Connect with us

Lifestyle

Bonding Over Books and Long Car Rides

Published

on

Bonding Over Books and Long Car Rides

“Guess where this photo was taken” was the prompt John Sasscer Sanders Jr. gave alongside a photo on his Hinge dating profile. The image captured Mr. Sanders at a book-signing event for the sociologist Matthew Desmond during the 2023 National Book Festival in Washington.

Shannon Shiyi Wu had volunteered at the festival that year, and was familiar with Mr. Desmond’s work. So when Mr. Sanders liked one of her profile photos in September 2023, Ms. Wu checked out his profile and saw the photo from the festival. “I know exactly where that is,” she responded. “That book is ‘Poverty, by America.’” They chatted about how Ms. Wu had read Mr. Desmond’s Pulitzer Prize-winning book, “Evicted,” and visited the exhibit it inspired at the National Building Museum in 2018.

It was the first of many shared interests for the couple. Their first date, days after they matched on Hinge, however, got off to a rough start when Mr. Sanders went to the wrong location of the coffee shop where they had agreed to meet. Once they pieced together the snafu and found each other 30 minutes later, the conversation flowed easily.

[Click here to binge read this week’s featured couples.]

She was “very easy to talk to, very engaging and fun,” Mr. Sanders said. “I thought she had a wonderful, distinctive laugh.”

Advertisement

Ms. Wu, 33, is the director of payment policy at the American Hospital Association. Born and raised in Libertyville, Ill., she received a bachelor’s degree in psychology at Princeton and a Ph.D. from the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health.

Mr. Sanders, 37, who was born and raised in Chevy Chase, Md., has a bachelor’s degree in economics from Rice University, a master’s degree in accountancy from Notre Dame, and an M.B.A. from the University of Virginia Darden School of Business. He is the senior manager of technical accounting at International Game Technology, a company that provides products and services for lotteries and casinos.

Their next dates through the fall of 2023 were a series of thoughtful pursuits, such as seeing a comedy show, trying Peruvian food, visiting the Rothko exhibition at the National Art Gallery, and dining at the Dabney, a Michelin-star restaurant in Washington.

It was on their first weekend away together that December, when Mr. Sanders invited her to his family home on the eastern shore of Maryland, that Ms. Wu realized their relationship had real promise. Looking over at him in the car en route, while listening to her favorite song by her favorite band (“I Need My Girl” by the National), she realized she didn’t want the ride to end. “‘Oh my gosh, I could be really serious with this guy,’” she recalled thinking.

Car rides were also where Mr. Sanders felt his affection blooming, albeit with different audio material. He loved listening to audiobooks like “Bad Blood” by John Carreyrou or “American Prometheus” by Kai Bird and Martin J. Sherwin together while driving. “She has an incredible intellectual curiosity that was engaging from the start,” he said. “I learn so much from her.”

Advertisement

In November 2024, just over a year after they met, Mr. Sanders proposed to Ms. Wu near the Touchstone Gallery in downtown Washington. It was where they had gone on their second date, and steps from the spot where they first kissed. “I had previously said to him, I didn’t want a big scene or anything,” said Ms. Wu of their engagement conversations.

Their wedding on Feb. 28 was low-key as well. They married at the Superior Court of the District of Columbia in a ceremony officiated by George Barbour, the branch chief of the marriage bureau, with just their parents and Mr. Sanders’s brothers and toddler nephew.

“I cried a little when I was reading my vows, and I think he also had to take a few breaths there,” Ms. Wu said. “I can’t imagine doing that in front of 100 or 200 people.”

The small group then shared a family-style meal at Ambar, a Balkan restaurant on Capitol Hill, ending with a hazelnut torte from the Heidelberg Pastry Shoppe in Arlington, Va. Their one more formal wedding touch: taking their portraits amid the soaring spaces and millions of books at the Library of Congress, which organizes the National Book Festival every year.

Advertisement
Continue Reading
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Lifestyle

What European Luxury Can Learn From American Fashion

Published

on

What European Luxury Can Learn From American Fashion
This week on The Debrief, BoF’s Diana Pearl explains why brands like Coach, Ralph Lauren and Tory Burch are outperforming many European luxury houses — and what their turnarounds reveal about pricing, product, retail and long-term brand building.
Continue Reading

Lifestyle

Suit asks court to force Trump administration to use ‘The Kennedy Center’ name

Published

on

Suit asks court to force Trump administration to use ‘The Kennedy Center’ name

Workers react to the media after updating signage outside the Kennedy Center on Dec. 19, 2025, in Washington, D.C.

Jim Watson/AFP via Getty Images


hide caption

toggle caption

Advertisement

Jim Watson/AFP via Getty Images

Rep. Joyce Beatty of Ohio is asking a federal court in Washington, D.C., to force President Trump and the board and staff of the Kennedy Center to revert to calling the arts complex The John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts.

The motion, which Beatty filed on Wednesday, asks a federal circuit court judge to reverse the Trump administration and the center’s current board and staff’s decision to call the complex “The Trump-Kennedy Center.”

In the filing, Beatty’s attorneys wrote: “Can the Board of the Kennedy Center — in direct contradiction of the governing statutes — rename this sacred memorial to John F. Kennedy after President Donald J. Trump? The answer is, unequivocally, ‘no.’ By renaming the Center — in violation of the law — Defendants have breached the terms of the trust and their most basic fiduciary obligations as trustees. Shortly after President John F. Kennedy’s assassination, Congress designated the Kennedy Center as the ‘sole national memorial to the late’ President in the nation’s capital.”

Advertisement

In a statement emailed to NPR Thursday, Roma Daravi, the vice president of public relations for the Kennedy Center, wrote: “We’re confident the court will uphold the board’s decision on the name change and the desperately needed renovations which will continue as scheduled.” NPR also reached out to the White House for comment, but did not receive a reply.

In December, White House press secretary Karoline Leavitt announced that the complex would heretofore be called “The Trump-Kennedy Center.” Although the new moniker was never approved by Congress, the Center’s website and publicity materials were immediately updated to reflect the administration’s chosen name, and the same day as Leavitt’s announcement, Trump’s name went up on the signage of the complex’s exterior, over that of the slain President Kennedy.

Later that month, Rep. Beatty who serves as an ex-officio member of the Kennedy Center’s board of trustees, sued Trump, members of the Kennedy Center board appointed by Trump, and some ex-officio members, arguing that the complex’s name had been legislated by Congress in 1964. Wednesday’s motion is part of that lawsuit.

In a press release sent to NPR on Wednesday, Rep. Beatty said: “Donald Trump’s attempt to rename the Kennedy Center after himself is not just an act of ego. It is an attempt to subvert our Constitution and the rule of law. Congress established the Kennedy Center by law, and only Congress can change its name.”

For many patrons, artists and benefactors of the Kennedy Center, the name change was the last straw in politicizing the performing arts hub. Following the White House announcement of the new name, many prominent artists withdrew planned performances there, including the composer Philip Glass (a Kennedy Center Honors award recipient, who received his prize during the first Trump administration), the famed Broadway composer and lyricist Stephen Schwartz and the 18-time Grammy-winning banjo master Béla Fleck.

Advertisement

The Washington National Opera (WNO), which had been in residence at the Kennedy Center since 1971, also severed its ties in January after ticket sales dropped precipitously. Earlier this month, WNO artistic director Francesca Zambello told NPR, “We did try as best as we could to encourage [the patrons] that we are a bipartisan organization, but people really voted with their feet and with their pocketbooks. And so we realized that there was really no choice for us.”

On Monday, a coalition of eight architecture and cultural groups also sued Trump and the Kennedy Center board in federal court over the complex’s scheduled closing in July for unspecified renovations. Their suit seeks to have the White House and board members comply with existing historic preservation laws, and to secure Congressional approval before moving ahead with the renovation plans.

Continue Reading

Lifestyle

This L.A. play wants you to feel the story viscerally — by keeping you blindfolded

Published

on

This L.A. play wants you to feel the story viscerally — by keeping you blindfolded

I am blindfolded and seated in a vintage armchair set in the center of a darkened, red-lit room with Gothic accents. An actor is performing nearby. I hear their voice, but cannot, of course, see them. I suddenly spring upward in my seat, alarmed at the touch of some sort of cloth — or perhaps a feather? — across my ankles.

I’ll never be entirely sure. For wearing the small veil across my eyes was a requirement to participate in “Poe: Pulse & Pendulum,” the debut offering from new troupe Theatre Obscura L.A. The company’s initial performance contains two one-act plays, modern interpretations of Edgar Allan Poe’s “The Pit and the Pendulum” and “The Tell-Tale Heart.”

While the stories are familiar to many, Theatre Obscura increases the levels of discomfort. In this room, I am at times unsettled, at once tracking the movements of the actors while attempting to remain hyper aware of any sudden touch or scent. “The Pit and the Pendulum,” the first half of the program, translates especially well to this setting, its dark sense of demented confinement keeping my nerves on high alert.

Conjuring such a state of anxiety was the point.

“If you take the visual away, it’s going to make you feel uneasy,” says Paul Millet, who devised the concept.

Advertisement

There are jump scares. Downtown event space the Count’s Den has been outfitted with about 50 speakers for the Obscura shows, which run through April 12. Some are visible before one puts on the blindfold. Many, though, are hidden under seats or couches, as the audio will trail the actors around the room, or perhaps a sudden crash or door opening will have me jolting my attention elsewhere.

“The Pit and the Pendulum” is a story of torture, and as the narrator, here played by Melissa Lugo, desperately speaks of a blade swinging above, actors will fan us, timing their waves with each swoosh of the audio. I was prepared for that one, as a fellow theatergoer nearby let out a soft yelp when the unseen gestures first arrived above their head.

For many, sight is the most coveted sense. “If you take that away, you’re already naturally uncomfortable,” Millet says. “So we lean into that. We know you’re going to be uncomfortable. We know this is not the norm. But get on that ride with us. Be willing to be uncomfortable. Discomfort, I think, helps to heighten the experience, and ideally allow it to trigger the emotional reactions that the story does.”

“Poe: Pulse & Pendulum” is two one-act, audio-focused performances of Edgar Allan Poe stories.

(Joe Camareno / Theatre Obscura)

Advertisement

Still, touch is limited in the show. Occasionally a rattling of a chair, but little more. The fluttering I felt near my ankles was to mimic the sensation of a running critter. The troupe will ask for audience consent, and participants can opt out. While I went in wondering if “Poe: Pulse & Pendulum” would seek to recall more extreme haunt experiences with lengthy waivers, Millet wanted to keep it light — an audio play, primarily, with just a few in-the-flesh signals.

“We want people to feel unease, but I don’t want anyone taken out of the story because a boundary or line was crossed,” Millet says.

Scent, too, is used with restraint. There are moments when guests will get a whiff of a fragrance that pairs with the storyline. Millet considers the first run of Theatre Obscure to be an experiment in how much touch and scent audiences may want to endure. Smell, he says, is tricky, as the aroma may linger and become a distraction.

Millet has been honing the concept since 2023. Previously, he was part of the team behind Wicked Lit, which ended in 2019 after running for a number of years at unique locations such as Altadena’s Mountain View Mausoleum. Those immersive performances would feature casts and guests walking the venue. Theatre Obscura, however, is fully seated.

Advertisement
Two bindfolded guests in a red-lit room.

“Poe: Pulse & Pendulum” focuses on the fear that something may happen to us when stripped of sight.

(Joe Camareno / Theatre Obscura)

And while the stories of Poe lend themselves to the Halloween season, spooky events increasingly occur year round. Long-running production “The Willows” is set to wrap in early April, and “Monster Party,” a period piece that takes guests to a devilishly extravagant cocktail party, is re-launching in mid-April. Millet, a longtime theater producer who has a day job in television editing, is hoping to stand out by avoiding “the glut” of horror events that occur each September and October.

Theatre Obscura may face challenges, namely persuading potential guests that “The Pit and the Pendulum” is more than simply a live reading with audio effects.

“You can feel the movement of the characters around you,” Millet says. “You’re in the environment with the story as it unfolds. You can experience it on a more visceral level.”

Advertisement

Blindfolded, I felt Theatre Obscura was mostly playing off our fears rather than giving in to them, largely keying in on our anticipation that something may happen to us when stripped of sight. Lugo in much of “The Pit and the Pendulum” circles guests, who are seated sporadically around the room, allowing each of us to imagine how close or far we may be from the hole we are told is at its center. Each show deals with claustrophobia in some way, either of a space, or of a mind.

“The Tell-Tale Heart” is louder, more crowded. The sounds of crashing glass and creaky floorboards had my head working overtime to draw a floorplan, only to then have it distorted when actors would unexpectedly whisper in both of my ears to bring forth the protagonist’s nightmares. While I expected Theatre Obscura to be slightly more aggressive in its uses of touch and scent, it’s a show that asks us to live in our heads, and to sit in our own feeling of trepidation.

“I was intrigued,” Millet says, “with really trying to engage the audience’s imagination.”

Advertisement
Continue Reading

Trending