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A woman on Reddit who says she was alienated and given the cold shoulder by her family after she accepted a free first-class upgrade on a vacation did nothing wrong, Reddit users said, weighing in on her drama. 

Reddit user “Abbyissostupid” told Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit about her dilemma in a post on Friday, April 26, titled, “AITA for not letting my 6’6″ brother have the free first-class upgrade the airline gave me on our 12-hour flight?” 

In the post, the woman said she’s currently on a family trip in Hawaii to celebrate her father’s recent retirement, and that he paid for the entire family to attend. 

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“There are six of us but my brother and I live in the same part of the country,” she said — so the two of them were on the same flight to Hawaii.  

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“I guess it’s relevant to say I am 5’1″ and my brother is 6’6,” she wrote. 

A frequent traveler for work, she said she has “quite a bit of status with the airline for which my dad bought our tickets.”

A woman said her family was angry with her after she accepted a free upgrade to first class while leaving her much taller brother behind in coach.  (iStock)

As she and her brother were boarding the plane, she was approached by a flight attendant and told that a spot in first class had become available. 

The flight attendant “whispered that they had a first-class passenger not show up, and they needed the coach seat to accommodate a standby passenger,” said Abbyissostupid. 

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“She said I had by far the most status of anyone on the plane, so they were willing to move me to first class for free.” 

“I had a nice flight.”

The woman happily accepted the upgrade, she said, and “took it in a heartbeat.” 

“I told my brother I’d see him in 12 hours and let me know if he wanted any food or drink and I grabbed my stuff and moved,” she said. 

“Needless to say, I had a nice flight.”

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Her brother, however, was quite upset that she did not give him the upgrade instead, as he is much taller and presumably could’ve used the extra legroom to be more comfortable. 

After the plane landed, her brother refused to speak to her for the entire ride to their hotel, she said — and then told her family that she had been upgraded. 

The woman and her family were on a trip to Hawaii celebrating her father’s retirement. Her father, she said, paid for the entire trip.  (iStock)

“We had a nice hello with the rest of the family, but after I got down from my shower my mom took me aside and said what I did ‘was awful,’” said Abbyissostupid.  

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Confused, the woman said she asked her mother what she was talking about — “and she said that I should have given my brother the seat.”

The Reddit writer added, “I thought that would be the end of it, but all five of my siblings and my parents are upset with me and the vacation is off to a very rough start,” she said. 

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Her siblings even told their children to avoid her for not being a loyal family member, the woman said.

“My sister said, ‘No, they only like to play with people who give a s— about their family — what were you thinking?’” wrote Abbyissostupid. 

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When the woman pointed out that her brother never even asked for an upgrade, the sister replied that he should not have had to — and that she should have automatically given her brother the upgrade for his comfort. 

The woman’s much taller brother spent the flight in coach, where he was apparently very uncomfortable during the trip.  (iStock)

“I’ve been by myself since brunch and not having much fun. AITA?” asked Abbyissostupid of others on Reddit. 

In an update to the post after others had commented, Abbyissostupid added that her family is still angry at her, but to varying degrees — and that she’s been spending time instead with a friend who lives in Hawaii. 

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“So my vacation will be great no matter what,” said Abbyissostupid. “But reading your comments really gave me confidence to not give a crap (or try to at least!). Thank you.” 

Fox News Digital reached out to Abbyissostupid for further updates — and to a relationship expert for advice on the topic. 

‘People make poor decisions all the time’

Dr. Kathy Nickerson, PhD, a clinical psychologist based in California, said in an email to Fox News Digital on Saturday afternoon, “It would have been nice for the [Reddit writer] to give her brother the upgrade because coach is far less comfortable for someone who is 6’6″ than 5’1″. However, I can understand that since the flight attendant whispered in her ear, [the woman] might have thought she needed to be discreet and not offer it to her brother.”

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Nickerson added, “If we could go back in time, I would have whispered in [the woman’s] ear: ‘Are you OK here? I know it is not first class, but can you deal with this and let your brother go instead? Seems like he’s pretty uncomfortable.’”

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“The best thing to do is apologize to her brother and express understanding to her family.”

She also said it would have been “a thoughtful, loving, kind gesture” for the woman to offer the first-class seat to her brother.

Said Nickerson, “Now that it is done, the best thing to do is apologize to her brother and express understanding to her family. It’s reasonable for everyone to feel the way they do; it’s not so reasonable to ruin the family vacation because of it.”

A stewardess for a British airline claims first-class passengers pay the flight attendants for sex. (iStock)

She noted that in her experience, “People make poor decisions all the time. People can be selfish and thoughtless sometimes. Everyone deserves compassion and a chance to make amends. Having everyone in the family berate and criticize the [woman] is not helpful.”

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Rather, she said, “it creates an emotionally unsafe environment, which only encourages more harmful behavior.”

Nickerson said she’d advise “a family meeting, where they can apologize for the hurtful choices, all around — and express some understanding for the others’ feelings and agree to do better next time, then move on. Let’s forgive each other, learn from this and enjoy our trip.”

Most commenters on Reddit, however, had a very different point of view.

On the AITA subreddit, people can reply to posts and indicate the poster is “NTA” (“Not the A–hole”), “YTA” (“You’re the A–hole”), “NAH” (“No A–holes Here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone Sucks Here”).

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Users can “upvote” responses they think are helpful and “downvote” ones that are not. 

Reddit users largely assured the woman that she did not do anything wrong by accepting the upgrade to first class for herself — and that her family was blowing things out of proportion.  (iStock)

Most users said that the woman was “NTA” for taking the upgrade — and that the airline likely would not have allowed her to give it to her brother, even if she wanted to, they said. 

“Had something happen to me years ago on Air Canada. Vancouver to Toronto red eye. Flying with adult daughter and got tagged for upgrade,” said Reddit user “BetAlternative8397” in the top-upvoted comment. 

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The user continued, “I asked about letting her fly upfront instead and was told the seat is only available to the status holder. I was exhausted from a week working away, so I took it,” the person added. 

“No reason you should have turned it down.”

The same individual noted, “No one shamed me for it” and said that Abbyissostupid’s brother was rude and jealous. 

“NTA, but you sure have a family of them,” said Reddit user “Fearless_Ad1685” in another top comment. 

“Your status got you the offer. If you declined it, it wouldn’t have gone to your brother anyway,” Fearless_Ad1685 continued. 

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“No reason you should have turned it down just to stay in coach with your brother.”

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6 California men plead guilty to violence against CHP officers during Los Angeles immigration protests

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Six men have pleaded guilty in federal court for acts of violence against California Highway Patrol officers. They were accused of throwing rocks, fireworks and other debris during an anti-immigration enforcement protest last year.

Prosecutors said that on the evening of June 8, 2025, a group of protestors downtown Los Angeles at the Main Street overpass of the 101 Freeway targeted law enforcement officers, essentially trapping them under the freeway overpass while throwing burning objects at them.

Three men pleaded guilty on Wednesday, while three others entered their guilty pleas earlier in the week.

Adam Charles Palermo, 40, of Rampart Village; Ismael Vega, 41, of Westlake; and Yachua Mauricio Flores, 23, of Lincoln Heights were part of a group of protestors who lit cardboard and vegetation on fire, as well as fireworks, and dropped them from the freeway overpass, targeting a CHP vehicle, according to prosecutors. The vehicle caught fire. Flores also poured a liquid on the flames, igniting them further.

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Palermo pleaded guilty to one felony count of assaulting, resisting, and impeding persons assisting federal officers and employees with a deadly or dangerous weapon. He faces a statutory maximum of 20 years in federal prison.

Vega and Flores each pleaded guilty to one felony count of obstructing, impeding, and interfering with law enforcement during a civil disorder. Both face a statutory maximum sentence of five years in federal prison.

Balton Montion, 25, LA County resident at the time, Ronald Alexis Coreas, 23, of Westlake and Junior Roldan, 27, of Hollywood, threw rocks at law enforcement officers who attempted to clear the freeway overpass.

Coreas and Roldan each pleaded guilty to one misdemeanor count of simple assault on a person assisting a federal officer. Each faces a statutory maximum of one year in federal prison.

Montion pleaded guilty to one felony count of obstructing, impeding, and interfering with law enforcement during a civil disorder. He faces a statutory maximum sentence of five years in federal prison.

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Palermo has been in federal custody since August 2025. The other defendants remain free on bond.

United States District Judge John F. Walter scheduled sentencing hearings in the coming months for these defendants

Another defendant, Jesus Gonzalez Hernandez, Jr., 22, of Las Vegas, is scheduled to plead guilty on May 4 to one misdemeanor count of simple assault on a person assisting a federal officer.



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New Colorado Conversion Therapy Ban With Clever Mechanism Close To Passing

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New Colorado Conversion Therapy Ban With Clever Mechanism Close To Passing


On Monday, the Colorado Senate Judiciary Committee passed HB26-1322, a bill that creates a private civil right of action allowing survivors of conversion therapy to sue the practitioners who subjected them to it. The bill, which has no statute of limitations for such claims, would likely make the practice of conversion therapy financially prohibitive in the state. It comes in the aftermath of the Supreme Court’s 8-1 decision last month in Chiles v. Salazar, which found that Colorado’s 2019 ban on conversion therapy unconstitutional—effectively legalizing the discredited practice nationwide. The new bill has one final legislative hurdle to clear—the full Colorado Senate—before heading to Governor Jared Polis’s desk, though the governor has so far offered only lukewarm signals about whether he will sign it, saying he is “hopeful there is still time to construct a framework he could support.”

The bill targets what it calls “sexual orientation or gender identity change efforts”—defined as “any practice by a licensed mental health professional that seeks to direct a patient toward a predetermined sexual orientation or gender identity outcome, or to eliminate or reduce sexual or romantic attractions or feelings toward individuals of a particular sex or gender, regardless of the sexual orientation or gender identity the patient is directed toward.” The inclusion of “eliminate or reduce sexual or romantic attractions” is notable—conversion therapists have long used this framework to argue disingenuously that they are not trying to change a person’s sexual orientation, merely helping them manage unwanted feelings. The bill explicitly carves out any counseling or therapy that “provides acceptance, support, and understanding of a patient” or “facilitates a patient’s coping, social support, and identity exploration and development”—meaning therapists who support a patient’s own process of self-discovery, without steering them toward a predetermined outcome, would face no liability.

The bill uses a novel legal mechanism to target conversion therapy—a private right of action. Rather than the government banning conversion therapy outright, which is what the Supreme Court struck down in Chiles, the bill instead allows survivors to sue their practitioners directly, stating that “a person who suffered an injury as a result of sexual orientation or gender identity change efforts may bring a civil action for damages” against their conversion therapist. It also states that a lawsuit to recover damages can be commenced “at any time without limitation,” making its statute of limitations effectively endless. The mechanism may be insulated from the constitutional problem the Supreme Court identified in Chiles because the government is not restricting speech—instead, private citizens are seeking civil remedies for harm they suffered, the same way a patient can sue a doctor for malpractice. As Alejandra Caraballo, a clinical instructor at Harvard Law School, told Erin in the Morning after the Chiles ruling, “While the Supreme Court decision limits the abilities of states to regulate conversion therapy through professional standards, they did not limit the ability for states to protect LGBTQ youth from these abusive practices through tort or malpractice law.”

If the mechanism sounds familiar, it is because Republicans pioneered it to get around Supreme Court rulings they didn’t like—most famously in Texas’s SB 8, the 2021 abortion “bounty hunter” law. That law banned abortion after six weeks not through government enforcement but by allowing any private citizen to sue anyone who performed or aided an abortion for $10,000 in damages. The legal trick was simple: when abortion providers tried to challenge SB 8 in court, they couldn’t get an injunction because there was no government official to enjoin. Courts found that you can’t sue “the state” to block a law that only private citizens enforce. The Supreme Court effectively let SB 8 stand, and the strategy worked—abortion access in Texas collapsed virtually overnight even while Roe v. Wade was still the law of the land. Kansas used the same model in SB 244, which allows anyone to sue a transgender person for using a restroom that doesn’t match their assigned sex at birth. Now, Colorado Democrats are exploiting the same constitutional loophole in the opposite direction—using private civil enforcement to deter a harmful practice that the Supreme Court says the government cannot directly ban.

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It is important to note that some have raised concerns the bill could be weaponized against gender-affirming therapists—with anti-trans groups arguing that helping a trans youth transition constitutes its own form of “conversion therapy.” But the bill contains multiple layers of protection against such misuse. Its carveouts explicitly shield counseling that provides “acceptance, support, and understanding of a patient.” The bill also has protections in its causation standard. To establish that conversion therapy caused harm, a court must weigh “the nature, duration, and intensity” of the efforts, “the age and vulnerability of the plaintiff at the time,” “the relationship between the plaintiff and the mental health professional,” and “expert testimony regarding the general psychological effects of sexual orientation or gender identity change efforts.” It is unlikely that judges will consider anti-trans activists to be considered medical “experts” on this topic.

LGBTQ+ organizations, activists, and Democratic lawmakers in the state have supported the bill’s passage. “This decision only reinforces the urgent need for state-level protections,” said One Colorado, the state’s largest LGBTQ+ advocacy organization. “[HB 1322] provides a pathway for accountability, allowing survivors to seek justice against those who administer this harmful practice. We remain committed to ensuring that those responsible for such profound damage are held accountable.” Rep. Karen McCormick, a Democrat from Longmont, was blunt about the bill’s intent: “The purpose of this bill is seriously to send a chilling effect to any licensed professional therapist who may think about bringing that practice back.”

Conversion therapy is a discredited practice broadly decried by every major American medical organization. The APA concluded in a 2009 systematic review that the practice is “unlikely to be successful and involves risk of harm, including depression, suicidality, and anxiety,” and called for its total elimination. The United Nations has deemed conversion therapy a form of torture. A 2020 study published in the American Journal of Public Health found that LGBTQ+ youth subjected to conversion therapy were more than twice as likely to report attempting suicide. For transgender people specifically, conversion therapy often takes the form of so-called “gender exploratory therapy,” a rebranded approach that seeks to convince trans youth they are not actually transgender, keeping transition just out of reach by tricking trans youth that it might be offered if they jump through endless hoops while intending to deny it the entire way.

The bill now heads to the full Colorado Senate for a floor vote, where Democrats hold a 23-12 majority and passage is expected. Coloradans who support the bill can contact their state senator through the Colorado General Assembly’s legislator lookup tool. If the Senate passes the bill, it will go to Governor Polis, whose signature remains the final and most uncertain step. Polis, the first openly gay governor elected in the United States, signed the original 2019 conversion therapy ban and has called the practice “a scam and a waste of people’s hard-earned money”—but his office has stopped short of committing to sign this bill, saying only that he is “hopeful there is still time to construct a framework he could support.” What changes, if any, the governor is seeking remain unclear. The bill includes a safety clause that would make it take effect on July 1, 2026, and would exempt it from voter referendum. If signed, Colorado would become the first state in the country to use a private right of action to combat conversion therapy in the wake of the Supreme Court’s ruling.



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Years-long closure of Waikiki bathroom ‘disappointing’ to many, some demand answers

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HONOLULU (HawaiiNewsNow) – For Waikiki regular Ken Burig, the years-long closure of the bathroom at his favorite spot, feet away from iconic Prince Kuhio statue, has been especially troublesome.

“It’s very disappointing, cause it’s been like that for a long time and it’s very inconvenient for myself because I’m handicapped,” Burig, who gets around using an electric chair, said.

For the past four years, the city has blamed the bathroom’s closure on vandals who flushed clothes down the toilets, as well as mechanical and electric issues with a pump, requiring more than $40,000 for repairs.

The two nearest public restrooms are about a quarter mile away in both directions along Kalakaua Ave, an estimate five minute walk to reach either.

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Visitor Ayah Muhsen agreed with Burig that the lack of a loo in the heavily-visited stretch of beach is “very inconvenient.”

Nicole Ancheta, another beach regular, added, “Dozens of people have put in complaints over the past year, since last August, September, not just me.”

Ancheta is adamant about getting the restroom reopened, reaching out to the city herself.

“Still waiting, they don’t have answers. I went to the board meeting in February. I get a note in February that it’ll be open in March, and it’s still closed, and still no answers. I emailed them last week,” Ancheta said.

A city spokesperson sent HNN the following response it provided to Ancheta:

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“The maintenance contractor (Alakai) for the ʻŌhua Avenue comfort station at Kūhiō Beach Park is scheduled to work on the bathrooms this Friday, February 27, 2026 and we hope to have the bathrooms reopened soon. We further hope that these repairs last, and the bathroom can be utilized by you, your ‘ohana, and the public for longer than just a few days.

I know you are familiar with the problematic history of this particular bathroom building, but I did want to provide some context so we can all be on the same page. This bathroom is below ground,, so it requires its own tank, grinder, and two pumps to direct the sewage to the municipal lines. The extended closures have indeed been numerous, lengthy, and can certainly give the impression of continuous closure; making this facility one of our most challenging bathrooms we oversee. That’s primarily because the closures have resulted from vandalism of people flushing clothing down the toilets or mechanical/electric issues with the bathroom’s pump. Repairs to the pump and electric issues have experienced delays because the parts are under warranty, and we have been working to have them replaced or repaired under that warranty, saving taxpayer dollars.

We are determining our next course of action with this problematic facility, as we have already spent over $40,000 in repairs to this one bathroom coming on four years. Realistically,Head side a larger Capital Improvement Project will likely be needed if these current repairs don’t last.

Fortunately, there are public bathroom facilities within decent proximity to this one; near HPD’s Waikīkī Substation (0.3 miles away) and on the Diamond Head side of Kapahulu Avenue (0.2 miles away) just past the beach volleyball courts. I understand it can be difficult to walk that distance when you have kids or kupuna to take into account, but there are other nearby options.”

The spokesperson also pointed out that because there is no public parking for the stretch of beach, some walking is involved to get there as well.

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One of the closest parking areas is on Kapahulu Ave, which is near a public comfort station.

We are still waiting for updates from the city.

However, another city spokesperson explained that the city is also a victim of the vandalism to the facility, not just those who need to use it.

Money and resources meant for normal maintenance that are not budgeted for improvements, the official added, get derailed to fix damages, impacting repairs in other places.

But two months ago, Hilton Grand Vacations donated $1 million to improve the area, which the Waikiki Business Improvement District hopes will help deter vandals.

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“We really believe if things look nice, if you clean up dead grass, if you get rid of graffiti, if you repair that broken window, then crime will reduce, and things will get better,”

You can report vandalism to city facilities here.

Copyright 2026 Hawaii News Now. All rights reserved.



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