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Nebraska’s Jahmal Banks used his family hardship to find purpose
LINCOLN, Neb. — Before her first night on the streets, Jahmal Banks’ mother picked a family from their community of support for him to live alongside. Evicted from her Maryland home, Kristie Martin pleaded with him to leave her. It would be temporary, she said.
She promised Jahmal, a student at the private Landon School in Bethesda, that she would see him daily. She wanted to ensure his clothes were ironed before Jahmal walked into the classroom every morning 12 years ago. She wanted to know he’d eat a meal each night and that he had access to a table suitable for homework.
He said no.
“I told my mom, ‘I’m going wherever you go,’” Jahmal said.
He told her he wished he could feel her pain and take it away.
Kristie, Jahmal and his two young sisters, Jasmin and Zuri, were left homeless in the wake of Kristie’s divorce from Jahmal’s stepfather. The marriage fell apart under unhealthy conditions, she said.
“It was spiritual, monetary, emotional and psychological,” Kristie said. “I didn’t get my eyes black or my teeth knocked out. When you’re hit, it can heal. For three years after that separation, I shut down from the world. What kept me going was my children. They are my joy. They are my four heartbeats.
“I lost everything. But I chose my children.”
Kristie’s oldest, Kyerra Martin, at the time, attended Bowie State in Maryland on an athletic scholarship, playing volleyball and softball. The rest of them, on that awful day, sat in Kristie’s Chevy Tahoe as she cried for 30 minutes.
Before her divorce, Kristie said she had three months of mortgage payments in the bank. A longtime paramedic, she was decorated for her skills in response to trauma.
But in this moment, Kristie said, she lost herself.
“I didn’t know what to do,” she said. “I lost my control. I was so structured. I never thought I would have to sample bread and not know where I was going to lay my head.”
The first night, a friend took them in. Over several months that followed, Kristie and her three kids moved between hotels and a shelter around Washington, D.C. They witnessed the aftermath of a murder. She lost her steady job, Kristie said, to work at Safeway and Macy’s so she could accommodate the kids’ schedules from a displaced home.
At times, Kristie said she had to choose between buying gas and food.
Perseverance, she said, allowed Kristie to regain her footing.
“God placed certain people around us at certain times,” she said. “But it was a fight every day. I found strength that I didn’t know I had.”
Through that period, Kristie and her kids also saw the best in people. People who offered them a place to sleep. Or bought their meal unexpectedly at a restaurant.
It shaped Jahmal, who turns 23 next month. In his first season as a wide receiver at Nebraska, he fits as a team leader and one of the top targets of freshman quarterback Dylan Raiola. A Wake Forest transfer who caught 101 passes in the ACC over the past two years, Banks was the only offensive player at Nebraska in August to receive a single-digit jersey — awarded by a vote of players to their 10 toughest teammates.
“Tough” hardly begins to describe him.
“Jahmal is an anomaly,” Kristie Martin said. “Not because he’s my son. You don’t meet a kid like that maybe once every 15 to 20 years. He’s been through so much — and with no father. We have beat so many statistics. And for him to be academically and athletically inclined how he is, that gives me strength.”
Kristie Martin (left) has attended each of Jahmal Banks’ (right) games at Nebraska this season. (Photo courtesy of Kristie Martin)
You won’t get an argument about Banks from Matt Rhule. After Rhule’s first team at Nebraska finished 5-7 and lost several key players, the coach plotted to build on the backs of the departed leaders.
He hoped his second team would pick up where the first group left off and set a new standard in the offseason. Rhule did not expect, though, that a newcomer would walk in and raise the bar.
Banks set an example in training. But his primary impact came away from the workouts and the weight room.
“He’s one of the first guys I’ve ever seen — like, some guys say it — but he is here to affect other people,” Rhule said. “There’s not a day that I’m not blown away by his impact on people.
“He is an amazing, amazing person.”
Banks led Nebraska players in offseason community service hours, a number that’s tracked and rewarded with points to create a competitive environment within the team. He scored more in a single offseason than any player that Rhule has coached at Temple, Baylor or Nebraska.
“He came here to help change our culture,” Rhule said.
It’s not just that Banks wanted to change the Huskers, he said. This is who he is.
Even for deeds that don’t score him points and may go unnoticed by teammates and coaches, Banks is all in. Recently, he bought the food ordered by a group of people in line behind him at Chipotle.
Why?
When his mother and sisters felt pain, Jahmal said he kept his feelings inside.
“He wanted to make sure we were good,” his sister Kyerra said. “That was just Jahmal.”
For him, an internal struggle ensued.
“At the end of the day, I had to face myself and face what I was dealing with,” he said. “In turn, I developed a purpose to make an impact in the world — just wanting to do more for my family, wanting to be someone that they could count on to be there for them and to provide.”
Jahmal said he found purpose and the key to his identity at First Baptist Church in Northwest D.C. There, he developed a giving spirit that extends beyond his family.
It shines through in his first season at Nebraska. Like when he buys food for unsuspecting strangers.
Presented with opportunities to help people, Banks does not hesitate to bring full circle his experience from difficult times of his childhood.
“My son gives so much,” Kristie Martin said.
He grabbed a 21-yard touchdown pass in the first half of his Nebraska debut. Since, he has endured a quiet stretch. Through three games, he’s caught seven balls for 76 yards.
But the Huskers are 3-0 and ranked No. 22 as they prepare to face Illinois on Friday night in the Big Ten opener for both programs.
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“It’s perfect,” he said, “because I’m process-driven, not results-driven. I make it all about us. I just continue to enjoy the journey. It’s a battle all the time, but you’ve gotta just fall in love with the process.”
Jahmal Banks transferred to Nebraska from Wake Forest in the offseason. (Photo courtesy of Nebraska Athletics)
Jahmal played the trumpet for several years and competed in lacrosse, basketball and football. In high school at Bishop O’Connell in Arlington, Virginia, he emerged as an elite prospect on the gridiron. Banks transferred as a senior to St. Frances Academy in Baltimore to play against top competition nationally.
Ivy League offers poured in. His mother wanted him to attend Penn. Jahmal was drawn to the lights of major-conference programs.
“For her, it was not the four-year plan,” Banks said. “It was the 40-year plan.”
They found a compromise in Wake Forest, a smaller, private school in a major conference. He sought a change after last season and expressed concern to Kristie that “there was no guarantee” as he looked at Nebraska, Wisconsin and Purdue.
“You’re the guarantee,” Kristie told Jahmal.
When Kristie met Rhule on their visit to Lincoln last winter, she said she “felt the passion” in him.
“Oh, my God, it was so different,” she said. “I knew that this was where he’s supposed to be. I felt like (Rhule) said what he meant and he was going to show me.”
Jahmal wasn’t about to start doubting his mother then.
“She gave, saved and changed my life,” Jahmal said. “You can look back, and in another timeline, Jahmal isn’t here. But in the timeline that was supposed to happen, he is here because of what she sacrificed.”
He has written, performed and released music about his life experiences.
He often ponders the turbulent road his family traveled.
“That’s in my mind,” Jahmal said. “I think about my sisters. I look back, and what I really want is not about money. It’s not fame. It’s about healing.”
Kristie has attended each of the Huskers’ three games at Memorial Stadium. She works again in the medical field and must miss the Friday game this week. She’ll be on site for the rest of them, along with various family members.
Meanwhile, Kyerra coaches volleyball at DuVal High School in Lanham, Maryland, and plays tackle football for the D.C. Divas as part of the Women’s Football Alliance.
She said she credits Jahmal as the inspiration for bid to compete in the sport.
Jasmin attends Maryland to study pre-law. Zuri, in high school, wants to become a veterinarian.
“I told Jahmal he’s my role model,” Kyerra said. “There’s a lot going on in this world, but it was embedded in us to help others in need. Jahmal is always the one who’s thoughtful before the thought comes out.”
(Top photo courtesy of Nebraska Athletics)
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6 Poems You Should Know by Heart
Literature
‘Prayer’ (1985) by Galway Kinnell
Whatever happens. Whatever
what is is is what
I want. Only that. But that.
“I typically say Kinnell’s words at the start of my day, as I’m pedaling a traffic-laden path to my office,” says Major Jackson, 57, the author of six books of poetry, including “Razzle Dazzle” (2023). “The poem encourages a calm acceptance of the day’s events but also wants us to embrace the misapprehension and oblivion of life, to avoid probing too deeply for answers to inscrutable questions. I admire what Kinnell does with only 14 words; the repetition of ‘what,’ ‘that’ and ‘is’ would seem to limit the poem’s sentiment but, paradoxically, the poem opens widely to contain all manner of human experience. The three ‘is’es in the middle line give it a symmetry that makes its message feel part of a natural order, and even more convincing. Thanks to the skillful punctuation, pauses and staccato rhythm, a tonal quality of interior reflection emerges. Much like a haiku, it continues after its last words, lingering like the last note played on a piano that slowly fades.”
“Just as I was entering young adulthood, probably slow to claim romantic feelings, a girlfriend copied out a poem by Pablo Neruda and slipped it into an envelope with red lipstick kisses all over it. In turn, I recited this poem. It took me the remainder of that winter to memorize its lines,” says Jackson. “The poem captures the pitch of longing that defines love at its most intense. The speaker in Shakespeare’s most famous sonnet believes the poem creates the beloved, ‘So long as men can breathe or eyes can see, / So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.’ (Sonnet 18). In Rilke’s expressive declarations of yearning, the beloved remains elusive. Wherever the speaker looks or travels, she marks his world by her absence. I find this deeply moving.”
“Clifton faced many obstacles, including cancer, a kidney transplant and the loss of her husband and two of her children. Through it all, she crafted a long career as a pre-eminent American poet,” says Jackson. “Her poem ‘won’t you celebrate with me’ is a war cry, an invitation to share in her victories against life’s persistent challenges. The poem is meaningful to all who have had to stare down death in a hospital or had to bereave the passing of close relations. But, even for those who have yet to mourn life’s vicissitudes, the poem is instructive in cultivating resilience and a persevering attitude. I keep coming back to the image of the speaker’s hands and the spirit of steadying oneself in the face of unspeakable storms. She asks in a perfectly attuned gorgeously metrical line, ‘what did i see to be except myself?’”
‘Sonnet 94’ (1609) by William Shakespeare
They that have power to hurt and will do none,
That do not do the thing they most do show,
Who, moving others, are themselves as stone,
Unmovèd, cold, and to temptation slow,
They rightly do inherit heaven’s graces
And husband nature’s riches from expense;
They are the lords and owners of their faces,
Others but stewards of their excellence.
The summer’s flower is to the summer sweet,
Though to itself it only live and die;
But if that flower with base infection meet,
The basest weed outbraves his dignity.
For sweetest things turn sourest by their deeds;
Lilies that fester smell far worse than weeds.
“It’s one of the moments of Western consciousness,” says Frederick Seidel, 90, the author of more than a dozen collections of poetry, including “So What” (2024). “Shakespeare knows and says what he knows.”
“It trombones magnificent, unbearable sorrow,” says Seidel.
“It’s smartass and bitter and bright,” says Seidel.
These interviews have been edited and condensed.
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Classic and Contemporary Literature From France, Japan, India, the U.K. and Brazil
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FRANCE
According to the writer Leïla Slimani, 44, the author of ‘The Country of Others’ (2020).
Classic
‘Essais de Montaigne’ (‘Essays of Montaigne,’ 1580)
“France is a country of nuance with a love of conversation and freedom and an aversion to fanaticism. It’s also a country built on reflexive subjectivity. Montaigne reveals all that, writing, ‘I am myself the matter of my book.’”
Contemporary
‘La Carte et le Territoire’ (‘The Map and the Territory,’ 2010) by Michel Houellebecq
“Houellebecq describes France as a museum, where landscape turns into décor and where rural areas are emptying out. He shows the gap between the Parisian elite and the rest of the population, which he paints as aging and disoriented by modernity. It’s a melancholic and yet ironic novel about a disenchanted nation.”
JAPAN
According to the writer Yoko Ogawa, 64, the author of ‘The Memory Police’ (1994).
Classic
‘Man’yoshu’ (late eighth century)
“‘Man’yoshu,’ the oldest extant collection of Japanese poetry, reflects a diversity of voices — from emperors to commoners. They bow their heads to the majesty of nature, weep at the loss of loved ones and find pathos in death. The pages pulse with the vitality of successive generations.”
Contemporary
‘Tenohira no Shosetsu’ (‘Palm-of-the-Hand Stories,’ 1923-72) by Yasunari Kawabata
“The essence of Japanese literature might lie in brevity: waka [a classical 31-syllable poetry form], haiku and short stories. There’s a tradition of cherishing words that seem to well up from the depths of the heart, imbued with warmth. Kawabata, too, exudes more charm in his short stories — especially these very short ‘palm-of-the-hand’ stories — than in his full-length novels. Good and evil, beauty and ugliness, love and hate — everything is contained in these modest worlds.”
INDIA
According to Aatish Taseer, 45, a T contributing writer and the author of ‘Stranger to History: A Son’s Journey Through Islamic Lands’ (2009).
Classic
‘The Kumarasambhava’ (‘The Birth of Kumara,’ circa fifth century) by Kalidasa
“This is an epic poem by the greatest of the classical Sanskrit poets and dramatists. The gods are in a pickle. They’re being tormented by a monster, but Shiva, their natural protector, is deep in meditation and cannot be disturbed. Kama, the god of love, armed with his flower bow, is sent down from the heavens to waken Shiva. Never a wise idea! The great god, in his fury, opens his third eye and incinerates Kama. But then, paradoxically, the death of the god of love engenders one of the greatest love stories ever told. In the final canto, Shiva and his wife, the goddess Parvati, have the most electrifying sex for days on end — and, 15 centuries on, in our now censorious time, it still leaves one agog at the sensual wonder that was India.”
Contemporary
‘The Complex’ (2026) by Karan Mahajan
“This state-of-the-nation novel, which was published just last month, captures the squalor and malice of Indian family life. Delhi is both my and Mahajan’s hometown and, in this sprawling homage to India’s capital, we see it on the eve of the economic liberalization of the 1990s, as the old socialist city gives way to a megalopolis of ambition, greed and political cynicism.”
THE UNITED KINGDOM
According to the writer Tessa Hadley, 70, the author of ‘The London Train’ (2011).
Classic
‘Jane Eyre’ (1847) by Charlotte Brontë
“Written almost 200 years ago, it remains an insight into our collective soul — or at least its female part. Somewhere at the heart of us there’s a small girl in a wintry room, curled up in the window seat with a book, watching the lashing rain on the window glass: ‘There was no possibility of taking a walk that day. …’ Jane’s solemnity, her outraged sense of justice, her trials to come, the wild weather outside, her longing for something better, for love in her future: All this speaks, perhaps problematically, to something buried in the foundations of our idea of ourselves.”
Contemporary
‘All That Man Is’ (2016) by David Szalay
“Though he isn’t quite completely British (he’s part Canadian, part Hungarian), Szalay is brilliant at catching certain aspects of British men — aspects that haven’t been written about for a while, now updated for a new era. Funny, exquisitely observed and terrifying, this novel reminds us, too, how absolutely our fate and our identity as a nation belong with the rest of Europe.”
BRAZIL
According to the writer and critic Noemi Jaffe, 64, the author of ‘What Are the Blind Men Dreaming?’ (2016).
Classic
‘Memórias Póstumas de Brás Cubas’ (‘The Posthumous Memoirs of Brás Cubas,’ 1881) by Machado de Assis
“Not only is it experimental in style — very short chapters mixed with long ones; different points of view; narrated by a corpse; metalinguistic — but it also introduces an extremely ironic view of the rising bourgeoisie in Rio de Janeiro at the time, revealing the hypocrisy of slave owners, the falsehood of love affairs and the only true reason for all social relationships: convenience and personal interest. After almost 150 years, it’s still modern, both formally and, unfortunately, also in content.”
Contemporary
‘Onde Pastam os Minotauros’ (‘Where Minotaurs Graze,’ 2023) by Joca Reiners Terron
“The two main characters — Cão and Crente — along with some of their colleagues, plan to escape and set fire to the slaughterhouse where they work under exploitative conditions. The men develop sympathy for the animals they kill, and one of them becomes a sort of philosopher, revealing the sheer nonsense of existence and the injustices of society in the deepest parts of Brazil.”
These interviews have been edited and condensed.
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6 Myths That Endure
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The Myth of Meeting Oneself
“This is evident in Virgil’s ‘Aeneid’ (circa 30-19 B.C.) when Aeneas witnesses his own heroic actions depicted in murals of the Trojan War in Juno’s temple, and again in Miguel de Cervantes’s ‘Don Quixote’ (1605-15) when Quixote enters a printer’s shop and finds a book that has been published with fake details about his quest even as he’s living it,” says Ben Okri, 67, the author of “The Famished Road” (1991) and “Madame Sosostris and the Festival for the Brokenhearted” (2025). “In both stories, individuals throw themselves into the world and think they encounter objects, personae, obstacles and antagonists, but what they actually encounter is themselves. In our time, where our actions meet us in the echo chamber of social media, the process is magnified and swifter. Now a deed doesn’t even have to take place for it to enter the realm of reality.”
The Myth of Utopia
“I’ve always had trouble with the idea of utopia, feeling it derives its energy more from what it wishes to dismantle than what it wishes to enact,” says the T writer at large Aatish Taseer, 45, the author of “Stranger to History: A Son’s Journey Through Islamic Lands” (2009). “Ram Rajya, or the mythical rule of the hero Ram in the Hindu epic ‘Ramayana’ (seventh century B.C.-third century A.D.), like all visions of perfection, contains a built-in violence.”
The Myth of Invisibility
“Invisibility bears power and powerlessness at the same time,” says Okri. “In ancient cultures, it was a gift of the gods. Jesus, for example, walks unrecognized among his disciples, and in Greek myths, Scandinavian legends and ancient African tales, heroes are gifted invisibility in the form of cloaks, sandals or spells. Modern works like the two ‘Invisible Man’ novels, by H.G. Wells (1897) and Ralph Ellison (1952), and the ‘Harry Potter’ novels (1997-2007) by J.K. Rowling reach back to those ideas. But today, people talk about visibility as the highest form of social agency, while invisibility can render a whole class, race, caste or gender unseen.”
The Myth of Steadiness vs. Speed
“‘The Tortoise and the Hare,’ one of Aesop’s fables (sixth century B.C.), doesn’t necessarily strike a younger person as promising — possibly it has a whiff of morality in it,” says Yiyun Li, 53, the author of “A Thousand Years of Good Prayers” (2005) and “Dear Friend, From My Life I Write to You in Your Life” (2017). “But the longer I live and work, the more I understand that it’s the tortoiseness in a person that carries one along, not the swiftness of the mind and body of the hare.”
The Myth of Magic
“Ancient magical tales like Homer’s ‘Odyssey’ (late eighth to early seventh century B.C.) were allegories of transformation, of secret teachings,” says Okri, “whereas modern forms of magic are narrative devices and tropes of storytelling that continue the child’s wonder of life. I think of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s ‘The Great Gatsby’ (1925), Gabriel García Márquez’s ‘One Hundred Years of Solitude’ (1967) and, again, the ‘Harry Potter’ books. The intuition of magic persists even in these atheistic and science-infested times, where nothing is to be believed if it can’t be subjected to analysis. This is perhaps because the ultimate magic confronts us every day in the mystery of consciousness. That we can see anything is magical; that we experience love is magical; and perhaps the most magical thing of all is the imagination’s unending power to alter the contents and coordinates of reality. It hides tenaciously in the act of reading, which is the most generative act of magic.”
The Myth of the Immortal Soul
“ ‘The soul is birthless and eternal, imperishable and timeless and is not destroyed when the body is destroyed,’ says Krishna in the ‘Bhagavad Gita’ (second century-first century B.C.). This belief in the immortality of the soul — what used to be called Pythagoreanism in ancient Greece — is still the most pervasive myth in India,” says Taseer, “and has more influence over behavior and how one lives one’s life than any other.”
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