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An Ojibwe Writer Refuses to Let Her Mother’s Trauma Be in Vain

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An Ojibwe Writer Refuses to Let Her Mother’s Trauma Be in Vain

Alone as a child tucked in at night, Mary Annette Pember had visions. “Strings of lights, rather like phosphorescent snakes,” she writes, would float along the ceiling of her bedroom, turning and twisting in the dark.

When she asked what the strange lights could be, her mother, an Ojibwe from northern Wisconsin, urged her not to be afraid: They want to protect you; they won’t hurt you, but don’t ever tell anyone else you see them.

Her mother knew what it took to survive. Sometimes that meant looking with eyes wide open in the dark. Pember’s affecting new book, “Medicine River: A Story of Survival and the Legacy of Indian Boarding Schools,” does just that.

Full of unvarnished anguish, it’s both a solemn history of the pervasive abuse of Native children in federal boarding schools and a visceral family memoir about Pember’s mother, Bernice Rabideaux, a traumatized Ojibwe child who emerged a strong but suffering Ojibwe woman.

Beginning in the 1860s and over the next hundred years, many Native children across the country were forced to attend Indian boarding schools, often run by the Catholic Church, as a means of assimilation. There they regularly endured humiliation, violence, deprivation and sometimes death, devastating their lives and their families.

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Bernice Rabideaux was one such child, who, from the age of 5 through adolescence. attended St. Mary’s Catholic Indian Mission School, or “Sister School,” on the Bad River reservation in Odanah, Wisconsin. According to the book, the experience created an intractable conflict between white Christian settler values and her Ojibwe values of community and environmental stewardship. She died in 2011 at the age of 86.

Pember, who moved here to work at the Cincinnati Enquirer, is the former president of the Native American Journalists’ Association and a freelance writer. Talking about “Medicine River” recently at her home in a quiet Cincinnati neighborhood, she exuded wary authority. Asked about coming to terms with a parent coming to terms with trauma, she demurred. Her mother, she said, “never really thought of herself as coming to terms with anything. I think she wanted to leave that behind, but you never could. It was just in there, in a sound or a smell or quality of light.”

Rabideaux took great pride in her heritage, but coercive assimilation at the Sister School left a permanent mark, her daughter explained. “The white world that we entered into, she was successful in it,” Pember said, “but it was just so disappointing to her. There was just so little emotional and spiritual sustenance. I think that she really hungered for her origins.”

David Treuer, the author of “The Heartbeat of Wounded Knee” and an editor-at-large at Pantheon Books, which published “Medicine River,” invoked the motto of second-wave feminism — “the personal is political” — in framing Pember’s blend of history and memoir.

“It was largely a matter of trying to see how the forces of history flowed through her mother’s life and her life through their relationship — and being really attuned to the ways in which history flows through all of us,” he explained.

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“My goal has always been about healing,” Haaland, the first Native American to serve in a cabinet position, said in a recent interview. “And I don’t think you can heal from things unless you highlight them, unless you face them.

After high school, 19-year-old Bernice Rabideaux moved to Janesville, Wisconsin, where her four siblings lived. Soon enough she married Charles Gordon Pember, a kind and stable man. For a time she cleaned offices and worked at a factory canning vegetables. One of the offices was that of Leon Feingold, the father of former Wisconsin senator Russ Feingold. The Feingolds would become lifelong friends, encouraging her fledgling political consciousness. She joined a Democratic women’s organization and, in 1964, campaigned for Lyndon Johnson in his run for the presidency.

Yet she was ambivalent about her life. She “became a shape-shifter, transforming herself according to her surroundings,” Pember writes. “On the one hand, she encouraged [her children] to conform to the white world, but at the same time she not so secretly despised us for trying.”

When the family visited the reservation, it would take her mother time to settle in, Pember recalls in the book. Seeing Lake Superior, “she would gaze out toward that perfect line between water and sky, her thin arms wrapped around herself; we could see she was home.”

Still, her fragile peace couldn’t last. For many former boarding school students like Rabideaux, the wounds of the flesh were the wounds of the soul.

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And when she worked herself into a rage, a young Pember felt the impact. “I stood by helplessly; I said nothing,” she writes. “I learned to be quiet. From my place under the table I secretly began constructing my own armor and defiance.”

As an adult, Pember married, had a family and pursued a prolific career in journalism. She also suffered from alcoholism. As time went on, she sought out Ojibwe spiritual practices, which require sobriety for participation. After getting sober and with her life now rooted in her heritage, she felt a greater sense of serenity.

Yet one challenge remained: to tell the story of her mother.

“It was like she gave me this baton,” Pember explained. ”She never overtly told me, but I just knew that I had to do it.”

Starting in 1980, she began to write down her mother’s first-person accounts of her school years and life on the reservation. She also spent more than 20 years researching Indian boarding schools in federal and Catholic church archives, along with conducting over 50 interviews, for what would come to be “Medicine River.”

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It has provided Pember a sense of closure that her mother likely never attained.

“I honored her,

her quest she sent me on,” she said. “So I’m done with that now.”

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From NYT’s 10 Best Books of 2025: A.O. Scott on Kiran Desai’s New Novel

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From NYT’s 10 Best Books of 2025: A.O. Scott on Kiran Desai’s New Novel

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When a writer is praised for having a sense of place, it usually means one specific place — a postage stamp of familiar ground rendered in loving, knowing detail. But Kiran Desai, in her latest novel, “The Loneliness of Sonia and Sunny,” has a sense of places.

This 670-page book, about the star-crossed lovers of the title and several dozen of their friends, relatives, exes and servants (there’s a chart in the front to help you keep track), does anything but stay put. If “The Loneliness of Sonia and Sunny” were an old-fashioned steamer trunk, it would be papered with shipping labels: from Allahabad (now known as Prayagraj), Goa and Delhi; from Queens, Kansas and Vermont; from Mexico City and, perhaps most delightfully, from Venice.

There, in Marco Polo’s hometown, the titular travelers alight for two chapters, enduring one of several crises in their passionate, complicated, on-again, off-again relationship. One of Venice’s nicknames is La Serenissima — “the most serene” — but in Desai’s hands it’s the opposite: a gloriously hectic backdrop for Sonia and Sunny’s romantic confusion.

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Their first impressions fill a nearly page-long paragraph. Here’s how it begins.

Sonia is a (struggling) fiction writer. Sunny is a (struggling) journalist. It’s notable that, of the two of them, it is she who is better able to perceive the immediate reality of things, while he tends to read facts through screens of theory and ideology, finding sociological meaning in everyday occurrences. He isn’t exactly wrong, and Desai is hardly oblivious to the larger narratives that shape the fates of Sunny, Sonia and their families — including the economic and political changes affecting young Indians of their generation.

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But “The Loneliness of Sonia and Sunny” is about more than that. It’s a defense of the very idea of more, and thus a rebuke to the austerity that defines so much recent literary fiction. Many of Desai’s peers favor careful, restricted third-person narration, or else a measured, low-affect “I.” The bookstores are full of skinny novels about the emotional and psychological thinness of contemporary life. This book is an antidote: thick, sloppy, fleshy, all over the place.

It also takes exception to the postmodern dogma that we only know reality through representations of it, through pre-existing concepts of the kind to which intellectuals like Sunny are attached. The point of fiction is to assert that the world is true, and to remind us that it is vast, strange and astonishing.

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After a year of deliberation, the editors at The New York Times Book Review have picked their 10 best books of 2025. Three editors share their favorites.

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Pick up a mug of tea, grab a blanket and settle down to read. Jennifer Harlan, an editor at The New York Times Book Review, recommends three books that are perfect for cozy fall reading.

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