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The print, digital, and broadcast media industry is experiencing significant layoffs and cutbacks, reports Forbes. Lahteefah Parramore offers some financial tips for those navigating the dismal terrain of unemployment. Leaning on her 15 years of experience working as a CPA at Ernst and Young, she found INQUE Management, a consultation firm located in Miami, New York, Beverly Hills, Atlanta, and Los Angeles. “God really put it into my heart to help people in the arts, help creators, and help independent contractors really scale their businesses and see how they can make money, and protect their money, and build their wealth,” said Parrmore to Bombshell By Bleu. “Everybody doesn’t understand financial statements. Everybody doesn’t understand taxes. But that’s why I’m here.” Parramore is considered a trusted expert in accounting in the entertainment industry who specializes in “business management and CFO services; her clients include nationally and internationally known athletes, creatives, entrepreneurs, record labels, and groups working for positive social change.” She educates her clients on advancing their financial literacy, personal accounting, supervising and increasing cash flows, investing, and money management.

Yolanda Baruch: What financial tips can you give those navigating layoffs, and how should they manage their finances after a layoff?

Lateefah Parramore: With great tragedy always comes opportunity. Everyone should be trying to pivot from whatever job, financial situation, or status they were in, especially from a corporate perspective. For people that were laid off, there are a couple of critical components; the first thing that they need to do is take some time to quiet their minds. Take some time to form peace; you can’t have faith and fear simultaneously. Realize that the situation is temporary because financial health is connected and tied to emotional stability and health. I have learned over my 20 years of doing this that when I have clients that are emotionally down, depressed, or just experiencing turmoil, it directly impacts their financial life. Right. I would recommend that people take time to find a little bit of peace and little more faith. Second, when someone has been living off a financial level, whether they’re making $20,000 a year, six figures, or more a year, many people have had to downsize drastically. So, when you reduce at such a rapid rate, sometimes it’s hard to crawl out of that, so to speak.

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But everyone needs to assess their monthly spending and the necessary bills. They need to determine if the features on their cell phone bill or insurance can be changed to save money. Many of us have many different types of apps, like Netflix and all of these other platforms, charging you. Can you consolidate your entertainment and bills? Every dollar adds up, and that’s why one of the first things I mentioned is having a clear head because once you have a clear mind space, you can sit down and do an accurate budget. Also, look at your network of people, family, and the resources they have access to, and see how you can cross-fusion items like financial resources; you’ll be surprised there could be a barter system component within your family friends network.

Baruch: How can people diversify their income?

Parramore: Now is the time for people to take a moment to diversify their revenue. Many people say you should have seven income streams by having passive income. What do I mean by that? My active income is from business management, accounting, and tax filing. That’s what I do every day; that’s my income stream. But I also have invested in real estate and investment trusts, so I have a company specifically for real estate holdings. In many instances, it provides monthly cash flow or even dividends. In addition to that, I have another business that invested in a franchise; I don’t run the franchise daily, there’s an entire team that runs it, but I receive royalty payments from that franchise. People can sometimes get overwhelmed with the pressure of having more than one resource of income without knowing how to do it. One of the things that I encourage my clients to do is maximize the income potential of what they do. If you are someone like me, I’m a CPA. I do planning, business management, review contracts, and negotiate through these things. The next level for me is sharing my knowledge, which is why I wrote a book to help people understand taxes, share tips on royalties and rights, and I could teach some online classes. From there, I could create a, you know, some ecosystem where people can share knowledge. I can even make my version of a calculator, pencil, and accessories, items that you need as a startup entrepreneur to be successful from an accounting perspective for your business. It’s just maximizing the potential of the business that you’re in, which is a few examples of how individuals can diversify their income.

Baruch: What should individuals do if they can’t meet their financial obligations?

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Parramore: People can consider starting a business, look for grants, and seek out SBA funding to pivot in earning revenue differently. Suppose many people can’t meet their financial obligations once they go through their budget, see what their financial picture looks like, and cut the fat of anything unrelated to housing or food. In that case, they also need to call anyone they have financial obligations for, and many of those companies will provide three months where they don’t have to pay and add those three months to the back, like with car notes and some mortgages. You add those payments to a later time or extend the due date of the obligation. Then some may not be able to pay, and they’ll have to contact the people, let them know this is the financial situation, and have open conversations with those companies. You will be surprised some will take the time and provide guidance. As I said, tragedy turns into opportunities and now is the time to think about the chance you want to manifest for yourself.

Baruch: For those laid off and they’re trying to find a new job, how should they utilize their savings? Should they dip into their 401k to stay afloat?

Parramore: That’s an excellent question. If they have to, but with the extreme market fluctuations, many people’s portfolios have lost 20-30%. You will suffer significant losses if you take money out of your 401k. In the last case scenario, or if they had no other means, liquidate or reach your 401k. I think it would be best to do a rollover. But if they had to, because of the losses and the political climate we’re currently living in, I would wait for the stock market to settle a bit.

Baruch: How can people right now protect their finances?

Parramore: I would say protecting their finances is a vast picture because people can have money in the bank money and CDs like you mentioned 401k; for things like that, if they have their money invested, they need to do thorough research before liquidating any investments, do an assessment to determine how much they could potentially lose. They also need to look at different tax structures. Let’s say they’re a sole proprietor with an LLC; an LLC may not be an entity that best serves them in this climate; they may need to switch to an S-Corp because they wouldn’t be paying self-employment taxes. Once they look at their budget and switch to more of an emergency budget system, they need to look at all of their investments, whether complex investments or investments in the market, to determine what the risk would be before they take it out. Then they need to look at their tax structures. For instance, a lot of times, people can pay more tax if they have corporate jobs as a way of getting money back at the end of the year; they overfunded their taxes and need to make sure their tax return is done as soon as the year-end, and that will be some financial cash flow that they will be able to receive. But they also need to look at their current tax structure to determine if that’s the best structure they should have, whether it’s them personally or their business.

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Baruch: How should individuals plan their budget?

Parramore: They should start with a review of the last 12 months’ actual results, then eliminate non-planned spending to less than 1% of the overall budget, write down financial goals for five years, and create accounts for saving, investing, and one for their goals. Then review and budget monthly and be honest.

Baruch: What financial disparities do Black Americans face, and how can they improve them?

Parramore: Financial disparities are a result of our broken homes. Parramore: The foundational financial tools that should be implemented. Stop waiting for the perfect house – purchase a multi-family property with friends as an investment, buy land, and use credit as a wealth tool, not as a debt tool. How can we focus when we don’t eat well, don’t pray, don’t have family time, or don’t work out when we don’t have accessible business executives or mentors accessible? Wealth is a mind, body, and soul.

Baruch: How can financial literacy lessen the Black-White wealth gap?

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Parramore: Every generation wouldn’t have to start from zero. Looking at insurance policies as startup money for the next generation would take the morbidness out of it. We need to create an estate to remove the burden from the next generation. If we empowered the people we love by allowing them to make decisions on our trust or estate instead of leaving those decisions to people, like a judge or state lawyer, that don’t know us – we would close the gap significantly.

For more on Lahteefah Parramore, follow her on Facebook and Instagram.

This interview was edited for length and clarity.

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Exploring Three Scenarios For How Gen AI Will Change Consumer Finance

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The rise of generative AI has led to much hand-wringing and discussion about the potential for the technology to disrupt industries and eliminate broad swathes of human jobs. But the impact of the technology will vary from industry to industry, so it’s important to look beyond the high-level talk around disruption and to think through exactly how it will change the financial services sector.

In the case of financial services, the impact of generative AI can be simplified into three possible future scenarios: 1) non-financial tech firms develop a dominant generative AI-based personal assistant and disintermediate financial firms, 2) no disintermediation, but the technology further entrenches the dominance of the largest global banks, and 3) no firms manage to establish dominant generative AI assistants, and the technology becomes commonplace without drastically altering market share.

While we can’t predict the future, it’s essential that financial services organizations think through the three possible outcomes to develop long-term plans for how their business would react to each of these scenarios.

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Before diving into this topic, a caveat. The goal of this article is to to make the subject approachable for someone who is not familiar with the nuances of generative AI. This article will not discuss the technical developments that would drive these outcomes – e.g., whether it becomes cheaper and easier to build a proprietary large language model (LLM). This article will guide non-technical individuals through how generative AI will impact the financial services industry.

Scenario one: non-financial tech player(s) take a dominant position

One possible outcome for generative AI technology is that the consumer-facing tech behemoths (such as Alphabet, Apple or Meta) and/or a breakthrough tech startup develop consumers’ go-to personal assistant for a very wide range of life tasks, including personal finance. Consumer behavior changes, and the average person looks to the leading generative AI-based virtual assistant(s) with dominant market share to help them with questions and concerns.

This outcome sees generative AI technology evolve in such a way that tech firms are able to develop a superior personal assistant that is so advanced it incentivizes consumers to almost exclusively use their personal assistant. This assistant would monitor consumers’ affairs (via linked outside accounts) and would provide advice when asked questions like “how can I improve my financial situation?” or “could my savings be earning more?” This development would disintermediate financial services firms and the assistant would be able to influence consumers’ financial decisions and behaviors.

If this scenario becomes reality, the response of financial services firms to this disintermediation partly depends on how regulation shakes out and whether AI assistants can earn referral fees. Beyond the referral question, in the long-term this outcome would likely make the financial services industry much more cutthroat.

In this scenario, financial services firms would need to become far more innovative and would need to develop compelling and unique products and services. Financial services firms would need to incentivize clients to actually log into their website and app and not just rely on their personal assistant. A generic product lineup and a generic client experience would gradually lose market share in a world driven by tech firms’ high-performing virtual assistants.

According to Remco Janssen, Founder and CEO of European tech news media company Silicon Canals, “in past tech hype cycles, the established tech giants were often slow to react. When it comes to generative AI technology, however, the largest firms have acted quickly. Tech behemoths like Apple, Google and Amazon
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also have an advantage since they have access to consumer payment data. The most challenging outcome for financial services firms would be a situation where one-to-three leading tech players become the dominant force in generative AI, like Google and Apple’s dominance of mobile operating systems.”

Scenario two: the largest financial firms use gen AI to further entrench their dominance

In this scenario, generative AI technology develops in such a way that tech companies do not disintermediate financial services firms, but the costs and complexity of advanced AI technology allows the largest global banks to gain a competitive edge over relatively smaller rivals in the industry. For an example of the gulf between the top financial services firms and the next tier of financial institutions, as of May 10th, the market capitalization of JPMorgan Chase ($570.80 billion) and Bank of America ($300.69 billion) both exceed the combined market capitalization of US Bancorp, PNC, Capital One and Truist. The combined market capitalization of those four institutions is “only” approximately $235 billion.

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It may turn out that the largest financial firms–those which can afford expensive engineering talent and cloud computing resources–can develop meaningfully more powerful generative AI-based financial assistants than the average financial services firm and the industry’s third-party vendors. If the largest global banks can offer a superior generative AI-based financial assistant, they will use this offering to further entrench their dominance of the industry and to win market share from relatively smaller firms.

Scenario three: no dominant gen AI assistants emerge

The final scenario sees generative AI technology become somewhat of a commodity and no firm develops a meaningfully superior generative AI assistant. Generative AI-based assistants become a standard feature of financial services websites and apps without fundamentally disrupting the industry and changing market share dynamics. Financial services firms may even end up relying on multiple third-party generative models simultaneously, calling upon different models depending on the user’s needs.

In this scenario, financial services firms would need to be thoughtful about how they optimize their generative AI assistant to minimize costs and maximize revenue. Financial services firms would work to continually improve their generative AI’s ability to handle customer service questions (preventing more expensive queries to the customer service call center) and to drive desirable actions (e.g., establishing direct deposit, opening a new account, etc.). While this third scenario presents less of a threat to the average financial services firm, developing a high-quality generative AI assistant still represents a large and complex undertaking.

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According to Dr Andreas Rung, CEO and Founder of Ergomania, “banks and financial institutions have a tendency to keep big tech initiatives in the experimental/ideation phase for too long. Time is of the essence when it comes to generative AI. Your organization needs to move quickly to deploy a generative AI assistant to your customer base. In order to keep pace with the competition, your generative AI assistant must also become a seamless part of the UX and customer experience.”

Gen AI has the potential to upend financial services, and firms must start planning for future scenarios now

Only time will tell how generative AI technology develops and which of these three scenarios becomes reality. But your organization should start to think through these outcomes and how to react in each situation. Could your organization restructure and make a massive investment in developing a cutting-edge generative AI assistant if that becomes necessary? If your firm uses a third-party AI vendor, what are the “switching costs” if your firm “backs the wrong horse” and must make a change in order to keep pace with the leading firms? In each of these scenarios, how would your firm adjust the human workforce? It is better to start planning now than to be reactive and scrambling to catch up to changing market dynamics.

According to Milan De Reede, Founder and CEO of Nano GPT, “I see our customers’ preferences shift in real time as new generative AI models and updates are released. There’s no clear “winner” as of May 2024. Our customers seem to prefer different generative AI models for different tasks. At some point in the future, your firm may need to change your generative AI infrastructure and approach relatively quickly depending on which of these three scenarios becomes reality.”

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Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment in focus today; here’s how to check status

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Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment: The Aadhar Housing Finance IPO share allotment will be finalised today (Monday, May 13). Investors who applied for the Aadhar Housing Finance IPO can check the Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment status in the registrar’s portal, which is Kfin Technologies Ltd. The housing finance company opened for subscription on Wednesday, May 8 and ended on Friday, May 10. By the end of the third day, there was a overall positive demand for the issue from both retail and non-institutional investors (NIIs). Aadhar Housing Finance IPO subscription status was 25.49 times on the final day.

Investors can ascertain whether and to what extent they havebeen allotted shares by determining the basis of allocation. An additional feature of the IPO allotment status is the quantity of shares allocated. Those applicants who did not get shares will have their refund procedure started by the company. A person’s demat account will include the shares that are assigned to them.

Also Read: Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment to be out on May 13. Latest GMP, steps to check application status

For those who weren’t granted shares, the refund procedure will begin on Tuesday, May 14 On the same day, individuals who were allotted shares will get them in their demat accounts.

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Aadhar Housing Finance IPO listing date is scheduled for Wednesday, May 15.

If you have applied for the Aadhar Housing Finance IPO, you can do a Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment status check online on the website of the IPO registrar, Kfin Technologies Ltd today.

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Aadhar Housing Finance IPO details.

Here’s Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment link – https://ris.kfintech.com/ipostatus/

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Step 1:

When you click the aforementioned link, you will see five links that allow you to see the status.

Step 2:

After clicking on one of the five offered URLs, select Aadhar Housing Finance IPO from the drop-down box in the “Select IPO” section.

Step 3:

To check the status, enter the PAN, Demat Account, or Application Number.

Step 4:

– If you choose this option, enter the application number first, followed by the captcha code. Press “Submit.”

– If you choose Demat Account, enter your account information along with the captcha code. Click “Submit.”

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– To go to the third choice, PAN, enter the captcha code and PAN number. Select “Submit.”

Also Read: Aadhar Housing Finance IPO day 3: GMP, subscription status to review. Apply or not?

How to check Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment status on BSE

Step 1

Visit the BSE official website’s allotment page- https://www.bseindia.com/investors/appli_check.aspx

Step 2

Choose ‘Equity’ under ‘Issue Type’.

Step 3

Select ‘Issue Name’ (the drop-down menu) and select the IPO.

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Step 4

Put in your application number or PAN.

Also Read: Aadhar Housing Finance IPO: From financials to key risks, here are 10 things to know from RHP before investing

How to check Aadhar Housing Finance IPO allotment status on NSE

Step 1

Visit NSE’s official website- https://www1.nseindia.com/products/dynaContent/equities/ipos/ipo_login.jsp

Step 2

One has to register with PAN by clicking the ‘Click here to sign up’ option on the NSE website.

Step 3

Put in your password, user name, and captcha code.

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Step 4

On the next page that opens, check the status of your IPO allocation.

Aadhar Housing Finance IPO GMP today

Aadhar Housing Finance IPO GMP is +77.50. This indicates Aadhar Housing Finance share price were trading at a premium of 77.50 in the grey market, according to investorgain.com.

When the upper end of the IPO pricing range and the present premium on the grey market are taken into consideration, it is projected that Aadhar Housing Finance shares will list at a price of 392.5 a share, which is 24.6% more than the IPO price of 315.

‘Grey market premium’ indicates investors’ readiness to pay more than the issue price.

Also Read: Aadhar Housing Finance IPO opens today: GMP, subscription status, review, other details. Apply or not?

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‘Money pervades everything’: the psychotherapist delving into our deep anxiety about finances

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I am a generous tipper. I’ve always thought, to the extent that I have thought about it at all, that this is a positive trait. Recently, however, I’ve begun to wonder. Is it normal to feel a deep sense of anxiety after ordering a takeaway pizza, then realising there is no change in the house? Does everyone spend their spare time searching Google to find out if one should tip the Waitrose delivery driver – or whether to do so might cause offence? Are hotel stays meant to be such a stressful experience, requiring constant calculations to determine the appropriate amount of cash to reward every personal interaction?

These are the kinds of questions that arise while I’m reading Money on Your Mind: The Psychology Behind Your Financial Habits. Written by Vicky Reynal, Britain’s first self-styled “financial psychotherapist”, the book outlines a wide range of unhelpful financial behaviours, offering something that will resonate with almost every reader, and makes a convincing case that these are rooted in our emotions – driven by fears and desires – and influenced by past experiences. Perhaps we struggle to spend money on ourselves or others. What do we fear might happen if we do? Some of us are incapable of budgeting. What do we gain from our overspending? We may see our colleagues rewarded with salary increases while we languish on the same pay grade. Why do we struggle to ask for a raise? Are we battling with doubts about our self-worth?

I’m fascinated by what my own financial choices might reveal about my psyche. So, when I go to meet Reynal at her consulting space in Vauxhall, London, I take the opportunity to ask her. Reynal greets me in the manner one would expect from someone who deals with money matters: with a firm handshake and a businesslike demeanour. Smartly dressed in black trousers and shirt under a monochrome patterned blazer, she would not look out of place in any boardroom in the City. After we take our seats, she encourages me to think more deeply about my behaviour. What is behind my compulsion to express gratitude for small acts of service? What do I fear might happen if I don’t? “Is it about wanting to be liked by the other, or wanting the other to think positively of you, even if it is just for a few minutes?” she asks. “I guess the question that pops into my mind would be: is there a part of you that expects people to be critical, so you choose to appease them upfront to avoid that feeling?” I have to admit, this sounds like a definite possibility.

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Ten years ago, Reynal started practising psychotherapy and began to notice how often clients’ problems were linked to finances. We tend to think of money in terms of cold hard numbers: the size of our bank balance, the interest rate on our savings account or credit card debt, the number of years it will take to save a house deposit. We believe our financial decisions to be rooted in rationality. Having worked with enough clients for whom money was the source of emotional distress, Reynal sees things differently. Five years ago, she began describing herself as a financial psychotherapist, helping people explore their money troubles as a formal part of her practice.

In the book, Reynal cites a series of statistics to illustrate how money is causing us all kinds of problems. One UK poll found that 32% of us find it stressful talking about our finances with family and friends. Another found a third of couples had argued about money. People with substantial debt are reportedly more likely to suffer from ulcers and migraines, and six times more likely to experience anxiety and depression. Clearly, an absence of money can have a serious impact on the quality of our relationships and our health. But Reynal sees money troubles among the wealthy, too. “If anything, they feel guiltier about their unhappiness, because there is this conception that money should buy happiness,” she says. “And so, if you’re unhappy despite having a lot of wealth, it brings up a lot of shame and guilt.”

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Reynal remembers a conversation in her consulting room that drove this point home. A client came to her with what he described as a “£2m problem”. Reynal assumed the man had somehow run up a huge debt. In fact, it emerged he had been granted an unexpected windfall. “They were completely distraught over it,” she recalls, “and who could they tell that to, hoping to find empathy and understanding and to really help them unpick what’s behind that? There was this real fear of people’s envy, how it would spoil the children, how it would ruin his marriage trying to decide what to spend all this money on. It was a person in distress, even if some people might find it difficult to empathise with that.”

Listening to this story, I do find it a little hard to empathise. I don’t doubt that to this particular client this was a very real problem. On the other hand, to many people struggling through a cost of living crisis, a £2m problem will not sound like much of a problem at all. Reynal’s case is that, while money can cause us real problems, for some, the way we feel about money can be just as challenging. And aren’t all money problems relative? No doubt my own money anxieties would cause some eyes to roll. But by focusing so intently on our individual relationship with money, I wonder if we risk ignoring the factors that create inequality and leave so many people facing financial hardship. “Well, they definitely relate, because what is going on at a macro scale often affects the individual,” says Reynal. “But ultimately, all we can do is manage our own experience of what is going on out there in the world.”

Reynal believes financial literacy can only take us so far. “I do make the point in the book that we have to teach children about money, because it’s not an innate skill. A lot of books out there tell people how they should behave with money and what they should do with money. But, for many, something gets in the way of being the way they want to be with money. So they end up overspending, or being overly greedy, or keeping financial secrets from their partners. And what I tried to do in this book is go to the roots of what experiences, what feelings, what longings, sit behind our money behaviours. It’s only by understanding these that we stand the chance of changing them.”

It won’t surprise you to learn that the process often involves looking back to childhood. Here, Reynal’s own story is illuminating. She is cagey about revealing certain personal details, in case that affects the way clients relate to her in her practice. (When I ask about her accent, she declines to say where it’s from, explaining that clients’ assumptions about her background can often be revealing.) She is happy, however, to reveal certain biographical information. After completing a psychotherapy degree, she studied for an MBA at the London Business School. Why the MBA? “Family pressures?” she laughs. “I think that in itself says a lot about the meaning of money in my family.”

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How we spend is rooted in early experiences and attitudes towards money. Photograph: Ben Birchall/PA

Reynal learned early in life how money can cause heartbreak. “My father had two very difficult experiences with money that involved loss, betrayal and deceit,” she says. “The consequences of that – both financial and emotional – affected the whole family negatively.” Through therapy, she explored the meaning of those experiences, which she now describes as “financial trauma”, and their broader ramifications. “Unpacking all the different aspects of that was important to move on from it and to make different choices.” She felt drawn to the idea that she could help others do the same.

Still, for some time, Reynal felt torn between her passion for psychology and the expectation that she go into business – to forge a career in the world of money. Gradually, she began to wonder if the two paths needed to be distinct. She was fascinated by the aspects of her MBA studies that touched on psychology, such as behavioural finance. Fittingly, it was a piece of advice from one of the world’s richest men that encouraged Reynal to combine her two interests. As part of her MBA studies, she was invited to Nebraska to meet the legendary investor Warren Buffett. She asked him how to make such a pivotal decision as how to spend one’s professional life. His message? “Follow your passion, because only by doing something you love, can you ever be good at it.”

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Buffett’s advice stuck. After spending some time in the corporate world, Reynal returned to study psychotherapy at postgraduate level. Just as she had been struck by the psychological aspects of finance, she observed how discussions about money were largely absent in therapeutic circles. “If you look at the psychoanalytic literature, there’s thousands of papers written about the relationship with sex, with food, with other objects,” she says. “And so little written about money.” Reynal saw a way to bridge a gap between her two passions – and also, perhaps, to meet both her family’s expectations and her own.

Sometimes, we need to hear advice in terms we’re primed to understand. In the face of family pressure, it took some words of encouragement from Warren Buffett for Reynal to act in her own interests. Intriguingly, she saw something similar happening when she started calling herself a financial psychotherapist, attracting clients who finally had permission to seek help. “More men started coming,” she says. “I think you can interpret that in a number of ways. But I think, especially for some of the older men I saw, who might have grown up in a generation that wasn’t open-minded to psychotherapy, calling it financial psychotherapy might have enabled them to access it with less shame than if they were just going to a psychotherapist.”

The behaviour Reynal hears about in the consulting room and which she describes in Money on Your Mind, ranges from the mundane to the extreme. Some people engage in unsustainable shopping habits, others steal from their employers or blow their life savings engaging in “findom” (financial domination), a sexual kink in which the participant derives pleasure from giving money for nothing tangible in return. On the spectrum of money troubles, I feel reassured that my anxiety around tipping must fall at the less troubling end of the scale. Nevertheless, Reynal’s questions point to the way even my seemingly mundane behaviour may still be emotionally revealing. What does tipping represent for me? What does my anxiety say about the way I see myself and what I expect of others?

Addressing the way money affects our relationships, Reynal writes: “Arguments about money are rarely about money.” I think about the times my partner and I have argued about money. Were these disagreements really about money or were they about other things, such as fearing the loss of independence – or coming to terms with new responsibilities? Thinking about these questions, I realise how many of our relationships have a financial aspect to them. Money pervades everything. Examining our emotions may give us a way to understand how we feel about it. But should we all be thinking about money in order to understand our emotions? “It’s a window into something, you know?” says Reynal. “By being curious about why you behave a certain way with money, you can find out something about yourself.”

There are rarely easy answers when it comes to self-discovery, says Reynal. Regular readers of financial self-help literature may be disappointed to find Money on Your Mind lacking in investment tips or simple saving strategies. That’s an attitude Reynal has encountered among money-minded people who seek therapy. “It takes a bit of time to break through that so that we can get into a more reflective space,” she says. “We can get into: ‘What is this really about?’” Then there are those who seek to avoid money discussions altogether. For Reynal, the remedy is the same: “Understanding it more, understanding our relationship with it more, will ease our anxiety,” she says. “But to do that, we need to start talking and thinking about it.”

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