Wish one of your ex-lovers was forced to wear a cone of shame forever? Yeah, me too.
Well, a South Jersey pet shelter is making this dark, twisted fantasy a reality — kind of. For a $50 donation, Blackwood’s Homeward Bound Pet Adoption Center will “neuter your ex,” which entails performing the surgery on a feral cat they’ve named after your ex-partner before placing it back in the wild.
And, yes, situationships, frenemies, or plain ole nemeses also count, said Eric Schwartz, Homeward Bound’s director of development.
Homeward Bound posted about the anti-Valentine’s Day promotion on Instagram last week with the pithy tagline “because some things shouldn’t breed,” baiting viral meme accounts to post about the campaign.
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It’s actually a ploy to raise awareness about the adoption center’s trap-neuter-release program, where they work with local animal controls to spay and neuter feral felines before releasing them back to their colonies. Over 600 cats were fixed and released through the program in 2023, said Schwartz.
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A little fewer than half these cats typically come from the city of Camden, where Homeward Bound’s trap-neuter-release tactics have helped prevent the feral cat population from growing as rapidly, Schwartz said.
Most donors, however, are in it for revenge. Those interested in naming, shaming, and spaying their ex can fill out a donation form and select the “in honor” option to complete the dedication. Schwartz said Homeward Bound plans to provide every donor a photo of their neutered ex-slash-cat. There’s also an option to let someone know that you donated, in case this gives you any ideas.
“Donated! The real guy deserves to be neutered, but a cat in his name will do,” commented one Instagram user, while others have asked to dedicate neuterings to their “husband’s ex-mistress” (yikes) and several childhood bullies.
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“One woman sent the names of her three ex-husbands and wrote, ‘I should’ve learned after the first one,’” said Schwartz.
The campaign has raised over $2,000 so far, which will cover about 40 feline spayings and neuterings, said Schwartz. It’s been one of Homeward Bound’s most successful campaigns to date.
Homeward Bound is not the first animal shelter to use Valentine’s Day as an exercise in both fundraising and hatred. For $5, a cat at the Rhode Island SPCA will poop on your ex’s name, mimicking a campaign the Lexington Humane Society ran in 2021. That time, it cost $10 to literally crap on an ex.
Schwartz said the idea to neuter exes came from a volunteer during a planning meeting for Homeward Bound’s softer and sweeter Valentine’s Day fundraiser: Pet-a-grams. Sometime in February, people will be able to donate $20 in exchange for kenneled dogs and cats getting a heart-shaped card and treat, which will be made by students at Haddonfield High School.
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“Neuter an Ex,” meanwhile, will likely become an annual tradition. “I think we have to do it next year,” said Schwartz, who — fortunately — does not have an ex-partner he would like to neuter.
“When you say ‘let’s neuter an ex,’ everybody has the name of a person pop into their head,” said Schwartz. “We’re happy to bring some closure while doing something important.”
As he enters his final weeks in office, Gov. Phil Murphy on Tuesday touted a decline in crime across New Jersey.
Speaking at a court and police building in East Rutherford, Murphy said there were 559 shooting victims statewide last year, a 28% decline compared to the previous year.
Of the 559 victims, 107 were fatalities.
At the start of his term, more than 1,300 people were shot annually, Murphy said. The 2025 reduction marks the fourth consecutive year of declines in gun violence injuries.
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“That’s not to say we are perfect,” Murphy said. “Because the objective is to get it down to zero.”
Motor vehicle thefts also dropped in 2025 — from 15,041 to 13,693 — according to New Jersey State Police statistics. That was a 9% decrease.
Murphy signed legislation in July 2023 that increased criminal penalties for auto theft offenders, focusing on repeat offenses and large-scale automobile trafficking.
“While there is more work to be done, this moment underscores the strength of the tools, practices and initiatives that have been put in place during the Murphy administration to protect residents and support lasting public safety across our state,” Lt. Gov. Tahesha Way said.
State Attorney General Matthew Platkin attributed the decline in crime to treating gun violence as a public health issue.
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“That happened because of a sustained commitment to treating gun violence like the public health crisis it is,” Platkin said.
Platkin also cited drops in shootings in New Jersey’s largest cities, including Paterson, which saw a state police takeover after a corruption scandal. Shootings in the city fell to 42 last year from 127 the year before, he said.
Newark Mayor Ras Baraka said his city also saw historic lows in shootings and murders, with killings dropping to 31 last year, a 19% decrease from the previous year.
“Even as we laud our accomplishments, and we have many to talk about, we still have people who have been victimized in our city,” Baraka said last week.
State officials lauded local gun violence interruption groups as integral to the reduction.
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“These groups are doing good and important work,” Platkin said.
Murphy said the coalitions often engage communities in ways law enforcement cannot.
“They’re on the streets, they know the community unlike any of us,” Murphy said. “They know it better than law enforcement. They know it better than elected officials.”
New Jersey’s acting State Police superintendent, Lt. Col. David Sierotowicz, said the reduction in crime was the result of collaboration between multiple government agencies and community partnerships.
“These reductions in crime represent more than statistics — they represent lives saved,” Sierotowicz said.
Police shot and killed a knife-wielding suspect outside a home in Piscataway, where three people were later found dead, according to the New Jersey Attorney General’s Office.
The incident occurred near the intersection of Mitchell Avenue and River Road. Police responded to the scene after receiving a 911 call from a man reporting that someone was inside the home with a knife. Upon arrival, officers saw the suspect on the porch holding a knife.
The man, whose identity has not been released, fled from the porch, leading to a foot chase that ended when the suspect charged at the officers, according to law enforcement sources. Police attempted to subdue the suspect with Tasers, but they were ineffective, sources told News 4.
After the suspect continued to advance toward the police, the responding officers fatally shot him in the street.
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“They told him to stop several times; they gave him commands to stop,” said Jessica Conroy, a resident of the area.
Following the shooting, officers discovered three other deceased individuals inside the home. The Middlesex County Prosecutor’s Office is investigating their deaths.
“This is a really nice neighborhood,” Conroy told NBC New York. “I never saw anything bad at the other house.”
The identities of the civilians and officers involved have not yet been released.
⚖️ Paul Caneiro is finally on trial, years after a brutal quadruple homicide and house fire stunned Monmouth County.
⚖️ Prosecutors say Caneiro murdered his brother, sister-in-law, and their two children in Colts Neck, then set multiple fires to cover it up.
⚖️ Years of delays: Attorney changes, legal motions, COVID disruptions, and appeals pushed one of NJ’s most notorious murder cases to this moment.
A New Jersey man accused of killing his brother and his family before setting their Monmouth County house on fire is finally facing trial.
Paul Caneiro was dealt a string of criminal charges, including four counts of first-degree murder, for the family massacre at a sprawling Colts Neck home more than seven years ago.
Keith Caneiro’s body was discovered on the front lawn by a landscaper two days before Thanksgiving in 2018. The bodies of Caneiro’s 45-year-old wife, Jennifer, and two children, 11-year-old Jesse and 8-year-old Sophia, were recovered from the wreckage.
Paul Caneiro was also accused of setting his own Ocean Township home on fire while his own family was inside.
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The trial has been held up for years as Paul Caneiro’s rotating defense attorneys have filed repeated motions. He has maintained his innocence.
Here is a round-up of the harrowing deaths and what we know so far about the case.
Caneiro quadruple murder trial gets underway in 2026After a Colts Neck house fire in 2018, the Caneiro family was found killed (Screenshot: CBS New York via Youtube)
Gruesome discovery of the Caneiro family, killed in Colts Neck
Keith Caneiro, 50, was shot four times in the head and once in the torso, before his lifeless body was recovered from his front lawn in Colts Neck.
His wife was shot in the head and stabbed in the torso, her body found near the stairs to their basement.
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Their 11-year-old son was found in the kitchen, stabbed in the torso and arm, according to a 2019 lawsuit filed by Vlassis Karidis, Jennifer Caneiro’s father.
According to the lawsuit, based on a medical examiner’s findings, the youngest victim, Sophia, was the last to die and was still alive while the house was engulfed in flames, leading to lung damage and smoke inhalation that factored into her death.
She was found on the stairs leading to the second floor with stab wounds. The autopsy suggests that she suffered before she died based on an increase in white blood cells.
“Sophia survived her parents albeit with multiple stab wounds for an unimaginable period of time but demonstrably long enough to experience breathing difficulty and onset of high-degree stress,” the lawsuit says.
Karidis’ suit has been stayed for several years, pending the outcome of this criminal trial.
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Caneiro quadruple murder trial gets underway in 2026 – FILE photo of accused quadruple killer Paul Caneiro Monmouth County Prosecutors OfficeFILE photo shared in 2018 of accused quadruple killer Paul Caneiro (Monmouth County Prosecutor’s Office)
Caneiro brothers as business partners, before being accused of fraud
Keith Caneiro started an IT consulting firm in 1989 and brought in his older brother with a 10% ownership interest, according to the 2019 lawsuit filed by Karidis, which also says the brothers took over a pest control company in 2011.
Attributing statements and messages shared with attorneys, the lawsuit said Keith and Jennifer Caneiro had accused Paul Caneiro of stealing tens of thousands of dollars from them and the businesses that the brothers held.
The night before he was killed, Keith Caneiro forwarded a company email stating that Paul Caneiro would no longer be paid his $225,000 salary, citing money missing from the business accounts, according to the lawsuit. The litigation is on hold pending this criminal trial.
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In separate emails and messages cited by the lawsuit, Keith had said he was working to sell his companies and pursue a new position in order to be done dealing with his older brother.
About eight months before her brutal death, Jennifer Caneiro told her sister that her brother-in-law, that Caneiro had stolen thousands intended for her children’s trust and education funds, some of which he deposited into his own children’s education funds or used to pay down student loans.
The lawsuit also said that the Caneiros had voiced concerns to other family and friends about Paul Caneiro charging “excessive and improper personal expenses” to credit cards held by the businesses that he worked at with his brother.
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Prosecutors say Paul Caneiro set two fires to cover up murders
The Colts Neck fire was reported around 1:30 p.m on Nov. 20, 2018, on Willow Brook Road. Investigators have said they believe Caneiro first killed his relatives and set the fire in Colts Neck before returning to his home about 5 a.m.
Prosecutors said the fire at Caneiro’s own house was both a “ruse” and an effort to destroy evidence that he had taken from the Colts Neck scene.
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CBS New York shared helicopter footage of the Colts Neck fire as it was still being put out in 2018, as posted to YouTube.
The once-million-dollar property was cleared of the burned-out wreck by a demolition crew in 2020, Asbury Park Press reported.
Caneiro quadruple murder trial gets underway in 2026 – Paul Caneiro in court in 2018 CBS New York via YoutubeAccused four-time killer, Paul Caneiro in court in 2018 (Screenshot: CBS New York via Youtube)
Why the Caneiro quadruple murder trial took more than seven years
Paul Caneiro started with a public defender before using several prominent defense attorneys in the following years. In February 2025, Monika Mastellone took over as defense attorney.
In December 2018, the Monmouth County Prosecutor’s Office had already said that a trial might not get underway until 2020. That was before the COVID-19 pandemic wreaked havoc on all court proceedings.
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The state Supreme Court agreed in September to hear prosecutors’ appeal on one of Superior Court Judge Marc Lemieux’s rulings on evidence in the case, pushing jury selection to this month.
Last month, the state Supreme Court ruled that prosecutors can use a digital video recorder as evidence in Caneiro’s trial, despite it being taken without a warrant issued, NJ.com reported.
Seven years ago, CBS New York shared video of Caneiro’s first court appearance.
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