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Avoiding your problems with work? You might have “high-functioning” depression

Judith Joseph has spent most of her life building an impressive résumé. She is a board-certified psychiatrist, chair of the Women in Medicine Initiative for Columbia University’s Vagelos College of Physicians & Surgeons, a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at NYU Langone Medical Center, the principal investigator of her own research lab — and a mom.

But despite her accolades, once the COVID-19 pandemic hit, Joseph couldn’t shake the sense that something was off. With the world on lockdown, Joseph began sharing skits related to her research on social media, many of which went viral. It was only then that she landed on a name to what she, and many others, had been experiencing: high-functioning depression.

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“I wanted to make sure that we weren’t just thinking about depression in the way that our grandmothers think of depression, not being able to get out of bed, crying,” Joseph said.

Instead, with high-functioning depression “you push through and you don’t deal with your pain because too many people depend on you,” she said. “You know something’s off, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. And you don’t slow down because you don’t know how to.”

To Joseph’s surprise, high-functioning depression was absent in medical literature. So she set out to design and execute the first research study on the topic, which published in February. Her first book, “High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Find Your Joy (Little, Brown Spark), relies on findings from the study, anecdotes from patients from her private practice and lessons from her life to teach people how to understand the science of their sadness, so they can understand the science of their happiness.

The Times spoke with Joseph about her book’s findings and why it’s just as important to practice preventative care in mental health as it is in physical health.

This interview has been condensed and edited for clarity.

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Dr. Judith Joseph is the author of “High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy.” (Little, Brown Spark) (Photo by Anthony Steverson)

How would you define highfunctioning depression?

With clinical depression, you have five or more symptoms, like low appetite, change in appetite, poor sleep, low energy, feeling restless, guilt, hopelessness, suicidal ideation. But you also have to meet criteria for having a low mood, or anhedonia. And on top of all that, you have to have lower functioning or significant distress.

People with high-functioning depression will have the symptoms of depression, but they’re not low-functioning. In fact, they cope by over-functioning, and they don’t acknowledge having significant distress. In fact, they’re muted. They don’t feel anything.

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One of the symptoms of trauma is avoidance. So people think, “OK, I don’t want to go to this place or see this person or be in this situation because it triggers me.” But with high-functioning depression, people are avoiding by busying themselves so they don’t have time to feel, and when they sit still, they feel restless and empty.

A big part of highfunctioning depression is being defined by your achievements or what you do for others. Why is it so hard to build identity outside of our external achievements?

Many of us have this coping mechanism of forgetting, and that’s one of the 30-plus symptoms of the trauma inventory. We outrun because we don’t remember what it was like to derive a sense of pleasure from things that truly bring us joy, because our past hides them.

Children, if there’s a conflict, they internalize it and they’ll say, “Well, if I only got straight A’s, Daddy wouldn’t have left.” Or “If I only did my homework, the dog wouldn’t have died.” Children use that magical thinking, but adults use it too. They focus on things like work, a role, on what they can do. In the short run, that’s a positive coping skill, but in the long run, when you continue to intellectualize and you don’t feel, that can show in different ways like binge drinking, excessive shopping, excessive doomscrolling, physical breakdowns or even dipping into low-function depression.

The bottom line is that there is a real value in acknowledging and processing your trauma and healing, because then you can actually experience a change.

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“People can search and try to be happy all their lives and never get it. And even if you get the thing you think will make you happy, you’re still not happy. If you shift it, and you’re like, ‘I can increase my points of joy every day,’ then it’s attainable.”

— Dr. Judith Joseph

In the first part of your book, you introduce two key terms: anhedonia and masochism. What is anhedonia and why is it important for people to know what it is?

There’s a real disconnect between the research and the real world, because in research, anhedonia is all over our rating scales. It’s a term that has been around in the medical literature for hundreds of years. “An” is a lack, “hed” is pleasure, and “onia” is a symptom. “Anhedonia” is a lack of pleasure and joy, and it’s a lack of pleasure and joy in things you were once interested in.

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So imagine you’re eating your favorite meal and you’re not even tasting it, you’re not savoring it. Or if you are listening to your favorite song, and it doesn’t move your body the way it used to, it doesn’t light you up. Or if you’re looking at a beautiful part of nature, like the sun is setting and it’s exquisite, and you’re just checked out. Or if you’re with your partner, and you’re being intimate and you just want to rush through it; you’re not even in the moment. These are all the simple joys that make life worth living.

In research, you will rarely see the word “happy” on our rating scales, but what you do see are points of joy. Whereas in the real world, the patient will come in and say, “I just want to be happy.” But we’re like, “No, we’re just trying to eradicate your depression by increasing your points of joy.”

Happiness is an idea, whereas joy is an experience. If you can reframe that and think about it as: Anhedonia is robbing [me] of my joy; it’s not that I have to be depressed and weepy and sad, but if my points of joy are low, then that’s an indication that something is off.

It’s a really important shift because people can search and try to be happy all their lives and never get it. And even if you get the thing you think will make you happy, you’re still not happy. If you shift it, and you’re like, I can increase my points of joy every day, then it’s attainable. There’s hope. Today, you may get two points, but tomorrow maybe you get three.

How does masochism contribute to highfunctioning depression?

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When people think of masochism in the real world, they think of sex, which is not what we’re talking about. We’re talking about masochistic personality disorder. Masochistic traits are ones where people tend to bend over backward for others. They tend to sacrifice their joy for the sake of others. It’s almost like self-sabotaging. In today’s speak, it’s called people-pleasing.

What I found in my study was that a lot of people who are caregivers have high rates of anhedonia. Well, that makes sense. These are people who are not thinking about themselves. They’re putting others first, often at the expense of their own happiness. Because high-functioning depression is closely tied to trauma, and because a symptom of trauma is low self-worth and shame and self-blame, that may be a part of the reason why people with high-functioning depression can’t relax: They’re constantly doing for others.

If you’re someone who knows your self-worth and you know that your role doesn’t define you, you’re not going to bend over backward. You’re not going to keep going, even though you feel off and you feel burned out. You’re going to take care of yourself.

The second half of the book gives the reader concrete steps to reclaim their joy using what you call the Five V’s: validation, venting, values, vitals and vision. How did you develop these five Vs?

If you think about it, there’s been this renaissance in physical health, but there’s nothing for us in mental health. Why do we wait to check that box of low-functioning? We need to show people how to increase their points of joy and prevent these breakdowns on their own.

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So, I came up with the five Vs based on what I learned about happiness and research, and derived them based off of things that I felt that people needed to do in order to overcome trauma and how to find sustainable joy.

Validation is the first step. Because many people, again, don’t acknowledge how they feel. They push through pain, they just get through life, and that’s how they cope. But if you can acknowledge how you feel, and accept how you feel, then you could actually do something about it.

Venting is expressing your emotions. Some of my clients are neurodivergent, so they’re not the most verbally expressive. But there are other ways you can vent. You can draw, you can write, you can pray, you can sing. You could talk about your feelings, if that’s how you want to express it. You can cry. Venting has different ways of getting that emotion out and decreasing your stress.

Values are things that, when you tap into them, you feel a sense of purpose and meaning. I would say that values are things that are priceless. Many of us with high-functioning depression, we’re chasing the accolades, and we’re chasing the things that look good on the outside but don’t really give us true meaning.

With Vitals, I wanted to put in the traditional things like sleep, movement and diet, which are all important. But I also wanted to add things like our relationship to technology, our relationships with other people and work-life balance, because the quality of our relationships with people in our lives is the No. 1 predictor of long-term happiness and health.

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Vision is how do you plan joy so that you keep moving forward instead of getting stuck in the past? Celebrating your wins so you don’t have to live for tomorrow’s. Start planning joy today. That’s the whole point. Don’t hold your breath for happiness for the future.

Man with high-functioning depression running on a never-ending list of tasks

(Maggie Chiang / For The Times)

For someone who’s avoidant, it can be really scary to slow down enough to really examine your interior life. What do you say to that person who doesn’t know how to broach the five Vs?

I always say don’t do the five Vs all at once, because people who are intense like myself will want to do everything at once. The goal is not to use all five at once; use one or two. I would say start with validation. It doesn’t have to be this big, grand thing. It could be as simple as looking in the mirror every day and just reflecting on how you feel. Or, if that’s too intense for you, there’s sensory tools like a 5-4-3-2-1 method that is a grounding tool that allows you to be present in your body. Just practice that every day for one to two minutes and, slowly, you should be able to start to self-reflect and acknowledge and accept what you’re feeling and move from there.

You directly tied the idea of “vision to fostering joy and combating anhedonia. What’s the relationship between vision and anhedonia?

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People with high-functioning depression want to keep doing what they’re good at. But it’s important to retrain your brain and slowly reintroduce yourself to the things that you once enjoyed.

For example, in the book I talk about a patient who forgot that they actually enjoyed nature. When they were a child, their parents used to take them camping and when the parents got divorced, they stopped going camping, and they forgot that that’s what they love doing. Now they live in a big city and what they usually do for fun is go see a show or something that is more accessible in a city. But when we identified that trauma, we started to challenge them to go back into nature again. By slowly introducing the person back to the things that they used to like, their anhedonia in relation to nature got better.

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At the end of the book you break down the various types of therapy and drug interventions for someone struggling with their mental health. For someone who has your book in hand and is looking for next steps, what would you recommend them?

I’d recommend for them to take the quizzes [throughout the book] and to see where they are in terms of the levels of anhedonia, depression and trauma and then move from there.

Let’s say, biologically, you’re healthy and psychologically you don’t have very many risk factors. Then you have to work on the social aspect. What is it about you that’s keeping you in that toxic environment? What’s hindering you from leaving there? Because that’s where you’re losing joy.

For another individual, it could be that the social bucket is fine. The psychological bucket is fine. But biologically, maybe there’s an untreated autoimmune issue, or maybe you’re going through perimenopause. Well, then that’s where you need to focus on the science of your happiness.

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For others who have trauma that’s never been processed, and they’re constantly in fight or flight, but biologically and socially, things are not as draining for them, then that’s where we need to focus.

There is only ever going to be one you in the history of the universe and in the future of the universe. That, to me, is so powerful because then you know that you’re here for a reason.

So I want people who read this book to really try to understand the science of your happiness, because there’s only one you. And then when you fully understand what’s draining from your happiness, then you can work on those efforts to increase your joy, using the book as a guide.

Shelf Help is a wellness column where we interview researchers, thinkers and writers about their latest books — all with the aim of learning how to live a more complete life. Want to pitch us? Email alyssa.bereznak@latimes.com.

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We asked our listeners: What’s your favorite Pixar movie? Clockwise from left: Coco, Inside Out, Toy Story 3, WALL-E, Ratatouille and Finding Nemo

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In the 30 years since the release of Toy Story, Pixar has established a track record of producing critic- and audience-beloved stories. But let’s be real: There are distinct hierarchies within this catalog, and many people have very strong opinions about where each of these movies might fall, especially when it comes to the sequels. So we recently asked our Pop Culture Happy Hour listeners to help answer a (perhaps) impossible question: What is the best Pixar movie?

Each participant could vote for no more than three films. Evil, we know; just call us Emperor Zurg.

Below you’ll find their top 10 picks, based on more than 2,500 votes. A couple quick notes/caveats: Voting took place before Pixar’s latest feature Elio was released, so it didn’t factor into this ranking, though you can hear our thoughts in the podcast episode about that film here. And of the 28 features that were in the running, all but one sad, strange little film — 2022’s Lightyear — received at least one vote. It has our pity.

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To infinity, and beyond!

10. Toy Story 3 (2010)

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Many fans claim this as the best of the franchise, so its place in the top 10 is almost a given. That final act is an emotional doozy, with our dear gang forced to reckon with their own mortality in the face of a trash-heap incinerator. (Or should I say, toytality? I’ll … see myself out.) And then, of course, there’s the lovely farewell to Andy, the boy who’s been the center of their worlds, especially Woody’s, for oh so long, but is now venturing off to college. It’s a fitting, beautiful conclusion to the series that started it all — or at least it should’ve been, if only Pixar weren’t so keen on tapping this well until it’s damn near arid. (Toy Story 5 is slated for 2026. *sigh*) —Aisha

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9. Monsters, Inc. (2001)

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Is it blasphemous to say I think this should be ranked higher? Well, so be it. Put this thing up higher where it belongs or so help me! This remains one of Pixar’s most richly conceived premises to date, and it all comes together to create a vivid world full of memorable characters (Mike Wazowski!), clever sight gags and an ending that could have been cloying but instead will melt even the iciest of hearts. The way Sully’s face lights up when he returns to Boo’s bedroom closet door and she lets out an adorably ecstatic “Kitty!” is the stuff that dreams are made of. —Aisha

8. Ratatouille (2007)

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On paper, this should not work: A Parisian rat with a sophisticated palate helps a restaurant garbage boy rise through the kitchen’s ranks to become a renowned chef. But that outlandish premise makes the film’s creative feats even more impressive. Remy the rat is cute and endearing! You can’t help but set aside those gag reflexes and root for the little guy. And while this is one of many films that leans a little too heavily on the strongly unflattering depiction of a critic, even I can’t help but be moved by the moment ruthless restaurant connoisseur Anton Ego experiences the pure, nostalgia-fueled ecstasy of that ratatouille meal, as prepared by an epicurean rodent. —Aisha

7. The Incredibles (2004)

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We’re in the midst of a huge wave of live-action remakes of animated classics. And if those remakes have taught us one thing, it’s that animation can allow storytellers to work with remarkable efficiency: Just compare the runtimes of, say, the two versions of Lilo & Stitch or the two versions of How to Train Your Dragon. That might provide one sense of what makes The Incredibles one of the best superhero movies ever made: It’s not larded with confusing lore, clunky visual effects or overlong battle scenes, leaving writer-director Brad Bird to fill the screen with light-on-its-feet action, wild humor (“NO CAPES!”) and thoughtful commentary on how superheroes might struggle to balance heroism and supernatural abilities with the mundane realities of aging, assimilation and family life. —Stephen

5 (tie). Toy Story (1995)

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Toy Story gets — and deserves — plenty of credit for proof of concept: It’s the massive success that launched Pixar as a global phenomenon, demonstrated the power and possibility of computer animation, introduced iconic characters such as Woody and Buzz Lightyear, and set the stage for some of the best sequels in history. But it’s not just a template-setter; it’s also a dynamite standalone film, with warm and iconic performances (from Tom Hanks, Tim Allen, et. al) and a sweet story in which toys learn their true purpose. Those sequels hit so hard, and address such powerful themes, in part because they’re built atop some of the most powerful bedrock imaginable. —Stephen

5 (tie). Coco (2017)

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Two words: “Remember me.” And more: All of Pixar’s films have been about the strengths and cracks in family bonds in some way or another, but Coco‘s take is arguably the studio’s most complex and profound exploration of the subject. It sweetly and thoughtfully melds Mexican tradition with a plot that questions the stories we tell ourselves and pass on across generations. Visually, it’s a stunner, especially the rendering of the colorful, electrifying Land of the Dead. And of course there’s the music, and Miguel’s beautiful moment with Mama Coco near the film’s end, which rivals the opening scene in Up and the departure of Bing Bong in Inside Out as the ultimate Pixar tearjerker. —Aisha

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4. Up (2009)

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After an old-timey newsreel feeds us a few big gulps of exposition, Up delivers the greatest eight-and-a-half minutes in Pixar’s history: the telling of two intertwined life stories that play out as funny, kind-hearted, empathetic, occasionally wrenching montage. In a frequently wordless scene that establishes Ellie and Carl’s different but wonderfully matched personalities, director Pete Docter oversees a master class in character development, movie scoring (by Michael Giacchino, who rightly won an Oscar), stakes-setting and seed-planting. As wild and swashbuckling as Up gets, it’s the callbacks and the memories of Ellie — all established in those eight-and-a-half minutes — that give the movie its resonance. And leave it to Pixar to create a sweet comic-relief dog (oh, Dug…) and then actually write him some of the funniest, most quotable jokes around. —Stephen

3. Finding Nemo (2003)

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A staple of movie theaters, DVD players and TV showrooms, Finding Nemo checked every box upon its release in 2003: With its shimmering, deep-blue color palette, it’s stunning to look at. It’s packed with jokes, action, perils and funny side characters. It’s exquisitely acted, particularly by leads Albert Brooks (as Marlon) and Ellen DeGeneres (as Dory, who got her own sequel 13 years later), as Finding Nemo weaves between underwater adventure and anxious meditations on grief, parenthood, responsibility, risk, found family and loss. More than two decades later, it hasn’t aged a day. —Stephen

2. WALL-E (2008)

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This was inevitable. It’s made many “best of” and “greatest” lists, including the 2012 Sight & Sound poll from the British Film Institute. Heck, it even became the first Pixar feature to enter into the Criterion Collection. But I’m sorry, folks: That opening sequence, stunner though it is, is doing an astronomical amount of heavy lifting here. The drop-off in quality for the rest of the film is jarring and, frankly, more than a little frustrating. Wall-E’s adorable, though. —Aisha

1. Inside Out (2015)

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On one hand, the stakes in Inside Out seem relatively modest: Will an 11-year-old girl named Riley make a bad decision in the wake of her family’s cross-country move? But its real story is about nothing less than the life of the mind — and the many factors and emotions that compel us to not only act the way we act, but feel the way we feel. Amy Poehler leads a brilliant cast as Joy, The Office‘s Phyllis Smith is a revelation as Sadness, Richard Kind gives quite possibly his Richard Kindiest performance as (sniffle) Bing Bong… everyone here is grand. But what really endures about Inside Out is the clarity it’s offered to a generation of kids — and their parents — about their own brains, and about the jobs our many emotions are there to do. —Stephen

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