Aaron Graves had a message for his wife Aubrey before departing for Iowa football’s rivalry game against Nebraska.
“I was like, ‘I’m not leaving you here in the hospital to lose,’” Graves said. “So I was like, ‘We better win this freaking game.’”
Graves echoed a similar sentiment to his fellow defensive linemen before the first drive of the Hawkeyes’ game in Lincoln.
“I was like, ‘Guys, I did not leave my baby in the hospital to lose this game,’” Graves said. “‘So we better freaking come out firing on all cylinders.’”
On Thanksgiving Day in 2025, Grayson Knox Graves was born at 3:07 p.m. On Black Friday in 2025, Graves helped Iowa beat Nebraska 40-16.
“The last 24 hours are probably the craziest of my life, for sure,” Graves said.
He added: “Just like the emotions of all that in the 24-hour time span is just ridiculous. I mean, last (regular-season) game as a senior, getting the win here in Nebraska and wife, obviously, giving birth to our boy, our first-born of our family.”
Aubrey went into labor on Wednesday. There was uncertainty whether Graves would even make it to Friday’s game if she had not yet given birth by kickoff. But those within the program provided support, including head coach Kirk Ferentz.
“He was just super happy for us, called us a bunch of times while we were in the hospital,” Graves said. “It was really just about Aubrey’s well-being and how we’re doing as a family. It was nothing like, ‘You better get to the game, too.’ It was just, ‘How are you guys doing?’ He just cares so much about his players, and you can’t ask for a better coach.”
Gestures like that speak to why Graves ended up at Iowa in the first place.
Once a high-profile prospect from Southeast Valley High School in Gowrie, Graves made his college decision long before signing day. Even though he was a member of the 2022 high school class, Graves committed to the Hawkeyes in June of 2019.
“Incredibly grateful,” Graves said of Ferentz’s support while Graves’ wife was in labor. “People ask me all the time like, ‘Why did you choose Iowa so young?’ That’s why. Because I get to play for an awesome man.”
Grayson was due in January of 2026, which could have brought a different set of challenges with the timing of his birth.
Graves is a finalist for the 2025 William V. Campbell Trophy, given to college football’s premier scholar-athlete. He is scheduled to attend an awards dinner in Las Vegas on Dec. 9. Plus, the Hawkeyes are likely to play their bowl game around the new year.
“Something that we’ve been praying about for a long time is just the timing of Grayson,” Graves said. “Because we didn’t know, like with the bowl game, how all that was going to work and going to Vegas here in a couple of weeks for the award banquet. Aubrey was going to stay home and she was really stressing about that, and I know that’s been at the top of our prayer list for a while. Both of our moms have been praying about good timing on it.”
It turned out to be fitting that Grayson was born on Thanksgiving Day.
“It was kind of funny because we found out on Easter that we were having a baby, and then he was born on Thanksgiving,” Graves said. “So my mom was like, he must really like holidays.”
Video: Aaron Graves became father the day before helping Iowa beat Nebraska
Aaron Graves meets with media after Iowa football’s 40-16 win over Nebraska.
Graves did not travel with the team to Nebraska. Iowa general manager and chief of staff Tyler Barnes stayed back with Graves. They flew on a donor’s plane to Nebraska, arriving around 10 p.m. the night before the game.
The game against Nebraska was Graves’ 51st appearance as a Hawkeye. He has been a consistent force on the Hawkeyes’ defensive line, starting each of the Hawkeyes’ last 25 games.
Iowa did not come out firing on all cylinders against Nebraska like Graves wanted. Nebraska running back Emmett Johnson shredded Iowa on the ground in the first half, rushing for 177 yards before the halftime break. Iowa led by eight points at the intermission.
“Just some guys getting out of the gaps a few times,” Graves said. “That was the main part. In the second half, it was more just, we need to tackle this guy. We need to wrap him up and actually get him to the ground. Stay in your gap and then get off the ball when he actually gets to your gap.”
It was an entirely different story after halftime. As a team, Nebraska totaled just 42 rushing yards in the second half. Iowa’s offense piled on points as the Hawkeyes turned the game into a blowout. Graves finished the game with two tackles and one pass breakup.
“Hats off to them, they’ve got a really good player in the backfield (Emmett Johnson),” Graves said. “He’s a great player and he made some good plays, but we kind of rallied there and found ways to stop him. That’s something that we like to take pride in, stopping the run.”
Grayson was on Graves’ mind quite often on game day. Asked what in particular he was thinking about, Graves got choked up and could barely muster a response. But he did get out a few words.
“Just how much I love him,” Graves said.
Graves followed through on his word: He didn’t leave his wife in the hospital to lose.
Iowa won the freaking game.
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