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Jemima Kelly tries to tap her way to happiness 

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Jemima Kelly tries to tap her way to happiness 

In my day job as an FT columnist, I cast a sceptical, often irreverent eye over the world around me. I tend to be someone who challenges everything — not for the sake of it, but because I’m suspicious when a whole group of people believes the same thing. I have often been labelled a “contrarian”. I once hosted a podcast series called A Sceptic’s Guide to Crypto. I have the word “snark” in my X bio. You get the idea. 

So you might be surprised to hear of some of the things I dabble in during my free time. I use the word “synchronicity” with no sense of irony. I swear by my definitely psychic kinesiologist. I am a member of a coven called Sisters of the Sanitary Cloth (both the descriptor and our name are slightly tongue-in-cheek, though the latter more than the former). I’ve become obsessed with Co-Star, an app claiming to use Nasa data to give you “super-accurate” AI-generated horoscopes, ahem. (It was recommended to me by a senior colleague. I shan’t be naming names.) I write Morning Pages, as espoused by Julia Cameron, author of the creativity bible The Artist’s Way. I am, you know, “doing the work”. 

But how can someone who is so wary of consensus views, and so passionate about the importance of truth and objectivity, be so into what many of you might consider quackery? I think it’s quite simple: I have an open mind. And while I believe in the value of reason and empiricism, I would also argue that it is actually rational to explore alternative approaches to science and medicine and life. 

Which is how I find myself standing underneath a chandelier in a plush, Edwardian-style suite in the Savoy hotel, using the tips of my fingers to gently tap my “eyebrow points” as silent tears roll down my cheeks. “I feel like I’m on a never-ending hamster wheel of dates,” I repeat after my instructor as I tap (we have already discussed how I’m feeling; she’s not just guessing). “I’m fed up” — I move my fingertips down to tap just to the side of my eyes. “Eurgh” — below my eyes. “Bleurgh” — below my nose. “So many dates” — under my lower lip. “So many dates!” — collarbone. “But I’m prepared to stay open to love” — top of my head. “And I trust my intuition more and more each day” — back to my eyebrow points. Et cetera. 

Energy psychology practitioner Poppy Delbridge (left) with the author, at the Savoy, London, where Delbridge has a residency © Lewis Khan

My instructor is Poppy Delbridge, a former Warner Brothers executive who quit the world of entertainment TV in 2018 to dedicate herself full-time to tapping, a mainly self-administered form of therapy that combines modern psychology and ancient Chinese medicine. I came across her a few months ago, having decided it was high time to meet the love of my life. I went along to a “taster session” feeling rather dubious, spent most of our hour together in a state of deeply cathartic weeping (she has had this effect on me in all of our one-to-one sessions), and left feeling as if I was floating on air. 

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I now tap every day. I am a tapoholic. Guided by Delbridge’s Rapid Tapping app as well as her book, Tapping In, I have tapped on park benches, in saunas, on a Greek island, in the bath. I have completed her “Pivot into Power” personal empowerment programme (fellow graduates include British Fashion Council chief executive Caroline Rush and The Royle Family co-writer Phil Mealey). I have been on one of her “rapid retreats” (our group of five included a Delevingne sister and a superfan who’d flown in from the Caribbean). And I’m now doing her “30-day Love Cleanse”, which, like all of Delbridge’s programmes, involves not just tapping but also some quite intense soul-searching and personal development work. 

How to do the two-minute tap

Jemima Kelly performs her two-minute tap
© Lewis Khan

Poppy Delbridge’s guide to “Rapid Tapping”

Getting Started

Sit or stand comfortably.

Set your intention: decide how you’d like to feel right now (calm, energised, focused).

Check your frequency level: place both hands on your chest and notice your current feeling. Rate yourself from +10 (high joy) to -10 (low energy or stress).

Take a breath.

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Move your hands: slide them a few inches down from your collarbones and massage your “sore spots” firmly to balance and ground.

Set your intention: 

1. “I feel … ” identify your current emotion. 

2. “Because … ” acknowledge why you feel this way.

3. “But it is possible for me to … ” 

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Rapid Tapping Sequence

Using two fingers on each hand, tap on these points while repeating your three-step answers. 

1. Between eyebrows

2. Sides of eyes

3. Under eyes

4. Under nose

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5. Chin

6. Collarbone and heart area

7. Top of head 

Finish with a head hug and shake-it-off: rub your hands together, place one hand on your forehead, the other on the back of your head, and hold for 10 seconds. Hold and smile.  Then shake out your hands and body to recalibrate and refresh. 

The 7-Day Rapid Reset is available in the free app as a video demonstration

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Tapping is a so-called “somatic” therapy, meaning it focuses on the connection between the mind and the body. It has roots in ancient Chinese medicine but was invented by an American psychologist in the 1980s and then simplified by one of his students in the ’90s to become “Emotional Freedom Technique”. With EFT, you tap on nine main “meridian points” — pressure points that are also used for acupuncture — in order to release trapped energy from traumatic experiences stored in the body. While some have dismissed it as pseudoscience — Gary Bakker, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at the University of Tasmania, calls tapping a “purple hat therapy” and tells me “there is no evidence whatsoever that tapping on your imaginary meridians does anything for a clinical psychological problem” — there are studies that argue that tapping can be a way of treating depression, anxiety, PTSD, food cravings and even physical pain and the symptoms of autoimmune conditions. 

And the more I’ve been tapping, the more issues I have found it helps me with — particularly around stress, lack of motivation and self-doubt. 

Delbridge’s version, “Rapid Tapping”, focuses on seven meridian points that EFT uses and also usually includes an initial massage of the “sore spots” — fleshy bits about an inch below the collarbones that feel tender to the touch — as well as a “head hug” at the end (her app includes a how-to video). She wants to use tapping to focus less on moving away from bad things in the past, as with traditional EFT, and more towards good things in the future, by “rewiring our neural pathways”. To put another way: to “manifest” the things that you desire into your life. 

If this sounds gushy, be assured there’s none of that distinctly woo-woo brand of toxic positivity. The fact that every session begins by stating out loud how you really feel and, if that’s negative, repeating it until the feeling starts to become less acute, is part of what I think makes the practice so helpful. Not only does it feel like you are releasing tension when you say your negative feelings out loud, but some of them start to feel a bit ridiculous once you do.

Delbridge at the Savoy, London
Delbridge at the Savoy, London © Lewis Khan

Most taps start by asking you to score how you’re feeling — either in general or on a particular issue — and end by asking you to score it once again. Some days my emotions only edge up; other days my mood is totally transformed in minutes. Whatever it’s doing, it does feel like something is working. I also sigh when I’m tapping, a lot. Other people yawn. “I joke that I’m the only public speaker that, when the whole audience is yawning, I’m not offended,” says Nick Ortner, who has more than 100,000 subscribers to his The Tapping Solution App.

“At the very minimum you’re resetting your nervous system into an  arasympathetic state — from fight or flight into rest and relax,” says Dr Tara Swart, a neuroscientist and one of Delbridge’s clients, who now taps most days. “People who aren’t used to being in a state of relaxed alertness can end up feeling sleepy.”

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For my part, while I may not have yet met the love of my life, sigh, I feel I have broken down a number of barriers — or “love blocks” — since my first session with Delbridge in May. I also seem to spend much less time self-sabotaging, and am managing to regulate my emotions more successfully. I now use tapping as part of my morning routine, and sometimes at other points in the day too, and find it similar to meditation in the way that it grounds me, though it is usually more uplifting, motivating, and can be more focused if you want it to be.

I can assure you I felt like a fool — a fool! — the first time I did it, but these days tapping around my face and chest with my fingertips feels weirdly natural. Give it a try, I say. What’s the woo-woorst that could happen? 

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Why men should really be reading more fiction

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A friend sent a meme to a group chat last week that, like many internet memes before it, managed to implant itself deep into my brain and capture an idea in a way that more sophisticated, expansive prose does not always manage. Somewhat ironically, the meme was about the ills of the internet. 

“People in 1999 using the internet as an escape from reality,” the text read, over an often-used image from a TV series of a face looking out of a car window. Below it was another face looking out of a different car window overlaid with the text: “People in 2026 using reality as an escape from the internet.” 

Oof. So simple, yet so spot on. With AI-generated slop — sorry, content — now having overtaken human-generated words and images online, with social media use appearing to have peaked and with “dumb phones” being touted as this year’s status symbol, it does feel as if the tide is beginning to turn towards the general de-enshittification of life. 

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And what could be a better way to resist the ever-swelling stream of mediocrity and nonsense on the internet, and to stick it to the avaricious behemoths of the “attention economy”, than to pick up a work of fiction (ideally not purchased on one of these behemoths’ platforms), with no goal other than sheer pleasure and the enrichment of our lives? But while the tide might have started to turn, we don’t seem to have quite got there yet on the reading front, if we are on our way there at all.

Two-fifths of Britons said last year that they had not read a single book in the previous 12 months, according to YouGov. And, as has been noted many times before on both sides of the Atlantic, it is men who are reading the least — just 53 per cent had read any book over the previous year, compared with 66 per cent of women — both in overall numbers and specifically when it comes to fiction.

Yet pointing this out, and lamenting the “disappearance of literary men”, has become somewhat contentious. A much-discussed Vox article last year asked: “Are men’s reading habits truly a national crisis?” suggesting that they were not and pointing out that women only read an average of seven minutes more fiction per day than men (while failing to note that this itself represents almost 60 per cent more reading time).

Meanwhile an UnHerd op-ed last year argued that “the literary man is not dead”, positing that there exists a subculture of male literature enthusiasts keeping the archetype alive and claiming that “podcasts are the new salons”. 

That’s all well and good, but the truth is that there is a gender gap between men and women when it comes to reading and engaging specifically with fiction, and it’s growing.

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According to a 2022 survey by the US National Endowment for the Arts, 27.7 per cent of men had read a short story or novel over the previous year, down from 35.1 per cent a decade earlier. Women’s fiction-reading habits declined too, but more slowly and from a higher base: 54.6 per cent to 46.9 per cent, meaning that while women out-read men by 55 per cent in 2012 when it came to fiction, they did so by almost 70 per cent in 2022.

The divide is already apparent in young adulthood, and it has widened too: data from 2025 showed girls in England took an A-Level in English literature at an almost four-times-higher rate than boys, with that gap having grown from a rate of about three times higher just eight years earlier.

So the next question is: should we care and, if so, why? Those who argue that yes, we should, tend to give a few reasons. They point out that reading fiction fosters critical thinking, empathy and improves “emotional vocabulary”. They argue that novels often contain heroic figures and strong, virtuous representations of masculinity that can inspire and motivate modern men. They cite Andrew Tate, the titan of male toxicity, who once said that “reading books is for losers who are afraid to learn from life”, and that “books are a total waste of time”, as an example of whose advice not to follow. 

I agree with all of this — wholeheartedly, I might add. But I’m not sure how many of us, women or men, are picking up books in order to become more virtuous people. Perhaps the more compelling, or at least motivating, reason for reading fiction is simply that it offers a form of pleasure and attention that the modern world is steadily eroding. In a hyper-capitalist culture optimised for skimming and distraction, the ability to sit still with a novel is both subversive and truly gratifying. The real question, then, is why so many men are not picking one up.

jemima.kelly@ft.com

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Slow-moving prisoner releases in Venezuela enter 3rd day after government announces goodwill effort

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SAN FRANCISCO DE YARE, Venezuela — As Diógenes Angulo was freed Saturday from a Venezuelan prison after a year and five months, he, his mother and his aunt trembled and struggled for words. Nearby, at least a dozen other families hoped for similar reunions.

Angulo’s release came on the third day that families had gathered outside prisons in the capital, Caracas, and other communities hoping to see loved ones walk out after Venezuela ’s government pledged to free what it described as a significant number of prisoners. Members of Venezuela’s political opposition, activists, journalists and soldiers were among the detainees that families hoped would be released.

Angulo was detained two days before the 2024 presidential election after he posted a video of an opposition demonstration in Barinas, the home state of the late President Hugo Chávez. He was 17 at the time.

“Thank God, I’m going to enjoy my family again,” he told The Associated Press, adding that others still detained “are well” and have high hopes of being released soon. His faith, he said, gave him the strength to keep going during his detention.

Minutes after he was freed, the now 19-year-old learned that former President Nicolás Maduro had been captured by U.S. forces Jan. 3 in a nighttime raid in Caracas.

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The government has not identified or offered a count of the prisoners being considered for release, leaving rights groups scouring for hints of information and families to watch the hours tick by with no word.

President Donald Trump has hailed the release and said it came at Washington’s request.

On Thursday, Venezuela ’s government pledged to free what it said would be a significant number of prisoners. But as of Saturday, fewer than 20 people had been released, according to Foro Penal, an advocacy group for prisoners based in Caracas. Eight hundred and nine remained imprisoned, the group said.

A relative of activist Rocío San Miguel, one of the first to be released and who relocated to Spain, said in a statement that her release “is not full freedom, but rather a precautionary measure substituting deprivation of liberty.”

Among the prominent members of the country’s political opposition who were detained after the 2024 presidential elections and remain in prison are former lawmaker Freddy Superlano, former governor Juan Pablo Guanipa, and Perkins Rocha, lawyer for opposition leader María Corina Machado. The son-in-law of opposition presidential candidate Edmundo González also remains imprisoned.

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One week after the U.S. military intervention in Caracas, Venezuelans aligned with the government marched in several cities across the country demanding the return of Maduro and his wife Cilia Flores. The pair were captured and transferred to the United States, where they face charges including conspiracy to commit narco-terrorism.

Hundreds demonstrated in cities including Caracas, Trujillo, Nueva Esparta and Miranda, many waving Venezuelan flags. In Caracas, crowds chanted: “Maduro, keep on going, the people are rising.”

Acting president Delcy Rodríguez, speaking at a public social-sector event in Caracas, again condemned the U.S. military action on Saturday.

“There is a government, that of President Nicolás Maduro, and I have the responsibility to take charge while his kidnapping lasts … . We will not stop condemning the criminal aggression,” she said, referring to Maduro’s ousting.

On Saturday, Trump said on social media: “I love the Venezuelan people and I am already making Venezuela prosperous and safe again.”

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After the shocking military action that overthrew Maduro, Trump stated that the United States would govern the South American country and requested access to oil resources, which he promised to use “to benefit the people” of both countries.

Venezuela and the United States announced Friday that they are evaluating the restoration of diplomatic relations, broken since 2019, and the reopening of their respective diplomatic missions. A mission from Trump’s administration arrived in the South American country on Friday, the State Department said.

Venezuelan Foreign Minister Yván Gil responded to Pope Leo XIV, who on Friday called for maintaining peace and “respecting the will of the Venezuelan people.”

“With respect for the Holy Father and his spiritual authority, Venezuela reaffirms that it is a country that builds, works, and defends its sovereignty with peace and dignity,” Gil said on his Telegram account, inviting the pontiff “to get to know this reality more closely.”

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“So, my daughter, Robin, was born Jan. 5, 2025.” “Hi, baby. That’s you.” “When I first saw her, I was like, ‘Oh my God, she’s here.’” “She was crying and immediately when she was up on my face, she stopped crying.” “I got the room with the view.” “But it wasn’t until way later, I saw a fire near the Pasadena Mountains.” “We’re watching the news on the TV, hoping that it’s just not going to reach our house.” “The Eaton fire has scorched over 13,000 acres.” “Sixteen people confirmed dead.” “More than 1,000 structures have been destroyed.” “And then that’s when we got the call. Liz’s mom crying, saying the house is on fire.” “Oh, please. No, Dios mio. Go back. Don’t go that way. It’s closed. Go, turn. Turn back.” “Our house is burning, Veli.” “Oh my God.” “It was just surreal. Like, I couldn’t believe it.” “There’s nothing left.” “Not only our house is gone, the neighbors’ houses are gone, her grandma’s house is gone. All you could see was ash.” “My family has lived in Altadena for about 40 years. It was so quiet. There’s no freeways. My grandmother was across the street from us. All our family would have Christmas there, Thanksgivings. She had her nopales in the back. She would always just go out and cut them down and make salads out of them. My grandmother is definitely the matriarch of our family. My parents, our house was across the street. And then me and Javi got married right after high school.” “My husband’s getting me a cookie.” “Me and Javi had talked a lot about having kids in the future. Finally, after 15 years of being married, we were in a good place. It was so exciting to find out that we were pregnant. We remodeled our whole house. We were really preparing. My grandmother and my mom, they were like, crying, and they were like, so excited.” “Liz!” “I had this vision for her, of how she would grow up, the experiences maybe she would have experiencing my grandmother’s house as it was. We wanted her to have her childhood here. But all of our preparation went out the window in the matter of a few hours.” “And we’re like, ‘What do we do?’ And then we get a phone call. And it was Liz’s uncle. He was like, ‘Hey, come to my house. We have a room ready for you.’” “In my more immediate family, nine people lost their homes, so it was about 13 people in the house at any given point for the first three months of the fire. It was a really hard time. We had to figure out insurance claim forms, finding a new place to live, the cost of rebuilding — will we be able to afford it? Oh my gosh, we must have looked at 10 rentals. The experience of motherhood that I was hoping to have was completely different. Survival mode is not how I wanted to start. “Hi, Robin.” “Robin — she was really stressed out. “She’s over it.” “Our stress was radiating towards Robin. I feel like she could feel that.” “There was just no place to lay her safely, where she could be free and not stepped over by a dog or something. So she was having issues gaining strength. So she did have to go to physical therapy for a few months to be able to lift her head.” “One more, one more — you can do it.” “All the stress and the pain, it was just too much.” “Then Liz got really sick.” “I didn’t stop throwing up for five hours. Javi immediately took me to the E.R. They did a bunch of tests and figured out it was vertigo, likely stress-induced. It felt like, OK, something has to slow down. I can’t just handle all of it myself all the time. My mom is so amazing and my grandmother, they really took care of us in a really wonderful way. So — yeah.” “We’ve been able to get back on our feet. “Good high-five.” “I think it has changed how I parent. I’m trying to shed what I thought it would be like, and be open to what’s new. Robin is doing much better. She’s like standing now and trying to talk. She says like five words already. Even if it’s not exactly home for Robin, I wanted to have those smells around. You walk in and it smells like home. For us, it’s definitely tamales. My grandmother’s house is not being rebuilt. I can tell she’s so sad. “Let me just grab a piece of this.” “So right now, where Javi’s standing is the front. One bedroom there, here in the middle, and Robin’s bedroom in the corner. My grandma will live with us versus across the street, which is silver linings. Yeah, and we did make space for a garden for her.” “What are you seeing? What do you think? What do you think, Robin?” “The roots of Altadena — even though they’re charred — they’re going to be stronger than before.” “How strong you can be when something like this happens, I think is something that’s really important for her to take on. And that I hope Altadena also takes on.”

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