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The summer of Travis Kelce: Inside an action-packed offseason as a rising celebrity

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ST. JOSEPH, Mo. — In late June, the quietest time on the NFL calendar, Kansas City Chiefs general manager Brett Veach started receiving text message after text message while on a family vacation. Questions raced through his mind.

Was there breaking NFL news? Did a member of the Chiefs organization need his attention? Did something happen to one of the players?

Once he looked at what several people sent him, Veach’s reaction was similar to so many around the world: Travis Kelce was on stage with Taylor Swift.

Across the Atlantic Ocean, at London’s Wembley Stadium, Kelce made a surprise appearance as a performer during one of Swift’s mega concerts. More than 90,000 people screamed, cheered and pointed their smartphones at the stage to record Kelce’s every move alongside Swift, the pop superstar artist he’s been dating for more than a year.

“He’s a showman,” Veach said of Kelce. “He has just a natural gift of being able to perform in front of people. Obviously, we get the most benefit when he’s doing it on Sundays.

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“It’s funny because when you see those clips with him on tour with Taylor, it looks as if he was a part of that show for months. But it was that one day, and he just looks natural. It’s a gift he has.”

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Those few minutes on stage with the world’s biggest pop artist proved to be the apex moment for Kelce’s epic summer, a packed offseason unlike any before during his 12-year career as a Chiefs tight end.

Donning a black tuxedo and top hat, Kelce flashed his charming smile, executed a perfect heel click and carried Swift, who acted asleep, to a red couch. The concert’s transition from one song to “I Can Do It With a Broken Heart,” the hit from Swift’s most recent album “The Tortured Poets Department,” included Kelce, alongside two dancers, waking her up to change into a different costume before performing the song.

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Kelce’s final act was an easy one. He gazed at Swift and provided some comedy by putting a blush brush on his cheeks and doing an uptempo tap dance reminiscent of actor Jim Carrey in the movie “Dumb and Dumber.”

Of course, performing with Swift was Kelce’s idea.

“She found the perfect part of the show for me to come in,” Kelce said in the season finale of “New Heights,” the podcast he hosts with his brother, Jason. “It’s such a fun, playful part of the show. It was the perfect time for me to go up there and just be a ham and have some fun and try to get everybody excited for the rest of the show. It was awesome.

“That moment was pretty jarring. I was just like, ‘Oh s—!’ You don’t realize how big that damn stage is. I didn’t disappoint Taylor. That’s all that really matters.”

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Kelce has many more ideas of what he can do in the entertainment industry once his NFL career ends, too.

This offseason showed that Kelce plans to remain a significant part of American pop culture, perhaps becoming an even bigger celebrity long after he enters the Pro Football Hall of Fame. He gallivanted from one event to the next, from one part-time TV job to the next and remained an encouraging, energizing presence at many stops on Swift’s worldwide “Eras Tour.”

Veach and many others within the Chiefs organization realize Kelce, in perhaps the final phase of his NFL career, is becoming a perfect crossover athlete, following former football stars such as Michael Strahan, Carl Weathers and Dwayne Johnson — also known in pro wrestling circles as The Rock.

“A lot of people tense up around a large group of people with eyes on them, and some people just thrive in that environment,” Veach said. “He’s one of those guys where the more eyes he has on him, the more he lights up. It’s cool and fun to see. He’s just got that gift to relate to people and make people smile.”

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In early June, Kelce needed a few seconds to decide which was his favorite experience away from the football field up to that point. He then thought of his many trips to Los Angeles.

“I would say getting a little more comfortable in front of the camera, doing some things in the acting world,” Kelce said. “That’s been some fun that I’ve had, so look out for that coming up soon.”

Kelce wants to become a full-fledged actor one day, and his first opportunity to play a character on camera began in the spring. Actress/comedian Niecy Nash-Betts revealed in early May that Kelce would be guest starring alongside her in “Grotesquerie,” an FX horror and drama TV show. Kelce’s role in the show has remained a mystery. In the trailer, Kelce is on screen for less than two seconds, his character wearing a gold wedding ring. The show is set to premiere Sept. 25 ahead of the Chiefs’ third game of the season.

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In April, Kelce began taping episodes of his new game show, “Are You Smarter Than a Celebrity?,” a spinoff of the popular game show “Are You Smarter Than a 5th Grader?” As the show’s host, Kelce was alongside adult contestants who relied on a group of celebrities — instead of fifth-grade students — to help them answer 11 questions on a range of subjects to win a $100,000 prize. The first of the show’s 20 episodes is set to premiere Oct. 16 on Amazon Prime Video.

The TV opportunities for Kelce have increased since last year, when he hosted “Saturday Night Live,” the long-running NBC comedy show he adored as a child. Much of that episode, from the opening monologue to appearing in several sketches, showcased Kelce’s gregarious personality and comedic timing, so much that movie and TV producers were impressed and intrigued.

Kelce also shared on his podcast that he wants to follow former players like Tom Brady, Troy Aikman and Tony Romo in becoming a color commentator for NFL games after he retires.

“I love playing in the NFL,” Kelce said in June. “This will always be my main focus. But outside of that, football ends for everybody, so (I’m) kind of dipping my toes in the water and seeing what (I) like in different areas and different career fields.

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“I think the offseason is the best chance you can get to try and explore that and set yourself up for (life) after football.”

Two days after the NFL Draft, Kelce, who will turn 35 in October, gave the first indication that he could retire after the 2025 season.

He entered the Chiefs training facility and signed a new two-year contract with the team, making him the highest-paid tight end for the first time in his career. Minutes after signing, Kelce became emotional, almost near tears, when he recorded a video thanking fans while informing them of his continued partnership with the Chiefs.

“I really can’t put a timeframe on (retirement),” Kelce said. “Obviously, I know there’s opportunities outside of football for me. You have to keep in perspective that I’m still a little kid when I come into this building, man.

“I love coming to work every single day. I’m going to do it until the wheels fall off. Hopefully, that doesn’t happen anytime soon. I can definitely understand that it’s toward the end of the road (more) than it is the beginning of it.”

Kelce’s offseason essentially began with him in Philadelphia in early March to watch Jason, a six-time All-Pro and future Hall of Famer who helped the Eagles win the franchise’s only Super Bowl in 2018, retire from the NFL. Despite wearing sunglasses, Kelce could be seen crying throughout his brother’s emotional 41-minute speech.

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“We did almost everything together — competed, fought, laughed, cried and learned from each other,” Jason, 36, said of his younger brother. “There is no chance I’d be here without the bond Travis and I share. It made me stronger, tougher, smarter and taught me the values of cooperation, loyalty, patience and understanding.”

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A few weeks later, the brothers hosted a live episode of their podcast at the University of Cincinnati, their alma mater. The event at Fifth Third Arena attracted more than 12,500 fans and ended with a surprise commencement ceremony as the school’s president and athletic director gave each brother his diploma. Kelce accepted his diploma while chugging a beer, which produced roaring cheers.

He did a similar celebration in May, chugging a beer off a replica of the Vince Lombardi Trophy while on stage during Kelce Jam, his annual musical festival in Kansas City that featured hip-hop artists such as Lil Wayne and 2 Chainz.

Another much-anticipated moment for Kelce came when the Chiefs returned to the White House to celebrate their second consecutive Super Bowl victory. The year before, Kelce made the crowd laugh when he approached the lectern, saying just seven words — “So, I’ve been waiting for this moment …” — before he was gently pushed back by quarterback Patrick Mahomes while photographers snapped shots of President Joe Biden with a red No. 46 jersey with his last name stitched on the back.

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This year, though, Biden welcomed Kelce to the microphone for another joke.

“My fellow Americans … it’s nice to see you all yet again,” Kelce started, leading everyone in the crowd to laugh, including Biden. “I’m not going to lie, President Biden. They told me if I came up here, I’d get tased, so I’m gonna go back to my spot, all right?”

The 10-minute ceremony ended with the team presenting Biden with the gift of a Chiefs helmet, which Kelce encouraged him to put on. Biden obliged, much to the surprise of the players, who responded with loud cheers and laughter.

A week later, Kelce was back in the Cleveland area, his hometown, winning the home run derby, hitting 11 dingers, in a celebrity softball game hosted by Cleveland Browns tight end David Njoku. Afterward, Njoku called Kelce one of the nicest people he’s ever met.

“I’d like to say my father (Ed) would slap me silly if I was any other way,” Kelce said, grinning. “Sometimes you’ve got to straighten up and do the right things. Over the course of my life, I’ve found that being kind and being genuine is the right way to live. My mom (Donna) and dad are the reason I’m always just a friendly guy.”

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Any new details about Kelce’s relationship with Swift are significant for fans of both. Kelce, understandably, has not revealed very much to protect their privacy.

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But even Kelce knows most people these days are eager to talk to him about Swift as much as his football exploits. In June, after one of the Chiefs’ minicamp practices, a reporter asked a follow-up question — “What do you like cooking together?” — after Swift posted a short video of them together in the kitchen.

“That’s a good question,” Kelce said, smiling. After a brief pause, he continued: “You know, I respect that question. But I’m going to keep that one to myself because I thoroughly enjoy cooking with her. It’s something I’d rather just keep personal.”

Four minutes later, once his news conference ended, Kelce answered the reporter’s question, doing so in a comedic fashion just before he left the podium.

“Taylor makes a great pop tart and cinnamon roll,” he said.

Kelce traveled more than he ever had before. He promoted and was filmed in national commercial (Subway) after national commercial (Garage Beer) after national commercial (Accelerator Active Energy). He and Jason appeared in Lake Tahoe to compete in the American Century Championship celebrity golf tournament with fans flocking to their group.

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Kelce also flew to Europe several times — London, Dublin and many other cities — to attend as many of Swift’s concerts as possible, each time being more stunned by the number of people wearing his Chiefs jersey.

Kelce danced and sang along to Swift’s songs next to celebrities, including Tom Cruise, Julia Roberts, Paul McCartney, Stevie Nicks and Hugh Grant.

“I think it’s great for him,” Chiefs coach Andy Reid said of Kelce on the first episode of “Scoop City,” The Athletic’s podcast. “He can handle it. He probably loves it, up to a point. I think there’s a great escape for him. I said that about Taylor, too. She comes to the game and she can kind of escape having to be the show. Travis can do that. When he goes to her concerts, she’s the star.

“He’s an outgoing guy. He comes into a room, he’s gonna light that room up. Everybody’s his best friend. Until you prove him wrong, everybody’s a friend. It’s not something that he can’t handle.”

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A byproduct of Kelce’s crammed itinerary was changing his usual training routine. Wherever Kelce was, one of his three personal trainers — Alex Skacel, Andrew Spruill and Laurence Justin Ng — usually was with him.

“I’m doing some things different,” Kelce said, although he and his trainers declined to share details. “I’ve got guys all over the place.”

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Last season was the first time since 2015 that Kelce didn’t finish with at least 1,000 receiving yards. Part of the reason was he played through two nagging injuries, a hyperextended right knee and a low ankle sprain. His production declined over the second half of the season as his ability to evade defenders or break tackles decreased.

But in the Chiefs’ four-game postseason run, after a week of rest in the regular-season finale, Kelce elevated his game, making 32 receptions for 355 yards and three touchdowns.

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“The biggest thing was getting my body right,” Kelce said of working with his trainers this offseason. “Last year was pretty taxing. I’ve had more snaps than a lot of guys, if not every (tight end) in the NFL over the past five, six years. I’m very (proud) of that, but I know it has taken a toll on my body.

“It was just making sure my body was getting that rest and that ability to train harder and be able to withstand an entire 17- to 20-game season.”

Swift has supported Kelce by sometimes training alongside him. One of Kelce’s favorite moments from the offseason came in July, days before training camp began, when he and Swift went on a double date in Amsterdam with Mahomes and his wife, Brittany.

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“Honestly, to me, he’s the same guy,” Mahomes said of Kelce. “It’s a huge platform and everyone in the world can see it, deservedly so because of how great Taylor is, but it’s still Travis. I think that’s what makes it so cool, even though it’s such a big thing for the world.

“We were just having fun and enjoying a dinner just like anyone else would. That’s what makes it so great. We don’t make it more than what it is; it’s just friendship, fellowship and enjoying everyone’s success.”

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One part of Kelce’s summer remained the same, though: It ended with him returning to Missouri Western State in St. Joseph, Mo., to report to Chiefs training camp, another month living in a dormitory inside Scanlon Hall, which houses first-year students during the school year.

“This is my sanctuary, baby; St. Joe, Year 12,” Kelce said with a smile. “That means I’ve spent just about an entire year in my life up here in the dorms, man. Everybody may see that as pretty grueling, but I enjoy it, man.”

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In the past month, Kelce has reminded everyone on the team why he is the league’s best tight end and did his best to quash any suggestion that his offseason activities would be a distraction to the Chiefs. He never missed a practice during camp in hopes of ensuring he has a more productive season than in 2023. Whether in one-on-one drills or the fast-paced team periods, Kelce demonstrated his skills as one of the league’s smoothest route runners and pass catchers.

After each practice, Kelce spent an extra few minutes working on his blocking techniques against a blocking sled. When backup players went through their repetitions, Kelce often spent time talking plays over with Mahomes or sharing his insight with rookie tight end Jared Wiley. When emotions among some players became overheated, Kelce showed his leadership skills, including correctly criticizing defensive end George Karlaftis for de-cleating receiver Kadarius Toney during a non-padded practice.

“He has a unique way of leading and still having that kid quality on the field where he can joke with guys,” Reid said of Kelce. “He gets when to be a goofball and when to crank it up and be serious.”

At the start of camp, Kelce continued one of his traditions. He shaved off his beard, leaving just a thick, walrus-like mustache to resemble Reid. But Mahomes shared that Kelce’s haircut was not the same as last year. Instead of a buzzcut, Kelce has let his hair grow throughout camp because of a request from Swift.

This summer, Kelce made one concession to Reid: He agreed to take fewer repetitions in practice during camp to help ensure he wouldn’t be overworked before Sept. 5, the Chiefs’ season opener against the Baltimore Ravens. Even with fewer reps, Kelce still found time to display his joyful, creative playstyle. Sometimes the ball didn’t stay in his hands long after he made a reception, instead pitching a perfect lateral to a teammate, such as wide receiver Marquise Brown, running back Isiah Pacheco or fellow tight end Noah Gray.

Each practice for Kelce ended the same, with him smiling, his body and red jersey drenched in sweat.

“He actually gets mad when (the coaches) take him out,” Mahomes said of Kelce. “He has all the right in the world to kind of be on the sideline because he knows all the (plays). He doesn’t necessarily need the reps, but he loves working.

“It makes my job easier as a leader to push other guys because I can just say, ‘Look at the Hall of Famer who’s out here practicing harder than anybody.’ He enjoys the process of being great.”

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(Illustration: Dan Goldfarb / The Athletic; photos: Gareth Cattermole / TAS24, Courtney Culbreath, Andrew Harnik / Getty Images)

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Poetry Challenge Day 2: Love, How It Works and What It Means

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Maybe you woke up this morning haunted by the first four lines of W.H. Auden’s “The More Loving One” — or tickled by its tongue-in-cheek handling of existential dread. (Not ringing any bells? Click here to begin the Poetry Challenge).

This is a love poem. Perhaps that seems like an obvious thing to say about a poem with “Loving” in its title, but there isn’t much romance in the opening stanza.

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Looking up at the stars, I know quite well 

That, for all they care, I can go to hell, 

But on earth indifference is the least 

We have to dread from man or beast. 

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Ada Limón, poet

Nonetheless, the poem soon makes clear that love is very much on its mind.

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How should we like it were stars to burn 

With a passion for us we could not return? 

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David Sedaris, writer

The polished informality gives the impression of a decidedly cerebral speaker — someone who’s looking at love philosophically, thinking about how it works and what it means.

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If equal affection cannot be, 

Let the more loving one be me. 

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Reginald Dwayne Betts, poet

Musing this way — arguing in this fashion — he stands in a long line of playful, thoughtful poetic lovers going back at least to the 16th century. He sounds a bit like Christopher Marlowe’s passionate shepherd:

Come live with me and be my love,

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And we will all the pleasures prove,

That Valleys, groves, hills, and fields,

Woods, or steepy mountain yields.

Christopher Marlowe, “The Passionate Shepherd to His Love

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Auden’s poem, like Marlowe’s, is written in four-beat lines:

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How should we like it were stars to burn 

With a passion for us we could not return? 

Josh Radnor, actor

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And it features strong end rhymes:

If equal affection cannot be, 

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Let the more loving one be me. 

Samantha Harvey, writer

These tetrameter couplets represent a long-established poetic love language. Not too serious or sappy, but with room for both earnestness and whimsy. And even for professions of the opposite of love, as in this nursery rhyme, adapted from a 17th-century epigram:

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I do not like thee, Doctor Fell

The reason why I cannot tell.

But this I know and know full well

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I do not like thee, Doctor Fell.

There is some of this anti-love spirit in Auden’s poem too, but it mainly follows a general rule of love poetry: The person speaking is usually the more loving one.

This makes sense. To write a poem requires effort, art, inspiration. To speak in verse is to tease, to cajole, to seduce, all actions that suggest an excess of desire. That’s why it’s conventional to refer to the “I” in a poem like this as the Lover and the “you” as the Beloved. The line “Let the more loving one be me” could summarize a lot of the love poetry of the last few thousand years.

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W.H. Auden as a young man. Tom Graves, via Bridgeman Images

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But who, in this case, is the beloved? This isn’t a poem to the stars, but about them. Or maybe a poem that uses the stars as a conceit and our complicated feelings about them as a screen for other difficult emotions.

What the stars have to do with love is a tricky question. The answer may just be that the poem assumes a relationship and then plays with the implications of its assumption.

This kind of play also has a long history. Since love is both abstract and susceptible to cliché, poets are eager to liken it to everything else under the sun: birds, bees, planets, stars, the movement of the tides and the cycle of the seasons. Andrew Marvell’s “Definition of Love,” from the 1600s, wraps its ardor in math:

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As lines, so loves oblique may well

Themselves in every angle greet;

But ours so truly parallel,

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Though infinite, can never meet.

Andrew Marvell, “The Definition of Love

The literary term for this is wit. The formidable 18th-century English wordsmith Samuel Johnson defined a type of wit as “a combination of dissimilar images, or discovery of occult resemblances in things apparently unlike.” “The most heterogeneous ideas are yoked by violence together,” he wrote; that kind of conceptual discord defines “The More Loving One.”

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The second stanza is, when you think about it, a perfect non sequitur. A hypothetical, general question is asked:

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How should we like it were stars to burn 

With a passion for us we could not return? 

Mary Roach, writer

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The answer is a personal declaration that is moving because it doesn’t seem to apply only or primarily to stars:

If equal affection cannot be, 

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Let the more loving one be me. 

Tim Egan, writer

Does this disjunction make it easier or harder to remember? Either way, these couplets start to reveal just how curious this poem is. We might find ourselves curious about who wrote them, and whom he might have loved. Tomorrow we’ll get to know Auden and his work a little better.

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Your task today: Learn the second stanza!

Play a game to learn it by heart. Need more practice? Listen to Ada Limón, Matthew McConaughey, W.H. Auden and others recite our poem.

Question 1/6

Let’s start with the first couplet in this stanza. Fill in the rhyming words.

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How should we like it were stars to burn 

With a passion for us we could not return? 

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Tap a word above to fill in the highlighted blank.

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Ready for another round? Try your hand at the 2025 Poetry Challenge.

Edited by Gregory Cowles, Alicia DeSantis and Nick Donofrio. Additional editing by Emily Eakin,
Joumana Khatib, Emma Lumeij and Miguel Salazar. Design and development by Umi Syam. Additional
game design by Eden Weingart. Video editing by Meg Felling. Photo editing by Erica Ackerberg.
Illustration art direction by Tala Safie.

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Illustrations by Daniel Barreto.

Text and audio recording of “The More Loving One,” by W.H. Auden, copyright © by the Estate of
W.H. Auden. Reprinted by permission of Curtis Brown, Ltd. Photograph accompanying Auden recording
from Imagno/Getty Images.

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Oedipa Maas from ‘The Crying of Lot 49’ (1966) by Thomas Pynchon

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“The unforgettable, cartoonish protagonist of this unusually short novel is a California housewife accidentally turned private investigator and literary interpreter, and the mystery she’s attempting to solve — or, more specifically, the conspiracy she stumbles upon — is nothing less than capitalism itself,” says Ngai, 54. “As Oedipa traces connections between various crackpots, the novel highlights the peculiarly asocial sociality of postwar U.S. society, which gets figured as a network of alienations.”

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Sula Peace from ‘Sula’ (1973) by Toni Morrison

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“Sula arguably begins to disappear as soon as she’s introduced — despite the fact that the novel bears her name. Other characters die quickly, or are noticeably flat. This raises the politically charged question of who gets to ‘develop’ or be a protagonist in American novels and who doesn’t. The novel’s unusual character system is part of its meditation on anti-Black racism and historical violence.”

The speaker of ‘Lunch Poems’ (1964) by Frank O’Hara

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“Lyric poems are fundamentally different from narrative fiction in part because they have speakers as opposed to narrators. Perhaps it’s a stretch to nominate the speaker of ‘Lunch Poems’ as a main character, but this book changed things by highlighting the centrality of queer counterpublics to U.S. culture as a whole, and by exploring the joys and risks of everyday intimacy with strangers therein.”

This interview has been edited and condensed.

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Poetry Challenge: Memorize “The More Loving One” by W.H. Auden

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Let’s memorize a poem! Not because it’s good for us or because we think we should, but because it’s fun, a mental challenge with a solid aesthetic reward. You can amuse yourself, impress your friends and maybe discover that your way of thinking about the world — or even, as you’ll see, the universe — has shifted a bit.

Over the next five days, we’ll look closely at a great poem by one of our favorite poets, and we’ll have games, readings and lots of encouragement to help you learn it by heart. Some of you know how this works: Last year more Times readers than we could count memorized a jaunty 18-line recap of an all-night ferry ride. (If you missed that adventure, it’s not too late to embark. The ticket is still valid.)

This time, we’re training our telescopes on W.H. Auden’s “The More Loving One” — a clever, compact meditation on love, disappointment and the night sky.

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Here’s the first of its four stanzas, read for us by Matthew McConaughey:

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The More Loving One by W.H. Auden 

Looking up at the stars, I know quite well 

That, for all they care, I can go to hell, 

But on earth indifference is the least 

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We have to dread from man or beast. 

Matthew McConaughey, actor and poet

In four short lines we get a brisk, cynical tour of the universe: hell and the heavens, people and animals, coldness and cruelty. Commonplace observations — that the stars are distant; that life can be dangerous — are wound into a charming, provocative insight. The tone is conversational, mixing decorum and mild profanity in a manner that makes it a pleasure to keep reading.

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Here’s Tracy K. Smith, a former U.S. poet laureate, with the second stanza:

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How should we like it were stars to burn 

With a passion for us we could not return? 

If equal affection cannot be, 

Let the more loving one be me. 

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Tracy K. Smith, poet

These lines abruptly shift the focus from astronomy to love, from the universal to the personal. Imagine how it would feel if the stars had massive, unrequited crushes on us! The speaker, couching his skepticism in a coy, hypothetical question, seems certain that we wouldn’t like this at all.

This certainty leads him to a remarkable confession, a moment of startling vulnerability. The poem’s title, “The More Loving One,” is restated with sweet, disarming frankness. Our friend is wearing his heart on his well-tailored sleeve.

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The poem could end right there: two stanzas, point and counterpoint, about how we appreciate the stars in spite of their indifference because we would rather love than be loved.

But the third stanza takes it all back. Here’s Alison Bechdel reading it:

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Admirer as I think I am 

Of stars that do not give a damn, 

I cannot, now I see them, say 

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I missed one terribly all day. 

Alison Bechdel, graphic novelist

The speaker downgrades his foolish devotion to qualified admiration. No sooner has he established himself as “the more loving one” than he gives us — and perhaps himself — reason to doubt his ardor. He likes the stars fine, he guesses, but not so much as to think about them when they aren’t around.

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The fourth and final stanza, read by Yiyun Li, takes this disenchantment even further:

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Were all stars to disappear or die, 

I should learn to look at an empty sky 

And feel its total dark sublime, 

Though this might take me a little time. 

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Yiyun Li, author

Wounded defiance gives way to a more rueful, resigned state of mind. If the universe were to snuff out its lights entirely, the speaker reckons he would find beauty in the void. A starless sky would make him just as happy.

Though perhaps, like so many spurned lovers before and after, he protests a little too much. Every fan of popular music knows that a song about how you don’t care that your baby left you is usually saying the opposite.

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The last line puts a brave face on heartbreak.

So there you have it. In just 16 lines, this poem manages to be somber and funny, transparent and elusive. But there’s more to it than that. There is, for one thing, a voice — a thinking, feeling person behind those lines.

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W.H. Auden in 1962. Sam Falk/The New York Times

When he wrote “The More Loving One,” in the 1950s, Wystan Hugh Auden was among the most beloved writers in the English-speaking world. Before this week is over there will be more to say about Auden, but like most poets he would have preferred that we give our primary attention to the poem.

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Its structure is straightforward and ingenious. Each of the four stanzas is virtually a poem unto itself — a complete thought expressed in one or two sentences tied up in a neat pair of couplets. Every quatrain is a concise, witty observation: what literary scholars call an epigram.

This makes the work of memorization seem less daunting. We can take “The More Loving One” one epigram at a time, marvelling at how the four add up to something stranger, deeper and more complex than might first appear.

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So let’s go back to the beginning and try to memorize that insouciant, knowing first stanza. Below you’ll find a game we made to get you started. Give it a shot, and come back tomorrow for more!

Your first task: Learn the first four lines!

Play a game to learn it by heart. Need more practice? Listen to Ada Limón, Matthew McConaughey, W.H. Auden and others recite our poem.

Question 1/6

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Let’s start with the first couplet. Fill in the rhyming words.

Looking up at the stars, I know quite well 

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That, for all they care, I can go to hell, 

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Tap a word above to fill in the highlighted blank.

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Ready for another round? Try your hand at the 2025 Poetry Challenge.

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Edited by Gregory Cowles, Alicia DeSantis and Nick Donofrio. Additional editing by Emily Eakin,
Joumana Khatib, Emma Lumeij and Miguel Salazar. Design and development by Umi Syam. Additional
game design by Eden Weingart. Video editing by Meg Felling. Photo editing by Erica Ackerberg.
Illustration art direction by Tala Safie.

Illustrations by Daniel Barreto.

Text and audio recording of “The More Loving One,” by W.H. Auden, copyright © by the Estate of
W.H. Auden. Reprinted by permission of Curtis Brown, Ltd. Photograph accompanying Auden recording
from Imagno/Getty Images.

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