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A little too obsessed with Taylor Swift? It might be a coping mechanism

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While researching “Cultish,” her book on “the language of cults from Scientology to SoulCycle,” writer Amanda Montell kept coming across studies on cognitive biases, or common errors in thinking. Montell couldn’t help noticing that cognitive biases explained more than why some people became fanatics — they also explained many of her “own daily decisions in the information age” and the “seemingly confounding” behavior of other people in her life.

Montell’s new book, “The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality” (Simon & Schuster), is her attempt to help people notice and name how their minds are making them miserable, and then, hopefully, learn to avoid the traps.

Montell spoke to The Times about the particular challenges of social media, what Taylor Swift has to do with the author’s mom, and more. This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

Psychologists and economists and other social scientists have been researching cognitive biases for decades, but you argue that understanding them is more important now than ever. Why is that?

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Cognitive biases, like the sunk-cost fallacy or recency illusion, are these innate psychological shortcuts that we’ve always taken to make sense of the world enough to survive it. These behaviors have been observed and documented for over a hundred years. But they can newly explain so many of the irrationalities that are directly a product of the digital age. While the democratization of information has been incredible and a net positive thing for society, our minds, our amygdalae have not caught up with the culture that we’ve created.

These psychological shortcuts that we once made to process a much more limited amount of information from the physical world are now being applied to more abstract information — some of which is true, some of which is not — and causing us to have really miserable reactions. So we’re feeling a sort of nebulous, can’t-quite-put-our-finger-on-it sense of ennui, sense of languishing, sense of panic, fear for the future. We’re using these age-old shortcuts that were once very helpful in a new context in which they’re becoming slightly out of date. Cognitive biases can really explain so much of the nonsense that we are exposed to in society these days.

Amanda Montell.

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In each chapter, you analyze a different behavior — sometimes cultural, sometimes personal — through the lens of a cognitive bias. The first chapter is about Taylor Swift fans, but it’s also about your mom. How does that chapter’s specific cognitive bias, the halo effect, explain both Swift stans and your own family dynamics?

The halo effect describes our penchant to admire one thing about a person and then jump to the conclusion that they must be perfect overall. This bias stems from the ways we used to identify role models in our communities for survival purposes, but now we’re applying the halo effect to modern parasocial relationships, namely celebrities, in a way that is having serious deleterious consequences.

I came across this pretty fascinating research reflecting how increasing stan worship is actually correlated in interesting ways to parent-child attachment. If we don’t experience enough “positive stressors” from our parental figures and communities in real life, we often look for those things in online spaces and virtual spaces and that can really set us up for major side effects from narcissistic tendencies to poor body image to criminality.

The relationship between the surrogate “mother” — that is, the female pop star — and our attachments to our actual mothers is something I was really interested to explore. I talk about my personal experience involving those ideas and my own mom and finally coming around to the notion that my mom was a real person and we were able to move through that with empathy and communication. That goes two ways, but the fact that so many stans perceive celebrities like Taylor Swift as surrogate mothers of sorts is setting everybody up for psychological failure because the mode of communication is one-sided. The surrogate “mother” could never fulfill their wishes or live up to their standards and could also never humanize herself in a way that a mother could.

“If we don’t experience enough ‘positive stressors’ from our parental figures and communities in real life, we often look for those things in online spaces and virtual spaces and that can really set us up for major side effects from narcissistic tendencies to poor body image to criminality.”

In another chapter, you delve into the world of manifestation gurus and argue that their rise can be explained by “proportionality bias.” What is that and how does it work?

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Proportionality bias describes our proclivity to assume that a big event or even a big feeling must have had a big cause. It just makes proportional cause-and-effect sense to us to assume that, “Oh, a massive earth-shattering pandemic broke out, that couldn’t have been the result of a bunch of small random minor tragedies all adding up to this big one, instead the government must have engineered it on purpose.”

Manifestation is another misattribution of cause-and-effect, just with a more positive spin: if I got a promotion, it’s because I put a dollar sign on my vision board. But in this time of mass isolation when we feel incredibly out of control and lacking agency in our futures, so many online manifestation gurus have seized our proportionality bias en masse by communicating this very absolutist idea that you can actually control your outcomes and improve your circumstances with your mind as long as you sign up for my $25-a-month course.

One of the major features of the information age, as you call it, is social media. How does social media hijack our mind’s wiring and how can recognizing cognitive biases help us there?

I can talk about this in a personal context. My day job for many years was working in the beauty industry. I thought, “I’m a mole and they’re not going to be able to get me” and the joke was surely on me because just a couple of years into the beauty industry I felt like someone else’s blond only made me brunet-er.

Then I left the beauty industry to write and thought, “Oh, thank god I’ve been freed from social comparison purgatory.” And again, the joke was on me because now I was comparing myself to other writers, nonfiction authors who are my age and had my same haircut. That was really devastating and caused me a lot of psychological turmoil. In the book, I offer some solutions to combat that zero-sum bias that causes you to go down a spiral.

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That’s the false perception that another person’s gain means your loss. And there was a time when another person’s access to food and mates really would mean your deficit, but that is not true in our modern economy. There’s actually a way to build more wealth no matter what area of life you’re talking about, but it’s innate to our species that we experience “win-win denial.”

Especially during times of sociopolitical turbulence, we feel that if the government is helping one group, surely another group must be suffering. There’s fascinating research reflecting that when we feel culturally unmoored, people are more resistant to immigration because they start feeling that scarcity mind-set.

You know, as I’m launching this book, you start to feel a little bit more competitive than you ordinarily would, so I’m truly returning to the ideas of zero-sum bias and win-win denial myself. It’s an ongoing process.

Does knowing and naming these ideas help you fight them?

I will never be able to prevent my instincts that point me in the direction of zero-sum bias or confirmation bias, but I will say that the awareness of them has been so soothing. When someone else’s behavior seems truly inexplicable or evil, even, I can pinpoint, “Oh, that is just overconfidence bias at play” in the same way that I noticed overconfidence bias in my own behavior. Or “that is zero-sum bias, that is the recency illusion.” It just feels good to have an excuse not to write off your fellow humans being as defective.

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But I’ve also come across so many studies that had these actionable tidbits of wisdom. One I keep returning to is about additive versus subtractive solutions. I came across this really fascinating study about the tendency to solve problems by adding more variables to the equation even when a much simpler solution would involve taking one or two things away. The study involved a spatial puzzle involving colored blocks and the vast majority of the participants opted for the much more cumbersome additive solution instead of subtracting, because subtraction is just not how our minds are oriented.

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It reminded me of a relationship that was not serving me. I thought during our miserable times that what would help us would be adding a vacation or replacing our furniture or some totally over-the-top additive solution when the much better way to approach the problem would be to take something away, to break up, potentially.

I have applied this framework even to minor problems. I was looking at my junk drawer and my first impulse was, I need to go to the Container Store and get some really beautiful drawer organizers. But the much simpler and more effective solution would be to throw this junk away.

Angela Chen is a journalist. Find her work at angelachen.org.

Shelf Help is a new wellness column where we interview researchers, thinkers and writers about their latest books — all with the aim of learning how to live a more complete life. Want to pitch us? Email alyssa.bereznak@latimes.com.

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George Orwell famously wrote that it takes a constant struggle to see what’s in front of one’s nose. That may be truer than ever. These days we barely register things that 20 years ago would’ve seemed downright bizarre — like people staring down at their phones in busy crosswalks. The unnatural comes to seem natural.

Until it doesn’t. This has happened with the proliferation of data centers all over America. After years of ignoring their mushrooming growth — there are over 4,000 in the U.S. — the public now sees them clearly and doesn’t like what they represent, be it soaring energy bills or the advent of job-killing AI. People now oppose having data centers in their communities. In real life — and in movies like Eddington — politicians are now pulled between their constituents’ desires and the devouring needs of Big Tech.

The hatred of data centers ignites the action in Cloudthief, a boisterous new novel that’s equal parts heist thriller and cry in the digital wilderness. It was written by novelist Nathaniel Rich, who may be best known for ecological non-fiction such as his 2019 book Losing Earth. Setting his story back in 2014 — when tech billionaires were still considered visionaries, not bullying moguls — Cloudthief centers on a brainy young man who, like the guy in the Leonard Cohen song, is just some Joseph looking for a manger.

Our narrator “Tim” — a pseudonym he says — is a freelance writer who’s gone broke doing magazine articles about climate change. He’s lonely and lost until he stumbles upon Virginia (also not her real name), who could be the American cousin of dragon-tattooed Lisbeth Salander.

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Tech-savvy and paranoid and scarily elusive, Virginia lives off the grid in a Manhattan mini-storage unit and has plans for a blow against Big Tech. Evidently, Tim has never seen a noir movie because he doesn’t merely fall for this 21st-century fantasy of a femme fatale, he dreamily goes along with her plans to rob a data center in Pryor, Okla., and make off with the sellable information their servers contain.

Once they drive off to Pryor — Rich describes their road trip wonderfully — Cloudthief kicks into high gear, serving up the juicy stuff that we all love in a heist story. We see the baroque planning. We watch them case their target, a silver-smoke spewing behemoth that has the majestic size of two futuristic airport terminals but is actually as tacky as a boondocks mini-mall.

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Apache chef Nephi Craig says cooking Native food saved his life

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Nephi Craig’s mother is White Mountain Apache and his father is Diné Navajo. He grew up on both reservations.

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Nephi Craig, the founder of the Native American Culinary Association, credits eating, cooking and teaching about Indigenous food with saving his life.

Craig became addicted to alcohol and drugs at an early age. After his first DUI, the judge gave him the option of three months’ probation if he agreed to get a job or go to college. That’s when he enrolled in cooking classes at Scottsdale Community College.

Craig says he initially felt like an “oddball” in the classes because he was unfamiliar with terms like “bistro” and “vichyssoise.” But he also credits the classes with igniting his interest in cooking — and teaching him more about Native foods, including the tomato.

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“[When] I came across this info that [the tomato] was native to the Americas, it just brought this really big smile to my face,” Craig says. “As a Native American in Arizona, you don’t really see yourself represented in really anything, let alone cookbooks and culinary school curriculum. So that was a neat point of validation for me that grew into many other interests.”

Craig eventually landed a job at one of Phoenix’s top fine dining restaurants, a goal he’d been working towards for years. But after a period of sobriety, a relapse ultimately cost him the job. He wound up in jail, where he worked in the kitchen and learned to design meals with whatever food was on hand.

“I was bunched in with the other Native Americans. And in jail, we call ourselves ‘chiefs,’” he says. “Banding together to feed, I think it was 7,800 inmates a day, was really eye-opening. It showed me that I was not above or below any style of cooking.”

Over the years, Craig completed nine rehabs and ran away from five others. Now sober, he works as the nutritional recovery program coordinator at the White Mountain Apache tribe-owned Rainbow Treatment Center in Whiteriver, Ariz., which serves people recovering from substance abuse. In 2021, he opened Café Gozhóó, a restaurant on the reservation that’s a place for the community to eat and talk. His new memoir is Our Knives Will Save Us: Dispatches from a White Mountain Apache Chef.

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Trump relished in being compared to dictators like Hitler and Stalin, journalist says

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The New York Times journalist Jonathan Swan has spent the past 11 years covering President Trump through three political campaigns, his first, and now second, term in office and the ongoing war with Iran. Swan says aside from the COVID-19 pandemic, he can’t remember a time where Trump looked “as stuck as he looks right now.”

“It’s pretty clear he realizes that this war [with Iran] has not gone well, has not played out the way that Netanyahu pitched him or that Trump himself thought [it] would play out,” Swan says. “Trump is someone who is naturally given to hubris, but I think we saw a very extreme version of that with this war.”

Swan and his co-author Maggie Haberman spoke with more than 1,000 sources for their new book, Regime Change: Inside the Imperial Presidency of Donald Trump. The book paints a picture of an unrestrained president remaking the American government and its international relations in profound ways.

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Swan notes that the president, who sat for an interview for the book, has been particularly fixated on becoming a “great man of history” during his second term. During one interview, Trump showed Swan and Haberman a document that compared him to notorious historical figures like Mao, Stalin, Hitler, Attila the Hun and Genghis Khan.

“[The list had] nothing to do with morality, all just about pure power projection. And Trump was relishing being in their company,” Swan says. “Maggie and I talked about it afterwards, and it really occurred to us that when you look at it through that lens, his second term makes a lot more sense.”

Swan says the president’s fixation on power is reflected in his decisions to go to war in Iran and implement regime change in Venezuela. But he also sees it manifested in Trump’s White House decor, which leans on what Swan calls the president’s “inner Louis XIV” style.

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