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The reality TV shows we'd actually win : Pop Culture Happy Hour
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Part of the fun of reality TV is putting yourself in the shoes of the people you’re watching. Maybe you’d make a great Real Housewife. Maybe you could win The Amazing Race. Maybe you could even win the fickle hand of The Bachelor. We’re not here to make friends, but we are here to pick the reality shows that we think could thrive on.
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Ian McKellen Says Fat Suit Saved His Ribs In Nasty Fall During London Play
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Ian McKellen says the painful fall that sent him from a London theater to a hospital bed could have been way worse … if not for his fat suit!!!
The legendary actor is recounting his nasty spill for the first time, telling Saga Magazine he fractured his wrist and chipped his vertebrae in the June incident … but had his ribs spared by his costume.
As we reported … Ian was playing John Falstaff in a West End production of “Player Kings” when he tumbled off the front of the stage during a fight scene and had to be rushed to the hospital.
Ian says he used a fat suit to play Falstaff and the extra cushion softened the landing when he fell … saving his ribs and other joints in the process.
The 85-year-old says his neck and wrist are still not healed, and he doesn’t leave his home these days just in case “someone bangs into me.”
Ian says he got his foot caught in a chair on stage and as he tried to shake loose he kept slipping on other props and eventually landed on someone’s lap in the front row!!!
IM also says he’s replayed the fall in his mind countless times … and he feels shame over the whole thing.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater? Busting 3 common myths about infidelity
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Can a relationship recover after a romantic affair? Psychologist and affair recovery specialist Talal Alsaleem weighs in on the topic.
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From an outsider’s perspective, dealing with a cheating partner might seem obvious: cut your losses and run.
But Talal Alsaleem, who has helped hundreds of couples work through their infidelity in his 17 years as a clinical psychologist and licensed marriage and family counselor, says couples should do the opposite. First, they should turn toward each other. That doesn’t necessarily mean forgiving the wrongdoing, he says – it just means facing the problem head-on.
Healing can look a lot of different ways, he says. “Sometimes infidelity is the clear signal that this relationship shouldn’t have [existed] in the first place,” says Alsaleem. But in other cases, it can present “a golden opportunity” for couples to address underlying issues and work together toward a stronger relationship.
Alsaleem, founder of The Infidelity Counseling Center in Roseville, Calif., shares common misconceptions about romantic affairs — and how to cope.
Myth 1: Cheating means having sex with someone else
Crossing the line means different things to different couples, says Alsaleem. In some relationships, flirting is considered cheating. In others, it’s no big deal.
So explicitly define the boundaries of your relationship as early as possible. Couples assume they’re on the same page about emotional or sexual exclusivity only to realize they’re not when it’s too late, he says.
Get specific with each other. How do you feel about sexting? Porn? How close is too close to a friend or coworker? It might feel awkward to talk through these topics with your partner, says Alsaleem, but it’s important to communicate clear boundaries.
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And if your partner “is not willing to engage in conversation about exclusivity, that’s a red flag,” he adds.
Myth 2: Once a cheater, always a cheater
Just because someone cheated in a past relationship does not mean they’ll cheat on you, says Alsaleem.
But you should make sure your partner worked on the issues that led them to cheating in the first place, says Alsaleem. Otherwise, if put in a similar situation, that person might repeat their mistakes.
And remember: an affair is not a real relationship. “You only know the part of the person they choose to show you in the affair,” says Alsaleem. “Love requires you to be in a three-dimensional relationship where you see the good, bad and in-between.”
Myth 3: Cheating means your relationship is over
Not everyone can or should forgive infidelity — and it’s OK to end a relationship to save yourself from unnecessary pain and suffering.
However, in Alsaleem’s experience, couples can and do recover from romantic affairs if they commit to it. “If people choose to rebuild their relationship for the right reason, they’re going to end up with a better, healthier relationship than ever before,” he says.
If that’s a route you want to take, couples should take the time to understand the root cause of the transgression, says Alsaleem. It will help them heal from the trauma and avoid ending up in the same situation again, whether in the current relationship or future relationships.
Keep in mind that forgiveness is earned, says Alsaleem. Rebuilding trust may require proactive transparency on the part of the unfaithful: sharing their location or phone and laptop passwords to prove there’s nothing to hide — at least early on.
“Breaking someone’s heart – that’s not a small thing, regardless of how far we went into the infidelity,” says Alsaleem.
The digital story was edited by Malaka Gharib. The visual editor is Beck Harlan. We’d love to hear from you. Leave us a voicemail at 202-216-9823, or email us at LifeKit@npr.org.
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'Boy Meets World' Danielle Fishel Thankful For Support Amid Cancer Battle
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“Boy Meets World” star Danielle Fishel is feeling blessed despite her recent cancer diagnosis … thanking fans for an outpouring of support.
Danielle hopped on Instagram and shared a video message with her followers, expressing gratitude for the overwhelmingly positive response to her health update.
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As we reported … Danielle announced Monday she was fighting breast cancer, though she caught the disease in stage zero during her annual mammogram.
Danielle says a big reason she’s being open with her cancer fight is the hope her story will get women — and men — to get cancer screenings, just in case doctors find something … as they did in her case.
The way Danielle sees it … no one wants to hear bad news from the doc, but early detection is a much better alternative to finding out you have cancer much later in the game … and she’s stressing the importance of being proactive when it comes to personal health.
Danielle plans to get surgery and is convinced she’s going to win her fight against cancer … and if you think she seems chill about the whole thing, get a load of her dog.
Sounds like Danielle’s getting her message across too … some folks are in the replies saying she’s the reason they’re sucking it up and getting a cancer screening.
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