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A patient leaves a lasting impression on one doctor's life
This story is part of the My Unsung Hero series, from the Hidden Brain team. It features stories of people whose kindness left a lasting impression on someone else.
In 1985, Mark Metersky was a medical student, doing rotations at Bellevue Hospital in New York City.
One of his patients was a young man who struggled with a heroin addiction. The man had been in the hospital for a lengthy stay to treat a heart problem, and Metersky found him to be difficult.
“He was manipulative. He would bargain. He was the bane of my existence,” Metersky recalled.
In the same room was a man dying of AIDS-related lymphoma, under the care of another doctor. This second patient had exhausted all treatment options, and the only thing doctors could do was to manage his pain.
“Unfortunately, 40 years ago, we were much less skilled at treating pain,” Metersky said. “And in this patient, we were not doing a great job.”
Early one morning, around 3 a.m., Metersky was called in to see the second patient; apparently, the man’s discomfort had increased and he likely needed more medication.
“When I got to the room, the lymphoma patient looked horrible,” Metersky remembered. “He was delirious, barely conscious, clearly in pain, sweating [profusely], with his hair plastered to his forehead.”
Metersky still thinks about what else he saw in the room — his patient cradling the lymphoma patient’s head in his lap, wiping his brow with a towel.
The young man, who had previously been manipulative and defiant, was providing the comfort that Metersky says doctors had failed to provide.
Over the next 40 years, as Metersky went on to practice pulmonary and critical care and to train other doctors, he kept that moment in the back of his mind. He says it taught him to always be sensitive to his patients’ suffering and to do whatever he could to alleviate it. Sometimes, that meant simply sitting next to them, or expressing his concern.
“But it also told me that there are very few patients, or people in general, who are all good, or are all bad,” he said.
“You’ll find generosity and compassion in some unlikely circumstances. And these are both lessons that I’ve tried to carry to the present day.”
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Film director and screenwriter Jeff Baena, husband of Aubrey Plaza, dead at 47
Jeff Baena, the 47-year-old film director, screenwriter and husband of actress and producer Aubrey Plaza, was found dead at a Los Angeles residence on Friday, the Los Angeles Fire Department confirmed.
The death is currently under investigation by the Los Angeles Police Department.
Baena’s family has not confirmed the filmmaker’s death. But a medical examiner’s death certificate lists a man with Baena’s name and date of birth dying at a residence in Hollywood.
According to a spokesperson for the Los Angeles County medical examiner’s office, the cause and manner of death have yet to be determined.
Baena is best known for directing indie films including The Little Hours and for co-writing I Heart Huckabees with David O. Russell.
He frequently collaborated with actress and producer Aubrey Plaza. The couple started dating in 2011 and got married in 2021.
Plaza had not publicly commented about the death at the time of publication.
Baena was born in Miami in 1977. He graduated from New York University and worked for filmmakers Robert Zemeckis and David O. Russell.
NPR reached out to Baena’s agent, lawyer and manager for confirmation of the death and comment, as well as various close associates, including actress Alison Brie and filmmakers Jay and Mark Duplass. No one had responded or posted on social media at the time of publication.
Of their collaboration on the 2020 comedy thriller Horse Girl, Brie told Paste Magazine about going on hikes and double dates with the filmmaker. “We’d talk about every type of thing, and he’d bring up certain types of characters that I should play,” she said. “Jeff and I [are] very close friends.”
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Lauren Sanchez Brings Billionaire Barbie Style to St. Barts in Hot Pink Dress
Lauren Sanchez doesn’t need to wait until Wednesday to wear pink … pulling off a Barbie-chic dress while enjoying an island vacay to kick off her new year.
The former entertainment reporter was walking around Gustavia, St. Barts, earlier this week in the form-fitting dress … cut out at the sides, revealing her tan skin underneath.
The dress ends pretty high on her legs … more of a summer number than one worn in the dead of winter — though St. Barts has gorgeous weather year-round, to be fair.
No Jeff Bezos during Lauren’s shopping trip … but, she was joined by pal October Gonzalez, the wife of Tony Gonzalez … the former NFL star — and Lauren’s ex-husband.
The pair of pals hit up a few luxury stores down in the country … including Prada, Dolce & Gabbana and Louis Vuitton as they strolled along the port.
As you may remember … Sanchez and Gonzalez have nailed co-parenting their son — celebrating their son Nikko‘s college graduation with their respective significant others over summer.
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Now, they’re enjoying full-on vacations together … hanging out on the yacht as a group earlier this week.
Sanchez is certainly kicking off the new year right … and, is looking pretty in pink while doing it!
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Apple TV+ is free this weekend. Here's what we'd watch
Subscribing to every streaming service out there is not an option for most people. It just isn’t. They’re too expensive, there are too many, and it’s also just a lot of work to keep track of so many options and apps and interfaces. Some folks pick and choose, while some folks use the rotation method (service #1 for a few months to catch up, then service #2 for a few months to watch their stuff, and so forth).
Apple TV+ is free this weekend for anybody who has an Apple ID. It’s a service that has not taken off the way some people thought it might, despite having some successes — Ted Lasso in particular. I’m not here to tell you to pick this service over any other one, or to pay for it at all. But I am here to give you a little advice on what might be worth using this free weekend to catch, since they’re giving it away.
Some things (aside from Ted Lasso) have gotten a ton of good press already. Severance is a spooky, beautifully designed drama/sci-fi story about the drudgery of office life, and it’s starting again in a couple weeks, so now could be the perfect time to catch up. Pachinko is a really moving saga based on Min Jin Lee’s novel of the same name. My current favorite show, if I had to name one, is Shrinking, a very funny and often very emotionally rich story about a bunch of great characters, many of them therapists — it also features my favorite Harrison Ford performance in years and years and years. Bad Sisters, especially the first season, is a delicious and fabulously performed story of devoted siblings getting the better of a terrible, terrible husband.
Other favorites of the TV critics I know: Dickinson, Slow Horses, For All Mankind, Silo, and this year’s Cate Blanchett drama Disclaimer. And they’ve got movies, too: Coda won best picture at the 2022 Oscars, after all.
But maybe you feel like “yes, yes, I’ve heard of all those things.” So let me spotlight a handful of other Apple offerings that haven’t gotten quite as much attention that you might enjoy.
- The Afterparty: This series stars a murderer’s row of comic actors — in the first season it was folks like Sam Richardson, Ben Schwartz, John Early, Ike Barinholtz, Tiya Sircar and Ilana Glazer — in an actual murder mystery that takes place at a high school reunion. Every episode is done in a different genre (musical, action picture, rom-com). It’s a lot of fun, and if you enjoy comic mysteries as much as I do, it might be right up your alley.
- Platonic: I was a big fan of this show, starring Seth Rogen and Rose Byrne as best friends who reunite after a long time out of touch. It’s really funny, but it also has a nice feel for actual platonic friendships (it is not about whether they are going to kiss) and their complications. If you like your comedies to be proudly and brightly funny rather than heavy and high-concept, give it a shot.
- Sharper: This film is a thriller that I feel like absolutely nobody saw except me — but again, it was right up my alley. It’s a twisty story about New York scammers starring Julianne Moore, Sebastian Stan and Justice Smith. There are reversals and betrayals and ooh, it was kinda fun.
- Flora and Son: This movie is about a single mom, played by Eve Hewson, who takes guitar lessons remotely with a laid-back guy played by Joseph Gordon-Levitt. It was written and directed by John Carney, who made Once and Sing Street, so you are in good hands. He just has a way with big musical moments, and I really enjoyed where this one ended up.
- Boys State and Girls State: Boys State and Girls State are twin documentaries about leadership programs for high school students, and both are absorbing and sobering, particularly when seen side-by-side.
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