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Woman who left very tall brother in economy class while she took first class was not wrong: Reddit users
A woman on Reddit who says she was alienated and given the cold shoulder by her family after she accepted a free first-class upgrade on a vacation did nothing wrong, Reddit users said, weighing in on her drama.
Reddit user “Abbyissostupid” told Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit about her dilemma in a post on Friday, April 26, titled, “AITA for not letting my 6’6″ brother have the free first-class upgrade the airline gave me on our 12-hour flight?”
In the post, the woman said she’s currently on a family trip in Hawaii to celebrate her father’s recent retirement, and that he paid for the entire family to attend.
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“There are six of us but my brother and I live in the same part of the country,” she said — so the two of them were on the same flight to Hawaii.
“I guess it’s relevant to say I am 5’1″ and my brother is 6’6,” she wrote.
A frequent traveler for work, she said she has “quite a bit of status with the airline for which my dad bought our tickets.”
A woman said her family was angry with her after she accepted a free upgrade to first class while leaving her much taller brother behind in coach. (iStock)
As she and her brother were boarding the plane, she was approached by a flight attendant and told that a spot in first class had become available.
The flight attendant “whispered that they had a first-class passenger not show up, and they needed the coach seat to accommodate a standby passenger,” said Abbyissostupid.
“She said I had by far the most status of anyone on the plane, so they were willing to move me to first class for free.”
“I had a nice flight.”
The woman happily accepted the upgrade, she said, and “took it in a heartbeat.”
“I told my brother I’d see him in 12 hours and let me know if he wanted any food or drink and I grabbed my stuff and moved,” she said.
“Needless to say, I had a nice flight.”
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Her brother, however, was quite upset that she did not give him the upgrade instead, as he is much taller and presumably could’ve used the extra legroom to be more comfortable.
After the plane landed, her brother refused to speak to her for the entire ride to their hotel, she said — and then told her family that she had been upgraded.
The woman and her family were on a trip to Hawaii celebrating her father’s retirement. Her father, she said, paid for the entire trip. (iStock)
“We had a nice hello with the rest of the family, but after I got down from my shower my mom took me aside and said what I did ‘was awful,’” said Abbyissostupid.
Confused, the woman said she asked her mother what she was talking about — “and she said that I should have given my brother the seat.”
The Reddit writer added, “I thought that would be the end of it, but all five of my siblings and my parents are upset with me and the vacation is off to a very rough start,” she said.
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Her siblings even told their children to avoid her for not being a loyal family member, the woman said.
“My sister said, ‘No, they only like to play with people who give a s— about their family — what were you thinking?’” wrote Abbyissostupid.
When the woman pointed out that her brother never even asked for an upgrade, the sister replied that he should not have had to — and that she should have automatically given her brother the upgrade for his comfort.
The woman’s much taller brother spent the flight in coach, where he was apparently very uncomfortable during the trip. (iStock)
“I’ve been by myself since brunch and not having much fun. AITA?” asked Abbyissostupid of others on Reddit.
In an update to the post after others had commented, Abbyissostupid added that her family is still angry at her, but to varying degrees — and that she’s been spending time instead with a friend who lives in Hawaii.
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“So my vacation will be great no matter what,” said Abbyissostupid. “But reading your comments really gave me confidence to not give a crap (or try to at least!). Thank you.”
Fox News Digital reached out to Abbyissostupid for further updates — and to a relationship expert for advice on the topic.
‘People make poor decisions all the time’
Dr. Kathy Nickerson, PhD, a clinical psychologist based in California, said in an email to Fox News Digital on Saturday afternoon, “It would have been nice for the [Reddit writer] to give her brother the upgrade because coach is far less comfortable for someone who is 6’6″ than 5’1″. However, I can understand that since the flight attendant whispered in her ear, [the woman] might have thought she needed to be discreet and not offer it to her brother.”
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Nickerson added, “If we could go back in time, I would have whispered in [the woman’s] ear: ‘Are you OK here? I know it is not first class, but can you deal with this and let your brother go instead? Seems like he’s pretty uncomfortable.’”
“The best thing to do is apologize to her brother and express understanding to her family.”
She also said it would have been “a thoughtful, loving, kind gesture” for the woman to offer the first-class seat to her brother.
Said Nickerson, “Now that it is done, the best thing to do is apologize to her brother and express understanding to her family. It’s reasonable for everyone to feel the way they do; it’s not so reasonable to ruin the family vacation because of it.”
A stewardess for a British airline claims first-class passengers pay the flight attendants for sex. (iStock)
She noted that in her experience, “People make poor decisions all the time. People can be selfish and thoughtless sometimes. Everyone deserves compassion and a chance to make amends. Having everyone in the family berate and criticize the [woman] is not helpful.”
Rather, she said, “it creates an emotionally unsafe environment, which only encourages more harmful behavior.”
Nickerson said she’d advise “a family meeting, where they can apologize for the hurtful choices, all around — and express some understanding for the others’ feelings and agree to do better next time, then move on. Let’s forgive each other, learn from this and enjoy our trip.”
Most commenters on Reddit, however, had a very different point of view.
On the AITA subreddit, people can reply to posts and indicate the poster is “NTA” (“Not the A–hole”), “YTA” (“You’re the A–hole”), “NAH” (“No A–holes Here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone Sucks Here”).
Users can “upvote” responses they think are helpful and “downvote” ones that are not.
Reddit users largely assured the woman that she did not do anything wrong by accepting the upgrade to first class for herself — and that her family was blowing things out of proportion. (iStock)
Most users said that the woman was “NTA” for taking the upgrade — and that the airline likely would not have allowed her to give it to her brother, even if she wanted to, they said.
“Had something happen to me years ago on Air Canada. Vancouver to Toronto red eye. Flying with adult daughter and got tagged for upgrade,” said Reddit user “BetAlternative8397” in the top-upvoted comment.
The user continued, “I asked about letting her fly upfront instead and was told the seat is only available to the status holder. I was exhausted from a week working away, so I took it,” the person added.
“No reason you should have turned it down.”
The same individual noted, “No one shamed me for it” and said that Abbyissostupid’s brother was rude and jealous.
“NTA, but you sure have a family of them,” said Reddit user “Fearless_Ad1685” in another top comment.
“Your status got you the offer. If you declined it, it wouldn’t have gone to your brother anyway,” Fearless_Ad1685 continued.
“No reason you should have turned it down just to stay in coach with your brother.”
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Oregon parents, teachers form networks to monitor ICE activity near schools
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Parents and teachers in Oregon have formed neighborhood groups to monitor Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) activity. It’s a system that organizers say helps alert illegal immigrants when federal agents are nearby.
Oregon Public Broadcasting (OPB) reported in October on members of the ICE watch groups, explaining that participants position themselves at various spots throughout the neighborhood, often around schools, to look out for ICE officers.
If agents are detected, group members use text chains and whistles to alert local members of the activity. The effort comes as President Donald Trump continues to ramp up immigration enforcement operations across the country.
Federal agents, including members of the Department of Homeland Security, Border Patrol and police clash with protesters outside a downtown U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement center in Portland, Ore., Oct. 4. (Spencer Platt/Getty Images)
“We’re making ourselves present and visible so that our families see we stand with our community, and we stand as a message that our students deserve to learn in confidence and not in fear,” teacher Andy Bunting told OPB in October.
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Portland is among several Democratic-led cities seeing widespread community pushback against the Trump administration’s crackdown on illegal immigration. Similar ICE alert groups have cropped up in states like California.
Several Portland-centered Instagram accounts help to organize these anti-ICE groups. Among them is @pdxicewatch, which boasts nearly 23,000 followers. The account’s bio says it is “watching ICE activity,” and it frequently posts the locations of ICE operations in the area and has a tip line.
The online group also helps maintain a publicly available database of vehicles suspected to be in use by ICE officers, listing their models, where they were seen and license plates.
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One informational post uploaded in November specifically discusses intervening during ICE operations near schools.
“Focus on areas that seem quiet around the school, ICE likes to kidnap people in alleyways and dead-end streets,” one slide states.
“Sometimes staff will reach out, but the admin in the front office will not. There can be a disconnect between brown and black teachers/social workers and an all-white admin staff,” another slide says.
A screenshot from the @pdxicewatch Instagram account, co-posted by several activist groups, shows a graphic from a video explaining how community members can watch for ICE agents outside schools. (Screenshot/@pdxicewatch)
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ICE justified its operations near schools to OPB, writing, “ICE is safeguarding schools and places of worship by preventing criminal aliens and gang members from exploiting them as safe havens, a practice previously restricted under the Biden Administration. DHS now allows its law enforcement agencies to act with supervisory approval, ensuring such actions remain rare and discretionary.”
Portland Mayor Keith Wilson and other city leaders have condemned immigration agents, accusing them of using chemical pepper balls during an arrest.
“ICE activity in North Portland, including the recent unnecessary and potentially unconstitutional use of chemical munitions, directly contradicts Portland’s values,” the leaders wrote in a statement posted Tuesday.
Demonstrators picket in solidarity outside Hoover Elementary School in Oakland, Calif., Nov. 19, following morning reports of a failed arrest attempt by ICE agents nearby. (essica Christian/San Francisco Chronicle via Getty Images)
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“As Portland’s civic leaders, we condemn ICE’s unjustified, disruptive, and escalatory conduct, which undermines public trust in government.”
Earlier this year, protests outside Portland’s ICE facility became nearly nightly occurrences as activists demonstrated against deportations.
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San Francisco, CA
Holiday travel at San Francisco airport being affected by winter weather
With rain and wind in the forecast, it may make some people’s holiday travel a little more difficult.
At San Francisco International Airport, more than 400 flights have been delayed. Maggie Nelson’s was delayed coming into the airport.
“It seemed like everyone was in a panic or a hurry to get anywhere,” said Nelson. “The plane was crowded. There was a lot of turbulence.”
Nelson flew in from Redmond, Oregon, usually a quick flight to SFO, just under two hours, but she ended up being delayed nearly that long.
“Originally, we were supposed to take off at 2 p.m. and then our flight got delayed to 2:50 p.m., and then it got delayed again,” Nelson explained. “I don’t think we took off until 3:30 p.m. because of high winds or something.”
California is in the middle of an intense storm period. Two systems bringing heavy rain and strong winds, and Nelson could feel all of it.
“The turbulence was pretty bad,” said Nelson. “There was a point where I got nauseous. I was like ‘Are we there yet? Is this over?’”
While she’s grateful to be on solid ground, Shon Alkaslasi was about to take off or at least try to.
“United sent a text that wind might affect operations,” said Alkaslasi.
He arrived early, just in case of holiday traffic, now he’s anticipating he may be delayed. He’s travelling home to Los Angeles, another area in the middle of the storms.
“I would say I’m not the biggest fan of turbulence so I am a little bit nervous about that,” Alkaslaski detailed. “But if they say it’s totally safe to travel, I’m not usually concerned but the feeling of bumps on a plane is just not the most comfortable and I’ll have to deal with it.”
Airport Duty Manager Crystal David said overall things haven’t been too bad, but West Coast flights, like Alkaslasi’s and Nelson’s, are the ones most likely to be impacted.
“SFO is on a ground delay program throughout the night, through midnight and so right now it’s about 127 minutes because of winds,” said David. “Mostly it’s the west coast flights are that are being affected right now with delays of up to 35 minutes for the west coast traffic.”
She said the delays could continue into the morning, when even stronger winds are expected. She recommends travelers check in with their airlines.
But for Nelson, she’s just glad she made it home.
“I used to live a lot closer so it’s a lot harder to come home now so when I do get to come home, I try to take advantage of that and appreciate it,” said Nelson.
Denver, CO
16th Street sees more foot traffic just in time for last minute holiday shopping
DENVER — The redesigned 16th Street which was completed back in October and has brought in more foot traffic just in time for last minute holiday shopping.
“Mall is alive. We can’t wait for the holiday,” said James Chapman, Denver resident.
That’s how some shoppers that we spoke with feel since 16th street was reopened.
“It’s so nice, a lot more walkable,” said Alexis Armentrout, Denver resident.
The three-year long construction helped revitalize the aging infrastructure making it more accessible.
“The redesign is beautiful, especially for people with disabilities. We don’t have a lot of curve cuts. We can, like, go here and there. You can go in and out of this shop, back in the other shop, and do some shopping with our grandkids without running off the curb,” said James Chapman, Denver resident.
The construction did cause some business interruptions, but one candy shop we spoke with says the end result has helped with their sales.
“We’ve seen so much more foot traffic. Our margins have been through the roof since it actually happened just, I think, our frames, and with the holidays, a lot of people staying around here in the hotels, and just our Denver native people as well are just pouring in the store,” said Victoria Hinojos, Its Sugar assistant manager.
The Downtown Denver Partnership says they saw a 26% year over year foot traffic increase on 16th Street last month.
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“It’s been super cool to see it revamped,” said Armentrout.
According to the National Retail Federation, over a trillion dollars is forecasted to be spent this holiday season nationwide.
“We are seeing tons of last-minute holiday shoppers,” said Hinojos.
We asked some shopper what they have on their list to buy.
“Headed down to do some photo cards for my grandkids, and then I’m headed to TJ Maxx to try to find a special gift for a loved one, like a little jewelry box,” said Chapman.
For some shoppers, they say last minute holiday shopping brings them joy.
“The feeling it brings for me this year, on last day holiday shopping is I need to get it and wrap it and present it. So last minute shopping is a beautiful thing,” said Chapman.
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