New Jerseyans cast 10,374 in-person early votes on Saturday, bringing the total to 41,785 statewide, with 320,823 total advance votes for the June 4 primary election, according to an analysis of numbers through last night by Ryan Dubicki, an Associated Press election researcher.

Democrats have already cast 241,205 votes, including 215,803 vote-by-mail ballots and 25,402 early votes; 79,248 advance votes have come from Republicans, including 62,871 VBMs and 16,377 early votes.

That puts advance voting turnout at 10% for Democrats and 5% for Republicans.

County clerks mailed 693,504 vote-by-mail ballots, 75% of them to Democrats; 21% of Democrats requested VBMs, while just 11% of Republicans did.  The return rate among Democrats is 41.6%; it’s 36.8% among Republicans.

There have been 24,613 advance votes in the Democratic primary for Congress in New Jersey’s 3rd district, where 46% of Democrats have returned mail-in ballots.   This is the contest for U.S. Senate candidate Andy Kim’s open House seat.

In the 8th district, where Rep. Rob Menendez (D-Jersey City) and Hoboken Mayor Ravi Bhalla are facing off for the Democratic nomination, 13,311 advance votes have been cast: 8,656 VBMs and 4,655 in-person early votes.

The state’s largest city, Newark, has cast 2,042 advance votes in the Democratic primary, including 641 in-person early votes – about the same number as Evesham.

Union City cast 2,746 in-person early votes, the most in the state.

DEAR ANNIE: I’ve been in an on-and-off relationship with a guy for four years. He has a lot of female friends, and I’m not really sure how I am supposed to feel about that. He goes to dinner with them for their birthdays and meets them out for drinks, and yet he won’t introduce me to them as his girlfriend. He tells me that my jealousy is a turnoff, but I feel like some boundaries are being crossed here. Please help. — Jealous and Confused

DEAR JEALOUS AND CONFUSED: You have every right to feel jealous and confused. But there is not much confusion, really. He is dismissing your feelings and shutting you out of a part of his life. I say move on and find someone who is better for you.

***

DEAR ANNIE: This is the first time I’ve ever written to an advice columnist, but I recently read your column with the letter from “Baffled Daughter,” whose mother was a 77-year-old woman who admitted to having an affair with a young male nurse who is married with children.

You gave sound advice about reporting it to the rehab facility, but I just wanted to suggest one possibility: She could have dementia. My mother is now 90 years old and has been in a nursing home for 12 years with dementia (bedridden now), but 14 years ago, she told me she had been kidnapped by a neighbor on the block and that he had taken her keys and had a priest marry them. This was my first sign of realizing that my mother was mentally off; the neighbor had died six months earlier of the same disease, so she had not seen him that day but she thought that she had.

It’s just a thought — that the 77-year-old woman also has a form of memory loss and therefore has problems with reality.

I enjoy your column, so keep up the great work! — Dementia Advice

DEAR DEMENTIA ADVICE: You bring up a great point. She should have her mother checked for memory care, as the whole affair might have been something she imagined because of dementia. Thanks for writing.

Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.