Foster parent inquiries down 40% in Virginia, but you can help

LYNCHBURG, Va. (WDBJ) – May is National Foster Care Month. As interest in fostering declines across the commonwealth, United Methodist Family Services of Virginia is spreading knowledge about the process of becoming a foster parent.

UMFS is a nonprofit that provides community-based services for kinship families, foster care, adoption and independent living for kids aging out of foster care.

“We like to keep children close to their birth families, so they don’t have to move far, or they don’t have to be separated from siblings. So, we get a call, we get an email or an online referral from a local Department of Social Services (DSS) that says we need a placement and here are the needs. So, then it’s our job to then match and identify families for those children to best suit their needs,” said Regional Director of UMFS South & West Region, Holly Coates.

Currently, there are nearly 5,400 children in Virginia’s foster care system and nearly 600 children in foster care in Southwest Virginia. The state is ranked one of the worst for the number of youths aging out of the system at 18 years old.

“We need more homes so that we can serve more children. There are more children coming into care at different times and we don’t like to say no that we don’t have an option for a child because that leaves children sleeping in hospitals or DSS’s or in group homes where they don’t need to be. They need to be in homes with families that care about them, nurture them and allow them to be kids,” said Coates.

A need Deb Lowe wanted to fulfill and learn more about. Since 2018, she has fostered 8 children with UMFS in Lynchburg.

“I was a little leery because I am a single parent with no other biological kids. But I like to find out the things that they like and that’s where I start. Of course, there are challenges when you’re getting to know somebody new that you haven’t lived with before. To have that change very suddenly for both the parent and the child takes some adjustments. To have good support is very crucial,” said Foster Parent, Deb Lowe.

Lowe’s foster son Lukas, who she has since adopted, said when he first started living with her, he was not happy. But over time things have changed for the better.

“I’ve gotten good grades and my attitude towards my mom is really, really good. It made me feel really special and made me feel like God really wanted me here. He made a miracle for me and changed my life,” said Lukas.

UMFS data reveals foster care inquiries by prospective parents continues to trend downward. In fact, the nonprofit is seeing a 40% decline in interested caregivers since 2020. The decrease follows national trends. More than half of U.S. states experienced reductions in licensed foster homes in 2023.

“I think some of the barriers include myths about the children in general. I also think that there are a lot of misunderstandings about what it takes to become a foster parent. That’s there’s no support, or that you have to be wealthy, or you have to own your own home, or you have to be married and none of those things are accurate. It’s just a matter of being able to develop a relationship with the child,” said Coates.

Becoming a foster parent through UMFS takes roughly 3-6 months, and most of the training takes place online. Coates said the average stay in foster care is 6 to 18 months.

For more information about becoming a foster parent or to register for a virtual information session visit https://www.umfs.org/get-involved/become-a-foster-parent-virginia/

Coates said UMFS and the state is also moving towards a focus on kinship care. Working to support birth families, next of kin and friends to care for the child or be a support, rather than the child going into foster care.

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