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What You Can Learn About Job-Hunting From Dating Apps. Really.

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Anyone who has ever interviewed for a job has received this wisdom from a gainfully employed friend: “Remember, you’re interviewing them too!” Those who have spent time swiping on dating apps may have heard the same advice. There’s a reason for that.
The dating and job markets aren’t that different. “Recruiters just glance at your profile,” said Kyle Lagunas, head of strategy and principal analyst at Aptitude Research, a research-based advisory firm. “You’re going to have 15 seconds before they swipe.”
In both cases, we need to know what we want. A superficial attraction? Something deeper? And in both cases, we want to know what makes us desirable. Because we are convenient at the moment? Because it seems like we both want similar things?
So, using lingo from the dating world, here’s an advice manual for navigating the “dates” we go on when we are hunting for a job, with actionable takeaways. Remember, every time we accept a “date” with anyone in our desired industry, we are being evaluated — even if we believe it’s just a coffee with a childhood friend’s older sibling, or a 10-minute call with a longtime mentor.
These tips may or may not lead you to your dream job. But they will give you more information about the workplace cultures you are considering so that you can make informed decisions.
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Dating:
A relationship (usually lasting three months or more) that isn’t exclusive, even though one partner wants it to be. Usually, this is a way for one party to enjoy the perks of a relationship without accountability.
Job-hunting:
A job without health insurance and/or with less than a yearlong contract (or no contract at all).
Situationship employers (otherwise known as gig employers) frequently like to call you “a prospective member of their family” or highlight “contributing to a purpose” during the recruiting process.
For experts, this kind of language is a red flag. “They say they are a family, but they don’t say what kind of family,” said Martin McGovern, a career consultant and executive coach. “The boss might see you as a family member, but then as soon as the budget changes, they will hire an external cousin and fire you.”
The “making a difference” lingo is more often used today in spaces with precarity and low pay, especially in the nonprofit world, said Erin McGoff, a career coach.
Situationship employers rely on family and purpose language because, whether or not they have revealed it yet, they know they cannot offer you a long-term commitment or health insurance.
Do not fall into this trap! They are not your family — you barely know them, and they want to hire you without giving you benefits or a true commitment.
If you are offered this job and decide to take it, continue your job hunt. Your employer is not committed to you, so you don’t owe them anything.
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Dating:
An elaborate relationship with your crush in your head (for example, if you fantasize about becoming someone’s spouse, but they see you as a no-frills hookup).
Job-hunting:
The search for a paid job when a company is really looking for an unpaid intern.
Imaginationships can be a pink flag. Define the relationship: Only work free hours if you believe they will benefit your career in the long run.
Free hours can be a way to form a relationship with a mentor, but tread carefully; given the power imbalance, it can also be a way to be taken advantage of.
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Dating:
After hooking up, one partner texting intermittently but resisting any kind of concrete plan to meet up again.
Job-hunting:
An employer asking for increasing amounts of work during a multistage interview process, without financial compensation.
Breadcrumbing (in the case of job interviews, uncompensated work) can be a red or pink flag, said McGoff, the career coach. “I hear from people being asked to do assignments that not only take up a lot of their time, but where they create valuable assets the company uses,” she said. There are exceptions: “You need to use common sense. If it’s a role you really want, you can go the extra mile.”
But it might be worth asking some questions in response to their request: How many candidates are they requesting this material from? How long should the assignment take you? What skills is the assignment meant to showcase? Will the company be using the deliverables for anything other than job consideration? What is the offer timeline?
Thank them for the information. Depending on their answers, McGoff suggested politely offering a truncated version of the assignment. If a company requests 30 posts and 20 reels of social-media content, for example, ask if it would be acceptable to send five posts and two short-form videos.
“Some companies budget for this, so you can always ask if this is a case where they can offer compensation for your time,” McGoff said. But, she added, “don’t ask in an entitled way. Say, ‘Since this will take me X amount of hours, I’m inquiring to see if you offer that.’”
You also can always direct them to previous examples of your work that showcase the skills they are testing for in the assignment.
Based on their answers to your questions, consider, carefully, whether continuing to pursue this job is worth your time.
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Dating:
Receiving compliments, gifts and other gestures of affection without a promise of exclusivity.
Job-hunting:
In the recruitment and offer stages, receiving flattery and promises of promotion rather than a reasonable starting salary.
Love-bombing can feel good, but it doesn’t pay the bills.
Use that flattery to push for a better salary — and point to inflation and other economic challenges to justify annual increases.
Ask for written promises of salary bumps and title changes (ideally, as part of your contract). It may not happen, but it doesn’t hurt to ask.
Dating:
Entering into an exclusive, romantic relationship.
Job-hunting:
Landing a job with at least a yearlong contract, health insurance and retirement benefits.
Cuffing in the job-search world isn’t necessarily a bad thing: If this is the gig you want, great. If not, use this position to look more appealing to other jobs. Only leave your current position once you have a better offer (however you choose to define “better”).
Dating:
Boasting about attention from other matches in order to seem more appealing.
Job-hunting:
An employer talking about how many applications it has received.
Whelming in the job-search world is best ignored.
Or, if you are being hired in a cohort, talk to other candidates who received offers. Try to deduce the percentage of candidates who, when offered a job at the company, take it. (As with college admissions, this is called the yield rate.)
Yes, they might have a lot of interested applicants. But are you one of them? You need to figure that out for yourself.
Bonus points if they drop the line “It is harder to get a job here than get into Harvard.” (Matthew Bahl, workplace market lead and vice president at the Financial Health Network, a nonprofit financial services consultancy, said that this line is particularly popular in the management and consulting worlds.)
Dating:
When, after a date or hookup, one person doesn’t respond to a follow-up message or call. (Generally, it is ghosting only after two nonresponses.)
Job-hunting:
When you don’t hear back from an employer after interviewing for a job.
Ghosting after interviews, sadly, is all too common. Follow up once, maybe twice.
Do not wait around after that.
Bahl also noted that ghosting can be a red flag. “Is this really a place you want to spend your time, before they’re even paying you? They’re already not showing you the level of respect you would want to have or you would expect to show them.”
Dating:
Ghosting someone, but then, after at least a few months, reaching out as though the ghosting never happened. (Sometimes it is fun to respond to these texts with a simple ghost emoji.)
Job-hunting:
Failing to respond to a professional contact who asked a question or favor, but later reaching out with a different question or favor.
Zombieing, unlike ghosting, might be a positive thing — or not: If a professional contact reaches out to you out of the blue, they probably are looking for something. Figure out what that is.
If this is a person with power over you (someone who makes more money than you, for example, or has the power to help you get a job), proceed, but carefully: They’ve ghosted you once, and they will likely do it again.
Dating:
Keeping someone on a “roster” in case your first choice doesn’t work out. Often, this comes in the form of a late-night text from a hookup (“You up?”). But sometimes serial monogamists also keep a hookup on the bench — just in case they break up with their current significant other.
Job-hunting:
Rejecting a candidate but trying to keep the person interested in case the first choice declines the offer.
Benching is normal in hiring. “Expect them to have a roster,” said McGovern, the career counselor. “Treat companies how they treat you — always have a backup plan, always be dating on the side of your job.”
McGoff agreed: “I’m a huge advocate for staying on the roster. I’m a huge advocate for seeing job interviews as a networking opportunity. And if you don’t get the job, it’s not that their door is closed forever. It’s still an open door. It’s just that right then it didn’t work out, but down the road it might.”
But this kind of practice can be a warning signal. Check Glassdoor, a site where companies are rated by current and former employees, to see if there are reviews that mention turnover rates. If employees stay at this company for less than a year, that flag turns from pink to red.
Watch how employees talk about current and past employees — assume this is how you will be talked about when you are not in the room.
If you can speak to the last person who held the position you are being considered for, try to figure out what their experience was. Assume that yours will be similar if you are offered and take this job.

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Tinder bets on group dating feature to win back Gen Z

Tired of navigating the online dating landscape alone? Now you can swipe right along with friends.
Tinder launched a double-dating feature Tuesday, allowing users to create joint profiles with friends to match with other pairs.
Double Date, as the feature is called, is the refined version of the failed 2016 product Tinder Social, which was discontinued in 2017 over privacy concerns and user confusion about its purpose.
To activate Double Date, users select up to three friends to create a pair with. Then they can browse and like other paired users. When both pairs like each other, a group chat opens between all four people to coordinate plans.
The feature also allows users to message individuals within a matched pair privately if they want to transition to a one-on-one conversation. Users can maintain multiple pairings with different friends while keeping their individual dating profile separate.
The feature was popular with young users when it was tested in Europe and Latin America. Cleo Long, Tinder’s head of product marketing, said the feature is meant to help relieve dating stress for younger users.
“This is a social-first experience that’s really meant to help relieve some of the pressure that we know a lot of Gen Z experiences with dating by making it more social, more fun, and bringing your friends in to help reinforce that comfort piece,” Long said.
West Hollywood-based Tinder said nearly 90% of people who tried Double Date were under 29, aligning with the company’s push to retain Gen Z.
The group dynamic appears to resonate with women, who were three times more likely to show interest in paired profiles compared to individual ones during testing. Users in group chats also sent significantly more messages — about 35% more than typical one-on-one conversations.
The company said the feature helped bring users to the platform. About 15% of people who accepted Double Date invitations were either completely new to Tinder or returning after a period of inactivity.
The positive testing results prompted Tinder to accelerate its U.S. launch ahead of schedule.
Tinder is owned by Match Group Inc., the company behind Hinge and OkCupid. It is facing mounting pressure on its business. In the first quarter of 2025, Match Group reported a 5% decline in paying subscribers across all its apps, while Tinder saw a 7% decrease in subscriptions. In response to these shifts, Match made the decision to lay off approximately 325 employees, or 13% of its workforce.
These recent losses are part of a broader pattern. Tinder’s paying user base has slipped from more than 11 million subscribers in late 2022 to roughly 9.1 million today. The consistent decline has caught the attention of activist investors, including Elliott Investment Management.
The mounting pressure led to significant leadership changes within the company. In May, Tinder Chief Executive Faye Iosotaluno announced she would step down in July after less than two years in the role. Spencer Rascoff, who was appointed Match chief executive in February to tackle the slowdown in user engagement, stepped in to lead Tinder directly.
Rascoff has outlined an ambitious technology-focused turnaround plan. In an internal memo viewed by the Wall Street Journal, he called on staff to speed up product changes and use artificial intelligence, emphasizing that employees should prioritize user experience over short-term revenue.
The company has rolled out AI features that help users create better profiles and prompt them to reconsider potentially inappropriate messages before sending them.
Tinder has also launched “The Game Game,” which uses OpenAI’s speech-to-speech technology to let users practice flirting with AI-generated personas in over-the-top scenarios designed to reduce dating anxiety through humor.
During the company’s first quarter earnings call, Rascoff noted that Match’s apps have fallen out of favor with younger daters because many saw using them as a “numbers game.” He believes Double Date can help shift perceptions, calling it less “hook-uppy” and more about having “a good time as friends.”
Tinder’s struggles reflect broader trends in the dating app industry. Dating apps have been losing their appeal amongst singles in recent years, especially Gen Z, the generation born between 1997 and 2012. Only 26% of online dating services users in the U.S. are 18 to 29 years old, while 30 to 49-year-olds comprise 61% of that same user base.
Gen Z increasingly prefers meeting potential partners through mutual friends and real-world gatherings.
Los Angeles has become a testing ground for dating alternatives that skip swiping entirely. Start-ups like El Segundo-based First Round’s on Me encourage immediate in-person meetups, while Venice’s Lox Club hosts weekly community events for singles to mingle.
Whether Double Date can reverse Tinder’s fortunes remains to be seen, but Rascoff is betting that the future of dating lies not in perfecting the swipe, but in reimagining how people connect.
Gen Z is “not a hookup generation,” he said. “They don’t drink as much alcohol, they don’t have as much sex. We need to adapt our products to accept that reality.”
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L.A. County fire victims sue State Farm for negligence, claim they were 'grossly underinsured'

Six couples and one individual who lost their homes in the devastating Los Angeles County fires are suing State Farm, claiming that they were misled by the insurance company and that their homes were deliberately and “grossly underinsured.”
The lawsuit, filed in Los Angeles Coutny Superior Court on Monday, alleges that State Farm General — the California home insurer that is part of Bloomington, Ill.-based State Farm Group — took advantage of homeowners’ lack of knowledge about rebuilding costs and set projected replacement costs far lower than the actual costs, leaving fire victims without enough money to replace or rebuild their homes.
State Farm, California’s largest home insurer, has engaged in a “multi-faceted illegal scheme” that is designed to “reap enormous illicit profits by deceptively misleading over a million homeowners in California,” the complaint alleges.
The lawsuit alleges negligence, breach of contract and several other causes of action, and seeks compensatory and punitive damages and reform of State Farm’s policies.
Representatives for State Farm did not immediately respond to a request for comment.
This marks the second time L.A. County fire victims have sued insurers because they believe they were systematically underinsured. USAA and two insurers affiliated with AAA were sued in early June by policyholders with similar claims that they did not have enough money to rebuild.
Of the seven households that are a part of the lawsuit, four were from Altadena, two were from Pacific Palisades and one was from Sierra Madre. Each of the homeowners had policies with State Farm, and some were underinsured by more than $2 million when their homes were destroyed by the Palisades and Eaton fires.
In one instance outlined in the lawsuit, homeowners wrote to their State Farm agent before the January fires to confirm whether the dwelling limit of just over $1 million would sufficiently cover the cost of rebuilding their Altadena home. The agent confirmed the amount covered the total cost to rebuild. After their home burned down, the estimates the couple received to rebuild were in excess of $3 million, the lawsuit says.
The lawsuit comes days after state Insurance Commissioner Ricardo Lara announced his department is launching a formal inquiry into how State Farm General is handling thousands of claims filed by fire victims after receiving complaints.
As of June 12, State Farm said, it has received more than 12,800 claims related to the fires and has paid more than $4.03 billion to its California customers.
State Farm has also been named as a defendant in an April lawsuit filed by homeowners who accuse dozens of insurers of colluding over the last several years to force them into the California FAIR Plan, the insurer of last resort that offers limited but typically expensive coverage. The homeowners claim the insurers refused to write new policies in fire-prone areas and then profited from the higher premiums while reducing their liabilities with the FAIR Plan in the event of a catastrophe like the January fires.
The latest lawsuit against State Farm claims that the insurer’s alleged collusion with other carriers to push homeowners onto the FAIR Plan meant the only policies left for the company were ones that “carried deliberately suppressed coverage limits of sufficiently low magnitude,” posing a lesser exposure risk for State Farm.
The average homeowner, the complaint states, would have little reason to question the replacement costs estimated by State Farm because it writes more than a million California homeowners insurance policies each year by generating reconstruction cost estimates.
The policyholders in the suit, as well as several other affected homeowners, the lawsuit said, are unable to rebuild their homes without “relief from the legal system.”
Times staff writer Laurence Darmiento contributed to this report.
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William Langewiesche, the ‘Steve McQueen of Journalism,’ Dies at 70

William Langewiesche, a magazine writer and author who forged complex narratives with precision-tooled prose that shed fresh light on national security, the occupation of Iraq and, especially, aviation disasters — he was a professional pilot — died on Sunday in East Lyme, Conn. He was 70.
Cullen Murphy, his longtime editor at The Atlantic and Vanity Fair, confirmed the death, at the home of a friend, saying the cause was prostate cancer.
Mr. Langewiesche (pronounced long-gah-vee-shuh) was one of the most prominent long-form nonfiction writers of recent decades. He was an international correspondent for Vanity Fair, a writer-at-large for The New York Times Magazine and a national correspondent for The Atlantic.
For 10 years running, from 1999 to 2008, his pieces were finalists for the National Magazine Award, and he won it twice: in 2007 for “Rules of Engagement,” about the killing of 24 unarmed civilians by U.S. Marines in 2005 in Haditha, Iraq; and in 2002 for “The Crash of EgyptAir 990,” about a flight that went down in the Atlantic Ocean in 1999 with the loss of all 217 people aboard.
He chose to write often about calamitous events, piecing together a meticulous explanation for what went wrong while portraying the human subjects under his microscope with sympathy.
“At his best there’s a sort of cinematic omniscience in the way he writes,” Mr. Murphy said in an interview. “And so you feel almost as he feels, with your face pressed up against the window watching something unfold, often very rapidly, and often wishing that things would unfold very differently but knowing there’s nothing that can be done.”
Mr. Langewiesche’s account of the EgyptAir crash in 1999, which was profoundly enriched by his own aviation background, blamed a suicidal co-pilot. Egyptian officials refused to accept that conclusion, a response, he wrote, that was rooted in political and cultural chauvinism.
Mr. Langewiesche learned to fly as a boy and worked as a commercial pilot early on to support his literary ambition. He drew on his aviation expertise in a number of articles and books that laid out highly technical subjects in lucid prose.
Writing about Capt. Chesley B. Sullenberger III’s famous landing of a commercial airliner in the Hudson River in 2009, Mr. Langewiesche made the case that that injury-free belly flop was a testament more to modern airplane technology than to the heroism of the pilot.
Captain Sullenberger took issue with that account, telling The New York Times that Mr. Langewiesche’s book about the episode, “Fly by Wire,” contained “misstatements of fact.”
Reviewing “Fly by Wire” in The Times, the book critic Dwight Garner wrote, “Written quickly, it lacks some of the eloquence and steely control of Mr. Langewiesche’s earlier books.” Mr. Garner called Mr. Langewiesche “the Steve McQueen of American journalism,” referring to the author’s muscular prose style and often gripping subject matter.
In other projects — pursued thanks to editors who allowed him months for reporting and writing — Mr. Langewiesche wrote an account in The Atlantic in 2006 about how terrorists might obtain a nuclear bomb; another article, also in The Atlantic, in 2004, dissected the sinking of a ferry in the Baltic Sea a decade earlier.
His 2002 book, “American Ground: Unbuilding The World Trade Center,” based on a three-part series in The Atlantic, was reported over six months at ground zero as he meticulously covered the cleanup after the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001.
Not all of his work described life and death dramas. His profile of Robert M. Parker Jr. in The Atlantic, “The Million-Dollar Nose,” opened with the enticing line: “The most influential critic in the world today happens to be a critic of wine.”
Closer to form, he wrote about another aviation mystery: the disappearance of a Malaysia Airlines flight with 277 passengers over the Indian Ocean in 2014, an article that generated enormous readership for The Atlantic.
The plane remained aloft for hours after someone in the cockpit shut down its communication signals, then plunged into the Indian Ocean.
Mr. Langewiesche hypothesized a scenario in which a pilot intent on murder-suicide had asphyxiated his passengers by climbing to 40,000 feet while depressurizing the cabin, then cruised onward until the fuel ran out and the plane plummeted.
“The scene would have been dimly lit by the emergency lights,” Mr. Langewiesche wrote, imagining those hours in chilling detail, “with the dead belted into their seats, their faces nestled in the worthless oxygen masks dangling on tubes from the ceiling.”
Of the captain, the last living soul in the plane, he wrote, “The cockpit is the deepest, most protective, most private sort of home.”
William Archibald Langewiesche was born on June 12, 1955, in Sharon, Conn. His mother, Priscila (Coleman) Langewiesche, was a computer analyst. His father, Wolfgang Langewiesche, a German-born émigré, was a test pilot for the maker of the Corsair fighter used by the U.S. Navy; he wrote a classic book on flying, “Stick and Rudder,” in the 1940s.
William, a late child, had an adult sister and brothers when he was growing up. His father taught him to fly before the boy could see over the instrument panel. Later, as an undergraduate at Stanford University, Mr. Langewiesche helped pay his way through college by piloting air taxis and charters.
After earning a degree in anthropology, he moved to New York City and worked for Flying magazine. But he quit the job because he aspired to write literary nonfiction, in part inspired by The New Yorker writer John McPhee. While struggling to be published, Mr. Langewiesche supported himself as a corporate pilot.
“Other people trying to break into writing have to work as waiters,” he told Aviation News in 2001, “and I considered myself as having a technical skill — like a welder — that I could use to support myself.”
His breakthrough came in 1991, when The Atlantic published as its November cover story his article “The World in Its Extreme,’’ a 17,000-word travelogue and natural history of the Sahara Desert. He went on to write for the magazine as a national correspondent for 15 years. In 2006, he became an international correspondent for Vanity Fair, where he contributed two to four lengthy articles a year through 2019.
Mr. Langewiesche married Anne-Marie Girard in 1977, and they had two children. The marriage ended in divorce in 2017, and the following year, he married Tia Cibani, who survives him.
In addition to his wife, he is survived by his son Matthew and his daughter Anna Langewiesche, both from his first marriage; his son Archibald and his daughter Castine Langewiesche, from his second marriage; and his sister, Lena Langewiesche. He lived in North Salem, N.Y., in Westchester County.
In a 2007 interview with Mediabistro, an online career site for designers and writers, Mr. Langewiesche described his method. Instead of reading exhaustively about a subject and writing questions for interviews in advance, he preferred to plunge right into a subject “with very little preparation, intentionally somewhat naïve about it.”
“I just talk to people and listen carefully and respond to what they’re saying and try to give of myself as much as I’m asking them to give of themselves, so that a true conversation can develop,” he said. “These conversations typically will go on for weeks, on and off. Sometimes I take notes.”
The real work, he said, came later when he sat down to write.
“Writing is thinking; writing is a form of thought,” he said. “It’s difficult for me to believe that real thought is possible without writing.”
Ash Wu contributed reporting.
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