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Dear Life Kit: Is it a faux pas to create a 'happy graduation' registry for myself?

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Dear Life Kit: Is it a faux pas to create a 'happy graduation' registry for myself?

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Dear Life Kit is NPR’s advice column, where experts answer tricky questions about relationships, social etiquette, work culture and more. 

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This question was answered by comedian, writer and advice columnistSophia Benoit. The conversation has been edited for length and clarity.

Dear Life Kit, 

I’m a single woman in my mid-30s. I never married and have no kids. Recently, I went back to school for an MBA. I’ll be graduating soon, and I’m wondering if I can create a “happy graduation” registry, similar to the kind people make when getting married or having a baby. 

I love my family and friends, and I’ve never thought twice about buying wedding or baby gifts over the years. Those are big moments and they should be celebrated. 

Does my big achievement reach that same level of recognition? Would it be rude to send out invitations to a celebration that also includes a registry link?” — Party of one 

In general, I think registries, even at weddings, have an inherent awkwardness to them. They’re saying, “hey, get me things.”

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But I am so into this idea for you. I think it’s fabulous. Part of love is accepting help and generosity as well as giving those things out. If you reframe this registry for yourself as, “I’m celebrating this huge milestone in my life, and I’d like to invite people to celebrate this with me. And if somebody wants to, here are things I would really love,” you’re inviting them in. This is a nice way to include everybody.

You can have a sense of humor about it and say, even in the invite, “This MBA is my baby,” or something cute. You can shout out that it is a little unusual, and even include a note like, “Please don’t feel like you have to get me anything.”

I think anyone who has a problem with it probably has very traditional ideas about things, and that’s OK. They can just not participate. If somebody thinks you’re too bold and that bothers them, that’s a good thing to be. You don’t need to put yourself in a box that someone else created. And if your little “faux pas” leads to a KitchenAid mixer, you came out ahead.

This digital story was written by Beck Harlan. It was edited by Malaka Gharib. The visual editor is Beck Harlan.

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Estée Lauder, the beauty company that owns Clinique and MAC Cosmetics, has cut its dividend and ditched its profit forecast as a sales slump in China deepens, prompting a 25 per cent plunge in its shares as trading opened in New York.

The New York-listed beauty group, which is in the midst of a turnaround and leadership transition, said on Thursday that a recovery in Chinese demand had proved slower than expected, with sales in the country falling by a double-digit percentage in the three months to the end of September.

As a result of the difficulty in forecasting when the Chinese market will recover, Estée Lauder said it was withdrawing its outlook for the rest of the year and reducing its dividend to a “more appropriate” level.

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Fabrizio Freda, who will retire as chief executive in January after 16 years at the company, said Estée Lauder expected “still-strong declines” in demand in China as well as in tourist shopping in Asia in the near term, and “ongoing normalisation of growth in prestige beauty, most notably in North America”.

The beauty industry has taken a hit from the economic slowdown in China, which has been a major profit engine for Estée Lauder and its larger rival L’Oréal in recent years.

The dour outlook will be another challenge incoming chief executive Stéphane de La Faverie will have to contend with when he takes the reins at a time when the Lauder family that controls the beauty group is stepping back from day-to-day management.

The company is implementing a turnaround programme designed to cut costs and overheads while reinvesting in its brands and innovation. Freda said the reset had “delivered promising initial results”.

After underperforming peers during two years of falling sales and profits, Thursday’s outlook cut is another blow for a company whose shares are now down 55 per cent this year, reducing its market value to $23bn.

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The Paris-listed lender reported quarterly net income of €2.87bn, 5.9 per cent higher than a year ago, and a 2.7 per cent increase in revenues to €11.9bn. Both figures were in line with analysts’ expectations.

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The bank’s common equity tier one ratio fell 30 basis points in the three months to September 30 to 12.7 per cent, but the measure of financial resilience remains well above regulatory requirements and the banks own target.

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“BNP remains very attractive in terms of risk [versus] reward as it is very diversified with a solid balance sheet,” analysts at Oddo BHF wrote ahead of the results. 

BNP affirmed its full-year guidance, including a target to increase revenues by at least 2 per cent over 2023 levels.

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