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In L.A., you'll see babies at Costco and Chi Spacca. How young is too young for crowds?

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In L.A., you'll see babies at Costco and Chi Spacca. How young is too young for crowds?

In a sea of people, you might catch a glimpse of one. A tiny head barely peeking out of the top of a carrier. Or a small, scrunched face slumbering in a stroller. Sometimes, the magnificent creature will declare itself with a distinct cry and you know a fresh human baby is in your midst.

The natural habitat for a newborn baby is usually inside their home. But sometimes, you will spot one catching a matinee at the El Capitan Theatre.

That’s where Rob Hatch-Miller and his wife, Puloma Basu, took their newborn daughter the week she was born. It was 2017 and the first-time parents celebrated Hatch-Miller’s birthday with a baby-friendly showing of “Star Wars: The Last Jedi.” At the baby-friendly screenings — which ended at the El Capitan but are still offered at Alamo Drafthouse — babies were allowed to wail over the lowered movie volume.

For the new family of three, the outing was a respite before the arrival of the holidays and jubilant out-of-town relatives. The couple checked in with their pediatrician, who reminded them to feed the baby every two to three hours but otherwise wasn’t worried, said Basu, 44.

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In the dimly lit theater, while Kylo Ren led an onscreen assault on the Resistance, their 6-day-old baby slept the whole time.

“It was a great birthday,” said Hatch-Miller, 43, who often advises expectant friends to take their babies into the greater world sooner than later. “You’re going to have a couple years where it’s really complicated to go out for a meal or just go see a matinee movie. Do it now while they’re small.”

Throughout Los Angeles, newborns make appearances at movie theaters, Costco, Starbucks and even fine-dining restaurants. While doctors recommend that newborns — especially during the first month of life — be kept away from crowded spaces to protect their health, not all parents feel the need to be so cautious.

The question about the ideal age to take a newborn into public spaces is raised again and again online by anxious new parents trying to balance their desires to protect and find normalcy. Is a quick trip to the grocery store forbidden? And if you go, is the employee at checkout yawning because of fatigue or the bubonic plague?

Parenthood is always complicated, but especially so at the beginning. So we talked to doctors and parents who’ve been there about how to navigate bringing a fresh baby into the wild.

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If anything, avoid crowds the first month

A baby’s first month of life is the neonatal period, a vulnerable time because of their immature immune system.

“This is the time to avoid crowds,” especially crowded indoor spaces, said Dr. Robert C. Hamilton, a Santa Monica-based pediatrician and author of “7 Secrets of the Newborn.”

A fever in the first month could be a sign of a major infection, which means hospitalization, said Dr. Colleen Kraft, a pediatrician at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles and past president of the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Babies in the neonatal period are unimmunized. The first go-around of vaccines is usually complete when a baby is 2 months old.

“At 2 months of age, you can become a little more liberal in taking your child out into spaces where there are more people,” said Hamilton.

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Before you go anywhere with a newborn, said Kraft, ask yourself: Is it peak flu season like the one that swamped California? If so, consider staying home.

The great outdoors is fine

Babies can be out in nature on their first day of life. Hamilton tells new parents they can walk home from the hospital if they so choose. “I don’t have too many takers on that,” he said.

Beaches, parks and neighborhood strolls are all OK too.

But Vivien Kotler, mom of two, cautions to not read too far into how you perceive others handling their babies out in the wild. She lives in a house that faces Silver Lake Boulevard and the reservoir loop — a favorite stroll for new parents.

Her window is like a real-life, highly curated Instagram feed. Each time before both her children — Pallas and Blaise, now 9 and 6 years old — were born, she remembers seeing moms who attended her prenatal yoga class one week and then were walking the loop with their newborns the next. “You see these people who seem effortlessly walking around doing normal things with their babies neatly wrapped into them or in the stroller,” said Kotler, 48. “And so, you’re thinking, ‘OK, that is what normal is.’”

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Five days after giving birth to Pallas, Kotler went to a restaurant with her. It started out fine. Then Pallas cried and the outing spiraled into a mess. In hindsight, Kotler said she was chasing an image of being out and about that didn’t quite align with her values.

When her second child was born, she decided to let go of aspirational standards and focus on her relationship with her newborn — at home.

“You go to Legoland or Disneyland and you see these brand-new parents with babies who can barely see, and it’s like, you guys are going to have to do this for the next 10 years,” said Kotler. “You don’t have to start right as soon as the baby comes out.”

When craving normalcy

Life with a new baby can feel very busy.

“But it’s also kind of under-stimulating,” said Franziska Reff, a psychologist who practices in Atwater Village and runs a virtual support group for new moms. “Your social side and your intellectual side aren’t being utilized in the same way.”

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For parents who choose to bring their newborn on outings — even a walk or a doughnut run — the experience can feel like a microdose of self-identity, said Reff.

Before their daughter, Alaya, was born, Jessica Ettman and her husband, J.D. Plotnick, dined out frequently. Both have backgrounds in the restaurant industry. Their initial intention was to pause their nightlife and nest with their newborn at home.

But when Alaya was not yet 3 weeks old, they took her to a family wedding. A few weeks later, a reservation at Camélia in the Arts District presented itself like manna from heaven. Alaya had already been out at the wedding, so they decided to give fine dining a try.

“We were at dinner for a couple hours, and it was really great,” said Ettman, 43. “Then I was like, ‘Let’s do it again.’”

Since then, Alaya, now 4 months old, has been to some of the best restaurants in the city. At Chi Spacca, the wait staff borrowed a chair with a back from Osteria Mozza next door so Ettman could feel more comfortable holding and nursing Alaya.

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Every dining experience with the baby is tiring — equal parts nice and not worth it, said Ettman. Especially unpleasant: changing diapers in dimly lit bathroom stalls without changing tables after explosive newborn poops. But she always feels a sense of accomplishment at the end.

“It makes me feel like a super mom,” Ettman said. “I can bring my baby. I could see my friends. I can go anywhere I want to go and not feel self-conscious.”

Do experts follow their own recommendations?

Although he cannot recommend parents take a newborn (especially during the first month) into crowded spaces, Hamilton said there are ways to mitigate risk. Dine alfresco, he said. If that’s not an option, go to a corner table for an earlier reservation or a matinee movie before the crowds arrive.

Reff added there may be room for personal preference within doctor recommendations.

“I counsel a lot of parents to think about what works for you as a person and what works for you as a family because it’s about your risk tolerance,” she said. While living on the East Coast, she toted her own newborn on public transit.

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“That just seemed normal to us,” said Reff.

This raises the question: Do doctors follow their own recommendations?

Yes, said Kraft, who has three children. She kept them at home as much as possible in their newborn days.

Hamilton paused to reflect on the question.

“We have six kids, OK,” he said. “We used common sense, but we were also surrounded by all these kids. We survived. They all survived. They’re all adults. They’re all taxpaying people.”

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They set out to elevate karaoke in L.A. — and opened a glamorous lounge that pulls out all the stops

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They set out to elevate karaoke in L.A. — and opened a glamorous lounge that pulls out all the stops

Brothers Leo and Oliver Kremer visited karaoke spots around the globe and almost always had the same impression.

“The drinks weren’t always great, the aesthetics weren’t always so glamorous, the sound wasn’t always awesome and the lights were often generic,” says Leo, a former bassist of the band Third Eye Blind.

As devout karaoke fans, they wanted to level up the experience. So they dreamed up Mic Drop, an upscale karaoke lounge in West Hollywood that opens Thursday. It’s located inside the original Larrabee Studios, a historic 1920s building formerly owned by Carole King and her ex-husband, Gerry Goffin — and the spot where King recorded some of her biggest hits. Third Eye Blind band members Stephan Jenkins and Brad Hargreaves are investors of the new venue.

Inside the two-story, 6,300-square-foot venue with 13 private karaoke rooms and an electrifying main stage, you can feel like a rock star in front of a cheering audience. Want to check it out? Here are six things to know.

The Kremer brothers hired sculptor Shawn HibmaCronan to create an 8-foot-tall disco-themed microphone for their karaoke lounge.

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1. Take your pick between a private karaoke experience or the main stage

A unique element of Mic Drop is that it offers both private karaoke rooms and a main stage experience for those who wish to sing in front of a crowd. The 13 private rooms range from six- to 45-person capacity. Each of the karaoke rooms are named after a famous recording studio such as Electric Lady, Abbey Road, Shangri La and of course, Larrabee Studios. There is a two-hour minimum on all rentals and hourly rates depend on the room size and day of the week.

But if you’re ready to take the center stage, it’s free to sing — at least technically. All you have to do is pay a $10 fee at the door, which is essentially a token that goes toward your first drink. Then you can put your name on the list with the KJ (karaoke jockey) who keeps the crowd energized throughout the night and even hits the stage at times.

Harrison Baum, left, of Santa Monica, and Amanda Stagner, 27, of Los Angeles, sing in one of the 13 private karaoke rooms.

Harrison Baum, left, of Santa Monica, and Amanda Stagner, 27, of Los Angeles, sing in one of the 13 private karaoke rooms.

2. Thumping, high sound quality was a top priority

As someone who toured the world playing bass for Third Eye Blind, top-tier sound was a nonnegotiable for Leo. “Typically with karaoke, the sound is kind of teeny, there’s not a lot of bass and the vocal is super hot and sitting on top too much,” he says. To combat this, he and his brother teamed up with Pineapple Audio, an audio visual company based in Chicago, to design their crisp sound system. They also installed concert-grade speakers and custom subwoofers from a European audio equipment manufacturer called Celto, and bought gold-plated Sennheiser wireless microphones, which they loved so much that they had an 8-foot-tall replica made for their main room. Designed by artist Shawn HibmaCronan, the “macrophone,” as they call it, has roughly 30,000 mirror tiles. “It spins and throws incredible disco light everywhere,” says Leo.

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Lights beam on a stage.

Karaoke jockeys Sophie St. John, 27, second from left, and Cameron Armstrong, 30, right, get the crowd involved with their song picks at Mic Drop.

3. A concert-level performance isn’t complete without good stage lighting and a haze machine

Each karaoke room features a disco ball and dynamic lighting that syncs up with whatever song you’re singing, which makes you feel like you are a professional performer. There’s also a haze machine hidden under the leather seats. Meanwhile, the main stage is concert-ready with additional dancing lasers and spotlights.

Brett Adams, left, of Sherman Oaks, and Patrick Riley of Studio City  sing together in one of the private rooms at Mic Drop.

Brett Adams, left, of Sherman Oaks, and Patrick Riley of Studio City sing karaoke together inside a private lounge at Mic Drop.

4. The song selection is vast, offering classics and new hits

One of the worst things that can happen when you go to karaoke is not being able to find the song you want to sing. At Mic Drop, the odds of this happening are slim to none. The venue uses a popular karaoke service called KaraFun, which has a catalog of more than 600,000 songs (and adds 400 new tracks every month), according to its website. Take your pick from country, R&B, jazz, rap, pop, love duets and more. (Two newish selections I spotted were Raye’s “Where Is my Husband” and Olivia Dean’s “Man I Need,” which both released late last year.) In the private karaoke rooms, there’s also a fun feature on Karafun called “battle mode,” which allows you and your crew of up to 20 people to compete in real time. KaraFun also has an entertaining music trivia game, which I tested out with the founders and came in second place.

The design inspiration for Mic Drop was 1920s music lounges and 1970s disco culture, says designer Amy Morris.

The design inspiration for Mic Drop was 1920s music lounges and 1970s disco culture, says designer Amy Morris.

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5. The interiors are inspired by 1920s music lounges mixed with ‘70s disco vibes

A disco ball hangs from the ceiling.

A disco ball hangs from the ceiling.

If you took the sophisticated aesthetic of 1920s music lounges and mixed it with the vibrant and playful era of 1970s disco culture, you’d find Mic Drop.

When you walk into the lounge, the first thing you’ll see is a bright red check-in desk that resembles a performer’s dressing room with vanity lights, several mirrors and a range of wigs. “So much of karaoke is about getting into character and letting go of the day, so we had the idea to sell the wigs,” says Oliver. As you continue into the lounge, the focal point is the stage, which is adorned with zebra-printed carpet and dramatic, red velvet curtains. For seating, slide into the red velvet banquettes or plop onto a gold tiger velvet stool. Upstairs, you’ll find the intimate karaoke studios, which are decorated with red velvet walls and brass, curved doorways that echo the building’s deco arches, says Mic Drop’s interior designer, Amy Morris of the Morris Project.

Sarah Rothman, center, of Oakland, and friend Rachel Bernstein, left, of Los Angeles, wait at the bar.

Sarah Rothman, center, of Oakland, and friend Rachel Bernstein, left, of Los Angeles, wait at the bar.

6. You can order nontraditional karaoke bites as you wait for your turn to sing

While Mic Drop offers some of the food you’d typically find at a karaoke lounge such as tater tots, truffle popcorn and pizza, the venue has some surprising options as well. For example, a 57 gram caviar service (served with chips, crème fraîche and chives) and shrimp cocktail from Santa Monica Seafood. For their pizza program, the Kremer brothers teamed up with Avalou’s Italian Pizza Company, which is run by Louis Lombardi who starred in “The Sopranos.” He’s the brainchild behind my favorite dish, the Fuhgeddaboudit pizza, which is made with pastrami, pickles and mustard. It might sound repulsive, but trust me.

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As for the cheeky cocktails, they are all named after famous musicians and songs such as the Pink Pony Club (a tart cherry pomegranate drink with vodka named after Chappell Roan), Green Eyes (a sake sour with kiwi and melon named after Green Day) and Megroni Thee Stallion (an elevated negroni named after Megan Thee Stallion).

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You’re Invited! (No, You’re Not.) It’s the Latest Phishing Scam.

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You’re Invited! (No, You’re Not.) It’s the Latest Phishing Scam.

When John Lantigua, a retired journalist in Miami Beach, checked his email one recent morning, he was glad to see an invitation.

“It was like, ‘Come and share an evening with me. Click here for details,’” Mr. Lantigua said.

It appeared to be a Paperless Post invitation from someone he once worked with at The Palm Beach Post, a man who had left Florida for Mississippi and liked to arrange dinners when he was back in town.

Mr. Lantigua, 78, clicked the link. It didn’t open.

He clicked a second time. Still nothing.

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He didn’t realize what was going on until a mutual friend who had received the same email told him it wasn’t an invitation at all. It was a scam.

Phishing scams have long tried to frighten people into clicking on links with emails claiming that their bank accounts have been hacked, or that they owe thousands of dollars in fines, or that their pornography viewing habits have been tracked.

The invitation scam is a little more subtle: It preys on the all-too-human desire to be included in social gatherings.

The phishy invitations mimic emails from Paperless Post, Evite and Punchbowl. What appears to be a friendly overture from someone you know is really a digital Trojan horse that gives scammers access to your personal information.

“I thought it was diabolical that they would choose somebody who has sent me a legitimate invitation before,” Mr. Lantigua said. “He’s a friend of mine. If he’s coming to town, I want to see him.”

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Rachel Tobac, the chief executive of SocialProof Security, a cybersecurity firm, said she noticed the scam last holiday season.

“Phishing emails are not a new thing,” Ms. Tobac said, “but every six months, we get a new lure that hijacks our amygdala in new ways. There’s such a desire for folks to get together that this lure is interesting to people. They want to go to a party.”

Phishing scams involve “two distinct paths,” Ms. Tobac added. In one, the recipient is served a link that turns out to be dead, or so it seems. A click activates malware that runs silently as it gleans passwords and other bits of personal information. In all likelihood, this is what happened when Mr. Lantigua clicked on the ersatz invitation link.

Another scam offers a working link. Potential victims who click on it are asked to provide a password. Those who take that next step are a boon to hackers.

“They have complete control of your email and, in turn, your entire digital life,” Ms. Tobac said. “They can reset your password for your dog’s Instagram account. They can take over your bank account. Change your health insurance.”

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Digital invitation platforms are trying to combat the scam by publishing guides on how to spot fake invitations. Paperless Post has also set up an email account — phishing@paperlesspost.com — for users to submit messages for verification. The company sends suspicious links to the Anti-Phishing Working Group, a nonprofit that maintains a database monitored by cybersecurity firms. Flagged links are rendered ineffective.

The scammers’ new strategy of exploiting the desire for connection is infuriating, said Alexa Hirschfeld, a founder of Paperless Post. “Life can be isolating,” Ms. Hirschfeld said. “When it looks like you’re getting an invitation from someone you know, your first instinct is excitement, not skepticism.”

Olivia Pollock, the vice president of brand for Evite, said that fake invitations tended to be generic, promising a birthday party or a celebration of life. Most invitations these days tend to have a specific focus — mahjong gatherings or book club talks, for instance. “The devil is in the details,” Ms. Pollock said.

Because scammers don’t know how close you are with the people in your contact list, fake invitations may also seem random. “They could be from your business school roommate you haven’t spoken to in 10 years,” Ms. Hirschfeld said.

Alyssa Williamson, who works in public relations in New York, was leaving a yoga class recently when she checked her phone and saw an invitation from a college classmate.

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“I assumed it was an alumni event,” Ms. Williamson, 30, said. “I clicked on it, and it was like, ‘Enter your email.’ I didn’t even think about it.”

Later that day, she received texts from friends asking her about the party invitation she had just sent out. Her response: What party?

“The thing is, I host a lot of events,” she said. “Some knew it was fake. Others were like, ‘What’s this? I can’t open it.’”

Andrew Smith, a graduate student in finance who lives in Manhattan, received what looked like a Punchbowl invitation to “a memory making celebration.” It appeared to have come from a woman he had dated in college. He received it when he was having drinks at a bar on a Friday night — “a pretty insidious piece of timing,” he said.

“The choice of sender was super clever,” Mr. Smith, 29, noted. “This was somebody that would probably get a reaction from me.”

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Mr. Smith seized on the phrase “memory making celebration” and filled in the blanks. He imagined that someone in his ex-girlfriend’s immediate family had died. Perhaps she wanted to restart contact at this difficult moment.

Something saved him when he clicked a link and tried to tap out his personal information — his inability to remember the password to his email account. The next day, he reached out to his ex, who confirmed that the invitation was fake.

“It didn’t trigger any alarm bells,” Mr. Smith said. “I went right for the click. I went completely animal brain.”

The new scam comes with an unfortunate side effect, a suspicion of invitations altogether. It’s enough to make a person antisocial.

“Don’t invite me to anything,” Mr. Lantigua, the retired journalist, said, only half-joking. “I’m not coming.”

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Partnerships with multibrand players remain vital to fashion brands of all sizes, but the rules of engagement have changed as the sector has come under immense strain. BoF breaks down what brands need to know to reduce risk while building lasting relationships.
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