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Xavi's Barcelona resignation: The full story behind his decision to step down in June
“President, I’d like to speak with you.”
Barcelona’s traumatic 5-3 home defeat against Villarreal prompted an agitated evening behind the scenes at their temporary home ground on Montjuic on Saturday.
Club executives immediately held an urgent meeting after the final whistle at the Estadi Olimpic Lluis Companys, just next to the VIP boxes, where other board members were still having dinner.
Alongside Barca president Joan Laporta was vice-president Rafa Yuste, sporting director Deco, director Enric Masip and Laporta’s closest confidant, Alejandro Echevarria. The topic of discussion was Xavi’s position. At that meeting, Laporta decided he had to stay true to the convictions he had held over the past few weeks and keep Xavi as manager.
Suddenly, as the meeting came to an end, he felt his phone buzzing.
Xavi’s message to Laporta asking to speak prompted a dramatic turn of events. Top executives feared the manager had decided to abandon his role that very same night, leaving Barcelona in a tough position. The decision had already been made not to sack him, partly because it would have been hard to bring in a replacement due to the financial state of the club. Barca are over La Liga’s limit on salary spending, which makes it tough to register new players; the rules apply to managers’ wages, too.
One of the executives present at that meeting even texted Xavi back, asking him not to “take final decisions in heated moments” and to “let the situation cool down”.
But Barcelona’s legendary former midfielder, who led them to the Spanish league title in his first full season in charge last term, had made his mind up. He could not keep carrying the same amount of pressure and needed to tell the board.
Well-placed Barca sources — who, like all those cited here, preferred to speak anonymously to protect their positions — told The Athletic that Laporta was very surprised by how well Xavi articulated his message when they eventually spoke and that he quickly understood this was a decision he had deeply considered.
The manager’s wish to step down not now but at the end of the season would also give them some time to make plans and Laporta accepted his request.
In this piece, we explain:
- How Barcelona’s toxicity ended up wearing down Xavi, a man who knows the club as well as anyone but who could still not escape its unique pressures and saw his family affected
- When Xavi made his decision and why it ended up being revealed so abruptly, with players hearing the news through social media
- How the dressing room reacted, with some relationships with the manager deteriorating and others open to seeing him staying
- What went wrong from last season and why, despite being a man of the club in tough times, players and executives believed Xavi ended up underperforming
“Xavi slept better tonight than he had in a long time,” sources close to him told The Athletic on Sunday morning. They said he felt liberated after making known his decision to leave the club on June 30 — and so did his entourage.
The coach had been mulling over the decision for months, but it was only after the 4-1 defeat against Real Madrid in the Supercopa de Espana final that he made it known to those closest to him: his brother and assistant manager Oscar Hernandez, his wife Nuria Cunillera and a few most trusted members of his staff. Not many knew.
They had devised a plan to make his decision public, with the idea to tell the players at a training session the day before a match over the upcoming weeks. He would then give a press conference with the board to explain it to the media. Instead, everything came to a head after Saturday’s game with Villarreal.
Barca lost the match despite coming back from two goals down to lead 3-2, suffering a 3-5 defeat that leaves them fourth in the table, 11 points off surprise La Liga leaders Girona (on whom they have a game in hand) and 10 points behind rivals Real Madrid.
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The defeat essentially saw them say goodbye to a third competition in 15 days. First, the Supercopa de Espana, then the Copa del Rey (Athletic Bilbao knocked them out last week), now an almost definitive farewell to the league title they were defending.
After the final whistle, Xavi did several flash interviews with broadcasters and nobody could have guessed what was going to happen next.
After Xavi wrote the message to Laporta, he communicated to the board that he was leaving the position. According to sources close to the coach, he then went to find the players in the dressing room, hoping to tell them himself before they heard it elsewhere.
In their own post-match interviews, Frenkie de Jong, Joao Cancelo and Ronald Araujo had all strongly defended the coach, with De Jong saying: “It’s our fault, not the coach’s.”
Xavi wanted to talk to them, but by the time he was in a position to, over an hour after the final whistle, they had all left the stadium already.
Barcelona conceded two late goals against Villarreal (David Ramos/Getty Images)
Xavi had already said several times at recent press conferences that if he ever became “a problem” for the club, he would leave.
There were several reasons behind the decision.
After suffering another defeat, Xavi could see a week of polls in the media coming, asking whether Laporta should sack him or not — a turbulent week in which Barca had to play two games that were now key to keeping up the pace in the race for Spain’s Champions League spots.
He wanted to calm the waters and face the end of the season without the extra tension and uncertainty. He felt the club needed a change and the best thing to do was to make it clear that he would be leaving.
But there was also another reason. According to sources close to Xavi, he was fed up. The toxicity of being in the Barca environment not only affected his mood but also had consequences for his closest family.
Club sources saw him as being overwhelmed. These sources also said that some Barca board members had been calling for his head for some time and that this also affected him, even though Laporta had defended him. He felt this only added pressure to an already critical environment.
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When Xavi left his meeting with the board after Saturday’s game, his only concern was how the players were going to take it. He felt bad that he had not spoken to them earlier. His announcement took the squad by total surprise.
When the manager and players did finally get a chance to speak at training the following morning, several club sources told The Athletic that the group was affectionate towards him. Some of them approached Xavi at the end of the session to ask him if there was anything they could do to make him reconsider and stay.
Xavi and Lewandowski embrace during Saturday’s defeat (Alex Caparros/Getty Images)
It might be surprising to hear that Xavi, a man who spent half his life at Barcelona and knows the ins and outs of the institution better than possibly anyone else, just could not deal with its unique demands. But this was actually a major factor behind his decision to step down.
“Over the last weeks, you could see that he was not going through a good time,” a club source said. “He was not enjoying his work and he was especially affected by the fact all the pressure was not just impacting him, but his family.”
The club’s hierarchy expected Xavi to deal with the demands of the job in a more healthy way given his background. Xavi played for Barcelona for 17 years, making 767 appearances (only Lionel Messi has more, with 782) and winning 25 trophies.
Pressure has grown on him since the start of his tenure in November 2021. He arrived at a difficult time for the club, amid financial struggles and with a weakened squad, but as the years went by and patience levels were tested, Xavi began to face the kind of criticism any manager deemed to be underperforming will be subjected to at Barca. This became a problem for him.
“He focused too much on knowing everything that was said around him and even followed daily radio programmes and TV shows,” a club source said. “He also read the press too much, and it didn’t do Xavi any favours.”
Those who have worked with Xavi on his backroom staff point to the pressure of the merciless Barcelona ‘entorno’ as the main reason for the manager’s downfall.
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The Spanish word ‘entorno’, literally translated as environment or surroundings, was coined by Barca legend Johan Cruyff when he was the manager in 1992 to describe the noise that is constantly generated around the club: the media, the fans, the politics of its executive board, or other major figures across the city and wider Catalonia region.
“Here, everyone belongs to one side or ideology,” a club source said. “Every journalist, media outlet or person who can give an opinion has their own agenda and uses whatever happens on the pitch to turn the tide to their favour. There were constant attacks on Xavi and barely ever a will to build on and help the project.”

But it’s not only in the media where Xavi felt left out and mistreated: he’s been progressively isolated within the club as well.
Xavi was aware that multiple Barcelona executives have been criticising the team’s performances for months, as well as an alleged lack of intensity in the training sessions his staff led. Some were even pushing for president Laporta to sack him after the Supercopa de Espana final.
Looking back to the end of last season, just after Barca won La Liga, there were signs of Xavi’s influence being eroded. The day after the bus parade through the city, where the Spanish league title was celebrated with fans, then-sporting director Jordi Cruyff announced he would be leaving.
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Cruyff and Xavi had established a close bond. The Dutchman was an ally to the Catalan’s vision of how the squad should be assembled and defended it to the board of directors. But Barcelona’s senior management was already working on the arrival of Deco in the sporting direction department and Cruyff eventually felt there was no space left for him.
Just a few months later, Cruyff’s partner in the role, Mateu Alemany, also left. Despite initially not being as close to Xavi as his colleague, during the last months of his tenure, they had worked together in planning for the future.
When Alemany departed in August and Deco stepped up as the main leader in the sporting direction department, it left the latter and Laporta as the two most active voices in shaping the squad.
Xavi has publicly stated his relationship with former team-mate Deco is perfectly fine, but last summer’s transfer activity simply reveals how his position has been weakened.
The biggest investment Barca made during the off-season was in 18-year-old Brazilian striker Vitor Roque, for whom the club paid €30million (£25.5m; $32.5m), plus a potential €31m more in add-ons. Roque has played 86 minutes in five matches since arriving this winter, not starting a single game. In the manager’s eyes, he has been behind 18-year-old La Masia graduate Marc Guiu in the pecking order.
Xavi’s biggest priority last summer was the addition of a new holding midfielder to replace club legend Sergio Busquets, who left to join Inter Miami. While the manager put the names of Martin Zubimendi, Joshua Kimmich or Marcelo Brozovic as his three priorities, Barcelona were only able to bring in Oriol Romeu, whose impact has been disappointing, to say the least.
Further evidence of Xavi’s waning power within the club came in the build-up to the final game of the Champions League group stage this season, away at Royal Antwerp, which they lost 3-2. With Barcelona practically qualified, the club’s board interfered in the manager’s squad selection, pushing him to make all the team’s top guns travel instead of giving them a rest, as had been his intention.
All this does not exempt Xavi from a share of responsibility over what has undoubtedly been a disappointing follow-up campaign to the success of 2022-23. In terms of recruitment, he has still been a part of the club and has sanctioned the moves that have taken place. He could, and perhaps should, have raised his voice as soon as his authority began to come under threat. When you spot problems inside the club but do not stand in their way in some manner, you might as well be considered part of it.
Xavi alongside his brother and assistant coach Oscar Hernandez (Gongora/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
It should also be noted that Xavi was heavily backed in the market during Barca’s infamous ‘summer of levers’, when, back in 2022, the club made a series of future asset sales to finance a transformative spend in the transfer market.
None of those signings (Ferran Torres, Andreas Christensen, Franck Kessie, Robert Lewandowski, Raphinha and Jules Kounde) can be, right now, deemed as a successful deal.
All of them have been heavily exposed and contrasted by the brilliance of several emerging La Masia talents, with 16-year-old Lamine Yamal (who made his debut aged 15 last season) the biggest attacking threat for the club in recent weeks. Pau Cubarsi has just turned 17 and has impressed more at centre-back in two games than Christensen or Kounde have all season.
A few months into the 2023-24 campaign, coaching staff sources complained about last summer’s signings and assessed their attacking line as being far from the best in the country, but there’s a brutal reality in Xavi’s tenure: he’s been unable to make the team progress despite having been financially supported with transfers.
“He has not shown his players that he has the tactical level to be considered a top-level coach,” said a source close to one of the current Barcelona players. The fact Xavi’s only managerial experience before landing at Camp Nou was in Qatar also played a part in their assessment.
However, Xavi’s trust in the youngsters from La Masia can’t go unnoticed. Fermin Lopez, Yamal, Cubarsi and Hector Fort are all names that many now believe are capable of playing at the club for years. With other managers, they might have struggled to find a pathway to the first team.
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But equally, Barca’s manager has also had to deal with the deterioration of the dressing room’s harmony under his watch, with several examples already reported by The Athletic recently.
Before the start of the season, Kounde told Xavi he didn’t enjoy being played as a right-back and that he would prefer to be used in his natural central defensive position. This saw club captain Araujo being relocated as a right-back more regularly, but he has ended up complaining about this, too. Christensen has become disgruntled over consistently being the first player to be dropped when everyone in defence is fit despite never complaining and performing well last term.

There’s also the case of Lewandowski, arguably the club’s key senior player, who has seen his position at the club, and relationship with the manager, change significantly throughout the past year.
The 35-year-old has devolved from a dressing room role model to an expendable asset in the eyes of the coaching staff. According to sources close to the player’s camp, the striker’s dip in form since the World Cup break for Qatar 2022 owes more to a change in system that didn’t benefit him, although they admit he’s been far from his best. Lewandowski himself spoke to The Athletic about such concerns during Barca’s pre-season tour of the United States.
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In many ways, much of this is all part of the normal running of an elite football club. Nobody can expect top athletes to be happy when things aren’t going the way they planned and some of the examples mentioned above are now thought to have been dealt with. Others have not been tackled in time.
There is still a part of the dressing room that truly believes in the manager, especially players who broke into the first team thanks to him or ones who were given a second chance.
Some 20 minutes after Xavi revealed his decision on Saturday night, Gavi posted a picture with the manager on social media with a caption that read: “Always backing you, boss.” Local radio station Cadena SER Barcelona reported that, on Sunday morning, club captain Sergi Roberto told Xavi in front of the whole dressing room that he’d support him if changed his mind and decided to stay.
The bottom line, though, is that Xavi himself does not believe he can turn the situation around.
Joan Laporta and Xavi on the day the Barca legend was presented as manager in 2021 (Lluis Gene/AFP via Getty Images)
Xavi said he could not understand why his team lost in the Copa del Rey against Athletic Bilbao. He also believed they deserved to win against Villarreal and especially against Girona in December’s La Liga meeting — a defeat that badly damaged him in the eyes of Barca’s hierarchy.
There was also a sense that Xavi failed in attempts to improve the narrative with his words in press conferences. He went from protecting players to then calling them out by admitting they were not following what he practised in training. He also described attitude problems after struggling to beat bottom-side Almeria at the end of December and promised fans his team would never replicate that. Three weeks later, Barca were being outplayed and outrun by Real Madrid in Saudi Arabia.
So, what now?
There is still the possibility of Xavi not lasting the rest of the season if he does not manage to reverse the team’s dynamic in the four months remaining. The board has taken the decision to wait and see. Club sources told The Athletic that the manager has already written off any salary related to next season.
Barcelona’s board are already looking for a new manager. During his campaign for the Barcelona presidential elections back in 2021, Laporta said his preference was to bring in a German coach at a time when Thomas Tuchel, Jurgen Klopp and Julian Nagelsmann were at their peak.
However, there are sections of the board that are very hesitant to bring in a coach who does not speak Spanish as they believe it would make the situation more difficult. They want to see how the players react; if they fight to climb the table and go as far as possible in the Champions League.
Xavi tried everything and nothing worked. Sacrificing himself was his last desperate move; one to ease the pressure around the players and protect his legacy at the club.
At the same time, it pushes Joan Laporta and his board to spot further problems inside Barcelona and decide who has to lead the club’s new project for the foreseeable future.
(Top photo: Aitor Alcalde Colomer/Getty Images; design: Eamonn Dalton)
Culture
Poetry Challenge Day 2: Love, How It Works and What It Means
Maybe you woke up this morning haunted by the first four lines of W.H. Auden’s “The More Loving One” — or tickled by its tongue-in-cheek handling of existential dread. (Not ringing any bells? Click here to begin the Poetry Challenge).
This is a love poem. Perhaps that seems like an obvious thing to say about a poem with “Loving” in its title, but there isn’t much romance in the opening stanza.
Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.
Ada Limón, poet
Nonetheless, the poem soon makes clear that love is very much on its mind.
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
David Sedaris, writer
The polished informality gives the impression of a decidedly cerebral speaker — someone who’s looking at love philosophically, thinking about how it works and what it means.
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.
Reginald Dwayne Betts, poet
Musing this way — arguing in this fashion — he stands in a long line of playful, thoughtful poetic lovers going back at least to the 16th century. He sounds a bit like Christopher Marlowe’s passionate shepherd:
Come live with me and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove,
That Valleys, groves, hills, and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.
Auden’s poem, like Marlowe’s, is written in four-beat lines:
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
Josh Radnor, actor
And it features strong end rhymes:
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.
Samantha Harvey, writer
These tetrameter couplets represent a long-established poetic love language. Not too serious or sappy, but with room for both earnestness and whimsy. And even for professions of the opposite of love, as in this nursery rhyme, adapted from a 17th-century epigram:
I do not like thee, Doctor Fell
The reason why I cannot tell.
But this I know and know full well
I do not like thee, Doctor Fell.
There is some of this anti-love spirit in Auden’s poem too, but it mainly follows a general rule of love poetry: The person speaking is usually the more loving one.
This makes sense. To write a poem requires effort, art, inspiration. To speak in verse is to tease, to cajole, to seduce, all actions that suggest an excess of desire. That’s why it’s conventional to refer to the “I” in a poem like this as the Lover and the “you” as the Beloved. The line “Let the more loving one be me” could summarize a lot of the love poetry of the last few thousand years.
But who, in this case, is the beloved? This isn’t a poem to the stars, but about them. Or maybe a poem that uses the stars as a conceit and our complicated feelings about them as a screen for other difficult emotions.
What the stars have to do with love is a tricky question. The answer may just be that the poem assumes a relationship and then plays with the implications of its assumption.
This kind of play also has a long history. Since love is both abstract and susceptible to cliché, poets are eager to liken it to everything else under the sun: birds, bees, planets, stars, the movement of the tides and the cycle of the seasons. Andrew Marvell’s “Definition of Love,” from the 1600s, wraps its ardor in math:
As lines, so loves oblique may well
Themselves in every angle greet;
But ours so truly parallel,
Though infinite, can never meet.
The literary term for this is wit. The formidable 18th-century English wordsmith Samuel Johnson defined a type of wit as “a combination of dissimilar images, or discovery of occult resemblances in things apparently unlike.” “The most heterogeneous ideas are yoked by violence together,” he wrote; that kind of conceptual discord defines “The More Loving One.”
The second stanza is, when you think about it, a perfect non sequitur. A hypothetical, general question is asked:
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
Mary Roach, writer
The answer is a personal declaration that is moving because it doesn’t seem to apply only or primarily to stars:
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.
Tim Egan, writer
Does this disjunction make it easier or harder to remember? Either way, these couplets start to reveal just how curious this poem is. We might find ourselves curious about who wrote them, and whom he might have loved. Tomorrow we’ll get to know Auden and his work a little better.
Play a game to learn it by heart. Need more practice? Listen to Ada Limón, Matthew McConaughey, W.H. Auden and others recite our poem.
Question 1/6
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
Tap a word above to fill in the highlighted blank.
Your task today: Learn the second stanza!
Let’s start with the first couplet in this stanza. Fill in the rhyming words.
Ready for another round? Try your hand at the 2025 Poetry Challenge.
Edited by Gregory Cowles, Alicia DeSantis and Nick Donofrio. Additional editing by Emily Eakin,
Joumana Khatib, Emma Lumeij and Miguel Salazar. Design and development by Umi Syam. Additional
game design by Eden Weingart. Video editing by Meg Felling. Photo editing by Erica Ackerberg.
Illustration art direction by Tala Safie.
Illustrations by Daniel Barreto.
Text and audio recording of “The More Loving One,” by W.H. Auden, copyright © by the Estate of
W.H. Auden. Reprinted by permission of Curtis Brown, Ltd. Photograph accompanying Auden recording
from Imagno/Getty Images.
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What America’s Main Characters Tell Us
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Oedipa Maas from ‘The Crying of Lot 49’ (1966) by Thomas Pynchon
“The unforgettable, cartoonish protagonist of this unusually short novel is a California housewife accidentally turned private investigator and literary interpreter, and the mystery she’s attempting to solve — or, more specifically, the conspiracy she stumbles upon — is nothing less than capitalism itself,” says Ngai, 54. “As Oedipa traces connections between various crackpots, the novel highlights the peculiarly asocial sociality of postwar U.S. society, which gets figured as a network of alienations.”
Sula Peace from ‘Sula’ (1973) by Toni Morrison
“Sula arguably begins to disappear as soon as she’s introduced — despite the fact that the novel bears her name. Other characters die quickly, or are noticeably flat. This raises the politically charged question of who gets to ‘develop’ or be a protagonist in American novels and who doesn’t. The novel’s unusual character system is part of its meditation on anti-Black racism and historical violence.”
The speaker of ‘Lunch Poems’ (1964) by Frank O’Hara
“Lyric poems are fundamentally different from narrative fiction in part because they have speakers as opposed to narrators. Perhaps it’s a stretch to nominate the speaker of ‘Lunch Poems’ as a main character, but this book changed things by highlighting the centrality of queer counterpublics to U.S. culture as a whole, and by exploring the joys and risks of everyday intimacy with strangers therein.”
This interview has been edited and condensed.
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Poetry Challenge: Memorize “The More Loving One” by W.H. Auden
Let’s memorize a poem! Not because it’s good for us or because we think we should, but because it’s fun, a mental challenge with a solid aesthetic reward. You can amuse yourself, impress your friends and maybe discover that your way of thinking about the world — or even, as you’ll see, the universe — has shifted a bit.
Over the next five days, we’ll look closely at a great poem by one of our favorite poets, and we’ll have games, readings and lots of encouragement to help you learn it by heart. Some of you know how this works: Last year more Times readers than we could count memorized a jaunty 18-line recap of an all-night ferry ride. (If you missed that adventure, it’s not too late to embark. The ticket is still valid.)
This time, we’re training our telescopes on W.H. Auden’s “The More Loving One” — a clever, compact meditation on love, disappointment and the night sky.
Here’s the first of its four stanzas, read for us by Matthew McConaughey:
The More Loving One
Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.
Matthew McConaughey, actor and poet
In four short lines we get a brisk, cynical tour of the universe: hell and the heavens, people and animals, coldness and cruelty. Commonplace observations — that the stars are distant; that life can be dangerous — are wound into a charming, provocative insight. The tone is conversational, mixing decorum and mild profanity in a manner that makes it a pleasure to keep reading.
Here’s Tracy K. Smith, a former U.S. poet laureate, with the second stanza:
How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.
Tracy K. Smith, poet
These lines abruptly shift the focus from astronomy to love, from the universal to the personal. Imagine how it would feel if the stars had massive, unrequited crushes on us! The speaker, couching his skepticism in a coy, hypothetical question, seems certain that we wouldn’t like this at all.
This certainty leads him to a remarkable confession, a moment of startling vulnerability. The poem’s title, “The More Loving One,” is restated with sweet, disarming frankness. Our friend is wearing his heart on his well-tailored sleeve.
The poem could end right there: two stanzas, point and counterpoint, about how we appreciate the stars in spite of their indifference because we would rather love than be loved.
But the third stanza takes it all back. Here’s Alison Bechdel reading it:
Admirer as I think I am
Of stars that do not give a damn,
I cannot, now I see them, say
I missed one terribly all day.
Alison Bechdel, graphic novelist
The speaker downgrades his foolish devotion to qualified admiration. No sooner has he established himself as “the more loving one” than he gives us — and perhaps himself — reason to doubt his ardor. He likes the stars fine, he guesses, but not so much as to think about them when they aren’t around.
The fourth and final stanza, read by Yiyun Li, takes this disenchantment even further:
Were all stars to disappear or die,
I should learn to look at an empty sky
And feel its total dark sublime,
Though this might take me a little time.
Yiyun Li, author
Wounded defiance gives way to a more rueful, resigned state of mind. If the universe were to snuff out its lights entirely, the speaker reckons he would find beauty in the void. A starless sky would make him just as happy.
Though perhaps, like so many spurned lovers before and after, he protests a little too much. Every fan of popular music knows that a song about how you don’t care that your baby left you is usually saying the opposite.
The last line puts a brave face on heartbreak.
So there you have it. In just 16 lines, this poem manages to be somber and funny, transparent and elusive. But there’s more to it than that. There is, for one thing, a voice — a thinking, feeling person behind those lines.
When he wrote “The More Loving One,” in the 1950s, Wystan Hugh Auden was among the most beloved writers in the English-speaking world. Before this week is over there will be more to say about Auden, but like most poets he would have preferred that we give our primary attention to the poem.
Its structure is straightforward and ingenious. Each of the four stanzas is virtually a poem unto itself — a complete thought expressed in one or two sentences tied up in a neat pair of couplets. Every quatrain is a concise, witty observation: what literary scholars call an epigram.
This makes the work of memorization seem less daunting. We can take “The More Loving One” one epigram at a time, marvelling at how the four add up to something stranger, deeper and more complex than might first appear.
So let’s go back to the beginning and try to memorize that insouciant, knowing first stanza. Below you’ll find a game we made to get you started. Give it a shot, and come back tomorrow for more!
Play a game to learn it by heart. Need more practice? Listen to Ada Limón, Matthew McConaughey, W.H. Auden and others recite our poem.
Question 1/6
Looking up at the stars, I know quite well That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
Tap a word above to fill in the highlighted blank.
Your first task: Learn the first four lines!
Let’s start with the first couplet. Fill in the rhyming words.
Monday
Love, the cosmos and everything in between, all in 16 lines.
Tuesday (Available tomorrow)
What’s love got to do with it?
Wednesday (Available April 22)
How to write about love? Be a little heartsick (and the best poet of your time).
Thursday (Available April 23)
Are we alone in the universe? Does it matter?
Friday (Available April 24)
You did it! You’re a star.
Ready for another round? Try your hand at the 2025 Poetry Challenge.
Edited by Gregory Cowles, Alicia DeSantis and Nick Donofrio. Additional editing by Emily Eakin,
Joumana Khatib, Emma Lumeij and Miguel Salazar. Design and development by Umi Syam. Additional
game design by Eden Weingart. Video editing by Meg Felling. Photo editing by Erica Ackerberg.
Illustration art direction by Tala Safie.
Illustrations by Daniel Barreto.
Text and audio recording of “The More Loving One,” by W.H. Auden, copyright © by the Estate of
W.H. Auden. Reprinted by permission of Curtis Brown, Ltd. Photograph accompanying Auden recording
from Imagno/Getty Images.
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