefore has problems with reality.

I enjoy your column, so keep up the great work! — Dementia Advice

DEAR DEMENTIA ADVICE: You bring up a great point. She should have her mother checked for memory care, as the whole affair might have been something she imagined because of dementia. Thanks for writing.

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There’s been a lot of buzz surrounding whether a return to the New Jersey Devils is in the cards for Tyler Toffoli. He will become an unrestricted free agent on July 1. Toffoli is going to test free agency this summer, but there’s a chance he could find his way back to the Devils. Everything would have to align for that to happen for that to happen.

Toffoli fit in well with the Devils’ top forwards, especially Jack Hughes, and played the role he was expected to. He led the team in goals during his time in New Jersey. The Devils traded Toffoli to the Winnipeg Jets at the 2024 NHL Trade Deadline once a trip to the Stanley Cup Playoffs seemed unlikely. They received draft picks in return. 

The trade was a necessary move for the Devils. They had to look to the future and avoid the possibility of losing Toffoli in the offseason for nothing. He ultimately finished the season with 33 goals between New Jersey and Winnipeg.

Toffoli is one of the former Devils that general manager Tom Fitzgerald could bring back this offseason. After the trade, Fitzgerald spoke highly of Toffoli. “He’s our leading scorer. Great in the locker room,” Fitzgerald told NHL.com. “He’s everything I thought he would be. A player that I have interest in the offseason if he’s interested in New Jersey.” The interest is mutual on Toffoli’s part. Extension talks were underway before the trade.

Despite the mutual interest, other statements Fitzgerald made showed that it would be difficult to solidify a reunion. He explained that Toffoli wants a longer deal than the Devils are willing to give. If he can find a longer deal elsewhere, that would and should prevent a reunion with the Devils, who shouldn’t get into a bidding war. It depends on what Toffoli can find when he tests the market.

Although the Devils are serious about their interest in bringing Toffoli back, the scenario that would work is compromising on term. Toffoli would have to go lower than he wants, and the Devils would have to go higher than they want. The Devils would need to go higher than a two-year contract to entice Toffoli. They’re probably not willing to go to four years, so a three-year contract could be ideal.

A factor here is whether the cost will make sense given the salary cap. Toffoli is 32-years-old. With stars under contract and some who will need contracts in the near future, the Devils don’t want to be tied to a long, expensive contract with Toffoli. Locking him up for less than a $6 million cap hit would work best for the Devils, but Toffoli might get more elsewhere.

If Toffoli isn’t able to find what he’s looking for elsewhere, and the Devils can make the salary and term work given the other moves they need to make this summer, a reunion could be in order. It isn’t the most likely outcome, but don’t rule out Toffoli returning to New Jersey next season.