Dear Annie: Shower guest feels snubbed by lack of wedding invitation

Expensive Annie: In case you are invited to a marriage bathe, do you have to at all times be invited to the marriage?

I used to be invited to an excellent buddy’s bathe for her daughter. I gave a beneficiant reward. No marriage ceremony invitation ever got here.

I’ve now discovered myself questioning this friendship in silence. No point out was ever made by both of us relating to what I take into account a cheesy insult.

What are your ideas? — Questioning

Expensive Questioning: My ideas are with you. On the floor, it positive appears cheesy, and it’s definitely comprehensible that your emotions are damage. That being mentioned, perhaps she simply had a really small household marriage ceremony. Possibly it was the bathe that was her massive celebration. However till you discover out the rationale, you’ll stay damage and indignant. Communication together with your buddy will assist make clear an important deal.

Expensive Annie: My grandson, “Billie” is 5 years outdated and nonetheless not potty educated. Now we have tried every little thing to get him to make use of the bathroom — rewards, bribes, “light threats,” and so on. We suspect he has encopresis — the repeated, involuntary passing of stool into the clothes. This may occur when impacted stool collects within the colon and rectum, whereas the extra liquid stool involuntarily leaks out across the impacted stool.

In our grandson’s case, he has to put on a Pull-Up in order that he doesn’t soil his clothes with the liquid stool. He not often has an everyday bowel motion. And since he’s sporting a Pull-Up, he additionally not often pees in the bathroom. We give him fiber gummies in order that he’s not constipated and attempt to encourage him to eat good foods and drinks loads of water. However he’s a 5-year-old boy, and he isn’t too thinking about what’s good for him.

After all, the opposite youngsters tease him about this. He is aware of he must be utilizing the bathroom and is ashamed of himself. He says the issue is him, that there’s something mistaken with him. And naturally, the extra we attempt to assist him, the extra stress is placed on him.

Is there anybody on the market who has confronted this downside and may give me some recommendation? It breaks our hearts to see him so ashamed. He’s a really candy child, and no little one ought to really feel unhealthy about themselves. — Pooped Out and Unhappy within the South

Expensive Pooped Out and Unhappy within the South: Earlier than you watched that your grandson has encopresis, I might search the assistance of his pediatrician and get a agency prognosis. The earlier you all search the assistance of a educated skilled pediatrician, the earlier you may get Billie remedy.

You might be appropriate that typically it’s not the conduct itself however the social stress or self-consciousness that your grandson feels completely different from his friends. If he does appear actually embarrassed about it, whereas it’s most likely purely bodily, there’s a slight risk that it’s psychological. If that’s the case, then it is very important discover a good household therapist to get to the basis of what’s going on in Billie’s life that is likely to be inflicting him stress.

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