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Survivors of deadly Oklahoma home invasion to attend execution: ‘You shattered lives’
Dreu Kopf was at home with her young daughters and dear friend Amber Matthews when Wendell Grissom barged in and began shooting. Now Kopf and the girls, who are now grown, will watch him die.
Amber Matthews and Dreu Kopf only knew each other for two years but they had already become inseparable friends. Their lives then became forever intertwined when one of them was killed in a home invasion murder that the other survived.
“I would give anything to be able to call her at work again,” Kopf said in a victim impact statement obtained by USA TODAY. “I had a special ringtone for her and I miss hearing it.”
On Nov. 3, 2005, Wendell Arden Grissom murdered Matthews and seriously wounded Kopf inside her home in Watonga, Oklahoma. He didn’t know either women and chose the home seemingly at random.
Now Grissom is set to be executed by lethal injection in Oklahoma on Thursday, marking the first execution in the state in 2025 and the ninth in the U.S.
As his execution approaches, USA TODAY is looking back at the crime, who Matthews was and how Kopf is feeling about the case 20 years later.
What happened to Amber Matthews?
On Nov. 3, 2005, Grissom and a homeless hitchhiker he had picked up named Jessie Johns were planning to burglarize homes when they targeted Kopf’s house near Watonga, 70 miles northwest of Oklahoma City.
Kopf was home with her two daughters and Matthews when Grissom came knocking. Initially, he asked Kopf if her husband was home but eventually shot his way in, laughing as he fired, according to court records.
Kopf, who had been shot in the wrist, jumped on Grissom while Matthews ran with Kopf’s 5-week-old daughter into a room where Kopf’s 19-month-old daughter was sleeping.
“Dreu begged Grissom to stop,” court records say. She offered him “anything he wanted” to spare their lives but Kopf said in court records that “he was just laughing and he just kept shooting and shooting and laughing.”
Grissom shot Kopf in the head and hip. Hearing the shooting from inside the bedroom with the girls, Matthews was “overcome with terror” and “vomited all over her jeans and on the floor,” court records say.
Kopf managed to steal Grissom’s truck and escape, hoping he would follow her. On the way out, she heard Matthews scream, “Please don’t shoot me,” before Grissom shot her in the back of the head and then the forehead as she held one of the girls. Matthews died.
Kopf managed to flag down help and survived after being treated at a hospital. Police said Grissom and Johns fled Kopf’s home using her husband’s four-wheeler. Court records say Grissom and Johns were arrested in a nearby café after local citizens reported seeing the men to police.
‘I was crazy, I was scared’
Speaking to USA TODAY ahead of Grissom’s execution, Kopf recounted a long road to recovery that changed the trajectory of her and her family’s lives.
“I was scared all of the time. My husband wouldn’t leave my side,” Kopf said. “I lived in fear 24/7.”
Rylee Kopf, who was just 17 months old when Grissom invaded her home, recalled the struggles her mother endured in the years following the shooting.
“My mom would probably, with no exaggeration, call my dad 100 times a day, asking when he’s going to be home and if he couldn’t give her an answer she would call back,” she said. “She didn’t want to be home alone.”
Other members of Kopf’s family describe her as someone who was “paralyzed by fear” as she recovered from the shooting.
Despite the lasting nightmares and injuries, Kopf said that she has found a way to forgive Grissom. “I have to forgive this guy or Grissom is going to ride on my shoulder the rest of my life and control the rest of my life,” she said.
With Grissom’s execution this week, Kopf said it’s the end of a long process.
“Amber is always going to be 6 feet under and I will always be the girl that got shot. I’m probably going to always be nervous and scared,” Kopf said. “It’s taken 20 years of my life that I’ve had to deal with him. It’s a rollercoaster.”
She plans to witness Grissom’s execution along with her now-grown daughters, who are 19 and 20.
She hopes Grissom’s death will mark the moment that she “will never think of him again.”
‘My best friend’ and a ‘pretty angel’
Matthews’ father, Garry Matthews, described his daughter as the “apple of my eye, a cute blond blue-eyed little bundle of joy.”
“She was not only my daughter, she was my best friend. In and out of marriages, she was always there for me,” he said during Grissom’s 2008 trial. “The last restaurant we ate in, I can’t go back. Everything that reminds me of her brings back the pain.”
Although USA TODAY was not able to speak with members of Matthews’ family for this story, court records obtained show a family that has been devastated.
Matthews aunt, Rita Russell, told the Oklahoma Pardon and Parole Board last month that her niece was a “pretty angel.”
“We never got to see her get married or have kids. She loved kids,” she said, then addressed Grissom. “You shattered our lives that day … There’s not a day that does by that I don’t miss her beautiful smile.”
The ripple effects continue to haunt the entire Matthews family, they told the parole board.
“My holidays are not the same. My son no longer has a big sister,” Garry Matthews said in court. “I’m depressed. I miss my daughter so much and I want her back and can’t have her. I can’t even have her for one more day to say goodbye.”
Fernando Cervantes Jr. is a trending news reporter for USA TODAY. Reach him at fernando.cervantes@gannett.com and follow him on X @fern_cerv_.
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College football roundtable: Is SEC’s last CFP spot Oklahoma’s to lose?
In our college football writers’ roundtable, beat writers Lia Assimakopoulos and Shawn McFarland and columnist Kevin Sherrington tackle trending issues surrounding the sport. You can follow them on X at @Lassimak, @McFarland_Shawn and @KSherringtonDMN.
This week, our writers discuss the College Football Playoff paths for Texas and Oklahoma, UNT’s impressive turnaround and more.
Oklahoma made it through the toughest part of its schedule with road wins over Tennessee and Alabama and appears to be firmly in the CFP picture. With the Sooners out of the SEC Championship hunt and with two home games remaining against Missouri and LSU, do they have a clear path to the CFP?
Assimakopoulos: If Oklahoma wins its final two games against Missouri and LSU, it should have a pretty good chance. The committee wouldn’t surprise anyone by picking five teams from the SEC. Texas A&M and Georgia are locks. Ole Miss and Alabama have pretty good odds. Then, teams like Oklahoma, Texas and Vanderbilt are in the running for what could be that last spot. If Texas beats Texas A&M, it may get a bit complicated, and the committee may have to choose between the two. But as it currently stands, Oklahoma has the most convincing resume.
McFarland: It’ll depend entirely on how many SEC teams the committee grants entry to. League commissioner Greg Sankey wants a 16-team bracket but, until the sport inevitably moves in that direction, the conference can’t sneak half of its member schools in. That brings us back to Oklahoma. The Sooners are part of a three or four-team glut within their own conference. Texas A&M and Georgia are close to locks, Alabama and Ole Miss have second priority and the Red River rivals (plus Vanderbilt, because why not) are third. The SEC had three representatives in last year’s bracket. They may need to squeeze in four or five if the Sooners — regardless of how they finish — want to play.
Sherrington: Clearly they do if they win those last two games, which would give them 10. They’re in the second tier of SEC contenders – with Texas and Vanderbilt – behind Texas A&M, Georgia, Alabama and Ole Miss. Five SEC teams in the CFP is a distinct possibility. The only thing that screws this up for the Sooners is if Texas also wins its last two. But if I were betting now, I’d go with OU.
Even after falling to Georgia, some have posed the question whether Texas is still in the CFP hunt. Will the selection committee be forced to put Texas in the top 12 if it finishes the regular season with a win over No. 3 Texas A&M?
Assimakopoulos: I don’t think the committee is forced, by any means, to put a three-loss team in the playoff, and Texas faces an uphill battle. There’s certainly a chance that the Longhorns could get lucky and secure one of the lower seeds in the playoff if they beat Texas A&M, but they’ll need some other things to go their way, like Oklahoma and Vanderbilt losing. Even though they beat those teams head-to-head, their overall record is still worse. I assume it will also come down to how many teams in the Big 12, ACC and SEC are worthy of bids. Wouldn’t count on it for Texas.
McFarland: The math doesn’t favor Texas, and at the very least, it’d need help (in other words: collapses) from its conference pals to have a shot. The fact of the matter is there were six SEC teams ranked above the Longhorns in Sunday’s AP Top 25 poll. Texas would have head-to-head wins vs. half of them, though, if it beats A&M next week. Is that enough to convince the committee if the Longhorns, Vanderbilt and Oklahoma are left to fight for what may be the last of five playoff berths for the conference? Maybe. I wouldn’t bank on it, though.
Sherrington: The optics of a 25-point loss to Georgia weren’t good. Texas hasn’t been good on the road this year, with its only wins over Kentucky and Mississippi State. The Longhorns’ best win remains at the State Fair. Remains to be seen if the committee still takes that into consideration if Oklahoma has the better record. They’ll surely move the Sooners ahead of Texas after Oklahoma’s upset of Alabama. Will that hold if both teams win their last two games? Depends on how the committee feels about Texas taking down an undefeated team and how they look doing it. As noted, I like OU’s chances better.
North Texas was ranked in the AP top 25 poll for the first time since 1959 and controls its CFP destiny. Everybody knows about Eric Morris and Drew Mestemaker, but who has been the Mean Green’s unsung hero?
Assimakopoulos: While the Mean Green offense is making headlines, UNT’s new defensive coordinator Skyler Cassity has helped the defense make key strides contributing to its success. Cassity came over from Sam Houston and his defense is allowing 10 points per game fewer than last year’s and leads the nation in turnover margin per game at +1.4. Outside of the loss to USF, the defense has been solid and the difference from prior UNT teams.
McFarland: How about quarterback’s coach Sean Brophy? Morris (rightfully so) garners the lion’s share of attention as it pertains to the signal caller science at North Texas. Brophy has been alongside him at each of the last three stops and has been able to help assist in the development of every passer from Cam Ward to Chandler Morris to Menstermaker.
Sherrington: Tempted to nominate Caleb Hawkins, the freshman running back, who rushed for five touchdowns against Alabama-Birmingham, giving him 16 on the ground and 19 overall. He’s a key part in Morris’ offense, the nation’s most prolific. But UNT’s ability to generate turnovers – 24, leading all FBS –is the difference. That kept them in the game against South Florida for a half. Skyler Cassity, in his first season at UNT after coaching defense for Sam Houston’s 10-win team last year, will be a hot commodity this off-season, as will Eric Morris. And Hawkins. And Mestemaker.
Marcel Reed had maybe the worst half of his career against South Carolina. He rebounded to lead the Aggies to the largest comeback in program history. Did Reed help or hurt his Heisman case?
Assimakopoulos: No player, even a Heisman winner, is going to have a perfect season, and since Texas A&M won in the end, I don’t think one bad half will do much to hurt Reed. As long as the Aggies keep winning, his case gets stronger, but I still think the gap is too large to close, with Indiana’s Fernando Mendoza and Ohio State’s Julian Sayin having much better odds.
McFarland: He helped his case because the Aggies remain undefeated and that’ll go a ways once it’s time to vote. He hurt his case — or, at the very least, stagnated it — because he whiffed on an opportunity to pad his stats, win emphatically and close the gap between him, Ohio State’s Julian Sayin and Indiana’s Fernando Mendoza. If each of the three finish with undefeated records, and team success cancels out, then Sayin and Mendoza have stronger statistical cases. A no-doubter against a stout Longhorns defense, though, could provide a significant boost.
Sherrington: Looked like a wash to me. Reed is at his best as a runner, as we saw on the first drive of the second half against South Carolina, when, on fourth and 12, he made not just one but two Gamecocks whiff in the open field. He’s not as good when he can’t set his feet to throw. But any quarterback of an undefeated team will get serious consideration.
TCU appears to be in freefall, losing two straight and three of its last five games. What is going wrong in Fort Worth?
Assimakopoulos: TCU is starting to unravel on and off the field, and it’s tough to point to one area where things are going wrong. Last week, TCU’s defense allowed BYU to score on its first seven possessions. The offense has been one-dimensional under Josh Hoover without enough of a run game. Plus, Sonny Dykes is losing the fan base and didn’t help himself when asked what he may say to the fan base that is upset with the direction of the program: “People can say what they want to say.” Most teams find their stride by November and play their best football months into the season. TCU’s year has been the opposite.
McFarland: It’s a lack of execution, which is kind of a lazy answer, but the results suggest decent raw numbers and talent haven’t correctly translated. The Horned Frogs have the fifth-best defense and sixth-best offense in the Big 12, per Pro Football Focus, but that hasn’t materialized at a consistent rate. Look at their recent stretch of games: They allowed 14 unanswered points to lose against Iowa State, allowed a not-great West Virginia team to get back into the game in the second half of a win, nearly blew a victory against Baylor and coughed up an advantage late in the Arizona State loss. Save for a fourth-quarter vs. Colorado, they haven’t looked entirely comfortable since their nationally televised win against UNC.
Sherrington: No running game. The Horned Frogs rank near the FBS basement in rushing at 122 yards per game, virtually tied with SMU. The difference is that, unlike Kevin Jennings, Josh Hoover isn’t a dual threat. As defenses have adjusted to TCU’s one-dimensional attack, Hoover’s passer rating has declined from week to week. After averaging 36.3 points in a 5-2 start, they’ve averaged 17.7 in their last three games, two of them losses.
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Why Oklahoma DE Marvin Jones Jr. Believes Sooners Have Championship Potential
NORMAN — As Oklahoma makes its final push for the College Football Playoff, defensive end Marvin Jones Jr. knows what it takes to make a run at the national title.
Jones, an edge rusher who transferred to OU before the 2025 season, played for Georgia in 2022, when the Bulldogs won the national championship. Georgia defeated TCU 65-7 in the CFP National Championship Game that year to finish the season 15-0.
The Sooners are fresh off back-to-back road wins against Tennessee and Alabama after a stretch where they lost two of three games. OU is now 8-2 and almost certainly in control of its own CFP destiny.
Jones believes that team togetherness has allowed the Sooners to stay in the mix despite their rough middle-of-the-year stretch.
“It’s just a brotherhood, man,” Jones said. “It’s so special to see. You don’t really have any individuals on the team.”
The long-standing cliche goes that “defense wins championships.” And Jones believes that to be true.
Jones was part of a Georgia defense in 2022 that allowed only 296.8 total yards and 14.3 points per game. The Bulldogs also registered 91 tackles for loss and 35 sacks in their 15 wins.
The defensive end now plays for a similarly stellar defense. Through 10 games, Oklahoma is ninth in scoring defense (14.8 points allowed per game) and 11th in total defense (278.4 yards allowed per game).
Jones draws plenty of parallels between OU’s defensive grit and that of Georgia’s defense when he won a national title.
“The physicality definitely pops off first to me,” Jones said. “In that Georgia defense, that’s something (Georgia coach Kirby Smart) definitely prided the defense on. I think that’s something that we have here.”
Oklahoma’s defense has been brilliant overall. But it hasn’t been perfect.
In the Sooners’ 23-6 loss to Texas on Oct. 11, they allowed the Longhorns to convert on 10 of their 17 third-down tries. Oklahoma allowed Ole Miss to log 431 offensive yards and convert on 11 third and fourth downs, and that helped the Rebels earn their 34-26 win over the Sooners.
The Sooners have one of the best defenses in college football. But they’ll have to be even better to make a run at the College Football Playoff.
From his own first-hand experience, Jones knows that steady growth is necessary for a team to win a national championship.
“None of us graded out 100 on the grade sheet after the (Alabama) game, so there are always things to improve on,” Jones said. “I think that’s it. Our coaches let us know that nobody played a perfect game.”
Oklahoma will host Missouri on Saturday before battling LSU in Norman for the Sooners’ regular-season finale on Nov. 29.
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Fields floats extending Oklahoma’s school year by 15 days
OKLAHOMA CITY (KFOR) — Oklahoma’s new State Superintendent is considering whether extending the school year could help boost student performance, saying students in other states are already spending more time in the classroom.
Some teachers say they’re open to the idea—but want to know whether it would actually make a difference.
State Superintendent Lindel Fields brought up the idea during a Nov. 9 appearance on News 4’s FlashPoint.
“Imagine if the Thunder practiced 15 days less than the Nuggets every year,” Fields said. “That’s what we’re doing in Oklahoma.”
He said Oklahoma students spend about 15 fewer days in school each year than those in surrounding states.
“Over a kid’s lifetime that’s an entire year less,” Fields said.
He argued that increasing classroom time could improve student outcomes.
“When you think about, maybe where we rank and how much we go to school, maybe there’s a correlation there,” Fields said. “So I think it’s a conversation worth having.”
Oklahoma special education teacher Delana Whitfield told News 4 she thought the idea was well-intentioned.
“I was like, oh, that’s interesting,” Whitfield said.
But she said she wants to see data.
“My biggest question is, is this going to make a substantial difference for these students? And if we can’t support that and provide evidence that it’s actual causation, that the 15 additional days actually provides better outcome for students and there’s not other factors, then I think we need to go back to the drawing board,” Whitfield said.
She and other educators say Oklahoma’s low test scores—especially in reading and math—may be caused by deeper issues than just the number of school days.
“I can think of other ways off the top of my head that I think could have a larger impact on student outcomes for those students,” Whitfield said. “If we had more interventionists in those areas, that we’re spending more specialized time with students that were struggling. If we were to offer more remedial classes for students that are struggling in those areas.”
A spokesperson for Fields told News 4 this week the idea is still in the very early stages—and Fields does not believe it’s the only solution that might be needed to turn around educational outcomes in Oklahoma.
“We recognize that our students currently spend fewer days in school compared to neighboring states,” the spokesperson said. “This is a very preliminary conversation about what adding days could look like.”
Fields acknowledged there would be practical challenges.
“I think most people are on board with that,” Fields said. “But like most things, it comes down to, how do we pay for that?”
Whitfield said she hopes this discussion leads to a broader plan to support students.
“If 15 days additional does show that there is a benefit to it, I think it should be a part of a larger plan because I don’t think there’s one single thing that anybody could do in any position with education that is going to make a substantial change,” Whitfield said.
Oklahoma currently requires a minimum of 165 instructional days per year.
That’s fewer than every bordering state except Colorado.
If the school year were extended by 15 days—up to 180—it would bring Oklahoma closer to the requirements already in place in Texas, Arkansas, New Mexico, and Kansas.
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