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My Mother-in-Law Got One Look at Our City Apartment and Lost Her Mind

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Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Have a question? Send it to Athena and Elizabeth here(It’s anonymous!)

Dear Pay Dirt,

My wife and I live in a studio apartment in a high-cost city. We are lucky it is rent-controlled otherwise we would be priced out of the area.

It does have a closet, which is a rarity. We are expecting a baby this summer and decided to invite my mother-in-law to help DIY the nursery (which is the closet). My mother-in-law is a sweet lady, but she has never left her home state until now.

She was appalled at how little our living space was and insisted that we “needed” every bit of random baby crap available—and has since started sending it via Amazon. My wife and I have been returning them and it has sparked a rift with my in-laws. Both my sisters-in-law have been berating my wife for hurting their mother’s feelings. Both of them have kids with playrooms bigger than our apartment and are drowning in plastic junk. We usually agree to let each other handle our own families, but my wife has been reduced to tears over this mess. I am honestly ready to play bad dad and just ban my in-laws from anything to do with our baby until they back off. Any advice?

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—Drowning in Junk

Dear Drowning in Junk,

I hear you, no one wants to be drowning in junk, especially in a small space. I called in Courtney Morgan, licensed clinical professional counselor and founder of Counseling Unconditionally, to help.

Morgan suggests you allow yourself time to process what’s going on before you cut them off on anything baby-related. They’re excited and it sounds like they have good intentions, they just need to be redirected in a more productive direction. “I recommend validating their desire to help and support you and your wife, AND sharing ways that they may offer that support in a way that is conducive to your space,” Morgan said. I’d consult your wife before having q conversation with your mother-in-law as she might be the better person to relay this message to her family. But during that talk, you both should make it clear what will happen if they continue to send unneeded baby items.

Morgan suggests the following as a script: “Hi mother-in-law! We received your most recent Amazon gift. Unfortunately, we made the decision to return the item due to a lack of space in our apartment. We really appreciate your efforts in supporting us. Rather than sending physical gifts, we ask that you provide support when our baby arrives by helping us when we’re home from the hospital. Our space is not conducive to storing the gifts we’ve received. We will be returning gifts that we receive in the future. We sincerely appreciate your excitement for our baby!” Good luck.

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—Athena

Classic Prudie

Overall I would consider myself a very easygoing person for someone who is soon to be married, especially given the uncertainty of planning through a pandemic. But today, one of my sisters decided to dye her hair orange. And by orange, I mean badly done, fake, and garish orange.

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Crypto bill hits new impasse, raising doubts over its future

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Talks on landmark crypto legislation have hit a new impasse after banks said they could not back a compromise pushed by the White House, a development that cast doubt on whether the bill will pass this year and sparked criticism from President Donald Trump ​who accused lenders of trying to undermine it.
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Stamford Finance Students Wow Judges, Take Home Trophy in Regional CFA Competition – UConn Today

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A tenacious team of finance majors, who sacrificed most of their winter break to prepare for the CFA Institute Research Challenge, took first place in that regional competition last week.

Students Hunter Baillargeon, Dylan Fischetto, Richard Opper, Philip Ochocinski and Rushit Chauhan were tasked with researching and analyzing a major utility company, and then producing a 10-page report about whether to buy, hold, or sell its stock. They chose to sell.

One of the CFA judges said both the team’s report and presentation were among the best he had seen in many years.

“As a team, we were thrilled our hard work paid off and our many hours of work allowed us to achieve what we did,’’ Baillargeon said. “What we accomplished couldn’t have been done without working with such a cohesive and collective unit.’’

“From a technical perspective, I realize how valuable true analysis is and the importance of looking where others don’t for a differentiated approach,’’ Baillargeon said.

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The first round of competition featured 24 college teams from the Stamford-Hartford-Providence region. The Stamford team, composed of seniors all of whom all participate in UConn’s Student Managed Fund program, received its first-place award Feb. 26 in a ceremony in Hartford. The team will advance to the East Coast competition later this month.

Stamford Finance Program is Robust

“The Stamford team’s advancement in this competition reflects not only the students’ exceptional talent and work ethic, but also the rigor and applied focus of the UConn finance curriculum,’’ said professor Yiming Qian, head of the Finance Department.

“Our Stamford campus hosts approximately 200 financial management majors. The Stamford program is a vital part of the School and continues to demonstrate outstanding strength,” she said.

Professors Steve Wilson and Jeff Bianchi, who combined have 75 years of experience in the investment industry, were the team’s advisers and were supported by academic director Katherine Pancak.

Wilson said the task of analyzing a utility is particularly complex because of the company’s structure and the regulatory environment in which it operates.

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“I believe the Stamford team stood out because of the depth of their research, and willingness to take a bold stand, including the decision to ‘go out on a limb’ and recommend selling the stock,’’ he said. “They didn’t ‘play it safe.’’’

“This clean-sweep was a true team effort. They were tireless throughout, and sleepless too often, but they never wavered from their desire to always dig deeper and uncover any information that would strengthen our investment case,’’ he said. “What a phenomenal job they did!’’

Competition in Hong Kong Is Ultimate Goal

The Stamford team will compete against Loyola, Canisius, Sacred Heart; Seton Hall, Villanova, St. Michaels, Western New England, University of Maine, Fordham and Penn State next. In total, some 8,000 students are expected to participate in various competitions worldwide, culminating in a championship round in Hong Kong in May.

Wilson said the financial industry is always welcoming of new talent. And when one of the judges told him that the Stamford team produced some of the best work that he’d seen in years, Wilson felt tremendous pride for the students.

“Finance is an open playing field. In investments, the best idea wins,’’ he said.

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Baillargeon said he will always appreciate the whole team’s dedication.

“What I’ll remember most is the help of our advisers and our cohesive, close-knit team where everyone pulled their weight,’’ Baillargeon said. “We put in long hours, did a tremendous amount of research, and collaborated well together. I hope when I enter the workforce I get to work with a team as committed as this one is.’’

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Board Advances Motion to Address LAHSA’s Failure to Pay Service Providers – Supervisor Lindsey P. Horvath

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