Dear Amy: I am a retired Catholic priest. For the most part, I have enjoyed these late-life years, especially as the pace of life has eased up. However, one difficulty I’ve encountered stems from my years in active ministry.
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Advice | Ask Amy: Retired priest struggles with Catholic critique
This couple decided to stop attending church services. I felt this was their decision to make and have never criticized or judged them for it. However, invariably during our evenings together they steer the conversation to their gripes about the Catholic Church. I’ve gone so far as to meet privately with them, letting them know how uncomfortable I am with their behavior during something I consider an informal gathering of friends. All to no avail. I usually end up leaving these dinners feeling angry and depressed.
These folks have been great friends for many years, but I’m at my wits end trying to figure out how best to deal with the situation. Should I just give up and decline future invitations?
Father Confused: I can only imagine the pressure you might feel to always respond to uncomfortable situations in a way that basically protects others. Because you have retired from the formal part of ministry, it might not be necessary for you to be so discreet about your concerns when something bothers you. My point is that although you will always be a priest, you absolutely have the human right to react publicly to topics, behavior or comments that bother or offend you.
If this happens again at a social occasion, you can say a version of, “Naturally, this is a very difficult topic for me, but I realize that my presence seems to trigger a discussion about the failings of the institution I’ve devoted my life to. I’ve mentioned this privately but I understand now that bringing it up is just too tempting to avoid, so I’ll take this as my cue to say good night.” This is also an issue you might raise with your own pastoral counselor.
Dear Amy: Last year, I witnessed a tragic hit-and-run incident involving a car and a pedestrian. The pedestrian did not survive, and the incident deeply affected me. After learning the victim’s name through local press coverage, I engaged in a brief email exchange with the organizer of an online fundraiser for the person’s survivors. I’ve never met the deceased, but I’ve been seeking a deeper sense of closure and feel that paying my respects at their resting place would be meaningful. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to locate this information.
Considering the sensitivity of the matter and my limited connection to the victim, I wonder if it would be appropriate for me, a stranger, to ask the friend of the deceased who organized the fundraiser about the burial location. I am committed to approaching this with utmost respect for the feelings and privacy of those close to the victim. What is your advice?
Mourning: I can imagine the deep sadness and lingering confusion you might feel after witnessing this crime. I also appreciate your concern and your stated desire to be sensitive toward the survivors. As someone who has experienced the sudden, violent and traumatic loss of a family member, I would vote “no” on any stranger seeking out the gravesite, even someone with your compassionate and respectful intent.
However, there is no universal response to loss, and this victim’s family might feel and respond differently. Reach out to the person who organized the fundraiser, and prepare yourself to accept whatever answer comes your way. I strongly urge you to see a counselor specializing in trauma in order to continue to process the longer-term effect of witnessing this terrible event.
Dear Amy: “Looking” was frustrated by dating apps. I found it interesting that you didn’t suggest seeking the help of a matchmaker. I am in the process of getting certified; professional human matchmakers can help people the apps leave behind. I’ve been happily married to my loving husband for almost 31 years. We met in a karaoke bar. Ha!
Love Love: This would make a great Broadway musical.
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Ice Cube, HARDY, Weird Al and more: Washington State Fair 2026 Concert series
The genre-defying lineup has arrived for the Washington State Fair in September.
The list includes plenty of country music, rap and hip hop, soulful sounds, a popular children’s performer and kicks off with the parody stylings of “Weird Al” Yankovic.
The Washington State Fair is going on 126 years this season and always delivers a wide range of music and entertainment on the Grandstand Stage, in addition to the rides, farm animals, food, games, shopping and more. The Fair runs Sept. 4-27, except for Tuesdays and Sept. 9.
(Image: Ryan McBoyle / Seattle Refined)
“Weird Al” Yankovic with Puddles Pity Party – Sept. 5
Little Big Town with Ingrid Andress – Sept. 6
Dancin’ in the Dirt concerts:
- Gretchen Wilson – Sept. 10
- Dylan Marlowe – Sept. 11
- Chase Rice – Sept. 12
“Be Like Blippi” – Sept. 16
Bailey Zimmerman plus Chandler Walters – Sept. 17
Jon Batiste – Sept. 18
Ice Cube – Sept. 19
Lauren Daigle with guest Leanna Crawford – Sept. 21
HARDY with McCoy Moore – Sept. 24
Trey Songz and Tyga – Sept. 25
If you can’t wait until September, head to Puyallup this weekend for the Washington State Spring Fair, running April 10-12 & 17-19.
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DC’s highly qualified workers can’t find jobs: ‘What is happening?’
Alicia Contreras was in Tunisia, working as the deputy country representative for Libya for USAID, when she received the news: she was fired. The Trump administration had ceased the cooperation agency’s operations and terminated most overseas staff. What she didn’t expect back then was that after a double major, an MBA and 17 years of experience as a public servant, she wouldn’t be able to find a job back at home.
Contreras moved back to the Washington DC area last September and immediately started her job search. She looked for positions in both the public and private sectors, in-person, hybrid and remote. She focused her search mostly on the US capital city and its two nearby states, Maryland and Virginia, because of her family commitments: she has two children, ages three and six. Six months later, none of her close to 100 applications have been successful.
“The job market is pretty bad here. I got a request to do like an AI video interview, but other than that, most of it has been rejections,” she said. “I feel like it’s saturated.”
Hers is not an isolated case. Washington DC’s unemployment rate is now the highest since August 2015, excluding the pandemic, according to the most recent data. More than 300,000 jobs have been cut from the federal government, the region’s largest employer, since 2024. The cuts came after Donald Trump led a purge of federal employees, a move he said was meant to “eliminate waste” and a task he assigned to Elon Musk and his “department of government efficiency” (Doge).
By January, federal public employment had fallen to its lowest level in at least a decade, affecting many other businesses and sectors. As a result, DC now has the highest unemployment rate in the country (6.7%), followed by California (5.5%). And the experts don’t believe the situation will improve in the short term.
According to data from Indeed, the job listings website, job openings reflect this situation. “If you look at our most recent data, DC job postings are 30% below where they were pre-Covid, and that is the softest among all states in the US,” said Laura Ullrich, Indeed’s director of economic research. “And it’s broad-based, especially if you compare it to some other states. In South Carolina, for example, we’re 28% above pre-Covid. There are still some sectors that are below pre-pandemic levels, but not many of them. In DC, there’s a pretty broad group of sectors.”
The federal government reduced funding for grants, generating a big fall in jobs in scientific areas and other sectors. Also, the administration’s efforts to shrink the federal government led to widespread termination of federal contractors. As a result, an employee of a consulting firm, who requested his name not be used, was fired in January last year, along with another 75 colleagues, representing 85% of the total workforce. “At the beginning, I got zero, nothing, not even a bite, not even a phone call. I was like: ‘What the hell is happening?’ But I was talking to a lot of people and a lot of friends, and they were all the same,” he said.
A year and two months later, he’s had about 15 interviews, but nothing has landed. “It’s been a very, very difficult process … especially with all of that education and training now being in this position”. He went to Bates College, a top-tier, small liberal arts college in Maine, and to the also top-tier private Georgetown University in DC, where he obtained a master’s in science and international development.
Something interviewees for this article mentioned is that many of their former colleagues or friends are having a hard time not only finding a new position, but finding something that offers equivalent pay to what they had before. Consequently, many are taking salary cuts, or are going from high-level senior positions to junior or mid-level positions.
“I’ve been told ‘you’re overqualified’ many times,” said Felipe Mendy, an Argentinian veterinarian and first-time father of a three-month-old who’s been unemployed for two years. “Firstly, I thought it was a matter of language or culture. I thought that maybe I needed a US degree … but then I started meeting many who went to very prestigious universities and also couldn’t find a job. Many highly qualified people with experience at organizations such as the Organization of American States or the World Bank are working at coffee shops.”
He experienced that himself. Mendy lived in Washington for the past six years, where he and his wife moved because of her job as an economist. After he lost his job in a US company specializing in animal nutrition, he helped coach a rugby team and walked neighbours’ dogs while applying for jobs that matched his qualifications, which include an MBA.
He did some consulting for a small recruitment firm too, where he clearly saw what was happening in the job market: he would publish a job position, and hundreds of people applied, something the firm had never seen, and which affected its business. “Many had nothing to do with the job, but applied.” At a certain point, many of their clients decided that they didn’t need help recruiting and the firm had to let him go.
A month ago, the couple decided to stop his job search and go back to Argentina, where he quickly found a position at a Danish multinational firm. “With just one salary, we couldn’t live in that city, it wasn’t viable. And we downsized, tightened our belts, but at a certain point we thought: ‘For what?’ After my US experience, I’m a lot more valuable back home.”
Affordability is a big issue for those searching for a position. DC is one of the most expensive cities in the US, where the average rent for a two-bedroom apartment is $3,100, according to the online rental marketplace Apartments.com. The high cost of living makes staying in the city while unemployed an expensive privilege. “We’ve had to budget a lot. My husband is working three jobs. He has no choice, because he has to make up for my salary, and we have to pay for childcare, our mortgage and food,” said Contreras, who feels lucky that her family is able to get healthcare through her husband’s job so they don’t need to pay for insurance out of pocket.
That budgeting and, therefore, spending cuts, also affect the city’s private sector, particularly services used by workers, from cleaners to gyms and restaurants, that hadn’t recovered from the pandemic in part because many people continued to work remotely.
José Andrés, a Spanish chef and owner of many local restaurants, wrote in a recent X post that restaurants in DC are closing at a higher rate in 2025 than in 2024. “What we need is stability … Tariffs, tourism, Ice etc are affecting negatively the economy …” he wrote.
According to the Washington Post, 123 private companies in the DC area announced job cuts in 2025, affecting more than 13,000 workers, the highest annual total since the pandemic.
But besides affordability, overqualification and their futures, many also struggle with the impact of the Trump administration’s decisions and, in particular, the erosion of institutions that have played important roles. For that reason, Contreras has decided to run for the Maryland house of delegates, the state legislature, representing her district. “Most of my life I’ve been a public servant, and I want to continue to serve people and help our communities. That’s why I decided to do it. I want to make sure that I’m not just standing around and watching things fall apart. I need to fight back.”
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WA Supreme Court to consider Let’s Go Washington lawsuit challenging ‘millionaires tax’
Washington’s Supreme Court has agreed to weigh in on the constitutionality of a portion of the recently passed income tax on high earners, also known as the “millionaires tax.”
The law includes a clause that prevents it from being repealed by voters through a method called a referendum, something that conservative group Let’s Go Washington has alleged is unconstitutional.
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“The framers of our constitution said, ‘We don’t like taxes,’ and then, they were very strict about the rules of what could be taxed and how it could be taxed,” Let’s Go Washington founder Brian Heywood said. “It’s mind-boggling… [to] say we’re going to make an exception to anything that’s tax-related and the people can’t do a referendum on it.”
Heywood and his group attempted to file a referendum petition on the new law last week, but the Secretary of State bounced their petition back, noting that a referendum was not allowed under this law. In response, Let’s Go Washington filed the lawsuit challenging the clause.
A referendum is a particular process that has to be filed within 90 days after the Legislative session has ended to repeal a law that was passed during that session. If 154,455 signatures can be collected by June, voters would have a chance to repeal the targeted law in November. Implementation of the law is frozen until voters have a chance to weigh in.
Senate Majority Leader Jamie Pedersen, who sponsored the tax, said the inclusion of a clause to bar a referendum isn’t unusual for legislation that involves taxes, and wasn’t put in to try to dampen voter participation. Many revenue-related bills often include a clause that prevents a referendum from being brought against them, because in the state constitution, revenue-generating bills are necessary to the functioning of government.
“That’s not some special measure to try to block public involvement in the process,” Pedersen said. “That is just a statement of fact under the Constitution, that this is a revenue measure and it’s not subject to referendum.”
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State constitution scholars agree.
Hugh Spitzer, a professor at the University of Washington School of Law and expert on Constitutional Law, said while there have been about a dozen instances over the past 100 years where the clause barring a referendum on a law has been challenged, the court has typically held that the clause is constitutional.
“The Legislature has to make tough choices about taxes and about budgets, and so it would interfere with the functionality of government if every time the Legislature adopted a tax or passed a budget bill, it went to referendum,” Spitzer said.
In the past, he said people have tried to bring a referendum against a number of laws, such as a law allocating money for highway construction, excise taxes on margarine, a timber tax — all had a clause barring a referendum petition, and the court did not rule that could be overridden.
“I would say that the petitioners or plaintiffs in this instance have an uphill climb to get the court to rule against the Legislature’s use of the existing public institutions clause,” Spitzer said.
The Supreme Court is expected to hold a hearing on the constitutionality of this clause at the end of April. If the justices rule the use of the clause is unconstitutional, Pedersen has said the Legislature may need to call a special session, as the state’s budget for the next four years was balanced partially with revenue collected from the tax.
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If the Supreme Court upholds the clause, there is still another opportunity for voters to weigh in.
Let’s Go Washington has said if their referendum petition is denied, they will be pursuing the initiative process to put a repeal of the law on the ballot, though an initiative requires twice as many signatures to be gathered.
“A referendum is a simple, easy to understand, up or down, yes or no vote,” Heywood said. “If it’s an initiative, you have to get people to understand ‘vote yes in order to vote no,’ and that’s a much harder sell.”
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