San Diego, CA
Healing Hearts: San Diego Imam Guides the Muslim Community Through Grief
Imam Abdeljalil Mezgouri, a spiritual leader of the Islamic Center of San Diego in Clairemont, keeps no tissues in his office because he sees tears as an expression of mercy, encouraging people to cry openly and fully embrace their emotions without feeling the need to wipe them away or hide them.
The Moroccan-born cleric at the largest mosque in San Diego County has spent nearly 40 years counseling people through the complexities of grief, offering both theological guidance and emotional support.
In Islam, death is not seen as an end but rather as a transition to another stage of existence. The Quran, which Muslims believe is the final revelation from God, consistently reminds adherents of Islam that life on Earth is temporary. According to Mezgouri, this understanding can be a source of great comfort.
“When you were born, you came with an expiration date,” he said. “Nobody can add one minute to their life or take one away. But death is not the end of the journey; this life is our shortest chapter, and when we die, the soul splits from the body.”
Mezgouri explained how this belief removes the randomness often associated with loss and provides a framework in which grief can be understood not as a punishment but as part of divine decree. Islam teaches that the soul does not die but enters a different realm known as Al-Barzakh, a waiting period before resurrection and eternal life.
The imam emphasized that while death is inevitable, how one processes grief is crucial, distinguishing between sadness and anger.
“Sadness is natural and even the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, cried when his son died. But anger is discouraged as it questions God’s wisdom,” Mezgouri said.
Mourning from three days to months on end is encouraged, according to the imam, with family and community support playing a vital role.
Mezgouri said comforting the grieving involves being present and communicating with their heart, as healing takes time and the heart moves slower than the mind.
“If the mind moves at 100 miles an hour, the heart moves at 5 miles an hour,” he said.
The cleric frequently encounters people struggling with the weight of grief, often leading to anxiety or depression. He believes the root of much suffering lies in a misplaced focus on the past or future.
“Many people are stuck in the past, unable to move on or they live in fear of what the future holds. But life is in the moment,” Mezgouri said.
To help people cope, he emphasizes the Islamic concept of Qadr (predestination).
“God already knows what will happen and everything is according to his wisdom. Trusting in God’s plan brings peace,” Mezgouri said.
He critiques secular approaches to grief that rely solely on medication or behavioral therapy, arguing that without faith, healing remains incomplete.
“A pill can numb pain, but it doesn’t address the root cause,” he said. “True healing comes when the heart accepts God’s decree.”
A great strength of the Muslim approach to grief is the support provided by the community, according to Mezgouri. The Islamic tradition encourages family and friends to rally around those who have lost a loved one. Condolence visits, prayer gatherings and acts of charity in the name of the deceased are ways in which the community offers comfort.
The imam stressed that staying connected to faith through prayer, reading the Quran and engaging in acts of kindness can help alleviate grief.
“By remembering God and serving others, we find healing,” he said.
Despite the pain of loss, Mezgouri assures the grieving that God’s mercy is vast and that the trials of this world are temporary.
“This life is not the resting place; it is the testing place,” he said. “The resting place is eternal life.”
Mezgouri explained both good and bad events serve as tests from God to gauge our responses. He emphasized that gratitude in times of blessing and patience in times of hardship are key to passing the test, as life’s challenges are inevitable.
His message is one of optimism for those struggling with grief.
“Acceptance is the key to a happy life,” Mezgouri said. “When we surrender to God’s wisdom, we find peace.”
San Diego, CA
Letters: A selective immigration policy ultimately fails us all
How interesting that Donald Trump is deporting Brown people who pay taxes and contribute to our economy (though they will never reap any benefits from those taxes) and instead is using our tax money to import and set up South Africans (none of whom are anything but White) who have never contributed to our economy. Could skin color perhaps have something to do with this policy?
— Nita Herpolsheimer, San Diego
San Diego, CA
Did California’s assault weapons ban save lives in San Diego mosque attack?
California’s assault weapons ban may have helped limit the ability of two attackers to take lives at the Islamic Center of San Diego last week, according to a prominent gun control organization.
But the executive director of a San Diego gun rights group said the fact the attack even happened is proof the ban failed.
What the two don’t dispute is that the video from the attackers’ livestream shows one of them using a rifle that appears to comply with California’s strict gun laws. While authorities have not confirmed what models of firearms were used in the attack, representatives of the two organizations identified it as a semi-automatic Ruger Mini-14 rifle.
KPBS is not publishing the video, which authorities have not released, the names of the two teenage suspects or their writings, where they wrote they were motivated to conduct the attack by a number of sex and race-related grievances. They wore emblems associated with white supremacists and neo-Nazis and lashed out in their writings against women, Jewish people, Muslims and LGBTQ+ people.
They wrote they were inspired by the 2019 attack on two mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand, that killed 51 Muslims. In their writings, the suspects said they wanted to replicate the Christchurch attack in San Diego.
The attack in Christchurch prompted New Zealand to change its gun laws.
Semiautomatic rifles sold in California have to meet certain criteria that other states don’t require.
The barrels must be at least 30 inches long and may not have collapsible or folding stocks. They cannot have a pistol grip behind the trigger, nor one attached at the forward part of the rifle.
And they cannot have a magazine that holds more than 10 rounds.
“From everything I saw from the video, (the rifle) looked like it met those criteria and looked like a very stock firearm that you could purchase at many dealers here in California,” said Steve Lindley, a policy advisor for the Brady Campaign.
Lindley spent almost 30 years in law enforcement, according to his biography. He worked for the National City Police Department and spent eight years leading the Bureau of Firearms at the California Department of Justice.
Lindley said features such as pistol grips make rifles more lethal.
“Over time it makes it easier for the shooter to have the firearm to their shoulder and in their hands,” he said. “Less fatigue, and it lines up a little bit better with your eyesight. The capacity of the magazines and other features on the firearm make it more accurate and easier to use in close quarters.”
The video shows the body cam operator firing the Mini-14 until it appears to jam. He struggles to clear the chamber and appears to remove and reinsert the magazine. He works the bolt, apparently unable to chamber a new round.
As the video continues, he continues to struggle with the bolt of the rifle before giving up, drawing a handgun and stepping outside.
The attackers never made it beyond the lobby, where about 100 schoolchildren and staff were inside the center. Authorities say they were delayed by the three men killed in the attack: Mansour Kaziha, 78, Nadir Awad, 57, and armed security guard Amin Abdullah.
The Islamic Center of San Diego
“Looking at the reality of this, a good guy with a gun stopped a bad guy with a gun from killing a lot of kids. Full stop,” said Michael Schwartz, the executive director of the San Diego County Gun Owners PAC.
“The assault weapons ban that California has implemented clearly failed — it didn’t stop these two people,” he said.
Schwartz described the features banned by California as “cosmetic” and that the semi-automatic rifles function the same regardless of their stock, grips or magazine size.
“The idea that … the (high-capacity) magazine ban stopped them from getting a high-capacity magazine … there just isn’t any evidence or proof,” he said.
While high-capacity magazines can’t be bought or sold in California, Schwartz said anyone can travel to the next state over and buy as many as they want.
Although the Mini-14 used in the attack is capable of accepting 30 or 40-round magazines, said Lindley, the shooters appeared to only have a California-compliant 10-round magazine.
“If you have ten round magazines, you have ten rounds to shoot before you need to change magazines,” he said. “If you have a 30- or 40-round magazine, you can shoot 30 or 40 rounds before you need to reload.”
That’s important, Lindley said, because when shooters stop to reload, it gives victims time to either escape or attempt to subdue the attacker.
Schwartz said that didn’t affect the Islamic center attack.
“If he had a bigger magazine or he had a pistol grip or whatever, it wouldn’t have changed the outcome of this at all,” he said.
Lindley played a part in crafting more than 100 gun bills, according to the Brady Campaign. He said with so many guns in the United States, authorities can’t stop shootings — all they can do is try to limit the damage.
“We can prevent a lot of victimology by lowering the capacity of the magazines,” he said.
San Diego, CA
Alleged San Diego Gunman Had Violent Obsessions
Police were so unsettled by one of the teens later accused in the deadly shooting at the Islamic Center of San Diego that they took his guns away more than a year before the attack. Court records show Chula Vista police secured a gun violence restraining order against then-high school student Caleb Vazquez in January 2025 after classmates and staff reported he idolized mass shooters, talked about a “day of retribution,” and came to school dressed as mass murderers and the TV serial killer Dexter, per NBC News and KGTV. The school had shared social media posts in which Vazquez praised killers, including those behind a 2011 attack in Norway and a 2019 shooting at a Walmart in El Paso, Texas, NBC reports.
Vazquez allegedly admitted an infatuation with mass killings and an idolization of Adolf Hitler and was put on a 72-hour psychiatric hold. His father—initially uncooperative, according to a police affidavit—removed 26 weapons from the home and arranged for therapy before the restraining order was dismissed that March. Just over a year later, police say Vazquez, 18, and a 17-year-old he’d met online killed three people at the mosque—security guard Amin Abdullah, caretaker Mansour Kaziha, and neighbor Nadir Awad—before wounding a landscaper and dying by suicide. FBI officials say writings left behind were steeped in extremist hatred. In the aftermath, community members are questioning how so many warnings failed to prevent the attack and calling for stronger, earlier interventions on mental health and homicidal ideation.
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