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My Mother-in-Law Got One Look at Our City Apartment and Lost Her Mind

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My Mother-in-Law Got One Look at Our City Apartment and Lost Her Mind

Pay Dirt is Slate’s money advice column. Have a question? Send it to Athena and Elizabeth here(It’s anonymous!)

Dear Pay Dirt,

My wife and I live in a studio apartment in a high-cost city. We are lucky it is rent-controlled otherwise we would be priced out of the area.

It does have a closet, which is a rarity. We are expecting a baby this summer and decided to invite my mother-in-law to help DIY the nursery (which is the closet). My mother-in-law is a sweet lady, but she has never left her home state until now.

She was appalled at how little our living space was and insisted that we “needed” every bit of random baby crap available—and has since started sending it via Amazon. My wife and I have been returning them and it has sparked a rift with my in-laws. Both my sisters-in-law have been berating my wife for hurting their mother’s feelings. Both of them have kids with playrooms bigger than our apartment and are drowning in plastic junk. We usually agree to let each other handle our own families, but my wife has been reduced to tears over this mess. I am honestly ready to play bad dad and just ban my in-laws from anything to do with our baby until they back off. Any advice?

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—Drowning in Junk

Dear Drowning in Junk,

I hear you, no one wants to be drowning in junk, especially in a small space. I called in Courtney Morgan, licensed clinical professional counselor and founder of Counseling Unconditionally, to help.

Morgan suggests you allow yourself time to process what’s going on before you cut them off on anything baby-related. They’re excited and it sounds like they have good intentions, they just need to be redirected in a more productive direction. “I recommend validating their desire to help and support you and your wife, AND sharing ways that they may offer that support in a way that is conducive to your space,” Morgan said. I’d consult your wife before having q conversation with your mother-in-law as she might be the better person to relay this message to her family. But during that talk, you both should make it clear what will happen if they continue to send unneeded baby items.

Morgan suggests the following as a script: “Hi mother-in-law! We received your most recent Amazon gift. Unfortunately, we made the decision to return the item due to a lack of space in our apartment. We really appreciate your efforts in supporting us. Rather than sending physical gifts, we ask that you provide support when our baby arrives by helping us when we’re home from the hospital. Our space is not conducive to storing the gifts we’ve received. We will be returning gifts that we receive in the future. We sincerely appreciate your excitement for our baby!” Good luck.

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—Athena

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Overall I would consider myself a very easygoing person for someone who is soon to be married, especially given the uncertainty of planning through a pandemic. But today, one of my sisters decided to dye her hair orange. And by orange, I mean badly done, fake, and garish orange.

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US SEC obtained record financial remedies in fiscal 2024, agency says

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NEW YORK (Reuters) -The U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission obtained $8.2 billion in financial remedies, the highest amount in its history, in fiscal 2024, the agency said in a statement on Friday.

The SEC filed 583 enforcement actions in the year that ended in September, down 26% from a year earlier, it said in a statement.

The $8.2 billion in financial remedies included $6.1 billion in disgorgement and prejudgment interest, a record, and $2.1 billion in civil penalties, the second-highest amount on record, according to the SEC’s statement.

Much of the total financial remedies came from a single action: a $4.5 billion settlement with the now-bankrupt crypto firm Terraform Labs, following a unanimous jury verdict against the firm and its founder Do Kwon. The SEC is expected to collect little of that settlement amount because it agreed to be paid only after Terraform satisfies crypto loss claims as part of its bankruptcy wind-down.

The SEC also obtained orders barring 124 individuals from serving as officers and directors of public companies, the second-highest number of such prohibitions in a decade. Holding individuals accountable for misconduct has been a priority of the agency under Chair Gary Gensler, who is stepping down in January.

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“The Division of Enforcement is a steadfast cop on the beat, following the facts and the law wherever they lead to hold wrongdoers accountable,” Gensler said in a statement about the agency’s 2024 enforcement results.

(Reporting by Chris Prentice; Editing by Leslie Adler and Jonathan Oatis)

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Cop29: $250bn climate finance offer from rich world an insult, critics say

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Developing countries have reacted angrily to an offer of $250bn in finance from the rich world – considerably less than they are demanding – to help them tackle the climate crisis.

The offer was contained in the draft text of an agreement published on Friday afternoon at the Cop29 climate summit in Azerbaijan, where talks are likely to carry on past a 6pm deadline.

Juan Carlos Monterrey Gómez, Panama’s climate envoy, told the Guardian: “This is definitely not enough. What we need is at least $5tn a year, but what we have asked for is just $1.3tn. That is 1% of global GDP. That should not be too much when you’re talking about saving the planet we all live on.”

He said $250bn divided among all the developing countries in need amounted to very little. “It comes to nothing when you split it. We have bills in the billions to pay after droughts and flooding. What the heck will $250bn do? It won’t put us on a path to 1.5C. More like 3C.”

According to the new text of a deal, developing countries would receive a total of at least $1.3tn a year in climate finance by 2035, which is in line with the demands most submitted before this two-week conference. That would be made up of the $250bn from developed countries, plus other sources of finance including private investment.

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Poor nations wanted much more of the headline finance to come directly from rich countries, preferably in the form of grants rather than loans.

Civil society groups criticised the offer, variously describing it as “a joke”, “an embarrassment”, “an insult”, and the global north “playing poker with people’s lives”.

Mohamed Adow, a co-founder of Power Shift Africa, a thinktank, said: “Our expectations were low, but this is a slap in the face. No developing country will fall for this. It’s not clear what kind of trick the presidency is trying to pull. They’ve already disappointed everyone, but they have now angered and offended the developing world.”

The $250bn figure is significantly lower than the $300bn-a-year offer that some developed countries were mulling at the talks, to the Guardian’s knowledge.

The offer from developed countries, funded from their national budgets and overseas aid, is supposed to form the inner core of a “layered” finance settlement, accompanied by a middle layer of new forms of finance such as new taxes on fossil fuels and high-carbon activities, carbon trading and “innovative” forms of finance; and an outermost layer of investment from the private sector, into projects such as solar and windfarms.

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These layers would add up to $1.3tn a year, which is the amount that economists have calculated is needed in external finance for developing countries to tackle the climate crisis. Many activists have demanded more: figures of $5tn or $7tn a year have been put forward by some groups, based on the historical responsibilities of developed countries for causing the climate crisis.

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This latest text is the second from an increasingly embattled Cop presidency. Azerbaijan was widely criticised for its first draft on Thursday.

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There will now be further negotiations among countries and possibly a new or several new iterations of this draft text.

Avinash Persaud, a former adviser to the Barbados prime minister, Mia Mottley, and now an adviser to the president of the Inter-American Bank, said: “There is no deal to come out of Baku that will not leave a bad taste in everyone’s mouth, but we are within sight of a landing zone for the first time all year.”

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US Treasury Selects BNY as Financial Agent for Direct Express Program | PYMNTS.com

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The Bank of New York Mellon (BNY) will serve as the financial agent for the Direct Express program, which provides 3.4 million Americans with a prepaid debit card to receive monthly federal benefits.

The U.S. Department of the Treasury’s Bureau of the Fiscal Service said in a Thursday (Nov. 21) press release that it selected BNY for this role after evaluating proposals from multiple financial institutions and seeing the bank’s offering of features and customer service options.

The new agreement will begin Jan. 3 and will last five years, according to the release.

“Since 2008, the Direct Express program has paid federal beneficiaries seamlessly, inclusively and securely, while sparing taxpayers and customers the costs and risk associated with cashing paper checks,Fiscal Service Commissioner Tim Gribben said in the release.This new agreement will further our goals of delivering a modern customer experience and strengthening Treasury’s commitment to paying the right person, in the right amount, at the right time.”

With this agreement, BNY will add to the cardholder experience features like online/digital funds access, bill pay, cardless ATM access, omnichannel chat and text customer service, online dispute filing and in-person authentication options, the bank said in a Thursday press release.

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“Drawing on our leading platform capabilities, we look forward to advancing the program’s goal of providing high-quality financial services to individuals and communities throughout the U.S.,Jennifer Barker, global head of treasury services and depositary receipts at BNY, said in the release.

Seventy-seven percent of the recipients of disbursements opt for instant payments when given the option, according to the PYMNTS Intelligence and Ingo Payments collaboration,Measuring Consumers’ Growing Interest in Instant Payouts.”

That’s because consumers looking for disbursements — paychecks, government payments, insurance settlements, investment earnings — want their money quickly, the report found.

In October, the Treasury Department credited the Office of Payment Integrity, within the Bureau of the Fiscal Service, with enhancing its fraud prevention capabilities and expanding offerings to new and existing customers.

The department said itstechnology and data-driven” approach allowed it to prevent and recover more than $4 billion in fraud and improper payments, up from $652 million in 2023.

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