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A few years ago, I picked up dancing again after many years of taking a break. I was surprised how happy and free it made me feel, in addition to the physical workout. Now I want to share that wonderful feeling with others.

I asked experts to share their best advice on how to dance. Anyone can do it, and no special shoes or skills are required — except, of course, really great music. (Spotify tells me I’m having an “Indie Sleaze Strut Pop” moment, whatever that means.)

As you read this comic, follow each step — and you’ll be moving and grooving in no time.

… until the pandemic. I was living with my parents … and I needed a way to get out of the house. Connie eats dinner with their parents, looking bored. They stare wistfully out a nearby window. So I started taking ballet classes at a local studio — and discovered a new love for something I’d only sort of liked as a teen. It felt good to express myself through movement when so much else in my life was restricted. Connie dances with other adults in class, all wearing face masks.
In fact, studies have found that dancing regularly can help you feel less anxious and stressed. Connie chats with their parents, looking happy and animated. Interested in giving dance a try? Whether you’re a total beginner or coming back to it like me, anyone can dance. Get up and try these steps as you read the comic — and you’ll be dancing in no time! Connie offers a hand to the reader, pulling them into a dance floor full of people having a blast.
Step 1: Play a favorite song and start moving your body any way you like. You may feel awkward, and that’s OK. Here’s what to do when those thoughts start to creep up. Connie crouches over, looking nervous while music plays, thinking “I look weird!” and “Ugh…” “Allow yourself to just feel what you’re feeling,” says Jacelyn Biondo, dance therapist. Jacelyn is a white woman with a shaved head, large round glasses and a septum ring. “Settle into your body, be present, don’t think about whether this looks good.” If you keep at it, you’ll get better at enjoying yourself. Connie dances their way through their earlier anxious thoughts.
Step 2: Try some fun dance moves. Incorporate different motions and maneuvers into your dance. What emotions or images does the music stir up in you? Try translating that into movement. Connie sways slowly to sad music, jumps up and down to a punk song, and does disco fingers to disco music. Don’t worry about dancing the “right” way. “If it feels safe for you, then it’s OK to be moving that way,” says Jacelyn. Below her, various people dance in different ways – an older woman wiggles her arms, a young boy pushes his hands forward, and a woman with curly hair twerks.
Step 3: Find the beat and let it lead you. If you feel confused about when to move your limbs or switch up your moves, try to clap or count along to the beat. Connie claps along to the beat of “Twinkle, twinkle little star,” splitting the first two sentences into eight counts. A lot of pop music is split into measures of four beats, and many dancers will group two measures into a total of eight counts to form phrases they choreograph or dance to. Connie dances through an eight-count choreographic phrase. Once you’ve found the beat, move in sync with it or come up with original moves to set to counts of eight.
Step 4: Resist the urge to dance in front of the mirror. It may just make you more self-conscious. “I think it’s important to understand who you are from the inside out and not lean on the mirror to tell you what’s good, what’s bad,” says Alicia Graf Mack, dean and director of dance at The Juilliard School. Alicia is a black woman with long curly hair. Instead of looking at your reflection, look in the direction of where you want to move your body next. Or close your eyes briefly to feel how your body is moving in space. This can help you feel more connected to your movement. Connie dances, looking at their hands moving and closing their eyes
Step 5: Grab a dance partner. You know what makes dancing even better? Dancing with someone else! Connie and a woman with a long ponytail and short dress approach each other and start dancing together. “When you join somebody in your body, there’s an energetic connection,” says Jacelyn Biondo. Connie and their partner keep dancing together, getting closer and looking into each other's eyes. “A movement connection. An empathetic connection. We are truly seen in that moment.”
Step 6: Sign up for a class to take your dancing a step further. Check out local dance studios, community centers, fitness centers or universities. Connie tries different styles: swing dancing, line dancing, even step aerobics. If you’re not sure what style of dance interests you, give something a shot and see. “If it feels good to the soul, if the movement makes you feel a certain way, that’s the class you want to show up in,” says Kevin Malone, a dance teacher and choreographer. Kevin is a black man with closely cropped hair wearing rectangular glasses.
 I moved out of my parents’ place years ago, but I still dance every week. Connie steps into a side tilt in Kevin’s class. I’ve made so many new friends through my dance classes and performances. I’ve found a whole community of welcoming people. And I’ve learned that dance doesn’t just expand my movements. It expands my world. Connie sits at a table, chatting and waving to different dance friends.

This comic was edited by Malaka Gharib and Beck Harlan. The visual editor is Beck Harlan. We’d love to hear from you. Leave us a voicemail at 202-216-9823, or email us at LifeKit@npr.org.

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‘How to Rule the World’ explores education and power at Stanford University

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When Theo Baker arrived at Stanford University a few years ago, he joined the student newspaper, following the path of his journalist parents, Peter Baker, a White House correspondent for The New York Times, and Susan Glasser, a writer for The New Yorker.

Through his reporting as a student journalist, he eventually broke a story about manipulated data in Stanford President Marc Tessier-Lavigne’s neuroscience research that helped lead to the university president’s resignation.

Theo Baker’s book, How to Rule the World: An Education in Power at Stanford University was released May 19. In it, Baker describes Stanford as a place where proximity to Silicon Valley gives rise to a parallel system of influence, recruitment and money, with investors looking to identify promising students almost as soon as they arrive on campus.

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He told Morning Edition host Steve Inskeep there was “a sort of Stanford inside Stanford,” where elite students are drawn into an “alternate reality” of excess and access to cut corners.

In the interview, he discusses how Stanford is not just a university but also a pipeline where status and power can matter as much as ideas.

We reached out to Stanford University for comment and have not heard back.

Listen to the interview by clicking play on the blue box above.

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The Italian fashion group behind Diesel and Maison Margiela is taking full ownership of the avant-garde haute couture house, acquiring the remaining 30 percent it didn’t already own. Founders Viktor Horsting and Rolf Snoeren remain creative directors.
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How having zero points in tennis — or ‘love’ — came to sound so sweet

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The scoreboard shows the results of the women’s singles final match between Iga Swiatek of Poland and Amanda Anisimova of the U.S. at the Wimbledon Tennis Championships in London, Saturday, July 12, 2025.

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Fifteen points in tennis? Nice. Thirty, 40 — even better. Advantage — that sounds good. “Love” — that also must be great, right? Well, not quite.

As the French Open rolls on and Serena Williams has announced her return to the sport, maybe you’ve been paying a little more attention to tennis. The sport’s scoring system is notably distinct, and can sometimes be hard to grasp for newcomers. But even tennis aficionados might not know why, or how, “love” became the unmistakable callout for zero points. For this installment of NPR’s Word of the Week, we’re exploring how a word that signifies trailing behind got such a sweet name.

“Love” comes from the heart — or an egg?

It’s hard to pinpoint when the first tennis ball went over the net. Tennis is a derivative of lots of other sports, such as “jeu de paume,” a handball game played in France, said JT Buzanga, the collections manager at the International Tennis Hall of Fame museum.

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But tennis became a patented, official sport in 1874, said Steve Flink, a journalist whose tennis coverage got him inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame. It has retained its unique, mysterious scoring system ever since.

“By and large, the original system has held up almost entirely,” Flink said.

The use of “love” goes back to the late 18th century, said Jesse Sheidlower, a lexicographer. But it was used earlier than that in card games such as whist and bridge. Before the term made its way to tennis, the sport favored plain old “nothing,” or “nil,” he said.

Why love in the first place, though? Historians don’t really know for sure, but there are a few theories.

The French could have something to do with it. Some historians believe “love” derives from “l’oeuf,” which means “the egg” in French. Because eggs are shaped like zeros, terms such as “goose egg” and “duck’s egg” have been used in other contexts to mean zero, Sheidlower said.

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It’s also possible English speakers mispronounced l’oeuf as “love.” But Sheidlower isn’t convinced that’s the answer.

“It’s the French equivalent of an English expression. But since that expression doesn’t appear in French, the French word wouldn’t have been used,” he said.

To be sure, France has had a lot of influence on tennis culture, Buzanga said. For example, “deuce” or a game tied at 40 points, comes from the French word for “two”: “deux.” But he prefers another prominent theory: that “love” comes from the idiom “for the love of the game.” Even if a player hasn’t scored, it doesn’t matter, because their heart is in it. It’s the theory Sheidlower said is the most plausible, because the idiom was used by the English before tennis was popularized.

Another variation of the “love of the game” theory is that the word could have come from the Dutch “lof,” or “honor” — or the Latin “amare,” meaning “to love,” Flink said.

But if tennis’ “love” doesn’t come from a French word, the theory at least has a French sensibility.

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“I think the ‘for the love of the game’ is kind of romantic,” Buzanga said.

“Love” probably isn’t going anywhere

Tennis used to be a sport of leisure. The style of play has changed a lot over the years; players are more athletic and competitive, for instance, Flink said. But the rules of the sport are more steadfast, he said.

“There’s this incredible, enduring respect for tradition in tennis,” he said. “Changes are not made easily.”

There has been one major change in modern history: the tie-break. Matches can go on and on because players have to score two consecutive points to break a deuce, or by two games to break a tied set. But the onset of television meant matches would have to get shorter if the sport wanted to capture a larger audience, Flink said.

Change even came for “love.” An alternative sprouted up in the 1970s, and is still used today: “bagel,” named for its zero shape, Sheidlower said. Novices may say “zero,” and insiders will understand what they mean, but they “will needle them about it,” Flink said.

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But “love” still prevails.

“People kind of like it,” Flink said. “It’s different. Why say zero when you can say love?”

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