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Joey Arias has plenty of art left to give: ‘I want to live to be at least 200 years’
Joey Arias hitting the high notes at Barrel House Cafe and Bar in Washington, D.C.
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At 76, cabaret artist Joey Arias’ resume reads like the movie Big Fish. The tales are almost too tall to believe, but he’s really done them all.
He’s sold clothes to Spanish royalty, sung backup for David Bowie, performed at the 2015 centennial celebration for jazz legend Billie Holiday, and even played ringmaster for Cirque Du Soleil’s first ever adult show.
But perhaps this creature of New York is best experienced in a small, swanky, and dimly lit club – the kind of place where you can cozy up to strangers in the safety of relative darkness, while leaving your problems at the door.
A place like Northwest Washington, D.C.’s, Barrel House Cafe and Bar, where on a recent night, the petite Joey Arias slinked up to the stage on black leather high heels, sporting jet black bangs, deep red lipstick and a corset pulled so tight it’s a wonder he can even breathe.
“I’m so happy. So honored to be here in D.C. Are you comfortable? Are you feeling sexy?” Arias asks with his trademark smirk.
It’s best to go into your first Joey Arias show sans expectations. It’s musical, sure, but it’s not a concert. He’s surely sultry and serious, but he’s also a comedian. And be mindful of your aura, as Arias is likely to read your mood with a single look.
“Improv is kind of my strongest point with my career. So I start collecting ideas and think, you know, ‘what should I talk about?’” Arias says. “And then when the show starts, the audience kind of tells me what they want.”
During a show, Arias will often consult a giant songbook he calls his bible. With long, black press-on nails, he flips through it like a list of spells. It includes years of handwritten notes, some classic rock covers, original music, and jazz standards he can sing so eerily perfect that they’ll have you thinking Billie Holiday was reincarnated as a septuagenarian gay man.
Arias prefers to approach the daylight incognito, in an all-black tracksuit, sipping a six-espresso-shot venti coffee and wearing large black sunglasses reminiscent of Italian actor Marcello Mastroianni’s character in Federico Fellini’s 8 1/2.
When asked where his penchant for entertaining started, Arias replies with a chuckle.
“I think it first started when I landed on this planet. I tell people, I wasn’t born here. I was brought here,” Arias says.
Arias landed in Fayetteville, N.C., and grew up in California.
“I think I was creating and reinventing myself constantly, even as a child. It kind of worried my parents because … even at the age of like nine years old, I was dying my hair and tweezing my eyebrows and doing weird things to myself,” he says.
Arias calls himself a shapeshifter.
“People always think: ‘oh I know Joey.’ No, you don’t know Joey,” Arias explains.
If there’s anyone who DOES know Joey Arias, it’s Kim Hastreiter, founder of Paper Magazine. She met Arias while a student at CalArts in Southern California.
“We grew up together… he was like my bestie,” Hastreiter says. In her recent memoir, Stuff: A New York Life of Cultural Chaos, she devotes an entire chapter to Arias.
“Joey is everything to me – my brother, my husband, my sister, my mother, and my soulmate,” Hastreiter writes in the book, “And I know, I am that for him.”
When she graduated from CalArts in the mid-1970s, Hastreiter says Arias offered to help move her to New York City. She wasn’t allowed to sublease her apartment, so she had to switch places with the new tenant quickly.
“[Joey] helped me move out in the middle of the night through the window, literally. We packed my dragon wagon. It was crazy,” Hastreiter tells NPR.
The dragon wagon was Hastreiter’s old pickup truck emblazoned with a long, colorful dragon along the side.
“We made this whole itinerary, and we went to every thrift shop between L.A. and New York,” she says.
Hastreiter and Arias arrived in New York in 1976. They shared an apartment, both got jobs, and went dancing every night. She says her soulmate Joey Arias just never looked back.
He started working as a sales associate at the Italian fashion brand Fiorucci’s flagship store in the United States. And Arias quickly became a draw, acting as a living mannequin who once spoofed patron Andy Warhol and played fashion consultant for the then-Queen of Spain.
“It was sexy with the way it was lit. It was beautiful and all the Italians were always there to market,” Arias says. “And it was the beginning of my redefining and reinventing who I was [again].”
Arias eventually made friends with German avant-garde opera singer Klaus Nomi and he began performing with him, even joining Nomi on stage with David Bowie as the musical guests for Saturday Night Live.
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Arias often performs a song he wrote in tribute to Nomi, who died of AIDS in 1983 at age 39.
“Klaus had pneumonia… and I went to the hospital and I had to put a paper jumpsuit on. I went in there and he was looking at me and he said ‘I can’t see you.’ I took everything off and I hugged him, kissed him on the cheeks. The doctors were so mad [at me],” Arias says.
AIDS created a tragic duality for Arias’ contemporaries of this particular time and scene: a burgeoning underground movement of artists and performers populated by blindingly colorful lights that were being snuffed out as quickly as they came to life.
Arias recalls losing collaborators, friends and even lovers of his, like Chuck Smith.
“We were supposed to grow old together. But he’s always guided me spiritually. I know that,” Arias says.
Shortly after Nomi died, Arias remembers Smith rolling over in bed one night and whispering simply “I have it.” He died a short time later.
“At that point, that was the sentence. If you said you had it, you had less than a year to live,” He adds. Arias says he doesn’t really know how he made it through that period alive.
Joey Arias at Barrel House Cafe and Bar
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In the following years, he continued performing throughout New York City clubs before getting the role of a lifetime: Emcee for Cirque du Soleil’s first adult-themed show at the New York, New York Casino in Las Vegas.
Arias also wrote songs for the show. It was called Zumanity.
The show was raunchy, outrageous and sexy. The perfect vehicle for a performer like Arias. But it was also grueling.
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After years of doing ten shows a week, Arias says the show’s doctor gave him prescription pain killers. He became addicted and his then-husband asked him for a divorce.
“It seemed like things were falling apart,” Arias says ” I started to drink and before I knew it, I found myself drinking white wine 24 hours a day.”
One night, Kim Hastreiter visited her friend during his show at Joe’s Pub where she immediately knew something was wrong: Arias, always eager to perform, was getting other people to sing his songs.
“He was slurring, he was completely [intoxicated] on stage. He got other people to sing for him. It was like a mess,” Hastreiter says.
Hastreiter then invited her friend to a tea party – a small get-together with a whole bunch of their old friends.
It was an intervention. She helped raise funds to send Arias to rehab, and now Arias has been sober for almost eight years.
“Kim came through and she said I’m not gonna let my best friend, this incredible artist, die on my watch,” Arias reflected.
Joey Arias has resurrected and reinvented his career and his persona endless times over his more than seven decades on earth.
And he says he’s nowhere close to being finished.
“I want to live to be at least 200 years. … There’s so much I want to do. I feel like I’m just starting over again, even right now. I feel like I’m a messenger of the universe,” Arias says.
And — he has a message he wants to share with NPR listeners and readers:
“Remember how beautiful you are. Look in the mirror. And if you don’t feel inspired, seriously, go to the park, touch a tree, look at the sky,” because whatever’s happening in the world, Arias says, mother nature knows how to take care of herself.
“And come to my shows, because I will take care of you too,” Arias says.
Joe Arias’ next set of shows are at Washington, D.C.’s Barrel House Cafe and Bar on Oct. 17 and 18.
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Sunday Puzzle: Pet theory
On-air challenge
Today’s puzzle is called “Pet Theory.” Every answer is a familiar two-word phrase or name in which the first word start starts PE- and the second word starts T-. (Ex. What walkways at intersections carry –> PEDESTRIAN TRAFFIC)
1. Chart that lists all the chemical elements
2. Place for a partridge in “The 12 Days of Christmas”
3. Male voyeur
4. What a coach gives a team during halftime in the locker room
5. Set of questions designed to reveal your traits
6. Something combatants sign to end a war
7. Someone who works with you one-on-one with physical exercises
8. Member of the Who
9. Incisors, canines, and premolars that grow in after you’re a baby
10. Nadia Comaneci was the first gymnast to score this at the Olympics
11. What holds the fuel in a British car
Last week’s challenge
Last week’s challenge was a numerical one from Ed Pegg Jr., who runs the website mathpuzzle.com. Take the nine digits — 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9. You can group some of them and add arithmetic operations to get 2011 like this: 1 + 23 ÷ 4 x 5 x 67 – 8 + 9. If you do these operations in order from left to right, you get 2011. Well, 2011 was 15 years ago. Can you group some of the digits and add arithmetic symbols in a different way to make 2026? The digits from 1 to 9 need to stay in that order. I know of two different solutions, but you need to find only one of them.
Challenge answer
12 × 34 × 5 – 6 – 7 + 8 – 9 [or] 1 + 2 + 345 × 6 – 7 × 8 + 9
Winner
Daniel Abramson of Albuquerque, N.M.
This week’s challenge
This week’s challenge comes from listener Ward Hartenstein. Think of a well-known couple whose names are often said in the order of _____ & _____. Seven letters in the names in total. Combine those two names, change an E to an S, and rearrange the result to name another famous duo who are widely known as _____ & _____.
If you know the answer to the challenge, submit it below by Thursday, January 15 at 3 p.m. ET. Listeners whose answers are selected win a chance to play the on-air puzzle.
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Paul Gripp, one of the last great orchid explorers and hybridizers, dies at 93
After retirement, Paul Gripp still visited the nursery often, helping with weeding, as he’s doing here in this file photo, or just talking with customers.
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Orchid expert Paul Francis Gripp, a renowned orchid breeder, author and speaker who traveled the world in search of unusual varieties for his nursery, Santa Barbara Orchid Estates, died in a Santa Barbara hospice center on Jan. 2 after a short illness. He was 93.
In a Facebook post on Jan. 4, Gripp’s sister, Toni Gripp Brink, said her brother died “after suffering a brain hemorrhage and loss of consciousness in his longtime Santa Barbara home. He was surrounded by his loving family, day and night, for about a week in a Santa Barbara hospice before he passed.”
Gripp was renowned in the orchid world for his expertise, talks and many prize-winning hybrids such as the Santa Barbara Sunset, a striking Laelia anceps and Laeliocattleya Ancibarina cross with rich salmon, peach and magenta hues that was bred to thrive outside in California’s warmer climes.
In a 2023 interview, Gripp’s daughter, Alice Gripp, who owns and operates the business also known as SBOE with her brother, Parry, said Santa Barbara Sunset is still one of the nursery’s top sellers.
Santa Barbara Sunset is one of the most popular orchids that Paul Gripp bred at his famed orchid nursery, Santa Barbara Orchid Estates a.k.a. SBOE.
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Gripp was a popular speaker, author and avid storyteller who talked about his experiences searching for orchids in the Philippines, Myanmar (then known as Burma), India, the high Andes, Mexico, Guatemala, Brazil, New Guinea and other parts of the world, fostering exchanges with international growers and collecting what plants he could to propagate, breed and sell in his Santa Barbara nursery.
“Working in orchids has been like living in a dream,” Gripp said in a 2023 interview. “There’s thousands of different kinds, and I got to travel all over to find things people would want. But the first orchid I found? It was in Topanga Creek, Epipactis gigantea, our native orchid, and you can still find them growing in [California’s] streams and canyons today.”
Gripp was “one of the last orchid people who went looking for these plants in situ — where they occurred in nature,” said Lauris Rose, one of his former employees who is now president of the Santa Barbara International Orchid Show and owner of Cal-Orchid Inc., a neighboring nursery that she started with her late husband James Rose, another SBOE employee who died in January 2025.
These days, Rose said in an interview on Thursday, orchids are considered “something to enhance the beauty of your home,” but when she and her husband first began working with Gripp in the 1970s, “they were something that totally captivated your interest and instilled a wanderlust spirit that made you want to explore the species in the plant kingdom, as they grew in nature, not as produced in various colors from laboratories.”
She said Gripp’s charm and self-deprecating demeanor also helped fuel his success. “People flocked for the experience of walking around that nursery and learning things from him,” Rose said in a 2023 interview.
“Paul lectured all over the world, teaching people about different species of orchids in a very accessible way,” Rose said. “He didn’t act like a professor. He got up there with anecdotes like, ‘One time I climbed up this tree trying to reach a plant in another tree, and all these red ants infested my entire body, so I had to take off all my clothes and rub all these ants off my body.’ A lot of people’s lectures are boring as dirt, but Paul could command a room. He had charisma, and it was infectious.”
Gripp was born on Oct. 18, 1932, in Greater Los Angeles and grew up in Topanga Canyon. He went to Santa Monica College and then UCLA, where he earned a degree in horticulture, and worked as a gardener on weekends, primarily for Robert J. Chrisman, a wealthy Farmers Insurance executive and hobbyist orchid grower who lived in Playa del Rey.
After college, Gripp served a stint in the Navy after the Korean War, and when he got out, he called Chrisman, his old boss, who invited him to come to Santa Barbara and manage the orchid nursery he was starting there.
After retirement, Paul Gripp still visited the nursery often, helping with weeding, as he’s doing here in this file photo, or just talking with customers.
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The nursery opened in 1957, with Gripp as its manager, and 10 years later, after Chrisman died, he purchased SBOE from the Chrisman family.
In 1986, Gripp and his then-wife, Anne Gripp, divorced. In the settlement, Gripp got their cliff-side Santa Barbara home with its breathtaking views of the Pacific Ocean, and his former wife got the nursery. When Anne Gripp died, her children Parry and Alice inherited the nursery and took over its operation in 1994, Alice Gripp said in 2023.
Gripp officially retired from the nursery, but he was a frequent helper several times a week, weeding, dividing plants, answering customer questions and regaling them with his orchid-hunting stories.
“Paul loves plants, but what he loves most in life is teaching other people about orchids,” Alice Gripp said in 2023. “He chats with them, and I try to take their money.”
Gripp wasn’t a huge fan of the ubiquitous moth orchids (Phalaenopsis) sold en masse in most grocery store floral departments, but he was philosophical about their popularity.
They’re good for indoor plants, he said in 2023, but don’t expect them to live very long. “A house is a house, not a jungle,” he said, “so there’s a 99% chance they’re going to die. But they’re pretty cheap [to buy], so it works out pretty good.”
“He used to say, ‘I’m an orchid man. I love every orchid equally,’ and he does,” his daughter said in 2023. “I don’t know if he would run into a burning building to save a Phalaenopsis from Trader Joe’s, but he told me once, ‘I’ve never thrown out a plant.’ And that’s probably true. When he was running things, the aisles were so crammed people were always knocking plants off the benches because they couldn’t walk through.”
Gripp is survived by his children and his second wife, Janet Gripp, as well as his sister Toni Gripp Brink. In a post on the nursery’s website on Jan. 5, the Gripp family asked for privacy.
“We are still very much grieving Paul’s sudden passing,” the message read. “If you would like to share your memories of Paul, please send them by mail or email for us to read in the days to come. We will welcome your remembrances and gather these into a scrapbook to keep at SBOE. We appreciate your understanding of our need for peaceful reflection at this time. In the coming weeks, we will announce our plans for honoring and remembering Paul with our orchid friends.”
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Veteran actor T.K. Carter, known for ‘The Thing’ and ‘Punky Brewster,’ dies at 69
Actor TK Carter arrives for the premiere of “The LA Riot” at the Tribeca Film Festival, Monday, April 25, 2005, in New York.
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DUARTE, Calif. — Veteran actor T.K. Carter, who appeared in the horror film “The Thing” and “Punky Brewster” on television, has died at the age of 69.
Carter was declared dead Friday evening after deputies responded to a call regarding an unresponsive male in Duarte, California, according to the Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department.
Police did not disclose a cause of death or other details, but said no foul play was suspected.
Thomas Kent “T.K.” Carter was born Dec. 18, 1956, in New York City and was raised in Southern California.
He began his career in stand-up comedy and with acting roles. Carter had been acting for years before a breakthrough role as Nauls the cook in John Carpenter’s 1982 horror classic, “The Thing.” He also had a recurring role in the 1980s sitcom “Punky Brewster.”
Other big-screen roles include “Runaway Train” in 1985, “Ski Patrol” in 1990 and “Space Jam” in 1996.
“T.K. Carter was a consummate professional and a genuine soul whose talent transcended genres,” his publicist, Tony Freeman, said in a statement. “He brought laughter, truth, and humanity to every role he touched. His legacy will continue to inspire generations of artists and fans alike.”
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